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Problems of the Arab Mind, with a Nod to Raphael Patai

Interesting comment on the site from this old post, which I really ought to run again. It sure would be nice to talk to this woman some more. I would like her to elaborate on her comments here. From the way she describes it, it is almost like Arab culture is an actual Culture of Narcissists, with most of the men being narcissistic mostly due to how they are raised. And yes the women are raised to feel inferior from the very start. This is the case in family life even from the early years. It is clear to the Arab girl growing up that the boys and men in the family are superior to the girls and women.

I totally agree with Robert. Being cunning while having no resources is natural to them. They also involuntary gaslight everyone around them 24/7, from business tactics to the closest people in their life (Yes, even family).

I am Latina and after being married to one and traveling to North Africa several times, I can assure you it takes their holidays of Ramadan to get them to actually help other people. They can walk right past a child dying of starvation and not offer and feel no remorse. They are unbelievably selfish to a point an American could never grasp. This is what allows them to get into relationships with other narcissistic Arabs. It’s sickening really because all women want is love, and a woman will never be happy married to an Arab for long.

They have an uncanny ability to manipulate and gaslight/brainwash people. It’s really fucking scary. All that charm with their good looks fucks your head up. They will break your spirit, disconnect your soul from your body, and hold it in a suspense state. I finally broke away after 13 years of loving and hoping he would change. I had to literally start recording our conversations because he would have me questioning my own sanity. When I was alone I would play those conversations back to myself because I honestly couldn’t remember at the time what was going on around me.

It’s all just so sad. I lost all those years living in CPTSD, and now I’m in total isolation. So what I’m saying is stay away from them as much as possible or you will be sucked in. Keep in mind I am a professional. I am a current member of SHRM and also a Human Resource Director.

The sad part is their women stand up for them because they were born and breed to be slaves via humiliation from the beginning. This is the way cults, the military, and other organizations manipulate their members to mind control them. These women don’t even know that they were born to gaslight themselves. Sad but true.

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Humans New and Old Are a Lot More Sexually Conservative Than You Think

Trash: However later Yankee arrivals post-Civil war included many sluts and prostitutes and this is why white Italian and German and Irish girls from the East Coast will suck your cock on the first date.

Whereas Mexican girls prefer gangbangs because that race got started when Indian women entered Haciendas where Charlie Sheen type degenerate Spanish nobleman were entertaining their sleazed-out fellow Spaniards.

Dude! Two things.

First of all, I have never met even one single White person who had White sluts or prostitutes as ancestors, and know people who do a lot of genealogy.  Yes there were prostitutes in the 1800’s, but there were not many of them,  and most Whites do not have prostitutes in their lineage. Nor do they have sluts. Whites were very conservative sexually in the late 1800’s-early 1900’s. Most women were virgins when they got married. Extramarital sex by women was not common. Even in parents’ generation, I was told that if you wanted to get laid as a man, you had to get married because as a single man it was too hard to find sluts who would screw you out of wedlock. My mother told me that her generation was told, don’t give it up (don’t have sex with) any man unless you get something in return, preferably a wedding ring.

I am not sure at all that most modern girls or women fuck on the first date. Your average US woman has only three sex partners in her entire lifetime. If all women were fucking on the first date, you think they would only end up with three sex partners in a lifetime? Come on. Also, I talk to men young and old all the time, and what I hear is that even young women do not necessarily put out or even do much of anything on a first date. You don’t even necessarily get a kiss.

Also, most men are having sex with lots of women either. Your average man in the US has a grand total of six sex partners in his entire life! Six! That’s all. Only 6% of men have had sex with over 100 females. Players are serious outliers statistically. If all women were giving it away as easily as you say, many men could easily accumulate high numbers of sex partners. That your average man has a mere six sex partners in his life means  that there is no way that every woman is screwing you on the first date. Just forget it.

In fact, I routinely meet single women on dating sites and  other places, never married and divorced, who tell me that they are not interested in having sex outside of marriage. A lot are divorced but say they’re not having sex until they get married again. I hear this all the time. Most divorced women I meet tell me they are not getting fucked at all. A lot of them tell me that their morals are the cause of them having no sex. They say things  like, “I would love to be getting fucked all the time and I need it real bad of course, but my damned morals get in the way. I just can’t live like that.”

And I routinely meet single and even divorced women who tell me they are not even looking to date. What are they looking for? They are looking for a husband, looking to get married. They’re single women looking for a new husband. Dating isn’t even in the equation. I hear this all the time. As a matter of fact, on a lot of those sites, if you say you are just looking for women to date, a lot of them will take off because they are only looking for men who are looking for a wife, looking to get married.

Second, Mexican women do not prefer gangbangs due to some racialized past. First of all, we have no idea if Indian women were gangbanged. I seriously doubt if they were as people were not that perverse back then. There were few Spaniards and many Indian women. It may have been 10,000-1 woman to man ratios. With ratios like 10,000 women for every man, you are not going to see a lot of women getting gangbanged by 10 guys. If anything, you might see reverse gangbangs, but even that did not happen. Spaniards simply took an Indian wife or maybe later another one. Some men were players. I heard about a Brazilian White man who was shared by 60 different Indian women over a lifetime.

We have no evidence that either Indian cultures or European Spaniard cultures engaged routine group sex of any kind, much less gangbangs. People were pretty conservative back then. Group sex is a new thing in the West except for a few outliers like Rome. If you study the rest of the world, there’s not a lot of group sex going on in any tribal cultures or traditional cultures anywhere on Earth. Group sex, swinging, gangbangs, etc. are a product in the West of the Cultural Revolution in the 1960’s and the Sexual Revolution that accompanied it.

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Black Women Are an Acquired Taste for White Men

I am on a dating site now that is full of Black women. Most of them don’t look good to me, but definitely some of them do look pretty damn good, maybe 20-30%. And it’s not just ones with a lot of White in them. A lot of darker Black women are hot too.

Fact is that a subset of Black women are just flat out hot and sexy as Hell. But the only way you will ever notice this is if you learn to appreciate Black people’s looks. We as Whites get psychologically indoctrinate early on that “Black is ugly.” I think it is more that they do not look like White people, so we are not used to their looks and we interpret them as ugly. I am thinking things like wide noses and whatnot. There is no a priori reason why a wide nose is ugly and a thin nose is attractive. I have been looking at a lot of wide noses lately and a lot of them look great. You just have to get used to the idea of a wide nose being attractive is all.


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Cherchez la Femme!

Comment  of the day:

You are so damn spot on. You give women a little and I mean a little bit of freedom and power they think they are GOD!! Tell you what women, here’s a small bit of reality you don’t seem to understand. You’re not the only one with a vagina!! So hold out on your guy, and I bet he finds someone else to give it up to him.

Damn right! Put out or else, ladies! You’ve been warned!

Extra gold star for anyone who can tie the pedantic title in (somewhat obscurely and sarcastically) with the post.

+10 extra credit points if you can tell us what the title really means. I don’t mean what it really means, I mean what it really, really means.

And yeah the true meaning is sexist, but so what! All in good fun, ladies! And don’t worry, I might give you some equal time. We haven’t renounced the Fairness Doctrine here on Beyond Highbrow yet, but it sure is tempting, I gotta admit.


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Does a Body Count Matter with Sexual Partners?

Answered on Quora.

I think it matters for straight women.

For straight men, I am not so sure. Quite a few will refuse to date a woman who has a high lay count. But not me. I have had gf’s who had experienced 50 sex partners, 3ways, lesbian affairs, you name it. This did not bother me at all, and I had long-term love affairs with them.

Men don’t care about inexperienced women. My last gf was an 18 year old girl who not only was a virgin, but she had never been kissed! It was fine with me.

Women are different. If a man is too sexually inexperienced by too late an age, females may find him to be a disgusting nerd, loser, Beta, Omega, etc. I don’t know what to say about that, but if you are still a kiss-less virgin at age 25–30, I would not go around shouting it to the skies.

If a man has a high lay count, in straight society he is simply a stud. If word gets around about his lay count, he may well get dates based on that alone, as a certain type of female is attracted to guys with high lay counts. He’s a stud, and she wants a stud. A lot of females think this way, but it is more common when they are younger.

I knew a guy in college who were the wildest womanizers you ever met. He would literally date and have sex with 3–4 females every single day. Supposedly he was an evil predator or something in the new feminist way of thinking, but back then, everyone loved these guys. Females would hear about him, and their first reaction would be, “How do I get in on this?” They would almost literally line up outside his house and even take a number to get a shot at him.

This question is difficult because I sort of have to divulge my numbers. All I will say is I have dated over 200 females in my life. Of course I didn’t have sex with all of them. You can extrapolate a lay count from that. At my age (60), women actually ask how many sex partners you have had. It’s part of the “job interview” before they date you or early in the relationship.

Although of course there are women who get excited when they hear my numbers, there are others who have flat out rejected me. I am actually losing dates from having been too much of a player! A couple of women have recently told me that I am too much of a slut and consequently they won’t date me. One said she had a rule that the men she dated could have a maximum of 20 sex partners, no more.

So you can get to a point in life where you have had sex with so many women that other women won’t even go out with you! Who would have thought?


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Do People Ever Go from Gay to Straight? Are any Conversion or “Correction/Cure” Therapies or Strategies Proven to Work?

Answered on Queera.

Some lesbians have gone from gay to straight. And some straight women have turned lesbian. It happens all the time. Just pick up the paper.

In the lab, some lesbians who were frightened of sex with men were treated with surrogates and became able to enjoy sex with men. However, the lesbians had to be highly motivated to change for this to work.

However, when I studied the histories of many women with early-onset lesbianism, I found what looks like a biological component. Somehow or other, they seemed to have just gotten wired up gay. These early-onset types are often masculine females, in some cases remarkably so. Whatever caused the masculinization of the female probably caused the lesbianism too.

Gay men can’t go straight or even bi past age 15. Nor can straight men change after age, nor bi men. We know this from endless lab studies. We have been trying to turn gay men straight in the lab for decades, and it’s never worked. I know of one sexologist who tried for decades and finally gave up. He kept having gay men coming to him wanting to change, and he started telling them that he could not take their money in good conscience as he was not able to change them.

Sexual orientation looks much more fixed in men than in women. Before age 15, no one knows. There does seem to be some evidence for sexual orientation change in childhood among a few males, but it’s very hard to study such things given the present Pedophilia Sex Panic. Can you imagine getting funding for such a thing?

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Do Some Women and Men Choose To Be Lesbian or Gay? If So, Why?

Answered on Queera, I mean Quora.

Many straight women have gone gay. It happens all the time. And the reverse.
However, many lesbians appear to be true biological lesbians. The lesbianism is early-onset and is often associated with a masculinized female. I’ve studied many of their histories, and it looks biological somehow.

Straight and bi men cannot change their sexual orientation, at least after age 15. Before that, we do not know. I know of one case where a boy went from straight to gay between ages of 9–11. However, choice may not have been involved. Males may be able to somewhat change orientation in childhood, but this is a black hole of theory, as it is never studied.

Some straight men have chosen to live a gay lifestyle, mostly because females have seriously rejected them. This is maybe 5% of gay men, if it is even that high.

Also quite a few straight men choose to engage in varying amounts of gay sex. They prefer women, but they have sex with men on a lesser basis for a variety of reasons. They are simply choosing to do this. Why any straight man would choose such a thing is absolutely beyond me. Among the crowd I grew up, there would be nothing worse than for a straight guy to do such a thing. It was the ultimate taboo.

The number of straight men who have chosen a gay lifestyle must be very low.
Most gay men, 95%+, are biologically gay. They got wired up this way, probably in the womb due to hormonal fluctuations. They had no choice in the matter.

If you have read this far, you can see that sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior, and they do not always line up. Straight men can absolutely choose to engage in gay sex! They do it all the time. But their orientation does not change.


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Why Is Being a Gay Man Looked Down on More Than Being a Lesbian?

Answered on Quora. It’s getting upvoted to Hell by all sorts of non-straights and non-binary folks. I was terrified that they would report me over this post, so it’s nice to see that they like it. I would like to think these good folks for upvoting my post.

I asked my mother this before because she used to really dislike gay men, but she had no issues with lesbians. She told me it was the extreme promiscuity that so many gay men practiced and the diseases that often result from this. I think she may have also mentioned anal sex, and yes, most gay men (70%) do engage in this act, which a lot of people find disgusting. She had a look of disgust on her face when she said this. So my Mom’s attitude was, “The behavior of gay men is disgusting.”

She is totally turned around now, and she’s pro-gay men, but this is how she felt for many decades. And I am sure a lot of folks still feel this way.

Straight men, at least those I have been running with my whole life, mostly have a profound revulsion for gay sex. And in most of the crowds I have run with, if anyone found out that a guy was having gay sex, he would be run right out of that crowd and told to never come back. The rule of most straight groups that I have been a member of is that homosexual behavior is absolutely unacceptable in any man in the group. If you want to be part of that group, you can’t be doing things like that.

Of course this is all wrapped up in masculinity. I think a lot of masculinity is simply denial or rejection of male homosexuality. The most masculine men are the most virulently homophobic, contrary to the fake studies you read. When I see a man strutting around with an almost comically exaggerated masculinity, I now think it is as if he is screaming as loud as he can, “I’m not gay, dammit!” I think that is one of the messages that hypermasculinity is trying to convey to others.

If you have read this far, you can see that living life as a straight man at least in my generation (I am 60) meant extreme revulsion and taboos against homosexual sex. Engaging in such behavior would mean all or almost all of your friends would never speak to you again. So don’t even think about it. You can see how straight men growing up like this develop some rather strong attitudes about male homosexuals.

It just hits too close to home, and it is all wrapped up in masculinity, one of our dearest things. Many straight men will fight or even kill to protect their masculinity. And there are gay men, seeming to thumb their noses at the thing we hold most dear. How do you expect us to react? A lot of straight men regard the flagrant rejection of masculinity by so many gay men to be an outrageous affront to one of their most profound values.

In contrast, most straight men could care less about lesbians, and bisexuality in women is considered to be a turn-on by most straight men.

Most straight women don’t seem to have very strong attitudes about lesbians or lesbianism. They mostly just shrug their shoulders. Lesbians do not arouse strong emotions in straights of either gender.

I can tell you right now that many straight women are wildly homophobic. Sure, they have their gay friends, but most of them will not tolerate .00001% of homosexual behavior among their boyfriends, husbands, or the men they date. A recent casual survey found that most young straight women would refuse to date a bisexual man.
There is something about male homosexuality and gay male sex that seems to arouse pretty strong emotions among straights, mostly men but also women.

In contrast, most straights are simply indifferent to lesbians.

I am not trying to justify any of the attitudes above. I am simply telling you why so many straight men think the way they do.


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The Female Sex Drive as Sociologically and Societally Mediated Mechanism

A previous post talked about people who like their sex a bit on the rough side. An incredible number of women like their sex like that. And don’t ask me how I know that. They seem like these pretty, fussy, dainty little angelic virgins when you see them in public, but there’s a whole other side to the Feminine Character.

It’s not that it doesn’t exist, it’s more that it doesn’t get turned on all that much. It’s like there’s a lightswitch on their back and you have to flip that thing into the On position to bring out the latent nympho. And I am convinced by a lifetime of experience that the majority or even the vast majority of women are latent nymphos – they just need the right man to bring it out of them. If he never shows up, the nympho simply never comes out to play, and you end up with a rather puritanical, anti-sex woman with a low sex drive. There are whole societies like this. That is because those societies take that light switch and turn it to the Off position, and it’s hard for women in those societies to turn on the switch.

So you end up with generations like my mother’s. I used to hear the women of her generation sit around and talk, and of course they talked about sex. The general impression was that they were not into it that much, that it was a chore their husbands imposed on them, that men were way too horny, etc. The old male cliche about female sexuality – that women don’t like sex too much. They often said that if they could give up sex for the rest of their lives and just be cuddled and held in bed instead, they would do it. Indeed, older surveys showed up to 2/3 of women checking yes on that statement.

There’s no way that these modern women would settle for that. Most single women that I meet masturbate to orgasm all the time if they don’t have a partner. They range in age from 18-59. Every day or even 3-4 times a day is not unusual. Once they figure out how to get that orgasm, they’re basically addicts. Further, we now live in a society that has taken that switch on females’ backs and turned it to a permanent On position. This is how a society of females acts when you turn that switch on and leave it on. In some ways, they’re almost as horny as men.

The female sex drive has no essential nature. It exists, but only as a switch to be turned On or Off. And who gets to decide if that switch is On or Off? Society. In any given society, the female sex drives of its members is mostly determined by the extent to which society allows it to express.

Turn it Off and you get a society of Puritanical women don’t like sex too much – the old cliche about female sexuality.

Turn that damn thing to On, especially at a very early age – say teens or even early teens, and watch out.

It’s like letting wild animals out of the zoo to roam around the streets. Females are capable of a lot more than you think. It’s just that it doesn’t naturally come out. It needs to brought out of them or simply “allowed”.

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The Sexual Harassment Bullshit: A Puritanical Moral Panic

Jacki LB writes: And on the subject of women reporting real sexual assault and the abuse of power – good for them! The ones who are milking or lying are just creating a ‘one up mans ship’ to some of the shit men amongst you who throw shit at us. Iam not saying that is good for anyone to lie and condemn the opposite sex, but those feminists are just using the opportunity to score a ‘home goal’. Get over it and watch some male shit heads treating women like dogs!

It if is real sexual assault or abuse of power, I don’t have a problem with it, but a lot of this crap didn’t even rise to that level.  A lot of it was just flirting, come-on’s, passes, advances, etc. Sure, a lot of the time it could be called clumsy flirting, come-on’s, passes or advances, but that doesn’t make it assault. So what? So some guy tried flirting with you. Big deal! What’s wrong with that? So some guy came onto you. So what! Why is that a bad thing to do? So some guy made a pass at you? Big deal! What’s so bad about that? So some guy made an advance to you? Who cares! People do this stuff all the time. Why do men have to lose their jobs for flirting with women, coming onto them, and making passes and advances at women, even in the workplace? What’s wrong with doing any of those things anyway?

A lot of these men  who are going  down in this Puritanical Sex Panic didn’t even do anything. A lot of this was back in the day when people did this stuff all the time, and no one cared. A lot of it is unwanted advances. So what? Unwanted advances! The Hell with that. You have to make unwanted advances. If you don’t make unwanted advances, you will literally never get laid. Many advances will be unwanted. You won’t know they are unwanted until you do them. If you outlaw all unwanted advances, then you just banned flirting. Way to go, women!

This is no definition of sexual harassment. Right now it is anything that makes those poor, fragile, pretty little girl-women uncomfortable. Oh boo hoo! Poor babies!

Look, women are crying! Sad!

This is bullshit, ok? People make me uncomfortable all the time. I have unwanted encounters with people all the time. I am sure that I make people feel uncomfortable a lot because often when I try to talk to people, I am sure it is an unwanted encounter and I made them feel uncomfortable because they don’t even answer back.

Bullshit on this baby women nonsense that everything that makes a woman-baby uncomfortable is harassment. No it isn’t!

I swear to God, women are such babies. It’s like they never grow up at all. They just stay tearful little girls their whole lives. Boo hoo! Sad!

Look, there is only one definition of sexual harassment that makes sense. It is continuous, ongoing, and persistent and he has been told to stop but he keeps on doing it. In other words, guys who don’t know the meaning of the word, “No.”

To tell you the truth, I went back over a lot of the stuff these guys did, and I felt they were out of line. For the most part, they were doing things that I just would never do. I am actually pretty shy, and I am terrified of being called creep, so I am extremely cautious when I am around female strangers and even women I know who I have nothing going on with. Also I can read vibes extremely well, and if I get red-lighted, I just don’t flirt or I stop flirting if I had already been doing so.


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