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Alt Left: Does Every Androgynous Woman Have to Be Lesbian?

Answered on Quora.

I am familiar with a sex researcher who studied male college students. He found the degree of femininity in their behavior correlated well with their sexual orientation.
Men with mildly feminine behaviors reported minor levels of gay attraction (they were basically straight). As their degree of femininity increased, they reported higher and higher levels of gay attraction. At the far end, a few men (4%), were strongly gay (0–100 to 20–80 where 0–100 is pure gay) and these men were the most feminine, or actually effeminate, of them all.

The correlation is not perfect, and we have all met faggy straight men and mannish straight women, but their numbers are few. I would estimate that ~3% of straight men are effeminate, whereas I would guess ~70–75% of gay men were. That’s a strong correlation.

I am going to go out on a limb here. What do you mean by androgynous?

Because to me, androgynous for a man means a very strong masculine side and a strong feminine side. Think Mick Jagger.

An androgynous woman would have a very strong feminine side and a strong masculine side. Think of the Runaways.

However, most people use androgynous in a man to mean a man who acts completely effeminate and in a woman to mean a woman who is completely masculine.

It sounds like you are heterosexual, have an androgynous nature about which we know little, and do not wish to become a lesbian. Well, good for her. A straight man applauds you. One more for our team.

However, I would ask you if you have any residues of femininity in her that she can dredge up and maybe work with? Because a very butch or dykey straight woman is just going to seem weird. You are going to get people thinking you are lesbian all the time, and after a while, you will start getting really sick of it and get pretty mad about it. I know a straight female car mechanic in this bind right now. She’s getting sick of people thinking she’s a lesbian!

Look, I will be straight up. Straight men simply do not like excessively butch, masculine or dykey straight women. We acknowledge that they are straight, but their lack of femininity is a massive turnoff to us. They just seem weird. And if we date them, we feel gay because it feels like we are out with another man. Straight men hate to feel gay. They will go anything to avoid that feeling.

I think it’s great that you have a strong masculine side! Good for you. I’ve got a damn strong feminine side myself.

But the more feminine side you mix in with that masculine side, the more you will be accepted in the straight world, and the more men will like you.

Feminine behaviors in a woman is what turn on straight men’s sex drive. Masculine behavior in a woman generally shuts down men’s sex drives.

Here’s hoping you can work this out some way or another at some point in the future and then move on to other things because this particular line of thinking (I am straight but I act gay) and the worry associated with it is a very painful way to think.

In my counseling practice, I have met some men and women with this problem, and they were extremely miserable. One or two were suicidal.

It’s an ugly rabbit hole to be in and I would say the sooner this gets cleared up for you, the happier you will be.

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PUA/Game: The Basic Rules of the Boy’s Club for Men

Fraser Crest: Wow, that was homophobic and bigoted. Anytime we make sweeping generalizations about any group of people, especially a minority group that has been oppressed and persecuted by a majority, you run the risk of being “phobic”. It’s stereotyping, it isn’t just, and it isn’t the truth.

So, if that person was in Hollywood and therefore knows ALL about gay people; then, I must be an expert on Orthodox Jews, Russian Jews, Rock-n-Rollers, actors and actresses, singers and musicians, bla, bla, bla, because I lived in and around Hollywood for nearly 30 years.

I had very masculine friends, muscular, confident, and genuinely good people; one friend who liked to do drag once in a while (he couldn’t wear anything too tight because he wouldn’t be able to conceal that huge bulge he had), and another friend who performed in a drag acting troupe that did performances on the weekends in Silverlake with hilarious characters, musical numbers, and a storyline that progressed each week. He was talented and funny, and I enjoyed going to see the shows and usually sat with his partner (a very butch, Latin former gang member who had been married three times and had three grandchildren).

My best friend was from Brazil and working on his PhD at USC (he now teaches back home in Brazil at Universidade de Sao Paulo, Brazil, and his mother is a well-known gay rights activist), and he didn’t fit into a gay stereotype.

As for myself, I lived near the Guitar Center and a theater bookstore – for many years I had long hair, and people asked what band I was in, and one time I was offered a spot in a band (because they liked my look) if I could play bass guitar – I can’t.

When I cut all my hair off, went really short and worked out at the gym – a girl who worked there told me her husband (a comedian) had written a 3-minute performance piece about ME. It was called “The Refreshingly Gay Man” – because I was neither feminine nor hyper-masculine as if trying to conceal something. I was just me. Her husband told me that when you wake up in the morning and open a window and take in a deep breath and stretch — he said that’s what I am – refreshingly gay.

After 9-11 I realized I didn’t know very much about Muslims at all, and I started to read…I hated what I was reading. So, I got a book that’s published by Muslims about their religion…I hated that too. So, I got a book by a lesbian who was raised Muslim and her search to find resolution and peace…didn’t help.

I so desperately did not want to be a bigot, and have bad feelings about a billion + people, but I was discouraged…until one day I discovered an incredibly beautiful singer who sings in Arabic. I have listened to her music for many years now, and I can sing along with quite a few songs. Music is a powerful healer. But she just helped me realize what I already knew — that there are good and bad people in every group…and truthfully, there was a big, abusive religion that forced conversions, tortured, murdered, or enslaved some who wouldn’t convert; and persecuted Jews, calling them “Christ killers”.

That little old religion is still based in Rome. Plus, there is a lot of violence and gross stuff in the Bible so stop pointing out crap from the Quran and think you just exposed all of those Muslims… because there are really decent, caring, loving, peaceful people who happen to follow their religion as they understand it to be or should be.

I also have a friend whose mother turned him into the authorities for being gay – he was only 23 or 24 — he had to appear before Islamic Court (three times) in Tehran. They took everything from him (job, bank account, car, furnishings), issued an order for execution and banned him from travel. Two friends got him out of Iran, risking prison if caught. He was exiled in Turkey for approximately 2 years before being accepted as a refugee to the U.S.

When I heard his story, I heard the words very clearly in my heart say, “I have to do everything I can to help him”. He calls me “dad” or “papa” now, I love that kid, and I’m so proud of him. I am still shaken by what he went through, but I am humbled that he is my “adopted son”.

No, all gay people are not the same.

Although I did joke in the 80’s that some gay men, when they get drunk, turn into black women. But I’m gay. I’m allowed a joke with my friends.

What you are reading up there is the way most straight men really, really feel about gay men. I am straight, and I have been around straight men my whole life. I know what my people are like. I think most straight men are homophobic on some level.

The Rules of the Boys’ Club

These are the rules for masculine straight society or for the Boy’s Club for Men that most such men are members of. Being a Club member means you are one of the boys or one of the guys.

1. NO GAY SHIT. ALSO NO FAGS (SORRY FOR THE LANGUAGE). Not even .00001% gay shit allowed, and no, none of them, no fags, don’t even come around, they’re not members, and they need to somewhere else with their own kind or their straight women friends. No hard feelings, but they are not wanted here. It’s a private club after all.

Gay shit? No, no, no, no, no, no, no.  Don’t even think about it! Do it, and you’re gone. Just like that. You are banished. You can’t even talk about it. If you do, you are suspected of being gay right there. It’s considered such an abomination that you never even bring it up. If you have some feelings like that, we get it, a lot of straight men do. But you really need to STFU about it, and keep it to yourself, dammit.

This is actually the number one rule of the Club, and in a sense it even supersedes masculinity, but not by much. Generally the two are part of a package, one package. Masculine = homophobic and vice versa. Like peanut butter and jelly, they just go together. If you are wimpy but homophobic, well, “At least you’re not a fag” is the attitude. We would tolerate you a bit more because although you are pitiful, at least you are not a menace, an outrage, or an abomination.

This does not necessarily boil down to hating gay men, though sadly it often does. A lot of Club members nowadays are more accepting and tolerant and excuse gay men from Club rules.

They’re not part of our Club, they are not welcome here anyway, and they are seen as outside of our society. They’re over there. Because they are not Club members, the rules do not apply to them. More Club members nowadays think that gay men can’t help it, and we accept them on a somewhat pity basis on the grounds that they can’t help it, and hating them would be like punching someone for being lefthanded. He couldn’t help his handedness. So gay men are exempted from the fierce homophobic rules of the Club. They can act as effeminate and faggy as they wish. It’s weird as Hell, but whatever. Maybe they can’t help that either. Maybe that’s part of getting wired up gay. We give them the benefit of the doubt. Besides, simpatico is a major Club rule and even applies to people outside the Club. See below.

2. BE MASCULINE, DAMMIT. Yep, not real masculine, but just masculine enough. This is called, “Walking the walk, and talking the talk.” If you are not at least masculine or macho enough, get out. You’re not part of our Club. The attitude is “Go over there with the women and fags or your wimpy, pathetic, pussyboy friends.” We don’t even like wimpy and seriously unmasculine, weak men. They’re pitiful and a bit disgusting, and they are not wanted in our circles. Act like a man, dammit! What are you, a girl? This is a minimum requirement for true Club membership, and it goes right along with Rule 1.

3. BE HETEROSEXUAL. A very masculine man who was seriously homophobic and not gay at all but nevertheless did not like women for some reason would still be accepted in the Club because he fulfills Rules 1 and 2, which are mandatory. People would think he was weird, but whatever. So Rule 3 is not mandatory, but most Club men definitely fill it anyway. He gets Club membership on a waiver basis because he fulfills Rules 1 and 2. We rarely see truly asexual men in the Club though. If you truly want full membership, you gotta like pussy. You get massive bonus points once we figure out that you are a regular,  normal, heterosexual, high-sex-drive pussyhound who is crazy about women or at least crazy about having sex with them. You don’t have to be having sex with them, but you get huge bonus points for aggressively wanting to do so.

4. GET LAID. This is actually the least important one. I have known seriously masculine, homophobic, apparently heterosexual men who could not get laid with God’s help. One was an extremely scary guy with a car repair place who wore leather all the time and always looked mean and angry.

He was accepted in the Club because he was a badass, but a lot of men did not want to deal with him because he was “just too full of hate.” Yes, you must be homophobic and masculine, being straight helps and you don’t really have to get laid, but if you are too mean and aggressive, you are “psycho,” and even most macho guys think you have gone overboard. You are seen as giving off bad vibes and living in a world of meanness and hate. Believe it or not, most Club men dislike the idea of living in a world of meanness and hate. Most Club men are actually trying to relax, not be angry or hate people, and be halfway nice most of the time. It’s called “being cool.” Even Mexican men are like this. Their version of it is called “simpatico.” and Mexican men are profoundly masculine, yet simpatico is nevertheless a  part of the machismo.

You don’t even have to get laid much. If other men see you for years without a woman, they would still accept you if you fulfill Rules 1-3. Extra bonus points if you at l least talk loudly and aggressively about women and sex with them in a lascivious, high-sex-drive sort of way. We know you’re OK inside, you’re just having a spell of bad luck, and almost all Club men have been through dry spells anyway. Most Club men know that getting women as a single man is not that easy even nowadays. Women don’t give it up for free easily.

Why do you think there is a Whore Market? And a pricey Whore Market at that. If women were easily giving it up for free all the time, the Whore Market would collapse. The fact that there is a Whore Market shows that women are actually operating what boils down to a Pussy Cartel which engages is mass price-fixing, monopoly tactics, and a lot of dirty tricks all to keep the price of sex and access to women’s bodies as high as possible. The Pussy Cartel runs something called the Pussy Market. The Pussy Market and the Whore Market are two different things. I am not sure how they relate, but the Whore Market very much needs the Pussy Cartel to limit access to sex so as to drive up the prices of the Whore Market’s product.

This Cartel the reason for the Jailbait Mass Hysteria. Women are terrified that if more JB’s become legal, a lot of men will choose boppers over real women, and the Pussy Market will crash. It’s all about keeping the price high. That’s what is behind all the outrage. Pure fear.

It’s the same reason that feminists are making desperate moves to try to keep men from getting mail order or overseas brides. Too much really scary competition, and more fear of a Market Collapse. A market on which prices are artificially inflated.

Why do you think so many men jump right into marriage? They get married to have lots of regular sex! Men don’t marry for love. That’s just some crap they tell their girlfriends and wives to keep them around. They marry for sex! Now some love might come along as side order, yes, but the sex is always the main course. Women will never figure this out, and they will continue to laughably think men marry for love. Nope!

So Club men are sympathetic to a homophobic, masculine, straight man who’s not having any luck. Almost all men in the Club have some low-level sexism and think women are a great big, huge, pain the ass, at times infuriating, endless headache of a problem. Sort of like a car that you really love, but it’s always in the shop.

It sounds course and crude, but most men use women as a place, product or even object to fulfill their sexual needs. Women are like sexual gas stations where you fill up your human body car. Yes, there is sometimes fondness, kindness, warmth, tenderness, and niceness at the same time. Indeed, pleasantries are often exchanged in the process, but the Sexual Pit Stop is their basic role. Some love might go along with this basic function, but that is actually peripheral. Probably no woman on Earth will ever accept this, but it’s the way it is, like it or not.

But if Club members see that guy with a woman over at his place or spending the night  there even one time, their opinion of him goes way up, sky high, and every Club member around wants to come up to him and give him five. He was a member of the Club before, but now he’s really a member. This means he is now what is called officially “a regular guy.” You become a regular guy by getting laid.

If you do very well with women and are a player, you are granted Hero status in the Club. You’re not even a Club member anymore. Now you are a super-member.

You are like a general who is covered with medals. Club men will praise you, buy you meals, etc. They will walk up to you and slap you on the back. Other men in the Club will walk up him with a “Can I have your autograph?” attitude. They will even put their arm around himyou, but it’s not seen as gay because you are a macho hero player, and everyone knows you’re not gay. Ordinarily, you have to be very careful getting physical with other men in the Club because the homophobia is so off the charts, but exceptions are made for the Player. He’s the Superstar. He’s The Man. The rules don’t apply as far as he goes.

But mostly the attitude in the Club towards Player is that he is simply hilarious. Everyone in the Club thinks it is absolutely hilarious how this guy gets so many women. The reason why he is hilarious and why he is a superstar hero is because it is actually very hard to be a real bigtime player. Only 6% of straight men have sex with over 100 females in their lives, and probably 95% want to. Or maybe it’s 100%.

Women will never figure this out either, and most women solipsistically think getting laid is utterly trivial for men. Women can get sex anytime they want, and women are solipsists by nature, so they think if they can do it, men can do it too.

Same thing with marriage. Women usually marry for love, and since women are solipsists, they think if women marry for love, then men must too.

Women just don’t get what it’s like to be a man.

I will say though that once a woman gets to her 40’s and 50’s, a lot of them have pretty much figured us out at least in part, and they accept us for being the way we are, mostly because they figure we can’t change, we are hopeless, and we are just doing what comes naturally. A lot of old women also understand men well too. But they still don’t completely get us. I am not sure if one woman has ever figured out men. Sometimes I wonder.

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PUA/Game: The Black Women and Asian Men Interracial Pairing Project: Doomed before It Leaves the Starting Gate

There is now a movement, with an extreme Cultural Left emphasis, to get Black women and Asian men together. Some have said that this is a pairing of the two least desirable races among the genders. Black women are supposedly the least desirable women according to surveys on dating sites, and Asian men are supposedly the least desirable men according to those same surveys.

I would add here that Black men seem to like Black women just fine.

It’s also true that Asian women seem to like Asian men just fine. I just spent several days in Mountain View, an extremely heavily Asian (mostly Chinese) city in California. Most of the Chinese women were quite willingly hooked up with ordinary Chinese men even though it is a truism in HBD circles that Asian men are the least masculine men of all.

As you can see, Black women as the least feminine women and Asian and Indian men as the least masculine men get the short end of the stick. A Black woman/Asian man pairing would be bizarre. You are asking the most masculine women to pair with the least masculine men. Black women probably see Asian men as severe wimps. You are also asking the least masculine men to hook up with the most masculine women.  For an Asian man to date a Black must nearly feel gay, as if he is with a man. The people at the far ends of the spectrum are the least likely to choose each other.

The argument though is that Black women and Asian men are both SOL in US culture, so these two most rejected groups will have to hook up with each other out of necessity more than anything else. I am just not seeing it. Black women probably prefer a vibrator over some wimpy Asian guy.

An Asian men probably prefer porn and a fleshlight over nearly animalistic, masculinized Black women. After all, Asian men are encultured to prefer the most feminine women of them all – their own. Why would such men who want the most feminine women choose the least feminine women? Those would be the last men to do so.

Black women are encultured to prefer the most masculine men of them all – Black men. As women choose upwards in masculinity, can you blame them? Black men are like the prize to a Black woman. Why would women who want the most masculine men choose the least masculine men? They wouldn’t. They would rather stay home and rub one out in privacy. It’s better than some wimpy guy.

So this project of getting Asian men to pair up with Black women, even out of desperation, seems like a folly. Charging at windmills may be good exercise, but it never accomplishes anything.

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Alt Left: Were Human Females Sexually Selected for Beauty?

Let’s face it, folks, women are beautiful. They are far more beautiful than us men, and this is given as a reason that a lot of basically straight women drift into bisexuality. At least one bi-curious woman told me that, and I have seen others state it.

Put that idea in your head:

“Women are beautiful as a part of their basic genetic nature. They are far more beautiful than us men, who are more ruggedly handsome when attractive.”

Now start looking at women anywhere, especially on a dating site or Facebook. where you can see many women in short period of time. They are beautiful, aren’t they? They are beautiful in a way that most of us men are not. In fact, they appear to have been specifically bred for beauty, to put it crudely.

It must be that males across space and time have been specifically selecting for beauty in females. The less attractive females were apparently simply selected against.

If human females tend to have a core natural beauty as a result of sexual selection in favor of beauty cross-racially, it stands to reason that Black females have been selected for beauty also. The women of most races are beautiful, although I must admit I still can’t see the beauty in Aboriginal women, though Aborigine/White mixes are often remarkably beautiful. One of these mixes is a famous model in Australia. At any rate, races with largely unattractive females are quite rare. Poke around in any major human race, and you will start to see the beauty in the women if you look closely enough.

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Alt Left: Discovering the Hidden Beauty of Black Women

Most Black men have a serious taste for Black women. It is White, Hispanic and Asian men who rank Black women lower. However, I would like to point out that I am on a site called Hi5 right now, a social networking site that also functions as a dating site, though I have not met anyone off there yet. For some reason, this site is a favorite of Black people or at least Black women. There also seem to be a lot of Black men on there, but I don’t look for them, so it’s hard to tell how common they are.

They often give me a lot of Black chicks to choose from, yes or no, as you go through the list that they offer you. As I went through the choices as I was flooded with Black women, for the first time in my life, I finally saw what Black men see in Black women. It’s not that they are ugly or unattractive, though definitely quite a few are in my opinion, but it is more a matter of opening yourself up to the rather unique beauty of Black women. You  have to get used to them. You need to learn to adjust to or accept their unique features such as prominent lips, some prognathism, dark skin, wide nose, etc. But once you get those psychological barriers out of the way, it’s like a whole new world, black and beautiful, gradually unfolds for you.

I thought, “Wow! I get it! I see why so many Black women think they are beautiful! And I finally see what Black men see in Black chicks!”

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Game/PUA: The Advantages of Older Women – the Older, the Kinkier

A lot of women of all ages are perverts. I have known many women of all ages who masturbated to orgasm every day or most every day. One did it 10 X/week (45 years old) and I knew one who did it 3-4 X/day (50 years old). Many have been doing this for years. I knew a woman in her 20’s who sometimes masturbated all night long or off and on all day.  She had a driving job once and during the lulls when there were no calls, she would drive to an empty parking lot and masturbate there. Wow! That’s the sort of thing men do. Once women figure out how to have that orgasm, most of them are addicts. Masturbating to orgasm every day? That’s as horny as a man! Women are hornier than you think.

Nowadays, I often date women in their 40’s and now in their 50’s. A lot of them are serious perverts. Most are total sex maniacs who want to do it all the time. And as women get older, they get kinkier too for some reason. I figure once a woman gets to about age 50 or so, she has probably accumulated a few perversions and kinks along the way, no?

A lot of older women can have multiple orgasms, but not too many young women can.

It’s a lot easier to talk to older women about sex than it is to talk to young women about it. Older women just seem to accept it as a fact of life, and talking about sex is like talking about eating or sleeping with them. I think by the time they get into their 40’s and 50’s, most women have had enough sex and they have figured out that they like it a lot.

I think maybe it takes women a long time to finally get rid of their inhibitions and open up all the way. I have known women who had such deep and serious inhibitions, in one case due to fundamentalist Christian upbringing, that they did not finally flower sexually until they were after age 40. After that, they set about quickly to make up for lost time.

 

 

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Game/PUA: Why Older Men Like Younger Women

40% of 18 year olds are still virgins. I have dated a few 18 year old girls recently, and I had an 18 year old girlfriend several years ago. Two of them were complete virgins, never even been kissed. That’s not so unusual. People err in thinking that 18 year old girls have a lot of sexual experience.

Teenage girls under age 18 (jailbaits or JB’s) can be very good fucks. I had sex with quite a few of them as a teenage boy and even more from age 18-21 as a young adult. They’re a blast. And they’re horny as Hell, as horny as any adult woman. They often don’t have a lot of experience, but they are very willing to learn, and it is fun to teach them. One of the best fucks I ever had in my whole life was an 18 year old girl when I was 17. A total maniac in bed, cumdrunk the whole time.

But people err in thinking that JB’s lack the sexual passion of an adult female. Unfortunately nowadays most of those girls are the sole province of teenage boys, much to the frustration of a lot of these girls who find boys ridiculous, immature and callow. 18 and 19 year old girls are available in every state in US, and 16-17 year old girls are available in about half of US states. There are also Romeo and Juliet laws that let a lot of young men aged 18-21 off the hook with a certain subset of jailbaits. Check the laws in your state and don’t break any laws if you wish to venture into the teenybopper realm.

It seems rather strange to fethishize teenage girls just because they are young. She’s 15  year old, dude! So? So what? What’s so special about a 15 year old girl? Nothing. And a woman is better than a girl in so many ways after you are past 30 or so.

For the life of me, I will never understand why men prefer a teenage girl to a real woman. An ephebephile is maximally attracted to females age 15-19. Although modern psychology says that ephebephilia is simply normal behavior, and it’s not a disorder or any type of a mental illness, I think they mean it is normal for men to be attracted to these fully developed females with the bodies of women. Of course they look great. But why is a teenybopper better than a woman, once you are past age 21 or so?

As we get older, it is more and more of a compliment if young females like us. It feels a lot better if a woman in her 20’s or better yet, 18-19, stares at me and checks me out than if a woman my age does because it is so much harder to get a young woman to look at me.

Most young women do not like men my age at all, and if you can still attract them, you got it going on bigtime. And at my age, the only men I know who still date young women aged 18-30 are pretty much Ultimate Alphas with good looks for their age and especially the best Game in the whole world. Your average man in his 50’s simply cannot pull this off.

So if you still get young women in your 50’s, it is a compliment that shows that at least you probably have incredible Game. So it is bragging rights if you can still get young women at my age. It’s not that they are better but more that you are doing the impossible. You are doing something that few men your age can even pull off. So it makes you feel very good that you can best most men your own age and that you look young enough to still get young women.

So older men like young women mostly for bragging rights and to show off their youth or sexual prowess. It’s not that young women are better than older women. In fact, in many cases it is the opposite. And older women is better than an 18-29 year old woman in lots of ways at my age. I can’t even begin to describe it.

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Repost: Robert Lindsay Through the Years, Plus PUA/Game and Vanity Stuff

Return of an eternal favorite, as I need a dose of vanity these days, not that there’s anything to be vain about anymore, but one can always reminisce, eh? I added in a lot of reminiscences about my days as a pussyhound long ago in another world.

This is the photo you are all familiar with. Taken in the 2000’s.

Let’s look at some other photos from the 2000’s.

In this one I look like I’m stoned.

Another one from the 2000’s.

I think I look kind of conceited in this pic, but I don’t care. I am vain, so what, what of it?

Some emotions.

Smile for the camera.

Hamming it up.

Big kiss for all my friends, but especially for my enemies.

More hamming.

Neener neener.

Recent photos.

Trying to be nice.

I do not know if I was goodlooking during this era, but women sometimes said I was handsome. Actually I hear that about these pics to this very day, even from women in their 30’s. When I used this pic on dating sites, a lot of women came and messaged me with variations of, “Hi handsome!” Unfortunately, I cannot use it anymore as it’s not that recent, and I really got scolded for using an out of date pic on a site recently. I had a date with a woman who thought I looked like some pic taken ~15 years ago lol. She came over to my house but was freaked out that I did not look like the pic.

The date was going to be pretty good – she showed up with an overnight bag and promptly announced that she would like to spend the night if I didn’t mind. Of course I said ok. I even offered her a choice of sleeping locations, but I always do that anyway.

So I replaced by older pic with a newer pic, and way fewer women come to me, and no one ever says, “Hi handsome!” I am afraid I am being attacked by an artillery weapon called Time. I have definitely hit the Wall in the worst possible way. But after all, the Buddhists say, “When you bet on the body, you bet on a losing horse.” Actually some women my age (47-58) still think I am hot, I guess compared to the competition, which at my age ain’t much if not zero. I even had an 18 year old girl going on about how cute I was a few years ago, so I guess all hope is not lost yet.

From the same session.

Hi everyone.

Ok, I Walled Out some time ago, and now I am an Omega for all intents and purposes. Don’t know what to say except a shoutout to all you Omegas out there – I get it! This Omega stuff sucks! If I had been this way my whole life, I think I would have bought it by my own hand by now. I don’t see how Omegas keep from suiciding. How do they do it?

One from the old days.

College graduation, California, 1982, age 23. Looks something like the oldest son on the Brady Bunch, eh?

Once again, not sure if I looked good back then. I have no opinion on my looks because my view is not important. I figure out whether I am goodlooking enough by other’s people’e opinions on the matter. If lots of others think I am hot, well maybe I am. If no one thinks I am hot anymore, I guess I Walled out. Welcome to the Omega Life. I’m just not used to being butt-ugly or unattractive, so I don’t handle it well. Are there some classes I could take or books I could read to learn how to accept myself if I’m butt-ugly?

Well, anyway during this period, age 23, people were falling all over themselves tell me how handsome I was, and a year after this photo was taken, I got three offers to be a male model in one year. I turned them down because I was crazy homophobic back then and I was terrified of “the fags,” as I referred to them. Never got any offers before or after, but I guess my looks peaked out at age 24. Interestingly I was also quite thin that year – 5’11, 150. Do they want models to be thin?

These looks killed with women. I used to pick up women just walking own the sidewalk or driving down the street. I would be walking down the street, and some woman would be rubbernecking me the whole way on the other side of the street, so I would go over, get a number, or if lucky, get her to hers or mine right there in the middle of the day! Some women would just stop their car in the the middle of the road if there was no traffic with this frozen zombie stare on their faces, and I would stop, get out, walk over to her car and and get a phone number or get her to my place or hers right then and there!

I went to a friend’s wedding party, and the bride of my best friend kept throwing herself at me, saying, “Bobbbbbbb,” and hugging me and shoving me against the wall. I didn’t go for it because I didn’t want to fuck my best friend’s wife at his wedding party, come on.

I was doing student teaching around this time, and my female Master Teacher, who otherwise hated me and was said to be a lesbian, once whipped out a $20 bill and waved it around. “Is $20 dollars enough? $20 to fuck me, how bout that?” I guess she was not totally lesbian! I turned her down as she was ugly and a dyke, and plus I was worried it would ruin my Master Teaching with her. Only time any woman ever offered to pay me to fuck her!

Later my other Master Teacher out and out propositioned me on the night the Master Teaching was over.

I went to a bar once with an older woman I was dating and three of her older friends. I danced with one of her friends, and in the middle of the dance, she stopped dancing, froze in place like she was turned into stone, and blurted out, “I am going to Europe all summer. You want a place to stay this summer? You can stay at my place, rent-free, all summer, I’m serious!”  I thought “What the Hell?” I mean I literally only met this woman two or three hours before.

I think she was trying to steal me from my girlfriend. Women and girls do this all the time. They are always stealing their sisters’ and best friends’ boyfriends. Most people don’t know this. Women compete like mad for men, and man-stealing is extremely common with women and even girls. Most people have no idea how viciously competitive females can be.

I dated older women during this time (age 28-37), and they would always pay my way everywhere, so I got to feel like a gigolo. It was fun. Crazy times!

One more from the real old days.

LOL it’s Tony Orlando! From the hippie era, 1978, age 20, junior college graduation, California. Most people nowadays think that hair looks hilarious, but back then, this look was tres cool. My Dad totally hated that hair, and he used to threaten to punch me out unless I cut it. He also kept saying that I looked like some actress called Veronica Lake. To him, born in 1921, long hair meant you were queer, but to us, long hair was a way to get the chicks. I kept telling my father that, but he always acted like that was insane!

Maybe I was goodlooking here too because women were always raving about me. About the hair, well, this is how you did it back then. If you wanted to get laid, you grew your hair like this. Women went ape-shit over long hair back then and shunned short-haired men as “geeks.” Women are girls were always running their hands through my hair at this time. “Ohhhhhhh I love your curly hair…..” with hypnotized stares on their faces. This look was great for women and even girls, as I was still screwing girls down to age 14 at this time (age 20). Hey, they were throwing themselves at me, asking me out on dates, walking right up to me and propositioning me. What was I supposed to do? Just say no? I quit the next year due to fear of jail.

Once I was at a party, and all of a sudden, completely shocked, I caught a mother and her daughter both staring at me with locked stares. The mother was saying, “Damn I want to fuck him so bad, he’s so hot.” I could not hear the daughter, but she might have been agreeing with Mom. She looked a bit frightened with a withdrawing vibe like she was scared of me, and she was sort of clinging onto Mom. I would think, “Whoa! Did I just hear that? Did that girl’s Mom say to her own daughter how bad she wanted to fuck me?” They went on like this for an hour or more. I finally left with the girl and took her up to the roof of the apartment complex and had sex with her up there at 2 AM.

I mean, a mother and her own daughter talking about how bad they want to fuck me? What the Hell, man? I never did a mother-daughter team at once. That must be like a dream. How many men get to do that? I know Casanova did a couple of times, and David Lee Roth was notorious for taking on mother-daughter groupie teams.

I went to a Playboy Playmate signing once at the mall in around 1979. The Playmate was very young, and she would not stop staring at me with this blank robot stare. My friends were ribbing me, “Bob! Go for it dude! A Playboy Playmate is hot for you! I’m jealous!” I shyed out, but I could have gotten her number for sure.

These were the days! I would do stuff like pick up two girls at once, walk by a woman in some guys lap and just reach my hand out and pull her hypnotized out of his lap and around my arm. Sisters competed with each other to fix me up with their friends. Damn, this was the life, man! I would kill to live this life again.

Ms. Lake for comparison purposes, 1940’s.

The famous Veronica Lake, known for her curly hair. The “Veronica Lake” hairstyle came back a few years ago, in 2007.

Th-th-th-th-th that’s all folks.

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Is It Okay for Me to Want to Have a Gay Best Friend but Not Like Lesbians?

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Watch this answer get downvoted to Hell. I have answered quite a few questions regarding homosexuality, and while I was very careful not to come across anti-gay in my answers, I pretty much just told it like it is about gay men because I know them very well having lived and worked around them for years. Almost every single question I answered on gay men got downvoted to Hell by fags. And fags apparently mass reported me to Quora for “homophobia.” The site warned me after each post that if I persisted in my evil homophobia they were going to ban me. That site is so PC, SJW and Cultural Left that I am thinking maybe they should just call it Queera and get it over with. I mean why all the pretense?

This is getting ridiculous. Gay men are getting as bad as Blacks and Jews. Everything’s homophobia I guess. They see insults everywhere, and you can’t say anything about them unless you are praising them to the skies. I guess it makes sense though because gay men are perfect, right? They are immaculate angels that all us guys need to imitate because of their ultimate perfection and excellence. There’s nothing bad about them. Even their shit doesn’t even smell.

It’s already like this with the exalted Jews, who are of course the most perfect humans on Earth and have never done anything bad in 2,000 years. If you say one bad thing about them, the Jews will hound you to Hell and back for the rest of your life. And well they should, for how dare you imply there is anything wrong with God’s most perfect people!

And then there’s Muslims. There is no group of people as perfect and special and amazing as Muslims. I mean, these humans are so amazing that they can everything but fly! Hell, maybe they can fly. You never know what those amazingly great Muslims have up their sleeves in terms of hidden talents. I mean we can bash Christianity and Christians to Hell and back because it’s mostly White people practicing that religion. Anything mostly White is obviously evil.

But Islam is practiced mostly by those tan and browner people. Everyone knows that the browner the person, the more perfect and special they are. All us lowly Whites should try to be as perfect as those most excellent brown people! I honestly believe that brown people never do anything wrong, and of course there is nothing to criticize about them. Anyway if you do, it’s Islamophobia, and that means you are pure evil, worse than Hitler.

Of course! In fact, this describes almost all straight women. Most straight women are not real keen on lesbians or lesbianism, and most prefer to avoid lesbians if they can help it. I have never met one straight women with a “lesbian friend.”

Furthermore, lesbians don’t seem to want to hang out with straight women. Lesbians and straight women don’t hang out together. Lesbians hang out with other lesbians and gay men. That’s all they wish to be around.

Straight women hang around other straight women, heterosexual men (for sex and romance), and gay men (for nonsexual male friendship).

Straight men hang out with other straight men and straight or bi women. I have never met a straight man with a lesbian friend, and most straight men my age do not have gay friends. I find the idea of straight men having gay friends to be bizarre.

Most straight women of a certain age have or have had a gay friend or more than one gay friend. Gay men and straight women often get along extremely well.

On the other hand, straight women are usually wildly homophobic about the men that they date, and they do not wish them to be even .0000001% gay. I have a couple of completely straight male friends who told me they had sex with men a time or two on an experimental basis (this is actually very common). They made the mistake of telling their girlfriends that they had done this, and the women went through the roof, screaming every gay slur you could possibly think of. “Faggot! Queer! Fag!” It went on and on. They were like Mike Pence on steroids. One guy told me that for a year or two after they broke up, she kept sending him texts and leaving him phone messages like, “You faggot! You fucking queer! You fag! You’re such a queer!”

And these women were very supportive of gay rights and had gay friends. In fact, my friends told me that they had to be OK with gay men to even date these women, as these women were the “I don’t date homophobes” type. Both friends were homophobic towards gay men, but they had to tone it down if they wanted to get any sex.

It is almost boringly pedestrian and normal for straight women to like to have gay friends but to be very dubious and distant when it comes to lesbians. I’m not sure if they dislike lesbians so much as they really don’t want much to do with them.

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Do Gay Men Check Out Women As Well?

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Of course they don’t check out women, not like straight men do. I work in mental health, and I have had several gay clients. Due to the nature of my work, I often have to do a sexual orientation workup of most people who come to me. I routinely do it for people who tell me they are gay.

I ask gay men a number of things:

  1. Do you ever fantasize about women sexually?
  2. Do you ever masturbate and think about women?
  3. Do you ever check out women in a sexual way? Do you look at women? Do you check them out?

So far, every gay man who I have questioned has answered an emphatic no to all three of those questions.

It may be safely determined that the vast majority of gay men either rarely or never check out women, never fantasize sexually about women, and never think about women or sex with women when they masturbate. I assume some gay men may rarely do these things, but I have not met one yet.

Gay men are simply not turned on by women. Like, not at all. Like, not even 1%.

This has been my professional observation over five years.

If you are actually checking out women in a sexual way like straight men do habitually or even reflexively if not unconsciously, I would have to say you are some form of bisexual. What’s really important is who turns you on more, males or females? Don’t say both because science has proven that only 1% of all men are equally attracted to both sexes.

I have a test which I think is much better than the Kinsey Scale, and I routinely give it to my clients as part of a sexual orientation workup. Here it is. Tell us where you are on this chart, and we can figure out your sexual orientation:

100-0: Maximum heterosexual, minimum homosexual
90-10: Maximum heterosexual, incidental homosexual
80-20: Maximum heterosexual, significant homosexual
70-30: Maximum heterosexual, strong homosexual
60-40: Maximum heterosexual, very strong strong homosexual
50-50: Maximum heterosexual, maximal homosexual
40-60: Maximum homosexual, very strong heterosexual
30-70: Maximum homosexual, strong heterosexual
20-80: Maximum homosexual, significant heterosexual
10-90: Maximum homosexual, incidental heterosexual
0-100: Maximum homosexual, minimal heterosexual

All of my clients love this scale, and no one has complained yet. Also, incredibly, almost everyone almost immediately gives me a score on the scale, just like that. I think most people really do know their sexual orientation. If you sit down and think about it, it’s just not hard to figure out. So far in my work the only people I have met who claim to not know their orientation have been gay men in denial about homosexuality (which incidentally is quite easy to determine) or mentally ill people with some anxiety disorder. There’s no reason to be confused about your orientation. Past a certain age, it’s as clear as air.

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