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Opinion: The Alt Left Should Be Neither Feminist Nor for Men’s Rights. It Should Be for Good Relationships between the Sexes

Great piece by Ryan England. Personally, I feel things are far, far, far too gone for this and this sort of pacifism is just not going to work. England is calling for unilateral disarmament on the part of the men and then sending us unarmed men in to negotiate with savage, ISIS-like terrorists (the feminists). That’s not going to work. It’s like bringing a knife to a gunfight. It would be great if this would be enough but I am afraid that things are far too gone for that now and the only thing left is the more extreme measures. Hey, the feminists started it. They started shooting at us men. You want a war, baby? Bring it on!

Beyond Feminist vs. MRA

OPINION: THE ALT-LEFT SHOULD BE NEITHER FEMINIST NOR FOR MEN’S RIGHTS. IT SHOULD BE FOR GOOD RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN THE SEXES.

It’s a familiar story for anyone who’s been online for any length of time. A discussion starts over a gender or feminism-related topic.  There’ve been plenty of these lately since the Harvey Weinstein sexual harassment scandal broke in Hollywood and the metoo hashtag campaign, so there’s no shortage of examples to choose from. There’s nothing unique about these conversations, however. They’ve been taking place on social media since Facebook and Twitter first launched and were commonplace on bulletin boards long before anyone knew what a comments section was. The basic conversation hasn’t changed much in the decades since Al Gore invented the internet. A typical conversation will go something like this.

Feminist: Men rape and harass women. That’s why men suck and women should reject them.

MRA: But not all men. But not me. That should give me an advantage in the mating game with women, should it not?

Feminist: But only men. Plus patriarchy, power, privilege, rape culture, etc. Not so fast, buster!  You’re part of the segment of the population that does the most rape and who benefits from rape and are therefore not so innocent as you’d like to believe. And therefore suck no less and are no less deserving of rejection.

MRA: But what about false accusations? What about women who sexually assault men? This nullifies the advantage you claimed in your previous statement. Therefore, women should more readily accept and sleep with us. I mean me!

It’s never long before a conversation like this breaks down, and school yard level copypasta insults break out. “Boo hoo! Eh poor menz!” “Enjoy your cats!” So on and so on. It’ll inevitably come down to one or both sides being ugly, living in their parent’s basements, and being unable to get laid. This is due to the fact that the surface conversation is never nearly as important as the subtext that continually underlies conflicts over gender theory and its real world implications.

The unstated but nonetheless omnipresent axioms that are revealed when any kind of deconstructive analysis is applied to such discussions are that male power is expressed through sexual conquest of the female, and that female power is expressed through sexual rejection of the male. All else is ancillary. Which is largely why pro and anti feminists talk past one another and at one another far, far more than with one another. The legitimate issues raised by either side fall by the wayside because they’re obviously being weaponized to one or the other of those two ultimate effects.

The real purpose for bringing up rape, harassment, divorce, child support, or any other issue, at least in online discussion, is to lower the value of one gender relative to the other for the ultimate purpose of making sex either easier (in favor of men) or harder (in favor of women) to attain.

There’s just one problem with this paradigm, however. It doesn’t work. It’s not making anyone happy. It’s based in a glaringly flawed assessment of human nature and is much more rooted in ego than in reason or human empathy. Men were not rejected into sympathizing with women’s concerns. They go their own way instead, doubtlessly with the intent of bringing those pesky, uppity women to heel. No dice: women are angrier now than ever. Who’d have guessed? The result is that heterosexual activity has been driven into a kind of moral black market wherein most people actually do it at some point or another but also have to conceal it, rationalize it, or engage in it under some kind of false pretenses much of the time to avoid social censure. No wonder bad behavior abounds.

It’s time to smarten up, people. Get out of the grade school mentality. Let’s at least try and hit puberty, okay internet? Human nature is not especially complicated. We tend to simmer down when we feel that our concerns are being heard and taken somewhat seriously, even if disagreed with in some ways. The natural response of people when faced with a lecturing, condescending tone is to get defensive, not to open one’s heart or mind. This is true however legitimate the surface grievance actually is or is not. Which isn’t to say you accept bullshit uncontested. Rather, let your assessment of what’s bullshit and what isn’t depend on honest appraisal, which you can’t get without listening and understanding.

Whatever your claim to victimhood past or present, however poorly you were treated as a child or in your past relationships, other people, even the opposite sex, will not accept your shitty and abusive behavior. Not indefinitely at any rate. However much you feel entitled to it. Two wrongs don’t make a right. This is something we feel instinctively if not intellectually. It stops mattering who started it or who inflicted or suffered the greater suffering after a point. Neither women nor men will accept the other’s claim to morally superior status based on previous victimhood and grievance even if real.

It is easy to say that we should set our fragile egos aside and listen seriously to the other side when they lay out their grievances and issues. This is true. But when the other side does not expect this of themselves, even the most legitimate gripe becomes tainted by the ultimately self-serving purpose to which it is put. The kinds of behavior displayed by feminists and MRAs alike in most internet discussions between the two would be emotionally abusive were they done in real life, and increasingly these kinds of relationship dynamics are spilling out of cyberspace and into the real world. It is no wonder that growing numbers of people, especially the young, are eschewing relationships with the opposite sex all together and claiming to be happier doing so.

And that’s fine for some individuals. If you’re happier going it alone, and I think some people are naturally disposed this way, have at it.

But that’ll be a disaster for society as a whole. Fewer lasting successful marriages and long term relationships (LTR’s) are poised to cause all kinds of problems down the road. Demographic and economic dependency ratios are bound to get worse, and socially destabilizing levels of mass immigration will need to be employed to compensate for falling birth rates. Frustrated romantic and sexual drives will find expression in other usually more antisocial ways from mounting political or religious extremism to mental health problems and increased cynicism.

Even many, though not all, of those who claim to be happier being single are not so much once you scratch the surface. A certain regret often though not always presents itself. And why not? Humans were not hardwired to live alone and not pass on their genes to future generations. A society losing its capacity for love and empathy is not one we should aspire to be a part of.

So here’s a proposal. The Alt-Left should be neither feminist nor MRA. Not exclusively. We should be instead for healthy and good relationship dynamics, be they platonic, romantic, or erotic. We should listen to the concerns of both sides and sort the valid and legitimate grievances from the entitled whining and vapid boasting. It should not be a concern of the Alt-Left which of the two has the more legitimate grievances and is therefore more deserving. Ten years and God knows how many flame wars into the social media age later, we should know by now that ideological partisanship and competitive victimhood isn’t actually helping anybody. It’s driving a spiral of mutual frustration that is causing increased polarization and extremism.

Even if one gender really does have it worse than the other by a wide margin, our approach should be one of mutual listening and empathy, not one of grievance and vengeance. This is not to say that we can’t prioritize some issues over others or that wrongdoers can’t be called out and exposed to such sanction and censure as their actions warrant. But it should never be an ego stroking exercise. Even if you’ve had it worse or your sex or gender has been on the receiving end of injustice, the world doesn’t owe you anything, whatever you may think. Success, be it alone or in partnership, derives from responsibility, not entitlement.

So if you’re single or attached, male or female, here are some things you can do vis-a-vis the opposite sex to improve the situation. And in case you are wondering, this is over twenty years of relationship success (I’ve been with my present wife since 1995) and a decade of every mistake imaginable leading up to it, talking. There’s much I learned the hard way:

  • Listen. Nothing is more effective at defusing anger.
  • Do not stereotype the opposite sex unironically or for non-comedic purposes.
  • Stop with the vain, stupid games. Crushing some young man or woman’s confidence in him/herself won’t bring down the patriarchy or gynocentrism, and it doesn’t make you strong or independent. It makes you an asshole, be you male or female.
  • Do not participate in discussions that tend to descend into pissing contests of competitive victimhood, and clearly state this. Ask instead, “What do you want?”  That’s a powerful question that can very effectively shut down entitled whiners with weaponized grievances.
  • You are owed nothing. Approach all relationships with the opposite sex or with anyone with that in mind. This is not to say that you should tolerate shit and abuse. Don’t. But don’t expect to be put on a pedestal either.
  • Do not have as an expectation for an ideal partner a trait you do not have or can not match. Half of our problems stem from 6’s thinking they’re actually good matches for 10’s, so to speak. Do not expect a prince if you’re not a princess or vice versa. And assess yourself honestly to save a lot of trouble.
  • Live a good life outside of a relationship context. This signifies that you will not be dead weight but instead a net asset in other people’s lives. No one wants a needy dependent.
  • Trust must come before any kind of relationship intimacy, be it physical or emotional. Always. Take it upon yourself to earn rather than demand trust. Decide at what point your efforts are in vain and when to move on.
  • Do not expect from a relationship partner anything that you can do for yourself.  Relationship success thrives best when free of contrived obligations and expectations. Otherwise resentments creep in and do damage.
  • Do not be afraid to point out the elements and their underlying axioms (see above for examples) in gendered discussions but do so only if the person you’re discussing things with becomes obstinate, obtuse, or clearly hostile. The underlying pettiness and stupidity become readily apparent when brought to light.
  • Likewise, if need be, remind people that two wrongs don’t make a right. Plus, no man was ever rejected, nagged, scolded or castrated into liking and respecting women. No woman was ever convinced by rational argument or else likewise rejected, scolded or shamed into liking men. People don’t work that way. Don’t hesitate to point this out.
  • Make your disdain for passive-aggressiveness clear, if need be.
  • If people insist on dominating conversations with socially destabilizing displays of rudeness, sarcasm or hostility, do not be afraid to call them out on it and exclude them from further social activities. If you moderate or administer an online or social media space, you have a special responsibility here. Trolls thrive on the emotionally destabilizing effect that their refusal to be decent and reasonable people has. Do not tolerate it, and ban them at once.
  • Admit that the opposite sex doesn’t always have it easy.  Try to replace resentment with walking in the other man or woman’s shoes, as the case may be. This isn’t to say it’s equally bad on both sides, all the time. Occasionally people will need to be told to stop whining.
  • Do not attribute to malice what can be attributed to clumsiness or ignorance without evidence. This is especially true with flirtation, flattery, or the like.

And above all …

  • Get the f**k off the Internet every once and awhile. Yeah, I know. It’s hard. But there are numerous dynamics that contribute to the Internet being a relatively uncivil place where your faith in humanity can easily go to die. Meet people in the real world from time to time. They’re usually (though not always) not what they appear to be when seen as just a social media profile.

So that in mind, get out there and see the world, dear reader!

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Goddamn Feminists Are Changing the Dictionary!

These witches are really starting to get on my nerves. My entire life, I always thought that harass was two words.

In fact, I don’t give a damn how evil it makes me for saying it, but those have always been two of my favorite words in the English language. Harass. The loveliest two words in the English language!

When my mind wandered at work, at home or at play, it often wandered to harass. At night I dreamed of sugar plum fairies and sugar and spice and everything nice and a partridge in a pear tree, but when sweet dreams were not made of this, I dreamed of harass. Harass, harass, and more harass. Whole beaches of harass in tiny bikinis. Fat bottomed girls of harass. A grabass full of harass. On and on harass. Once again harass. Again and again harass. To sleep and wake harass. To live and die harass. To wish upon a star harass.

Now the feminists say this is one word, not two! Bitches! They want to rewrite the damned dictionary! You harridans! Now you’re messing with the OED! You shrikes don’t know you’re messing with, do you? We’ll see you harpies in court! You shrews think you can mess with our damned words now? You ain’t seen nothin, baby! You just wait! We men are coming for our words!

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#metoo

The #metoo campaign is tragic. So many women and even girls have been harassed, assaulted, raped, not-raped, regret-raped, blackout-raped, retard-raped, crazy-raped, semi-raped, partially raped, kinda sorta maybe almost raped, remembered it in a therapist’s office-raped, cat-callled, pinched, touched, hugged, kissed, felt up and down and all around, propositioned with horrific lewdness and audacity, molested, semi-molested, barely molested, sort of molested, leered at, asked out on dates, subjected to horrific sexual jokes, been asked for their numbers, been looked at, stared at, glanced at, winked at, waved at, all in all, simply subjected to the disgusting and vile sex drives of heterosexual men…

So many women-children are damaged, harmed, ruined, in perma-therapy, PTSD’d, anorgasmic, turned lesbian separatist, gone lezbo, enfrigidized, experience flashbacks, had unwanted sex so many times they could not count them, been subjected to innumerable unwanted orgasms, withered under the penetrating malevolence of the male gaze, consented when they could not consent for a zillion unheard of reasons. They are basket cases, drunks, drug addicts, sex addicts, cutters, self-harmers, Borderlines, crybabies, permanent girl-children, women who never put on their big girl pants, crying like little girls all the way to their deathbeds.

It’s all such a tragedy. We men are pigs. How dare we have a sex drive! Disgusting!

So with that I say me too!

Me too – I got females drunk just so I could screw them. Me too –  I lied, charmed, fooled, conned, tricked and played countless females into bed, just to be evil and for no other reason. Me too – I pouted, I argued, I barked out orders to them. Me too – I kissed them aggressively, crudely and wickedly. Me too – I pawed at their tender breasts like a wild animal. Me too – I grabbed them by the pussy so many times it become second nature. Me too – I pestered them when they spent the night in my bed and refused to put out.

Me too – I played grabass with them for hours while they wanted around my place refusing to put out. Me too – I tried to seduce my female maids. Me too –  I cheated on my girlfriends just to be a dick. Me too – I have my girlfriends STD’s and then laughed and said, “Don’t ever say I never gave you anything!” Me too – I was a creepy, predator pedophile with girls aged 14-17 from age 18-20.

Me too – my motto is, “If there’s grass on the field, play ball, boys (as long as it’s legal)! Me too – I continued to date teenage girls (legal ones) all the way to edge of age 60. Me too – I’m a sick fuck and damn proud of it. Me too – I watched porn for years, harming many fake women in the process. Me too – I think I might have bought a whore once or twice. Me too – I used women for sex and vice versa. Me too – If you’re in my apartment, ladies, you’re in enemy territory – there’s the door and you can always leave.

Me too – I never asked  permission to do much of anything sexual to a woman outside of bed in my life. Me too – guys who have to ask permission to kiss a chick or touch her tits are faggots. Me too – I realize teenage girls are all sexless virgins with no sex drives who play with Barbie Dolls. Me too – I realize that no female anywhere can probably truly consent to sex at any time and place. Me too – I realize that all sex is rape and all men are rapists. Me too – I have done more than my part 50 times over – to perpetuate nonexistent rape culture.

Below is my own heartfelt metoo statement, showing my solidarity with all the wymmyn out there who have been so horribly harmed by us evil gross pig straight men.

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A Call to All Liberal and Leftist MRA’s: Please Join Us in Building an Anti-Feminist Left!

I submitted a post something like this to a couple of Reddit boards, including Men’s Rights and Masculinism. Masculinism is probably saner. Men’s Rights are MRA’s and most of them are nuts. Men’s Rights buried my post somehow. Masculinism kept it up there, and we will see what the response is, if any. It’s a low-volume group. There’s no way to post on Redpill, and it’s probably a waste of time anyway. Men’s Liberation are some feminist MRA’s. It’s crap. It’s part of the feminist movement, thought I will grant that it’s a bit more sane than feminism. Men’s Liberation started out great. Warren Farrell was one of the founders, but it went full SJW long ago. There’s probably something worthwhile there, but they would never accept a post like this.

Regarding this post:

I believe that the Alt Left should incorporate anti-feminism as a core value. Nevertheless, that statement is an extreme one. I think there are many good things about feminism, but some things are so horrific that they have poisoned the entire movement. In particular, they seem to have morphed into Puritanical, Victorian, prudish, frigid Comstocks who seem out to shut down all heterosexual sex as illegal or a societal transgression.

I am an MRA. In fact, I am an ultra-MRA. Nevertheless, I do not like many things about the MRA movement. In fact, I hate the MRA movement. The MRA’s are almost as bad as the feminists. Nevertheless, the toxicity of modern feminism must be opposed. Mostly I feel like Ryan Englund that the MRA movement is the other side of the mirror of the feminist movement. They are basically the same thing while being opposites of one another. And I am very concerned that the MRA movement is becoming just another Identity Politics rabbithole.

I also, like Warren Farrell, came out of the feminist movement back when it was sane. I was actually a dues-paying member of NOW for a number of years, much to my mother’s pride. I would not join NOW at the moment if you put a gun to my head. I still support liberal feminism, equity feminism, and sex positive feminism. Nevertheless, it is clear that feminism is a clear and present danger to all real men in the West. And as this feminist cancer spreads beyond the West, all men on the planet will soon be menaced.

Yes, we hate feminism, but we are Leftists! Or at least the movement as it started was a Leftist movement. The real Alt Left worth defending has morphed into a Leftist wing and a liberal wing. The rest are just rightwingers, and most are supporting Trump. I have renounced all of them.

https://robertlindsay.wordpress.com/2015/08/18/proposal-for-an-alternative-left/

https://robertlindsay.wordpress.com/2016/02/19/dealbreakers-what-the-alternative-left-is-not/

Those are two early foundational documents.

We are a big tent movement with a philosophy of “everyone form your own wing.” That’s not completely true, but what I mean is that except for a small set of non-negotiables, everyone construct your own ideology via picking and choosing the beliefs that suit you best. We are not party line, and we don’t have a lot of litmus tests.

The early founders were straight, masculine men who love sex. Such men either do not exist on the Left anymore or they are being burned at the stake as witches. However, one of our top thinkers is also a gay man. Nevertheless, we do not spend a lot of time on Gay Rights. The Cultural Left has that area pretty much covered. I myself support gay political causes and I even work on them. I am on a number of gay political mailing lists and I work for their causes. A lot of them hate my guts and call me homophobe, but I will continue to work for them no matter how many names they call me. For the most part, gay rights is a matter of doing the right thing. People deserve basic rights whether they like me or not.

We started out as race realists, but most of the movement has rejected that.

Mostly we just think the Cultural Left is out of its head. A lot of us are social conservatives to some extent, but we are not femiservatives and we despise the social conservatism is the US Republican Party. The principal nonnegotiable is on economics. You must be Left on economics! No exceptions! Other than that social conservatism is ok. Some have called us conservative Leftists or socially conservative Leftists. But at least my wing are radical social libertarians.

I came out of the Left. I was a member of the Communist Party USA. I even got a membership card! I used to be on the mailing list for the Weathermen. I bought guns for the Marxist rebels in El Salvador. You get the picture. But a man-hating psychotic feminist Left is something I want no part of.

As a Leftist, I am utterly sickened and disgusted at the reactionary nature of nearly the entire MRA movement. It’s vile and disgusting. We are MRA’s, but we want no part of these ruling class suck-ups. We are for the workers, the working MEN in particular!

Peace out, from a brother to the brotherhood.

I make this post as a call to all lonely MRA liberals and liberals and Leftists wandering in the political wilderness. I call on all of you to come join us to help us build a real anti-feminist, pro-men Left!

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Alt Left: “Why I am Not an MRA”

I continue to say that Ryan England is one of our finest Alt Left thinkers. I say that in part because I agree with him so much. I would put him up there with Brandon Adamson, who I also agree with a lot. And both Brandon and Ryan are two of the finest writers, as in prose stylists, in our movement.

I have reputation for being so radical and nuts that I am almost persona non grata in this movement. I know that posts linking to me have been removed from the Alternative Left that Ryan started. Apparently I am “raciss” or something. It takes almost nothing to get called that anymore. Just be a bit honest, and you’re done. I also have a reputation, via Lord Keynes, for being an extremist on the Cultural Left.

It is said that I have some extreme positions on the SJW Left. He is also rather astonished at how socially conservative I am. But I am not a social conservative at all. My views are Democratic Party’s Official Platform 1995. That these views are now seen as just as socially conservative as Roy Moore is quite astonishing, but it shows just how fast the runaway clown car train called the Cultural Left Freakshow has gone in just ~20 years. And indeed I am not just a conservative. I am also a reactionary. I want to roll back the clock – to Democratic Party 1995. That this is considered Troglodytism is one again a symptom of the disease.

Part of the controversy was that I supported Antifa. That makes you almost persona non grata on the Alt Left. It was said that I had moved to the extreme Left. That’s hardly possible as I have always been there. I was on the mailing list for the Weathermen for Chrissakes. After that, I was buying guns for the Marxist rebels in El Salvador. And I haven’t budged since.

The funny thing is that despite my supposed extremism, I find myself agreeing with Ryan England (who is actually himself quite a radical Left type on the Alt Left) a very good part of the time. This post could have been written by me, but I am not eloquent or disciplined enough to have done so, so Ryan had to do it. If you want to know where I stand on the issue of feminism, etc. (I am supposedly an MRA radical) just read this post. I am as MRA as Ryan is. That our mild views are now MRA shows just again just how insane the “normal” has gotten now. Yep, you read that right. Crazy is the new normal. Sane is new bigotry and reaction.

Not going to say much more about this except that I hope it spurs some comments. Like Ryan, I am also a feminist. I came out of the feminist movement back when it meant something. Once again the crazy train left me stranded at the station holding flowers and jilted once again. I still support liberal feminism, sex positive feminism (though if Jezebel is the definition, I have my worries) and equity feminism. I think Ryan might want to identify as a masculinist or Men’s Liberationist. These are the left wings of the MRA movement to the extent that they exist at all. One can be both a masculinist and a feminist and the demands of basic equality nearly mandate it.

I have scarcely seen an article that lays out the poison of modern feminism so eloquently and accurately. Once again, his words are mine. My principal beef with feminism is outlined here by my alter ego, Ryan.

Read and enjoy.

Why I am not an MRA

By Ryan England

Feminism 101

Doesn’t it want to make you swoon?

 

I know I’m going to catch flak for this, but I don’t care much for the men’s rights movement. I do think they make good points – I’ve read Warren Farrell for example and found his work quite profound. In fact, it really takes a wrecking ball to this idea that men have conspired to make the world a wonderful place at the expense of women. You can’t reasonably believe that after reading Farrell’s works.

Why I don’t really relate to the MRM is rooted in my overarching distrust of identity politics. I do think that there’s all kinds of room to criticize the excesses of feminism, and some points made by the MRM are valuable in that regard.  Decades of ideological protectionism has produced a very real feminist echo chamber with next to no external checks on its claims.  The MRM can by helpful in remedying that.  The MRM also brings our attention to real issues that men are confronted with.  Glaring disadvantage (to varying degrees depending on jurisdiction) in divorce settlements and child custody arrangements being the most obvious example.

The feminist demonization of male heterosexuality; this presumption underlying much of feminist theory that male sexual attraction towards women is somehow demeaning and objectifying of women is something else that needs to be challenged and the present taboo against disagreeing with feminism desperately needs to be broken here.  The MRM can help in that regard.  The equation of compliments and polite civil greetings on part of men towards women with harassment, objectification or even oppression, commonly seen on social media, is a manifestation of this.  If taken at all seriously, especially in any kind of public policy context, this kind of thinking could effectively close the door on prospects for male-female encounters of all but the most institutional kind.

The ever expanding definition of rape, and the ever narrowing definitions of consent, and the increasingly onerous requirements for obtaining legal consent – an express verbal “yes” given for every touch, kiss or caress, and even that be nullified if there’s any alcohol or mental illness or any factor that could in the slightest call into question the strict legal capacity to give consent, constitute another manifestation of this.  The end game here, I suspect, is to make legal intercourse, for all intents and purposes, impossible for men.

Although most feminists profess to disagree in principle with the notion that all things “boy meets girl” are inherently sexist or oppressive – and may even trot out their own relationship as proof of this, the restrictions imposed on gender dynamics by these kinds of very popular demands made by very widely circulated and credible media outlets that represent the mainstream of liberal opinion on gender issues, would make establishing even platonic, let along erotic relationships extremely difficult.

That many feminists choose to make exceptions to their own rules for themselves and the men they get the D from should not be taken as proof of feminism’s flexibility and open mindedness.  It should be taken as proof of moral hypocrisy on part of the feminists so doing, and a tacit admission on their part that their system of sexual morality and conduct is no more reasonable and in alignment with human nature than that of the religious conservatives they so smugly see themselves as superior to.

Compound that with inundation of  feminist perspectives casting heterosexual relationships in so consistently negative a light; as being about nothing other than unequal distribution of domestic labor, unequal pay, riven with male insecurity and unreasonable male behaviors contrasted to the relief women are expected to seek and experience in all-female spaces, as characterized by universally poor male sexual performance and an expectation of female preference for marital celibacy, dildos, lesbianism, asexuality, promiscuity, anything other than relational intimacy – all hermetically sealed by a propensity to yell “fragile male ego” at any dissention from any of the above on part of men – as if this kind of petty weaponized rejection is something we should just sit back and relish, and feminist gender dynamics become a mortal threat to healthy heterosexual relationships, even if it turns out to be death by a thousand cuts rather than a swift beheading.

A strong MRM could be a countervailing force for reason and love in gender relations.  On the other hand, groups like MGTOW could just up the ante and make things worse rather than better.  Don’t get me wrong: you, dear reader, be you male or female, have every right as far as I’m concerned to live your life as you see fit, and if that involves not having a significant other of the opposite sex, good luck to you.  I once wanted an unattached life myself.  May you succeed where I failed.

But to advocate widespread rejection of the opposite sex, as feminism often implicitly and, in the case of separatist feminism, explicitly does, and MGTOW likewise does, is to advocate for the infliction of protracted neurosis and frustration culminating in a demographic holocaust upon whichever population is to embrace this as a form of gender based political activism.  It would inflict incalculable and irreparable damage on the psychological fabric of such a society.

But even a less strident form of male activism than MGTOW could end up becoming a gender flipped version of the worst aspects of feminism.  I’ve noticed that in every debate I’ve ever read between feminists and MRAs – though flame war is a better description in just about ever case, since debate implies a reasoned exchange of views and that’s most definitely not what happens – the exchange always boils down to each side saying to the other, “you’re just ugly and can’t get laid” – with cats and mother’s basements figuring in there somehow. Inevitably, one side resigns in frustration over the strident unreasonableness of the other, and both remain more convinced than ever that the opposite sex is hopelessly screwed up.  There’s not much of a future in this.

Taken to their logical conclusions, demands upon heterosexual relationships would end up more closely resembling shari’a law than they would anything previous generations of liberal feminists struggled and fought for.

Wait a minute …

Of course,  feminism – in its more reasonable forms, is still needed to protect and safeguard the rights of women. Life is certainly not all wine and roses for all women at all times, and men are not blameless. This is especially true in communities where, for religious reasons, women still very much are second class citizens.

This is what I find both astounding and disturbing about What looks like an alliance of feminists and Islamists, particularly in opposition to the Trump presidency.  While I don’t condone the more boorish things Trump has said about women, you can’t compare the danger posed to women by macho locker room bluster with the danger posed to women by shari’a law.  Given the dour attitudes that both feminists and Islamists appear to have towards free and fun expression of happiness and attraction between the sexes, however, I can see the kinship the two might have with one another, though from where I sit, it promises to be a stormy relationship.

What I worry about regarding the MRM, though, is its own potential to become a kind of rank gender partisanship. That “Male good female bad” thinking could, and does, easily arise from it.

Because that, in its own way, is exactly what happened to feminism. What began as being “just about equality” or just about “the same treatment of women as for men” has become a blinding and fanatical form of gender partisanship. Motivated by dogmatic adherence to feminism, whole cohorts of young women (and their male sympathizers) have circled the wagons and harnessed collective groupthink to hermetically seal themselves away from any kind of criticism or dissent.

Driven by a sense of universal and historical mission, these women regard themselves as quite entitled to ceaselessly make unilateral demands of men with no countervailing concessions, tar all men with collective responsibility and guilt by association for the very real crimes and misdeeds of some men, and to effectively kill any prospect for intimacy and trust between the sexes by making militant confrontation the permanent and universal norm for gender relations. Backed by unilateral academic and media support and an arsenal of canned responses and copy pasta with which to respond to naysayers, the impact that this has had on gender dynamics is nothing short of devastating.

As an antidote to this, we need to step back from identity politics. We don’t need a male version of the same thing. Given what we should now know about ideological and identitarian polarization, feminism and the MRM will most likely feed off one another and each further radicalize in response to the other. This is certainly what I’ve seen in every single exchange between MRMs and feminists that I’ve ever seen. If that process becomes normalized, it could well mean the death of heterosexual love in its entirety. The prospect of this worries me greatly. I really hope people of both (yes, both) genders can learn to take a step back from their attachments to gender ideology and start reasoning honestly about these kinds of issues.

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Female – Male Heterosexual HIV Transmission: Some Myths about Men Who Supposedly Got HIV from Heterosexual Sex

Hood: Anal sex with an infected woman will result in AIDS even quicker because an infected woman’s anus is smaller than a man’s and tears easier. Male porn stars-Holmes, Darren James, Marc Wallace – all got AIDS this way.

What you mean to say is that it is difficult to get AIDS from a woman’s vagina and this may be true unless she has menstrual blood and then no it is not.

Holmes did not get HIV from anal sex with a woman. He either got it from getting fucked by guys or even better yet sharing needles, as he was a big dope shooter.

Marc Wallace was a dope shooter, and that’s how he got HIV.

Darren James case is controversial, but at any rate, he fucked a guy. The human he fucked was a pre-op tranny. By definition that is a man who thinks he is a woman and is taking some hormones to that effect.

Holmes – fucking men or needles.
Wallace – needles.
Darren James – fucking men.

The only well-documented case I know of of a man getting HIV from a woman in the US is a man who got it from his wife. But he had sex with many times over 10 years, and there were over 100 instances of penile and vaginal bleeding.

There are some cases of men getting HIV in Thailand from prostitutes. It is associated with lack of lubrication on the women’s part, significant bleeding, and an HIV subtype that appears to transmit easier female -> male. The vaginal titers are quite a bit higher with that HIV subtype, which is very rare in the US. With the HIV subtype in the US, I have looked at the vaginal titers, and personally I have a hard time seeing how they are high enough to transmit the disease. Women with HIV in the US have very low HIV levels in their vaginal titers.

It’s not a matter or merely getting exposed to HIV. You can get exposed to HIV lots of times and nothing happens as long you are exposed to saliva, vaginal fluid or something with very low titers.

It’s possibly that repeated vaginal sex with a woman might give you HIV. This is one theory – that the titers are too low to transmit, but if you get dosed over and over, you eventually get enough of a dose to transmit. The virus needs a fairly high viral load to transmit. Blood has a very high viral load, but it has to right into the bloodstream.  Semen has a high viral load too because it is full of blood. But even then, it often has to go right into the bloodstream.

Hell, you can eat or drink HIV. I know that sounds insane, but gay men do it all the time. Gay men perform oral sex on HIV-positive gay men all the time. They swallow the semen (by definition they are eating or drinking HIV right there). There have been a few transmissions this way, but in general,  it is quite safe.

First of all, if you consume HIV, your saliva will kill it. And if your saliva doesn’t kill it, then your stomach acid will. That stuff kills everything. People don’t understand the meaning of blood-borne illness. The damn stuff has to get right into your bloodstream.

I did read a report on three cases of gay men who had serious allergies to where they had abrasions and minor bleeding in their throats from all the irritation. They swallowed semen, and they did indeed get HIV. It went in through the abrasions in their throats.

HIV is a difficult disease to catch!

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Corey Haim: Poor, Abused Straight Boy or Debauched, Gay “Hungry Bottom” from the Day One?

 

Hood: ROBERT

Sir

Was Haim an innocent victim or a debauched “bottom” by the time he was in his teens?

“Haim wanted to fool around again and Sheen acted cold and disinterested” I quote the cast member.

“Years later in his twenties Haim slept with Sheen again and then decided he was a loser” same actor.

Additionally, some deny this allegation. Haim’s mother and so on.

That is the downside of being Sheen. If somebody accuses you of sodomizing their toy poodle, people assume that you are guilty.

Most allegations concerning Sheen seem to be factual. For what it’s worth, there have long been reports that a lot of men in Hollywood play for both teams.

 

Geez. At age 13, Haim was already seeking out grown men for gay sex.

Pardon me, but that is not normal behavior. Normal, healthy straight boys do not seek out and try to seduce grown men for sex. Generally speaking, most boys doing that are already gay as the Ace of Spades. Now, it doesn’t necessarily make him gay either. But…years later, in his 20’s, Haim fucks Sheen again?! Huh? Ok, look, there is more going on here than some teenage sexual confusion, which as a counselor I have seen some evidence for.

Corey Haim appears to be gay. This is not some straight boy who got raped by evil, depraved homosexual men. This kid was gay from the get go.

And he was a bottom? Well, straight men and straight-leaning bisexual men do have anal sex, and some do like to be on the receiving end, but generally speaking, most straight men and even straight-leaning bi men do not engage in anal sex, as anal sex is seen as extremely faggot-type sex ,and those men do not like being seen in that light. As a matter of fact, many such men will only play the male role in gay sex as that is not seen as “not gay.” Straight men regardless of their sexual behavior have a reputation to uphold.

The more a man is into being a bottom in gay sex, the “gayer” is he is. It’s a marker for the degree and intensity of homosexuality going on in that individual. Your typical “hungry bottom” type is also a full-fledged queen, as this behavior is also associated with effeminacy. The more one engages in this behavior, in general the more effeminate they are. In fact, there are gay men who argue that the very act of engaging in receptive gay sex is feminizing in and of itself, and presumably the more you do it, the more queeny you get. It is also said to make one very submissive, as it is one of the most submissive sex acts out there. So the more you do this, the gayer, more effeminate, and more submissive a man tends to be. It’s a marker for all of those behaviors.

The gayer, more effeminate and more submissive a man is, the more he is going to do this behavior in the first place, and perhaps gay critics of this kind of sex are correct that the behavior is feminizing and submissivizing in and of itself. It is also thought to make you more perverted, as gay critics of anal sex say the more a man bottoms, the more perverted and slutty he becomes. So the behavior is debasing and sluttifizing also.

The fact that this boy is seducing grown men at age 13 and later turns into what is apparently a “hungry bottom” shows me that he was not some messed-up straight boy abused by some evil Hollywood gay mafia. Now the Hollywood gay mafia is pretty damn nasty (and more and more is coming out about this extremely closely-guarded secret Hollywood secret society), but this boy was simply gay from the get go.

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Charlie Sheen, Gay or Straight?

Hood: SHEEN

Was Charlie Sheen’s most vile and debased activities centered around female prostitutes and porn starts?

Is this really how he caught HIV?

Or was there gay sex as well?

Long before reports that he sodomized born-to-be-a-bottom Haim and shared a joint with him when he was 19 or 20 and Haim was barely a teenager, his bisexuality was publicly acknowledged.

Had Sheen been secretly gay and, like many gays, fond of anal sex with children?

Charlie Sheen probably did not get HIV from the countless women that he had sex with. Charlie Sheen is what we call a sex addict. We have a Canadian woman commenter on here who is an excellent judge of male and female sexuality. She has remarked that many male sex addicts are bisexual. This is not because they are gay but it is instead because the more of a sex maniac/sex addict you are, the more you “fuck anything that moves.” Also being a sex addict lines up with being a pervert. Sex perverts try anything sexual. If it’s sexual, they try it. 2/3 of male straight porn stars have had gay sex. This is not because they are gay – crossover stars from gay porn are almost nonexistent in the straight porn industry whereas the other way around is more common. This is simply because they are perverts! Perverts will try anything sexual and I do mean anything!

It seems that Charlie Sheen, while being overwhelmingly heterosexual, also has some dramatically lesser gay interests. But he is such a sex addict that even a minor gay interest adds up to quite a bit of sex. So while he had sex with 5,000 women, he may have had sex with ~50 men. This means that 1% of his sex partners were via gay sex. So 1% of his sex being gay sex means he is gay? Please!

I do believe that Sheen caught HIV from some of the gay sex he engaged in. In particular, he is said to have enjoyed sex with shemales and quite a few of them have HIV as most are just gay men halfway transitioned to a transwoman.

 

This shit is so easy to figure out, man.

Charlie Sheen has FUCKED OVER 5,000 WOMEN. Ok, now I happen to think he deserves an Academy Award for that alone, or maybe even a Nobel Prize. Surely that gets him a star on the Boulevard. Sheen is one of the biggest studs that ever lived! I want your autograph, Charlie!

Ok, so he is apparently bi. Now I never knew this about him because I was being tossed about the 5,000 Women Hurricane.

Now, look, this is how you figure out sexual orientation. It’s really quite simple. You just do the math. Also you use your intuition. Shut off your logic. Logic causes nothing but trouble. Nothing has sunken more arguments than logic. I call it “the logic trap” because I have found that the “pure logic” types are some of the worst thinkers of all and they consistently come up with the wrongest answers the most frequently.

Now look. Most bisexual men are what we call leaners. And almost all men who are attracted to both genders (36% of all men – over 1/3!) lean straight. Fully 31 of that 36% of bisexual men lean straight. That means 80% of men who are attracted to both genders lean straight. So 80% of “bi” men are mostly straight. Only a small minority – 4 out of the 36 or 11% – of “bisexual” men lean gay.

Looking at Charlie Sheen’s life history, he may well be bisexual, but it looks like he leans very heavily straight. First of all, I can tell you flat out that no gay men in the history of the universe would ever fuck 5,000 women. It just would never happen. Most of them could barely fuck five women without vomiting in sheer disgust.

When looking at sexual orientation, you look at the general thrust of the man’s life. In this case, the overwhelming thrust of his sex life has been heterosexual. Yes, he does seem to have some homosexual interest, but that seems to be quite minor in relation to the way he has lived is life, which is as one of the most notorious pussyhounds that ever lived.

What is interesting is that what gay interest he has seems to be centered on underage men. Now the least masculine males – the males who look most like females – are boys. No male is more like a woman than boy and the younger the boy, the more womanly he is. So the fact that the only males he seems to be interested in are the very young ones (who resemble women the most) once again points to a mostly heterosexual orientation.

N. B. I have heard that some straight male child molesters will go after a boy but they would never touch a man. This was said to be because young boys are almost girlish.

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Gay Men, Fisting and Sick, Perverted Sex in General

NSFW! The following contains some graphic descriptions of some seriously messed up sex acts, so if that bothers you, then just don’t read.

Hood: I am not sure that even many gay men are into fisting. But I wouldn’t know. Perhaps they all do.

Ok, one thing you guys need to know. Gay men are really into fisting. Fisting is apparently a big part of gay porn, and there are many gay porn stars who are known as “fisting stars.” I have seen a few gay porn pages on the Net. I have seen a few that advertised for gay movies. One page had a list of ads for various gay fisting movies with some pretty graphic photos. I am not into gay sex or gay porn at all, as I have zero interest in that sort of thing. I never think about men in a sexual way, I never look at men that way, I never fantasize about men, and I never jerk off thinking about men.

Nevertheless, I have drifted across a few gay porn pages here and there. I don’t really like that stuff (actually it physically revolts me), but I lingered on a few pages, as some of it had a morbid curiosity to it. Like the fisting movies page.

A good survey done some time ago found that 37% of all gay men reported being fisted in the past year. So yes, it looks like fisting is very popular with gay men.

N. B. In case you are wondering how gay men are getting Hepatitis C, well, it’s not through anal sex and anal intercourse does not transmit this disease. Nevertheless, a lot of gay men are getting this disease and know you have learned that gay men are significantly getting Hepatitis C via this fisting, in particular from fisting orgies (yes, actual fisting orgies are fairly common with gay men, believe it or not) where groups of men are fisting one another, as fisting between only two partners is not going to give it to you. It is also being transmitted with the use of large dildos at these fisting and huge dildo ass orgies. As far as how the disease is being transmitted this way, I will leave it to you budding medical epidemiologists to sort it all out. I know how it works, but it’s gross, and I will get into trouble enough with this fucked up disgusting post as it is.

But gay men are definitely into very fucked up sex in a huge way.

37% of gay men also reported being involved in SM/BD sex in the past year, and gay SM/BD sex tends to be very nasty and hardcore stuff, not some vanilla fakery. They really go for it, beat each other to where they have raised welts, have master-slave relationships, piss and shit on each other, eat and drink shit and piss, burn each other with cigarettes, on and on. Gay men are extremely overrepresented in serial killers, and one hypothesis is that this is due to the extremely high rates of sexual sadism among gay men.

16% of gay men got pissed on or drank piss in the past year. They are into piss sex bigtime. A few straight people are into that kind of sex, but most are not. Gay men are into it on a vastly greater basis. Gay men have things called piss parties, where men called piss pigs (one pissdrinking guy) drink the piss of all the other guys there. Most of the data on whether or not this is ok on a health basis comes from anecdotal reports from gay men who have attended these parties.

N.B. Not that I am into this sort of sex, but believe it or not, it is generally not bad for you. I suppose it might be a good idea to drink a lot of water to dilute the piss you drank. You generally won’t get a disease, as urine is pretty sterile when it leaves the body. The one harm interestingly is that some of these piss pigs report that they got heavily dosed with medications from drinking the urine of all these other humans. Whatever medications you are taking are going to go out via your urine, so piss drinkers are getting a dose of whatever drugs the pisser(s) is taking. There don’t seem to have been any serious reactions yet, but a few of these piss pigs reported that they passed out for hours after these parties due to the medications that they consumed.

There are indeed a few diseases that can be transmitted this way (Valley Fever and cholera are two that come to mind) but how often or even whether this happens at all is pretty up for grabs. Mostly this sort of sex strikes me as gross. I don’t even like the way urine smells. How could anyone want to drink that stuff? Humans are so perverse!

8% of gay men engaged in shit play or shiteating in the past year. Gay men are 1.5% of the population, but 50% of scat porn is gay, so they are vastly more into scat than straight men (much less straight women) are. Straight scat porn mostly involves a dominant slavemaster woman and an extremely weak, ultra-sissy, male slave and you can work out in your own mind how the scat sex works based on those dynamics. You can absolutely get diseases from eating shit, but only if the shitter has the disease in the first place.

Probably one of the worst risks for this type of sex is that shiteaters often vomit while they are trying to munch down their unorthodox meal, apparently because it is so disgusting that it triggers an automatic vomit reflex. This is not surprising.

Eating regular shit, believe it or not, won’t give you a disease, but it’s gross as all Hell. You wouldn’t catch me doing that no matter how many lifetimes I lived. One risk from undiseased shit is that eating shit is hard on your liver, as digesting that stuff is going to put a heavy stress on the liver (you will have to use your medical knowledge to figure out how that works). I am aware of a case of one man getting Hepatitis A from eating his wife’s shit. And it was the first time he tried it. Mostly you are risking Hepatitis A and various parasitic diseases. There is much hysteria about “E. Coli” but the kind that is in human shit won’t hurt you. The E. Coli that is sickening and even killing human beings is a variety that comes from cow shit, not human shit.

A lot of animals, especially rabbits, actually eat their own shit. If you have ever owned a rabbit, you will know what I am talking about. Somehow this does not bother them. I had a dog for a while that was always hanging around the sandy area outside where my cats always took their cat shits. I am absolutely disgusted to discover that this idiot dog was digging up the cat shits and eating them, apparently to no harm. Dog shit did not whet his palate at all, but boy that cat shit must have been some gourmet stuff! Why on Earth that dumbass animal thought eating cat shit was a good idea is beyond me, as he was incapable of speech, so I was unable to discern his reasoning.

The fact that there are humans that actually get off sexually on eating shit just shows you how insane and perverted the human sexual impulse can be. There seem to be almost no limits to how twisted sex can get in the human being.

When it comes to sick perverted sex, gay men take the cake all the way, trust me.

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The Seven Year Bitch

Nina and Daryl: I agree with you… Once my cunt became my wife, I was doomed. Now, we only fuck a few times a month (it used to be a few times a week). Now I jack off. It would be better if she was fucking someone else; at least then I would get the satisfaction of knowing that she was a hotwife, and I could get off on knowing that someone else was cumming in her. I could at least jack off to that.

I am assuming that this is Daryl writing this and not poor Nina.

I hear so many stories like this. The commenter is lucky he is getting it three times a month. Sexless marriages are everywhere, especially aged 35-50 and after the woman has a couple of kids. She gets to be 35+, has a couple of kids, and the sex goes down to zero. I had a girlfriend once, age 51, who told me that all of her female friends aged 35-50 were married, and none of them were having sex anymore. They had all had two or three kids, and then the sex went down to zero. The women were holding out, and they acted like they didn’t want to do it anymore. The men generally retreated to their mancaves where they drank beer, smoked weed, watched porn, and jerked off. The wives left them alone to have their fun in their mancaves. One wife said she gave her husband a blowjob every year on his birthday for a birthday present. Consolation prize!

I have heard of other sexless marriages too. In some cases, it is the wife who wants it and it’s the husband who holds out. These women often resort to masturbation and I have known women in their 40’s who became out and out masturbation addicts in the process.

 

 

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