Category Archives: Romantic Relationships

Why is Domestic Violence Almost Twice as Common among Lesbian Couples and Male Gay Couples?

Link to the study.

Answered on Queera. I am really starting to hate homosexuals, especially gay men, and I have been an ally for decades. They keep reporting me to Queera Staff for homophobic hate speech. I have been trying very hard from the start to leave anything like that out of my answers, but they keep reporting me anyway. Every time I try to write my answers to make them more acceptable, but the fags just report me again.

And yeah, they are fags because they declared war on me. Gay men who I hate are fags. The rest are just gay men. They are trying to their damndest to get me banned from there. Queera is one of the most wildly pro-gay sites on the whole Internet. If you didn’t know any better, you would think gays are the greatest thing since radial tires. Gays swarm every question about homosexuality and flood it with answers that are mostly just a wild pack of crazy lies. The problem with gays nowadays is that almost 100% of gay people are gay activists all wrapped up in Gay Politics, and as such they are mostly some of the most obnoxious and crazy SJW’s of them all. And I hate SJW’s. So I’m starting to hate gays just for being SJW scum. I don’t really care about the fact that they are gay – if they got wired up that way, I will support them 100%. But SJW’s need to be shot.

This post, incredibly enough, got reported and consequently buried as homophobic hate speech. Or maybe feminists complained. It got tagged for violating some rule called Be Nice, Be Respectful. If you so much look at the gays wrong, they bomb your post with hate speech reports.

Apparently the hate speech is when I said that gay men are vastly more likely to be effeminate than straight men and that many lesbians are quite masculine. I guess it’s evil homophobic hate speech to imply that gay men are effeminate and lesbians are masculine! What the Hell? It’s not hate speech. It’s true!

I guess that’s the problem though. I was on a Marxist forum the other day and a wildly SJW Marxist stated openly that the truth could indeed be hate speech. So here we are in SJW 1984, where telling the truth is evil bigotry, a sanctionable offense, and probably likely to be soon against the law.

The commenter the other day was right. Gay men are no fun anymore. There used to be a lot of pretty cool and fun gay guys. A lot of them were very funny, and they were known to be irreverent to say the least. Their typically degenerate lifestyles precluded any sanctimoniousness on their part, as they were an outrageous version of the glass houses maxim.

Now fags are a drag. They’re all a bunch of sanctimonious, priggish, censorious, church lady thugs. And like the feminists, they are getting dangerous. The gays are trying to get all of us straight men thrown out of our jobs and to ruin our careers, just like the feminists are trying to make all of us straight men lose their jobs, have their careers destroyed or even nowadays, thrown in jail. Both of them have basically declared war on straight men. The Feminine Principle has declared war on the Masculine Principle.

These SJW thugs, feminist or gay, are a downright menace. I don’t see any possibilities  for peace with these crazies. This is going to be a war to the end.

There will be no peace with the SJW’s.

Yes, lesbian couples and gay male couples beat each other up at twice the rates of straight couples. No one seems to know why this is, but it is common knowledge among clinicians and accepted as basic fact.

Perhaps there is a lack of proper balance or Yin Yang in these relationships.

With lesbians, you have two women who often act like men. Lesbians are more likely to be masculine than straight women.

Transmen experience an increase in crime rate after they transition from female to male. It’s as if becoming a man makes it more likely that one acts violent or criminal, which as a man I would agree with.

With gay men, well, first off, gay men are not women. People, including transsexual fetishists, think that gay men are just women in men’s bodies. Yes, gay men are wildly disproportionately effeminate and feminine, but on the other hand, they are as full of testosterone as straight men. Gay men have a significantly increased crime rate opposed to straight men, mostly for property crime.

Obviously when a man is gay, he is not a typical feminine human. He is a man, 100% man, a testosterone fueled man, who has a feminized brain in some respects, but in other ways, he is just as man of a real man as any man out there. Gay men have the same testosterone levels as straight men, and this is what drives violence and aggression in men.

With gay men, you are pairing two testosterone fueled humans together without any Yin-Yang balance to even things out. The result is likely to be explosive.

The frightening figure is that women are actually safer in relationships with men than they are with women, which gives the lie to radical feminism.

Also straight men are much less likely to beat up their partners than gay men are, which once again gives the lie to feminist theory that states that male violence against women is some special thing related to males’ inherent hatred for women or the feminine.

The truth is that this is a complex area, and psychology has no explanations for these empirical facts. We only know that the facts are real. Why the facts are the facts is another matter altogether, and no one seems to know why.


Filed under Biology, Crime, Cultural Marxists, Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, Man World, Psychology, Radical Feminists, Romantic Relationships, Science, Scum, Sex

Does a Body Count Matter with Sexual Partners?

Answered on Quora.

I think it matters for straight women.

For straight men, I am not so sure. Quite a few will refuse to date a woman who has a high lay count. But not me. I have had gf’s who had experienced 50 sex partners, 3ways, lesbian affairs, you name it. This did not bother me at all, and I had long-term love affairs with them.

Men don’t care about inexperienced women. My last gf was an 18 year old girl who not only was a virgin, but she had never been kissed! It was fine with me.

Women are different. If a man is too sexually inexperienced by too late an age, females may find him to be a disgusting nerd, loser, Beta, Omega, etc. I don’t know what to say about that, but if you are still a kiss-less virgin at age 25–30, I would not go around shouting it to the skies.

If a man has a high lay count, in straight society he is simply a stud. If word gets around about his lay count, he may well get dates based on that alone, as a certain type of female is attracted to guys with high lay counts. He’s a stud, and she wants a stud. A lot of females think this way, but it is more common when they are younger.

I knew a guy in college who were the wildest womanizers you ever met. He would literally date and have sex with 3–4 females every single day. Supposedly he was an evil predator or something in the new feminist way of thinking, but back then, everyone loved these guys. Females would hear about him, and their first reaction would be, “How do I get in on this?” They would almost literally line up outside his house and even take a number to get a shot at him.

This question is difficult because I sort of have to divulge my numbers. All I will say is I have dated over 200 females in my life. Of course I didn’t have sex with all of them. You can extrapolate a lay count from that. At my age (60), women actually ask how many sex partners you have had. It’s part of the “job interview” before they date you or early in the relationship.

Although of course there are women who get excited when they hear my numbers, there are others who have flat out rejected me. I am actually losing dates from having been too much of a player! A couple of women have recently told me that I am too much of a slut and consequently they won’t date me. One said she had a rule that the men she dated could have a maximum of 20 sex partners, no more.

So you can get to a point in life where you have had sex with so many women that other women won’t even go out with you! Who would have thought?


Filed under Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Psychology, Romantic Relationships, Sex, Women

PUA/Game: The Fake Sexual Assault and Fake Rape Sex Panic

JackiLB: And on the subject of women reporting real sexual assault and the abuse of power – good for them! The ones who are milking or lying are just creating a ‘one up mans ship’ to some of the shit men amongst you who throw shit at us. Iam not saying that is good for anyone to lie and condemn the opposite sex, but those feminists are just using the opportunity to score a ‘home goal’. Get over it and watch some male shit heads treating women like dogs!

Sexual assault is mostly bullshit too. Guys are always grabbing women’s asses, tits, bodies and whatnot. I don’t generally do that, but I have grabbed women before, and I was not in a dating relationship with them. But they asked for it because they were always touching me! I would only do it if I got a very serious green light or if she started touching me.

Also I do not grab. I often touch very softly instead. Do you realize that every time you touch a woman without her consent, it’s a sexual assault!? I touch women in public fairly regularly, generally women I know. But even then, I touch them very softly on the back or shoulder with my index finger. I touch them so softly that I am amazed that they can even feel it. And then I act deferential and almost apologetic when she turns around.

If you touch them very softly like that and don’t act sexual when she turns around, it’s pretty hard for them to get upset. I don’t think grabass is a normal part of sane and healthy flirting unless she is really ramping it up. To tell you the truth, women and girls have grabbed and touched me in the back, ass, side, and cock. They’ve done it many times. Or they rubbed their bodies up against yours. They’ve done that to me countless times. When I used to wear my leather jacket to punk rock concerts, the punker girls were always coming up and running their hands all over it and saying how much they loved my jacket. A lot of times they do it subtly. Like they start scratching the back of your hand very softly when they are standing next to while turned away from you.

I have never complained because I am a man, and I don’t particularly care if women touch me. In fact, I usually like it. It’s a compliment at the very least.

These women are babies. They act like we men have cooties or something. Now grabbing tits and asses is not cool if you do not know her quite well already or if she did not greenlight you, but it’s not raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaape!

But if you go around grabbing female strangers tits, asses and other body parts out in public, you might just get arrested. And you know what? You will deserve it. Don’t do it!

Feminists have endlessly extended the definition of rape way beyond what it used to be. My Mom always told me force or the threat of force, that’s the definition of rape. Basically you can do just about anything you want short of that. That’s the only sane definition of rape that makes sense.

Now feminists say you need affirmative consent before you do anything. If I am on a date, I have to ask her every time I touch her. Well, the Hell with that. I ain’t doing it. If we want to kiss women, we have to ask their Goddamned permission. Well, you know what? If this goes through, then all men will be lifetime virgins. You don’t ask for permission to do anything with a woman unless you both have your clothes off and are having some sort of sex. Even then you don’t ask permission. You ask, “Do you want to bla bla bla?” Sometimes you ask permission, like if she wants you to spank her.

One thing I learned very early on in dating, all the way back in highschool when I first started dating at age 16, is you never ask permission to do anything sexual with a girl or woman. And especially, you never ask her if she wants to have sex. She’s just going to say no.

Seduction is the art of trickery because often females don’t want to do it. So we men have to trick them or fool them into doing sexual things with us. The number one rule of seduction is, “Shut off her damn brain!” You’ve got to shut off her silly brain because otherwise it will be sending her all these contradictory signals, and she’s going to be changing her mind all the time, bailing on sexual things she previously agreed to, and all sorts of idiotic, crazy, childish bullshit.

Once you get that brain shut off, it’s a lot more fun for both you and her. You have to get her to where her brain is off and she is just caught up in the moment of being horny and she’s not thinking! Nothing kills sex more than thinking. And I can’t think of a worse anti-aphrodisiac then, “Do you want to have sex?” I have had a lot of sex in my life, and I have never asked that stupid question one time. You don’t even ask it with long-term girlfriends. You just start doing things or she starts doing things and you just take it from there. Sex only works when it is mostly a non-verbal and non-intellectual experience.

Now it’s sexual assauuuuuuuuuuult or raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaape if you to anything sexual with her without getting her Goddamned permission first.

Had sex with her without getting her damned permission? It’s raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaape.

Didn’t have sex but did other sexual things instead? It’s sexual assauuuuuuuuuuult.

Had sex with her and she didn’t say no? It’s still raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaape because you couldn’t read her Goddamned mind and figure out she didn’t want to do it because she was too stupid to say no. Because for some insane reason, silence doesn’t equal consent. Well, yes it does!

Talked her or argued her into it and had sex with her? It’s raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaape. Done it hundreds of times. Part of the art of seduction is figuring out how to talk her into it. And there are many or possibly endless different ways to do this. You have to use whatever method is going to work best with that female at that time.

Gave her orders and had sex with her? It’s raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaape. Hell yeah, done it scores of times. Just say sternly, “Get over on that bed right now!” and watch her scamper submissively over to the bed and then sit up obediently with an ashamed look on her face. She’s acting like a little girl! Many females actually love to be given orders and told what to do. It brings out their submissive side.

She’s intoxicated on alcohol or any other drug and you had sex with her? Done it so many times I cannot even count. It’s raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaape. Bullshit. If she’s passing in and out of consciousness, it’s a dickkiller anyway, and you really can’t do it. If she’s out cold, it is rape and you are part necrophiliac. If she’s passed out, don’t do it, you necros! Dosing her with a date rape drug is just out and out rape, period. Don’t do it! You want to go down on a rape charge? It’s a very sleazy and dirty thing to do anyway. But if she’s loaded or drunk and horny, go for it!

Threaten to break up with her unless she has sex with you? It’s raaaaaaaaaaaaaaape. It’s a bit dirty, and I never did it, but it’s not rape. People issue ultimatums like that all the time, threatening to break up with someone unless they do this or that. So what!


Filed under Feminism, Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Lame Cunts, Losers, Man World, Mass Hysterias, Moralfags, Psychology, Radical Feminists, Romantic Relationships, Scum, Sex

PUA/Game: Getting Redlighted and the Wall

Nowadays I get redlighted constantly. In fact, I would say my whole damn life is one gigantic red light at this point.

The Wall

The most common form of redlighting is this thing I call The Wall. I get it all the time now, especially from women. It’s like they throw up this wall between me and them – like a see-through glass panel that you could even move through if you wanted to but you don’t want to because it’s a barrier.

I get it from young women a lot, almost constantly. They also turn quite serious, lose their sense of humor, refuse to laugh even at good jokes, and adopt a strictly businesslike attitude.

I also get conversational shut-downs all the time too, mostly from young women once again. I get a lot of one word or one sentence responses that make it seem like the conversation is over. That’s mostly part of the Wall, but if the conversational shut-downs start to get a cold or icy feel about them, you are dealing with what I call a Bad Wall.

Bad Walls

When she  doesn’t even  respond to a lot of your comments, that is a very Bad Wall, and it means she’s really giving you a serious message that she’s not interested in you, and you need to figure this out. Once you start getting Bad Walls like refusals to even respond to comments, try to minimize your contact with her. She’s sending you a message. Continuing contact with her in the form of even significant conversations will just result in more Bad Walls and icy behavior. In fact, the Bad Walls may get worse and she start acting annoyed or angry.

Different Types of Walls

Getting redlighted and getting the Wall other than the Bad Wall is not hostile, but it’s not friendly at all. There’s something cold about it, but it’s not really icy. Icy Wall responses from women are nasty beasts indeed. Of course I get them sometimes, but they are not much fun. They have a very bad feel about them. They are hostile. It’s hard to tell the difference between a Cold Wall and a Rock Wall. It’s usually more or a Rock Wall, like a solid slab of sheer rock. What it means is that they don’t want anything to do with you sexually or romantically, and this is designed to make sure you know that, so you don’t get any ideas.

I’m not mad at them for doing this to me, but it’s pretty discouraging and it’s downright depressing. It’s also one of the worst confidence killers I have ever encountered. It’s like you are balloon and this walls and needles that puncture the balloon and deflate it.

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PUA/Game: Life Is a Shit Test

You’ve seen one woman, you’ve seen them all. AWALT. No doubt that world over. Surely it’s in the chromosomes somewhere. Of course they are not all alike in all ways and many differ greatly, but if you have known enough females in life, you keep seeing the same patterns over and over. So in some ways, they are all the same. But so are us men.

Females make us insane, but I don’t think God screwed up when he made them.

Females are like a test. Think of them like high school, the SAT, getting through college, getting a Masters Degree, landing a good job, scoring some tough achievement in life.  That’s what a good woman is like. She’s a tough nut to crack, but it’s not supposed to be easy. You want universities to have hardass standards for advanced degrees, right? Well then you should want hot women to have hardass standards for us men. They pick the best and weed out the rest, just like with all the other examinations/degrees/shit tests/competitive clusterfucks in life. Life’s an odd’s game. Some win, some lose. Even in socialism or Communism, you never get rid of the competition. No matter how much you even everything else out, women will still winnow out the best men. There is no sexual socialism and there will never be any.

So life is an IQ test, but it is many other things too.

First, foremost, and forever:

Life is a shit test.

Once you get that, you’re redpilled for life no matter your economics or politics or anything.

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PUA/Game: The Honeybees

I saw her a year later with some of her teenage girlfriends at carnival and I had to admit she was nice enough. We both sort of smoked a peace pipe. I went over to her booth and bought something from her. She was 17 years old, sitting at a desk with two of her friends at the carnival.  She saw me long before I saw her. Those eyes like daggers, but soft, more inquisitorial and penetrating than menacing. The love had still not faded. Perhaps it never would. I was 21, at the carnival with my friend MJ.

I went over She must have told her friends, “Hey I fucked that hot guy,” because as I left I saw three teenage girls heads all buzzing together making those honeybee sounds they do when they talk about boys, men and sex. I call them the honeybees. Bzzz bzzz bzzz. By the way, when you move on a girl and you see her and her friends to the honeybee maneuver, take note of that. Those heads buzzing together are saying, “Who was that hot guy?” If you dated a female and you see her later and her friends start doing the honeybee maneuver, take note of that too.

Those heads buzzing together are saying, “You messed with that hot guy?  What happened? Was he any good? Tell us all the gruesome details. And if the girl you interacted with looks proud even if you just dumped her ass, take note of that too. She’s saying, “Yeah he’s hot as Hell and we had a hot sexual time, but he’s as bastard and an asshole.” Maybe. She’s also sort of bragging about you. You tell if you look at her face. It has that proud look on it, see?

I have mostly seen the honeybees in girls and young women aged 17-20, but I assume you can see them at all ages, assuming the Woman hasn’t completely killed of the Girl yet.

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A Hypothesis for the “Unifying Theory”

After I spent five decades or so on Earth, I started to notice a curious thing. Humans, life, nature, maybe everything, seems to strive towards balance. You get +2 on one side of the divide, and what to you do, some other process pops up to counter it with just about -2 on the other side of the divide. The greater the extremes, the  more radical measures are implemented to keep them in place. You get +200 on one side of the divide and at first, life is confused. It tries different ways to counteract it, -2, -25, -50, but none of this really works. Somehow life or the mind figures out that the only way to counteract a +200 is with a -200.

+2 + -2 = 0

+200 + -200 = 0

I kept seeing this over and over and it made me wonder.  What’s so great  about zero. We non-mathematicians in Late Capitalism regard zero with disdain. Why would anyone try for that. At worst it’s awful and at best it’s just middling to mediocre. You ever see someone jumping up and down yelling, “I’m a zero!” Of course not. So why the constant drive towards zero? I am thinking maybe the zero is an illusion. It’s not really zero. Maybe it’s stasis or harmony or peace and end to oppositions or something of that nature. The opposing forces have canceled each other out,  and now we can kick back and enjoy, or deal, or whatever.

This “strive towards balance” which I still do not understand, seems to be the goal of most human psychological mechanisms and interactions with other humans.  We’re all trying for the zero, the sweet spot. Not too much and not too little. Just right. Call it harmony. This drive in humans is so strong and seems to be so strongly reflected in actual natural processes themselves (the balance of nature) that one wonders if there is any universal drive or theory driving at least all living things: it is simply the drive for some sort of harmony or balance.

And this interminable and unstoppable and seemingly rooted in the universe incessant and insistent drive for harmony or balance may itself be the closest thing to what to the Holy Grail of the Physicists:

The Unifying Theory

I would add that this physicists’ holy grail, the  “unifying theory” is also what drives all religion, philosophy, and art. I once characterized the goals of all human scholarly and artistic endeavors in all of the sciences, social and physical and all of the arts, as:

The Search for the Perfect Relationship 

And I am thinking just now that the Search for the Perfect Relationship and the Unifying  Theory have some relationship to each other. Either they are the same thing or the one is the search for the other, or the quest is the goal and vice versa. A lot more thinking to do on that one.

Over and out. Over and over and out.


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Game/PUA: Brains – IQ – Creativity – Artistry – Genius or the “Brains Coefficient” As an “Additive Factor” in Game

Sure, life is an IQ test. Linda Gottfredson has proved this many times. She even has some papers on this topic. It’s a well validated scientific hypothesis and passes the common sense smell test once you throw the PC room freshener out the window.

Yes, life is an IQ test, but IQ won’t get you laid.

Well, wait, it might. My IQ actually gets me laid or at least nowadays it does, and it has for some time now, but maybe only since I was ~40. It really picked up in my late 40’s. Older women actually get turned on by smart guys, assuming they have some other things going for them (see below).

I don’t want to credit IQ too much. In a nod to the social constructionist IQ haters, maybe it is “the brain that I have created via decades of hard work via the use of this IQ tool” that gets me laid. I’m also creative, and women love to fuck artists. And the best writers are artists, especially if you write in a literary, poetic or “beautiful” way. If she falls in love with your prose, she’s yours, for now anyway. She may acquire your bed and maybe even a ring later on.

  1. Romantic love makes women horny.
  2. Artists make women feel romantic.
  3. Feeling romantic causes love.
  4. Cycle back to step one.

You do the math. It’s not hard. A 5th grader could figure out a basic equation like that.

Actually I would say that while my brain does get me laid, it does so late in life. It did not so much earlier in life. Sure I was smart as Hell earlier in life, but I spent most of my life imitating a stoned out, half retarded surfer as that was what got you chicks on the beach. As a young man, I spent a lot of time pretending I was stupid. I remember a sibling even criticized me for that. I shrugged my shoulders. I was trying to get laid. I wasn’t trying to win the Nobel Prize. Priorities, men, priorities!

As you get older, you run into smart women (and even girls) who actually want to fuck your brain. She will be fucking your body of course like everyone does, but she’s really fucking your brain. I have actually had women tell me this. As in more than one. They actually said, “I want to fuck your brain.” And they didn’t even know each other. Maybe there’s something to Jung after all.

She may confuse your brain with your body if your Game is good enough. I have run into this lately and it is a form of false signaling where a hot brain is serving as a “falses marker” for a hot body, but like all spells and forms of magic, that can’t last. I’d give it 6 weeks – 3 months. I have been running into this lately with young women.

My brain + probably my Game somehow casts a spell on them to where they confuse a sexy brain with a sexy body. Alas, I no longer look sexy. I am being attacked by an advanced artillery weapon called Time. I swear it’s better than Saddam’s Supergun. The last few years they’re not even shooting shells anymore. They feel more like Scud missiles. Over the next couple of decades, I assume I will start getting hit by even more advanced weaponry, even tactical nukes. They shoot the damn nukes at you for ten years, and then it’s nuclear winter, and you drop. And they have the audacity to call that shit “golden years”! Golden years my ass!

I may still have some good looks. Women my age say I look fantastic. I have 45 years of Game under my belt, so that’s got to count for something. And lately I have been either acquiring or faking some minor fame and status. Power is a cruel joke. Money is an afterthought. But you don’t need them anyway. You don’t need all four factors below and Factors 1-4 tend to bleed together anyway in endless circling arguments and cycles like vines of ivy. At some point, it’s hard to tease them apart or even say what’s what. I would call all of 1-4 something like “Macro Status Factor.” Face it, all 1-4 bleeds into this beast called Status.

I would say that yes, brains can get you laid if they are combined with Looks and Game. Brains then would be an “additive factor.” And it would help if your brains tended more towards the creative side as opposed to some dry number cruncher because artistic genius makes women’s bellies tingle. Also the Brains would probably have to be combined with Looks + Game both. Either one alone won’t cut it. Looks + Brains doesn’t seem like it will cut it. Game + Brains doesn’t seem like it will do much good either. But I could be wrong. YMMV.

So Brains/Artistic Talent/Creative Genius alone? Not really.

But Brains/Artistic Talent/Creative Genius as additive factor? I would say so.

We know full well that you need:

  1. Money
  2. Fame
  3. Power
  4. Status
  5. Looks
  6. Game

to get women.

Barring the first four, you absolutely you need 5 and 6. Either 5 or 6 alone don’t really cut it. And if you obviously have only 5 and 6, any scrapings of 1-4 you can get are great. You can even fake it.

Additive factor(s):

  1. “Brains factor”

Into this brains factor goes the whole mess called IQ, your “created mind”, artistry, creativity, genius.

And speaking of things marrying into each other, this Brains Factor, if cultivated well enough, can indeed form a part of your Game in a sense.


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PUA/Game: Fake, Transitory or “Synthetic” Alphas and Game Theory

There are a lot of guys around LA faking fame and status on Instagram right now. I don’t know what they do. Ride skateboards, play in bands, rap, who knows. But for money, they don’t do shit. None of them have a nickel. They just pretend they do. They have made a brand for themselves, but it’s fake. It’s like the emperor’s new clothes. There’s really nothing there. The brand is all illusion, farce, charade, even fraud in a sense. They are getting women like crazy. It’s all a big scam.

They aren’t really Alphas. Instead they are like creatures in the animal world who mock some marking for evolutionary benefit. The critter looks like poison or a branch or whatever. There are many snakes that have evolved to look very much like rattlesnakes. Sort of like wannabe gangbangers, these serpentine critters look just dangerous enough to keep a lot of predators at bay.

These guys on Instagram are doing something similar.

Imagine if animals had “Alpha” markings that attracted females. Maybe only 20% of the species really have the “Alpha” trait. But 50% of the species developed the “Alpha” markings. 40% of them are the real Alphas and the rest are Beta critters who put on Alpha wings to fake the females into mating with a fake Alpha.

Now I am not saying these Instagram guys are fake Alphas. They’re just guys running another form of Game at the end of the day. But their Game is not sustainable, so this makes me  doubt that they are natural Alphas. Once that fake fame fountain dries up, and it will, they will be left holding the bag.

There are Natural or Pure Alphas. And I am convinced that many more are the more “synthetic” varieties. Not that the difference matters a lot. At the end of the day, it’s how well you do that counts, not how you did it. You can’t compromise success.

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Opinion: The Alt Left Should Be Neither Feminist Nor for Men’s Rights. It Should Be for Good Relationships between the Sexes

Great piece by Ryan England. Personally, I feel things are far, far, far too gone for this and this sort of pacifism is just not going to work. England is calling for unilateral disarmament on the part of the men and then sending us unarmed men in to negotiate with savage, ISIS-like terrorists (the feminists). That’s not going to work. It’s like bringing a knife to a gunfight. It would be great if this would be enough but I am afraid that things are far too gone for that now and the only thing left is the more extreme measures. Hey, the feminists started it. They started shooting at us men. You want a war, baby? Bring it on!

Beyond Feminist vs. MRA


It’s a familiar story for anyone who’s been online for any length of time. A discussion starts over a gender or feminism-related topic.  There’ve been plenty of these lately since the Harvey Weinstein sexual harassment scandal broke in Hollywood and the metoo hashtag campaign, so there’s no shortage of examples to choose from. There’s nothing unique about these conversations, however. They’ve been taking place on social media since Facebook and Twitter first launched and were commonplace on bulletin boards long before anyone knew what a comments section was. The basic conversation hasn’t changed much in the decades since Al Gore invented the internet. A typical conversation will go something like this.

Feminist: Men rape and harass women. That’s why men suck and women should reject them.

MRA: But not all men. But not me. That should give me an advantage in the mating game with women, should it not?

Feminist: But only men. Plus patriarchy, power, privilege, rape culture, etc. Not so fast, buster!  You’re part of the segment of the population that does the most rape and who benefits from rape and are therefore not so innocent as you’d like to believe. And therefore suck no less and are no less deserving of rejection.

MRA: But what about false accusations? What about women who sexually assault men? This nullifies the advantage you claimed in your previous statement. Therefore, women should more readily accept and sleep with us. I mean me!

It’s never long before a conversation like this breaks down, and school yard level copypasta insults break out. “Boo hoo! Eh poor menz!” “Enjoy your cats!” So on and so on. It’ll inevitably come down to one or both sides being ugly, living in their parent’s basements, and being unable to get laid. This is due to the fact that the surface conversation is never nearly as important as the subtext that continually underlies conflicts over gender theory and its real world implications.

The unstated but nonetheless omnipresent axioms that are revealed when any kind of deconstructive analysis is applied to such discussions are that male power is expressed through sexual conquest of the female, and that female power is expressed through sexual rejection of the male. All else is ancillary. Which is largely why pro and anti feminists talk past one another and at one another far, far more than with one another. The legitimate issues raised by either side fall by the wayside because they’re obviously being weaponized to one or the other of those two ultimate effects.

The real purpose for bringing up rape, harassment, divorce, child support, or any other issue, at least in online discussion, is to lower the value of one gender relative to the other for the ultimate purpose of making sex either easier (in favor of men) or harder (in favor of women) to attain.

There’s just one problem with this paradigm, however. It doesn’t work. It’s not making anyone happy. It’s based in a glaringly flawed assessment of human nature and is much more rooted in ego than in reason or human empathy. Men were not rejected into sympathizing with women’s concerns. They go their own way instead, doubtlessly with the intent of bringing those pesky, uppity women to heel. No dice: women are angrier now than ever. Who’d have guessed? The result is that heterosexual activity has been driven into a kind of moral black market wherein most people actually do it at some point or another but also have to conceal it, rationalize it, or engage in it under some kind of false pretenses much of the time to avoid social censure. No wonder bad behavior abounds.

It’s time to smarten up, people. Get out of the grade school mentality. Let’s at least try and hit puberty, okay internet? Human nature is not especially complicated. We tend to simmer down when we feel that our concerns are being heard and taken somewhat seriously, even if disagreed with in some ways. The natural response of people when faced with a lecturing, condescending tone is to get defensive, not to open one’s heart or mind. This is true however legitimate the surface grievance actually is or is not. Which isn’t to say you accept bullshit uncontested. Rather, let your assessment of what’s bullshit and what isn’t depend on honest appraisal, which you can’t get without listening and understanding.

Whatever your claim to victimhood past or present, however poorly you were treated as a child or in your past relationships, other people, even the opposite sex, will not accept your shitty and abusive behavior. Not indefinitely at any rate. However much you feel entitled to it. Two wrongs don’t make a right. This is something we feel instinctively if not intellectually. It stops mattering who started it or who inflicted or suffered the greater suffering after a point. Neither women nor men will accept the other’s claim to morally superior status based on previous victimhood and grievance even if real.

It is easy to say that we should set our fragile egos aside and listen seriously to the other side when they lay out their grievances and issues. This is true. But when the other side does not expect this of themselves, even the most legitimate gripe becomes tainted by the ultimately self-serving purpose to which it is put. The kinds of behavior displayed by feminists and MRAs alike in most internet discussions between the two would be emotionally abusive were they done in real life, and increasingly these kinds of relationship dynamics are spilling out of cyberspace and into the real world. It is no wonder that growing numbers of people, especially the young, are eschewing relationships with the opposite sex all together and claiming to be happier doing so.

And that’s fine for some individuals. If you’re happier going it alone, and I think some people are naturally disposed this way, have at it.

But that’ll be a disaster for society as a whole. Fewer lasting successful marriages and long term relationships (LTR’s) are poised to cause all kinds of problems down the road. Demographic and economic dependency ratios are bound to get worse, and socially destabilizing levels of mass immigration will need to be employed to compensate for falling birth rates. Frustrated romantic and sexual drives will find expression in other usually more antisocial ways from mounting political or religious extremism to mental health problems and increased cynicism.

Even many, though not all, of those who claim to be happier being single are not so much once you scratch the surface. A certain regret often though not always presents itself. And why not? Humans were not hardwired to live alone and not pass on their genes to future generations. A society losing its capacity for love and empathy is not one we should aspire to be a part of.

So here’s a proposal. The Alt-Left should be neither feminist nor MRA. Not exclusively. We should be instead for healthy and good relationship dynamics, be they platonic, romantic, or erotic. We should listen to the concerns of both sides and sort the valid and legitimate grievances from the entitled whining and vapid boasting. It should not be a concern of the Alt-Left which of the two has the more legitimate grievances and is therefore more deserving. Ten years and God knows how many flame wars into the social media age later, we should know by now that ideological partisanship and competitive victimhood isn’t actually helping anybody. It’s driving a spiral of mutual frustration that is causing increased polarization and extremism.

Even if one gender really does have it worse than the other by a wide margin, our approach should be one of mutual listening and empathy, not one of grievance and vengeance. This is not to say that we can’t prioritize some issues over others or that wrongdoers can’t be called out and exposed to such sanction and censure as their actions warrant. But it should never be an ego stroking exercise. Even if you’ve had it worse or your sex or gender has been on the receiving end of injustice, the world doesn’t owe you anything, whatever you may think. Success, be it alone or in partnership, derives from responsibility, not entitlement.

So if you’re single or attached, male or female, here are some things you can do vis-a-vis the opposite sex to improve the situation. And in case you are wondering, this is over twenty years of relationship success (I’ve been with my present wife since 1995) and a decade of every mistake imaginable leading up to it, talking. There’s much I learned the hard way:

  • Listen. Nothing is more effective at defusing anger.
  • Do not stereotype the opposite sex unironically or for non-comedic purposes.
  • Stop with the vain, stupid games. Crushing some young man or woman’s confidence in him/herself won’t bring down the patriarchy or gynocentrism, and it doesn’t make you strong or independent. It makes you an asshole, be you male or female.
  • Do not participate in discussions that tend to descend into pissing contests of competitive victimhood, and clearly state this. Ask instead, “What do you want?”  That’s a powerful question that can very effectively shut down entitled whiners with weaponized grievances.
  • You are owed nothing. Approach all relationships with the opposite sex or with anyone with that in mind. This is not to say that you should tolerate shit and abuse. Don’t. But don’t expect to be put on a pedestal either.
  • Do not have as an expectation for an ideal partner a trait you do not have or can not match. Half of our problems stem from 6’s thinking they’re actually good matches for 10’s, so to speak. Do not expect a prince if you’re not a princess or vice versa. And assess yourself honestly to save a lot of trouble.
  • Live a good life outside of a relationship context. This signifies that you will not be dead weight but instead a net asset in other people’s lives. No one wants a needy dependent.
  • Trust must come before any kind of relationship intimacy, be it physical or emotional. Always. Take it upon yourself to earn rather than demand trust. Decide at what point your efforts are in vain and when to move on.
  • Do not expect from a relationship partner anything that you can do for yourself.  Relationship success thrives best when free of contrived obligations and expectations. Otherwise resentments creep in and do damage.
  • Do not be afraid to point out the elements and their underlying axioms (see above for examples) in gendered discussions but do so only if the person you’re discussing things with becomes obstinate, obtuse, or clearly hostile. The underlying pettiness and stupidity become readily apparent when brought to light.
  • Likewise, if need be, remind people that two wrongs don’t make a right. Plus, no man was ever rejected, nagged, scolded or castrated into liking and respecting women. No woman was ever convinced by rational argument or else likewise rejected, scolded or shamed into liking men. People don’t work that way. Don’t hesitate to point this out.
  • Make your disdain for passive-aggressiveness clear, if need be.
  • If people insist on dominating conversations with socially destabilizing displays of rudeness, sarcasm or hostility, do not be afraid to call them out on it and exclude them from further social activities. If you moderate or administer an online or social media space, you have a special responsibility here. Trolls thrive on the emotionally destabilizing effect that their refusal to be decent and reasonable people has. Do not tolerate it, and ban them at once.
  • Admit that the opposite sex doesn’t always have it easy.  Try to replace resentment with walking in the other man or woman’s shoes, as the case may be. This isn’t to say it’s equally bad on both sides, all the time. Occasionally people will need to be told to stop whining.
  • Do not attribute to malice what can be attributed to clumsiness or ignorance without evidence. This is especially true with flirtation, flattery, or the like.

And above all …

  • Get the f**k off the Internet every once and awhile. Yeah, I know. It’s hard. But there are numerous dynamics that contribute to the Internet being a relatively uncivil place where your faith in humanity can easily go to die. Meet people in the real world from time to time. They’re usually (though not always) not what they appear to be when seen as just a social media profile.

So that in mind, get out there and see the world, dear reader!


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