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Poles and Holes Redux


RL: “A hole only works with a pole, otherwise it’s like a hole in the ground, just sitting there being useless with nothing to fill it up waiting for you to trip over it.”

Is this how you view women?? 😂

As a woman though I feel this way a lot I don’t know if it’s a confidence thing or a society thing. Robert what do you think…?

Actually, I don’t view women that way. I don’t consider a vagina with no penis to put in it to be a useless object. On the other hand though, for gay men…

Believe it or not, I actually wrote that about gay male sexuality. Obviously a society of gay male bottoms ain’t going to work out very well. I doubt if there’s going to be much sex going on.

“A hole needs a pole, and a pole needs a hole” is actually a pretty good way of viewing heterosexual sexuality, especially from the point of view of the poles (the men). Men will literally fuck anything, and I do mean anything. This is the dirty little secret about men. It’s why straight men have sex with men, why men who have no interest in kids screw little girls, why men who have no interest in animals screw animals, etc. A lot of younger women can’t seem to figure this out, but most older women get it. If as a woman, you learn one thing about men in your life, it should be this at least: men will literally fuck anything. Until you understand that, you will never figure us out.

As far as a hole needs a pole, hmmm, a lot of women do like to get fucked though for whatever reason. There’s something special about that act even though it often doesn’t lead to orgasm (only 20-25% of women regularly orgasm from intercourse). Not being a woman and never being fucked, I don’t know what that is.

I am not sure what your statement means. Do you mean that you feel useless without a man?

Tell you what. I have talked to women of all ages all over the world for some time now and some of my best friends have been women (I mean we text back and forth all day long for months), and I keep running into this: the most important thing in any woman’s life is to get a man, to have a man in her life.

For many women, literally their entire lives revolve around getting a man, their relationships with men, etc. Some of these women had very bad experiences with men, and I wondered why getting a man or having a man was so damned important to them, but it was. I actually started thinking  that maybe this was some deeply ingrained thing in human females: the need to have a man. I asked the smartest woman on Earth (my Mom) about it, and she agreed with me that for many women, one of the most important aspects of their lives revolves around getting or having a man.  We talked a bit about why this is, but we couldn’t come up with an answer.

I doubt if it is confidence thing.

Like that hole in the ground is rather useless and even a hazard with nothing to fill it up, a woman is a bit of a loose wheel without a man or men. There’s something missing. There’s a void there. It’s not so much that you lack confidence to live without a man but more that without a man something basic is missing in your existence and you feel an empitness (recall the previous metaphor) and you need something to “fill the hole” in your life.

Relax. You’re normal!


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The Girlfriend Application


Girlfriend application.

Anything we can add here, guys?

Here’s one:

Do you have a gag reflex? Yes_____  No_____

Any more?


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How I Avoided Turning Gay

The whole idea of this post is absurd, but this is what we believed back then. I now know that I was completely straight my whole life, but at the time I didn’t understand the permanence of male sexual orientation. We boys and young men thought straightness was sort of this “weak force” that could become damaged, the result being that you would actually turn homosexual. In that sense, all straight men were at risk of turning gay at any time and you had to do various things to make sure this didn’t happen.

I now know that no man turns gay ever, like no man turns straight but at the time, we didn’t know that.

I had considerable anxiety as I was growing up that I might “turn gay,” and I was determined to make sure that didn’t happen.

In 10th grade, I hung out with “the nerds,” who were a bunch of high-IQ brainac boys. We spent lunch in the Chess Club playing chess like complete fucktards. There were 20 nerd boys in this group and no girls at all, not even nerdy girls. It was a disturbing setup.

I was friends with all of these boys, but many of them were actually effeminate. I didn’t think anything of it at the time. None of them had anything to do with girls. They also expressed no interest whatsoever in girls. The whole setup was disturbing. Not only were we being fucktards, but we were practically being faggots or proto-faggots too. I started to worry that this friend scene was a very bad idea.

I didn’t know any girls, but at least I was interested. I got an erection if the wind blew, and pornographic heterosexual fantasies played nonstop in my head. I had rounded up some dirty novels and nonfiction books with sex scenes, and this was my fantasy material. One was a scene out of Manchild in the Promised Land. Another was at the beginning of The Godfather. At some point, I discovered skin magazines, and I used to spend a lot of time browsing the many Playboy-Penthouse type magazines around back then.

I still don’t know if these guys were pre-gay or gay (none were sexually) or they just couldn’t get a girl with God’s help. My Dad was very proud that I hung out with these idiots.

In 11th grade, I rebelled.

I decided if kept hanging around with these guys I might turn gay.

Most teenage boys back expressed some anxiety about turning gay, and a lot of them were actively doing things to make sure they didn’t turn gay.

I decided my Dad was an idiot, and he was trying to turn me into a faggot. I was pissed. My own father was unwittingly trying to turn me into a fag! Screw this. I think I even told him he was doing that, and he acted like it was the most outrageous thing he ever heard. He was happy that I was a “good kid” hanging around with these good boy nerds. It wasn’t a road to faggotry. It was a road to good citizenship.

I also had short hair, and girls hated that. This was the hippie era, and if you wanted to get a girl you had to grow your hair long. Short hair was “geek hair,” and girls openly despised it.

I decided I was going to try to get some chicks. I grew my hair long, quit hanging around with the idiots and started to hang out with jocks, surfers, drug dealers, party people, stoners, rock fans, and other bad boy punk kid types. I started going to parties, smoking weed, drinking, listening to rock music, and riding a skateboard. My friends were a bunch of glorified juvenile delinquents and soon I was too. World War 3 erupted between my father and me and it turned the whole house and family asunder and upside down with chaos and bad energy.

Well, it wasn’t long before I grew my hair long, started hanging around with cool guys,  and turned into a delinquent that I started getting laid. I also started making out and whatnot with a lot of girls.

False Rape Charge

I think I actually had sex almost before I got kissed though, which is pretty weird. I dove right into sex. She was 14 and as a horny as a grown woman. I crossed the virgin barrier at 16, and boy was I happy.

She falsely accused me of rape afterwards and went around telling all of the girls I hung out with that I raped her. The weird thing is that all of those girls started acting quite afraid of me, but they also starting acting really horny around me. Being accused of rape made those girls fear me and want to fuck me at the same time.

Now there’s your Lesson 1 in Female Sexuality for the day!

Of course I didn’t rape her. We were both just blotto drunk.

It was classic #metoo Regret Rape bullshit. We got interrupted on the roof of an apartment building at 3 AM in the middle by an idiot we had sent away with a wink so we could screw. We figured he would get the hint but unfortunately he was a fucktard.

He came back and saw us having sex and instead of taking off, he stood there with his mouth open and expressed verbal shock and alarm. She jumped right off me and quickly said, “Now I’m not horny anymore.”

Lesson 2 in Female Sexuality for the day.

The dumbass was still standing there with the bottom fallen out of his mouth. “Lindsay,” he said. “I will never think the same way about you ever again.” His look was solemn and sincere.

Lesson 1 in ManWorld for the day.

I guess this is where the Regret Rape set in. She felt bad about having sex with me and was wracked with guilt. Therefore, I obviously raped her. This is “female logic,” and girls and women actually think like this and believe it is rational thinking.

Lesson 1 in Female Psychology for the day.

This was at a time when most of my friends were still virgins. So I was something of a mini-legend.

I also figured I had dodged a bullet and kept from turning gay, but the anxiety remained. If I didn’t have a date in a long time, I started worrying that if this state of affairs went on for too long, I might turn gay. This was very alarming to me. I spent much of my time from 15-26 with this as one of my deepest and most hidden fears. Of course, now I know it was an idiotic thing to fear, as stupid as worrying you might turn into a Martian, but back then, it was the real deal.


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Lily Allen, “Who’d Have Known?”

Another great song from Lily Allen. I did not mention it in the last post, but this Electropop stuff is also great dance music. In addition to the 1980ish origins, it also has roots in techno and house dance music produced by DJ’s in dance clubs later on. I liked both techno and house.

Some great dance music, even if I had quit dancing by that time. I actually love to dance and supposedly I can dance pretty well. There’s one great thing about dancing, regardless of whether you think it’s faggy. And that’s because in a real way, dancing is the opposite of faggy. Women and girls love a great dancer, especially in a sexy, attractive and rather masculine male. Dancing is a very sexual activity – it’s nearly vertical sex de facto if you think about it. Dancing makes women horny. An ability to dance is a great component of Game, especially if you are attractive, fairly masculine and sexy.

What I am trying to say is that if you look good and your Game is good, being a great dancer can also get you laid. A lot. One great reason to take up dancing, guys!

That I dance well his is due to the fact that I have a partly Female Character. Face it guys, dancing in the West is a phenomenon rooted deeply in the Female Character. Yes, men do dance sometimes even in hypermasculine Arab, Kurdish and Turkic cultures, but let’s not fool ourselves. There’s nothing masculine in even that dancing. If you dance well, you have a feminine side, and that’s not a bad thing.

Is there any male dancing? Square dancing, line dancing, and of course slow dancing, etc. are rooted in the Female Character. There’s nothing masculine about flowing around in such a friendly way like that. The very fact that you are flowing, smiling, and warm shows you are acting female because females flow when they move while males move like mechanical objects or automatons in harsh, cold, blocky movements. Females also smile and act warm, while men scowl and act cold. These things are called Essential Gender Character. Check out the great Otto Weininger for more.

I would say that slam dancing is pretty masculine. Stage diving and slam pits are are all about the Male Character. Females trolling around the slam pit are acting pretty masculine, not that that’s a bad thing, since most if not all people have both Masculine and Feminine characters, following Weininger.

After all, testosterone is what makes women horny in the first place. The nuking of the female sex drive post-menopause (yeah, it’s real all right) is down to declining testosterone as much as declining estrogen. The greater sexuality of Black women may be down to increased testosterone. There are women who actually take testosterone supplements or get shots to revive a flagging sex drive.

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Repost: My Theory on “Game”

This ran, incredibly, a full six years ago, but it’s amazing how well it has held up to the test of time. It’s such a good post that it deserves a rerun.

Curious asks me about my “game” philosophy. I didn’t want to write this post, but I decided to bang one out anyway.

First of all, women have no understanding of Game, similar to how they do not understand many things. Women think Game is evil. They think Game involves trickery, scamming, deceiving, and manipulating as a form of  seduction. Of course it can be that, and seduction is the biggest scam of them all. Honest player is an oxymoron. But it needn’t be so. It’s possible to have great Game if you are simply a very sexy man who is appealing to women.

Your Game is your sex appeal and everything you do to get women to like you.

Really your Game is simply your sex appeal. Your Game, more specifically, is all of those techniques, styles, behaviors, thoughts, feelings and manners that a man uses to try to get women. All men have Game. Even men with monogamous partners have Game. The monogamous man who is irresistible to women, the guy ever woman in the office wants but can’t have – this man has fantastic Game.

Obviously married men used Game to get into the relationship in the first place. Many monogamous men are nevertheless very smooth operators who are quite sexy to women. That’s their Game right there.

And their Game is also whatever techniques, styles, etc. they are using to keep the relationship on the up and up because all relationships with women, even marriages, must be Gamed. You have to Game your woman. You have to Game your wife. I’m sure there are a lot of men out there who will jump up and scream that they do not use any Game in their relationships or marriages. If that’s true, I feel sorry for them. I can’t think of an easier way to blow up a relationship or marriage than refusing to Game it and Game it well.

There are a set of blogs out there talking about Married Man’s Game. Yep, your Game is ongoing even after you get married, and there is a recognition in the Manosphere that even relationships and marriages must be Gamed to keep them functioning well.

Women will not understand anything I wrote above and will go on insisting that Game is some diabolical form of scammy and sleazy seduction. As I said, it can but it needn’t be. Fine. Let them think that. But you men should know better if you got this far already.

Where do you usually meet women? Bars? Social circle?

What does your Game consist of? What do you talk about with women that gets them attracted to you?

Women like me, and I know how to talk to women. Or at least they used to, and I used to. Now I’m not attractive to anyone. A lot of women still like just fine, but they don’t want me getting to close, especially the younger. It’s a very surface friendliness with the idea behind it that I should not try to make it friendlier and more personable.

I assume I still know how to talk to women. In fact, I just talked to a few women today on some dating sites. Apparently I’ve still got it.

I also understand women extremely well, that is, “I know women.” I know how they operate and how they think, and I can figure them out to some degree to the extent that they can be figured out by anyone. It’s very important to become a “student of women” and try to figure out what makes them tick.

This education should be reality based and subject to reality testing with real world women and not just something you read in some guy’s book or on a website somewhere. Like most things, it comes from real world experience.

Sadly, men who have little experience with women will never learn to understand them well and hence will probably continue messing up with them, acting inappropriately, etc.

I often go quite slow, and women often say I am very nice. That’s why they like me. They say, “You are kind to me”, “You are very nice to me.” Stuff like that. I know you are not supposed to be a nice guy, but it works pretty good for me.

On the other hand, I do not tolerate much in the way of shit from women. If they get out of line, sometimes I just say things like, “Shut up bitch!” Then I give them a big grin and start laughing. Curiously, they often respect that, but I would not overdo it. Women like a guy who stands up to their shit when they overstep their bounds.

I generally “let the woman lead” as far as conversation, flirtation, talking about sex, and whatever goes. I hold back and just make occasional probing remarks here and there and now and then and see how they respond. They are usually the ones who start talking about sexual stuff first, because I am not into jumping off with that. Sometimes I get the impression that they get frustrated with me because I am not moving on them, so they start moving on me.

I also apologize a lot and even ask if I offended them if I say something sexual. The response is usually, “No! Not at all!”

I know that going slow like that is not supposed to work, but it works for me.

My philosophy is “let the woman lead.” If you put her in charge of the situation, she feels empowered. It’s also important to have an accepting role of female sexuality. I don’t slut shame. I even slut praise. This opens them up so they feel relaxed about being sexual.

A lot of times they confess all sorts of wild sexual stuff to me – how they screwed two guys at once, got gangbanged, had sex with a woman, and all of the weird kinks and perversions they have. You would be amazed at how much wild sexual stuff many ordinary women have done and how bizarre, kinky, or even sick their fantasies or kinks are.

I accept all of their wild sexual activities and kinks. I cheer it all on and try not to slut shame in any way whatsoever. In my opinion, slut shaming in any way puts the cooler on female sexuality. Even women who have been to orgies and who like to have sex with other women don’t really like being slut shamed.

If a woman is more proper or takes pride in not being a slut, I cheer that on too, and tell her that I appreciate a woman like that, a woman who’s not a slut and takes pride in her sexual propriety. You praise her for being a good girl.

I know it’s hypocritical to both praise sluts for being sluts and good girls for being good girls, but that’s the way I roll.

I never admit or confess to any sexual weaknesses such as not getting any or being unsuccessful with women in any way, shape, or form. Nothing turns a woman off more than a guy who can’t get any.

I do make references to my sexual history, typically just to alleviate concerns that I am some sort of a virgin. I use “fake modesty” when I do this and say it in a matter of fact way like I was talking about drinking water. I also act like I am embarrassed about my history and often say it’s not all beds of roses, that there’s a downside to promiscuity. Women like studs but not braggart studs. More like modest studs who act like it’s no big deal, like breathing air.

I also often say that my promiscuous days are in the past, and now I am looking for one woman, as I am too old to run around now. That’s probably a lie, but it’s a great line. If you come right out and say you’re a player, and that’s the way you roll, you turn a lot of women off who don’t want to be Woman Number 4. Most women want to be Woman Number 1, and you have to make her feel like she has a chance to do that, even if she really doesn’t.

So don’t say, “I’m a player.” She thinks you will pump and dump her or you have various other women, and most women don’t dig that. Much better to come off as “reformed and chagrined player who had his fun but now he’s seen the light and ready to change and be a one-woman man” even if that’s a complete lie, which in my case it always has been. It doesn’t matter if what you tell women is true or not; all that matters is whether this or that line or attitude is going to work or not. If it doesn’t work, don’t say it. If it works, say it. Whether it’s true or a lie is irrelevant when dealing with women. If telling the truth is going to work, you tell the truth. If lying is going to work best, then you lie. Real simple.

I make a point to say how I like women better than men, and I prefer the company of women to the company of men ,and that’s just the kind of guy I am and have always been.

If they ask me why I never married, I say that I dated  200 women and girls in my life, and I had a great life with a lot of great love affairs and even long term relationships. That turns a number of them off right there, but others either laugh or get intrigued. Often they express shock and disbelief. Probably the most common reaction is uncontrolled laughter. For some reason, most humans, boys, girls, men, and women from 8 year old boys to 80 year old women think notorious playboys are hilarious. This is true across cultures too. That holds across cultures too. I told that to an Indian friend of mine and he told his wife, a proper and prim Brahmin women who may have been a virgin when she got married. I was afraid she would act disgusted but he told me she laughed for a good 10 minutes.

Then I say, “I just never married any of them.” Women don’t like older never married men too much. When I was younger, they didn’t even like younger never married men. The idea is that there is something wrong with you that turns off women, or you can’t get laid and you are a 40 year old virgin. Basically, never married screams “Loser!” to a lot of women. On the other hand, players get a pass.

If some notorious player never married, no one really cares too much. That is considered an acceptable way to be a hardcore bachelor. Once again, a lot of people seem to think it is hilarious too. As you get older, it can get even more hilarious because older men are not supposed to be like this. Older players are almost defying the laws of physics and for some reason, they are even more hilarious. They’re like a runaway train that even the US airforce can’t get.

I am happy being alone. I never say I am lonely or miserable even if I am. If I am depressed, I usually lie and say I’m not. I can’t think of anything stupider than telling  a woman you’re lonely, miserable, or depressed. You might as well take a felt pen and write loser across your forehead. This is what I mean when I said you have to lie to women. Being honest to women all the time simply doesn’t work. It’s a guaranteed fail. Why do it? You trying to win points with Jesus?

I admit that I am broke, but I say that I don’t care, and I am not into money. If you say you are broke and miserable, once again that screams loser.

Bottom line is if your life is screwed up in any way, don’t admit it to women. It’s a guaranteed fail. Simply embrace the screwed up areas of your life and say you are perfectly happy living in a slum, driving a rattletrap, or eating cans of beans for dinner or whatever it is that is messed up about your life.

The main thing is that if she sees you as weak, you are not going to get any. It doesn’t matter if you are weak in various ways in your personal life. All of us men are weak. The only men who are not weak are liars and dead men. So what if you’re weak about this or that! Just don’t admit it to women!

Women hate whiners. If you whine, women say get off your ass and solve your problem, idiot! And don’t complain too much, at least about personal stuff. You can complain about non-personal stuff all you want.

I am a very easy-going guy with a great sense of humor.

I ask women a lot about their own lives and get them talking about themselves a lot. This is great because people love to talk about themselves, and most guys don’t listen to women at all. If a woman is going on and on about the latest crazy drama she is involved in, simply lean forward, make occasional comments like, “I see”, “ok”, “And then what happened?”, “Ahhhh”. “He did?”.  you get the picture. That’s called active listening. You don’t have to actually listen to her. I think you should try to listen, but if her crazy hour-long drama story leaves you baffled, just lean forward and pretend you understand.

I’ve been doing this my whole life and women always say what a fantastic listener I am. Truth is a lot of the time I am just pretending to listen to them or humoring them when they are rambling on about some convoluted drama. I doesn’t work to tell women to shut up or that you are bored, that they’ve talked enough, or that you don’t care. That’s a fail. A lot of men do this. Men are notorious for not listening to women at all, telling them they are boring, tuning them out, walking out of the room, telling them to shut up, etc. I understand why men do this because women’s endless soap opera lives are rather insipid from our point of view.

The more crucial matter is: You want to get laid or not? Women love good listeners. That’s the best thing you can be. When women are happy with your behavior, they tend to reward you. As in, you get laid. What I am saying is pretend to listen to her if you want to have a sex life. I can’t tell you how many times I listened to some convoluted and absurd drama after dinner for a couple of hours. When she’s done, she typically said what a wonderful listener I am, got a smile on her face, and said let’s go in the bedroom. Get it? If you’re a good listener, she rewards you by fucking you!

With women I know on any level, I figure out where I am with them sexually to the extent if I can say anything remotely sexual or even friendly. Test the waters now and again with friendly conversation and see how far it goes. If she shuts it down, pack up and leave. Too many men keep pounding away and rejecting women like they are broken coke machines, and if you bang on them enough, a bottle comes out.

If you to figure where you are sexually with her, there are things you can say to bring that out. Compliment her on her outfit. Tell her she looks beautiful today. Be very careful about sexual conversations with women you know if you are not sure they are ok with that. That’s a serious danger zone. You can only talk about sexual stuff with women who have greenlighted you to do that. Way too many men get too friendly with unfriendly women and get way too sexual with women are not even friendly to them, forget sexually interested. This is the source of most women’s complaints about creepy behavior.

Women are not broken coke machines. A shutdown is a shutdown. It means bye bye, not try harder, I’m playing hard to get, etc. Way too many men keep persisting in the face of the obvious shutdowns and this the root cause of this #metoo idiocy.

With a lot of young women  nowadays, I can’t even get very friendly with them by engaging them in much conversation, forget talking dirty or flirting. They see me as an old man, and while they are polite to me, any conversation other than perfunctory is regarded as “overly friendly,” and if I try to do it, I tend to get hard shutdowns pretty quickly.

I monitor the situation all the time with all the women I know or in my life and keep a  database in my head regarding where I am with them on a friendly or sexual basis and hence how I am allowed to talk to them. Then I proceed to deal with them accordingly.

You can talk to different women about different things at different levels. Figure out what are the permissible levels of conversation with each women you deal with regularly and then deal proceed. Update regularly as if they were entries in a database. The more you do this, the less you will be accused of inappropriate or creepy behaviors.


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American Hypersexed Culture An Illusion Propagated by Gay Hollywood

This comment was from a post I wrote noting that the median straight man has sex with six women in his lifetime, and the average straight woman has sex with only three men in her lifetime. Of course, this goes against the literally insane culture that all single straight men can just go out and get sex anytime they want.

Curiously (or perhaps not so curiously) this idiocy is promoted by feminists, especially male feminists, more than anyone else. I am not sure why, but feminism is simply Feminine Thinking Politicized (and Weaponized) or better yet the Feminine Character Politicized (and Weaponized).

Females, at least here in the modern West, are convinced that any single man can go out and get sex anytime they want to. I ask women about this, and they answer, “Well they could just go to a bar and they’re guaranteed to get a woman to have sex with them that night.” I try to tell them that this is not the case at all, and if were that easy to get laid in bars and clubs, men would spent all their time there, and society would come a halt, but it’s like talking to a wall. I don’t get through to them. They simply cannot comprehend it.

Let me tell you something. As noted above, if it were literally that easy to get laid in a bar or even a club, bars and clubs would be swarming with men every night and probably all day long too. In fact, I would probably be  writing this piece at a table at a bar myself, at 11 AM yet.

They think this way because of solipsism. Quite simply, females are solipsistic. Because of this solipsism, women are unable to put themselves in males minds and try to think like men or see the world as men do. This is why women see the world as a fantasy creation of the dream world of Feminine Character instead of how it actually is – a cold, cruel, unfair world where you barely stand a chance.

In this case, most women can  get laid anytime they want to. “By lowering your standards!” They retort. Of course that is true, but the average attractive woman could easily have her pick of 10-15 attractive men every day if she chose, at a minimum. Female humans, like other female animals, are notoriously fickle about their sexual partners and test them for fitness, choosing the best one who will pass on the best genes just like any other mammal, or even a bird or a fish for that matter. Females have been picky for a long way back in our heritage, all the way back to when we were frogs, if any of you can remember that far back.

Hence, due to female solipsism, if a woman can get laid anytime she wants, obviously a man can get laid any time he wants to because whatever is true for women is true for men and woman can only see the world as it is for women and not how it is for men.

Anyway this is a very interesting take only the Big Lie of the Reality of the Hypersexed Culture. What I mean is that the hypersexed culture exists, but not really in reality. Instead it exists as a fantasy world of the media and entertainment, and includes porn.

I believe the hypersexed culture is largely a media creation. The product of a media composed disproportionately of gay men writing about their own hyper promiscuous sex lives under the guise of heterosexual characters. TV has normal males in this culture confused under the delusion that all the other heterosexual men around them are getting random hookups with women in the exact same way the gays get it in the gay bars.

In The Myth of Heterosexual Aids by Fumento, besides his analysis of the particularly filthy, infectious nature of anal sex with gays both giving and receiving it up the ass. He also talks about the general nature of the heterosexual vs. gay lives and shows a statistic that the average straight man has 0.85 sex partners per year vs. 60 for the gays. That’s between 1 and 0 meaning most men are either monogamous in some sort of relationship, or blue balled. Any player types can’t be very common, or the number would be over one rather that under. Only in the faked-out media are there all these girls looking for random sex with strangers. The only ones that do are getting paid for it, or it’s a man in women’s clothes trying to trick men into a Crying Game moment.

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Problems of the Arab Mind, with a Nod to Raphael Patai

Interesting comment on the site from this old post, which I really ought to run again. It sure would be nice to talk to this woman some more. I would like her to elaborate on her comments here. From the way she describes it, it is almost like Arab culture is an actual Culture of Narcissists, with most of the men being narcissistic mostly due to how they are raised. And yes the women are raised to feel inferior from the very start. This is the case in family life even from the early years. It is clear to the Arab girl growing up that the boys and men in the family are superior to the girls and women.

I totally agree with Robert. Being cunning while having no resources is natural to them. They also involuntary gaslight everyone around them 24/7, from business tactics to the closest people in their life (Yes, even family).

I am Latina and after being married to one and traveling to North Africa several times, I can assure you it takes their holidays of Ramadan to get them to actually help other people. They can walk right past a child dying of starvation and not offer and feel no remorse. They are unbelievably selfish to a point an American could never grasp. This is what allows them to get into relationships with other narcissistic Arabs. It’s sickening really because all women want is love, and a woman will never be happy married to an Arab for long.

They have an uncanny ability to manipulate and gaslight/brainwash people. It’s really fucking scary. All that charm with their good looks fucks your head up. They will break your spirit, disconnect your soul from your body, and hold it in a suspense state. I finally broke away after 13 years of loving and hoping he would change. I had to literally start recording our conversations because he would have me questioning my own sanity. When I was alone I would play those conversations back to myself because I honestly couldn’t remember at the time what was going on around me.

It’s all just so sad. I lost all those years living in CPTSD, and now I’m in total isolation. So what I’m saying is stay away from them as much as possible or you will be sucked in. Keep in mind I am a professional. I am a current member of SHRM and also a Human Resource Director.

The sad part is their women stand up for them because they were born and breed to be slaves via humiliation from the beginning. This is the way cults, the military, and other organizations manipulate their members to mind control them. These women don’t even know that they were born to gaslight themselves. Sad but true.

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Humans New and Old Are a Lot More Sexually Conservative Than You Think

Trash: However later Yankee arrivals post-Civil war included many sluts and prostitutes and this is why white Italian and German and Irish girls from the East Coast will suck your cock on the first date.

Whereas Mexican girls prefer gangbangs because that race got started when Indian women entered Haciendas where Charlie Sheen type degenerate Spanish nobleman were entertaining their sleazed-out fellow Spaniards.

Dude! Two things.

First of all, I have never met even one single White person who had White sluts or prostitutes as ancestors, and know people who do a lot of genealogy.  Yes there were prostitutes in the 1800’s, but there were not many of them,  and most Whites do not have prostitutes in their lineage. Nor do they have sluts. Whites were very conservative sexually in the late 1800’s-early 1900’s. Most women were virgins when they got married. Extramarital sex by women was not common. Even in parents’ generation, I was told that if you wanted to get laid as a man, you had to get married because as a single man it was too hard to find sluts who would screw you out of wedlock. My mother told me that her generation was told, don’t give it up (don’t have sex with) any man unless you get something in return, preferably a wedding ring.

I am not sure at all that most modern girls or women fuck on the first date. Your average US woman has only three sex partners in her entire lifetime. If all women were fucking on the first date, you think they would only end up with three sex partners in a lifetime? Come on. Also, I talk to men young and old all the time, and what I hear is that even young women do not necessarily put out or even do much of anything on a first date. You don’t even necessarily get a kiss.

Also, most men are having sex with lots of women either. Your average man in the US has a grand total of six sex partners in his entire life! Six! That’s all. Only 6% of men have had sex with over 100 females. Players are serious outliers statistically. If all women were giving it away as easily as you say, many men could easily accumulate high numbers of sex partners. That your average man has a mere six sex partners in his life means  that there is no way that every woman is screwing you on the first date. Just forget it.

In fact, I routinely meet single women on dating sites and  other places, never married and divorced, who tell me that they are not interested in having sex outside of marriage. A lot are divorced but say they’re not having sex until they get married again. I hear this all the time. Most divorced women I meet tell me they are not getting fucked at all. A lot of them tell me that their morals are the cause of them having no sex. They say things  like, “I would love to be getting fucked all the time and I need it real bad of course, but my damned morals get in the way. I just can’t live like that.”

And I routinely meet single and even divorced women who tell me they are not even looking to date. What are they looking for? They are looking for a husband, looking to get married. They’re single women looking for a new husband. Dating isn’t even in the equation. I hear this all the time. As a matter of fact, on a lot of those sites, if you say you are just looking for women to date, a lot of them will take off because they are only looking for men who are looking for a wife, looking to get married.

Second, Mexican women do not prefer gangbangs due to some racialized past. First of all, we have no idea if Indian women were gangbanged. I seriously doubt if they were as people were not that perverse back then. There were few Spaniards and many Indian women. It may have been 10,000-1 woman to man ratios. With ratios like 10,000 women for every man, you are not going to see a lot of women getting gangbanged by 10 guys. If anything, you might see reverse gangbangs, but even that did not happen. Spaniards simply took an Indian wife or maybe later another one. Some men were players. I heard about a Brazilian White man who was shared by 60 different Indian women over a lifetime.

We have no evidence that either Indian cultures or European Spaniard cultures engaged routine group sex of any kind, much less gangbangs. People were pretty conservative back then. Group sex is a new thing in the West except for a few outliers like Rome. If you study the rest of the world, there’s not a lot of group sex going on in any tribal cultures or traditional cultures anywhere on Earth. Group sex, swinging, gangbangs, etc. are a product in the West of the Cultural Revolution in the 1960’s and the Sexual Revolution that accompanied it.

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Black Women Are an Acquired Taste for White Men

I am on a dating site now that is full of Black women. Most of them don’t look good to me, but definitely some of them do look pretty damn good, maybe 20-30%. And it’s not just ones with a lot of White in them. A lot of darker Black women are hot too.

Fact is that a subset of Black women are just flat out hot and sexy as Hell. But the only way you will ever notice this is if you learn to appreciate Black people’s looks. We as Whites get psychologically indoctrinate early on that “Black is ugly.” I think it is more that they do not look like White people, so we are not used to their looks and we interpret them as ugly. I am thinking things like wide noses and whatnot. There is no a priori reason why a wide nose is ugly and a thin nose is attractive. I have been looking at a lot of wide noses lately and a lot of them look great. You just have to get used to the idea of a wide nose being attractive is all.


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Cherchez la Femme!

Comment  of the day:

You are so damn spot on. You give women a little and I mean a little bit of freedom and power they think they are GOD!! Tell you what women, here’s a small bit of reality you don’t seem to understand. You’re not the only one with a vagina!! So hold out on your guy, and I bet he finds someone else to give it up to him.

Damn right! Put out or else, ladies! You’ve been warned!

Extra gold star for anyone who can tie the pedantic title in (somewhat obscurely and sarcastically) with the post.

+10 extra credit points if you can tell us what the title really means. I don’t mean what it really means, I mean what it really, really means.

And yeah the true meaning is sexist, but so what! All in good fun, ladies! And don’t worry, I might give you some equal time. We haven’t renounced the Fairness Doctrine here on Beyond Highbrow yet, but it sure is tempting, I gotta admit.


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