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Destroying Many Myths about Teenage Girl-Adult Man Relationships

Women always want the best.

– Oscar Wilde

I would add teenage girls to that. Women and teenage girls always want the best.

First of all, I would like to point out that one of the main drivers of Teenage Girl Mass Hysteria has been feminist therapists exactly like this woman.

A teenage girl is with an older man. People end the relationship and everyone starts screaming about how she got abused and molested and damaged and ruined and how now she has to go a therapist now get over her being a victim of “child molestation.” The girl is typically utterly baffled and doesn’t feel 1% harmed by the relationship which she probably started herself anyway.

They ship her off to the feminist therapist who drills it into her head endlessly about how she was a victim of “child molestation,” about how she is a “child,” presumably the same thing as what are known as little girls, and how if she doesn’t “recover from the damage” she will be scarred and crippled for the rest of her life.

At first the girl thinks this is insane and stupid and probably wants to slap the therapist. But after a while, the therapist brainwashes her very well. Now the girl is going on and on about how she got molested, abused, raped, damaged and potentially ruined. What was formerly probably the peak experience of her young life is now regarded as a horrorshow of nightmarish abuse. She starts to develop a number of mental symptoms due to all the “abuse” she got. She was quite sane before. She was sane before and now she’s crazy! Iatrogenic therapist-induced mental disorder. Way to go feminists! Instead of making crazy people sane, you’re doing the opposite. You’re making sane people nuts. Good job! You want a medal for that?

Rebecca Patrick-Howard:

“On another note, how can you possibly “groom” a teenage girl? You can only groom children, and teenage girls are not children.”

Children, teenage girls, and grown women can ALL be “groomed.” Grooming occurs when a power figure (teacher, parent, dominant partner in the relationship) deliberately establishes an emotional connection and relationship with another person in order to exhibit control and to lower their inhibitions, usually for the purpose of exploitation or abuse.

Little by little, a seemingly healthy relationship becomes darker as the person is isolated from their family and friends, suffers mental and physical abuse-and sometimes sexual, becomes mentally and physically dependent upon the other person, and begins suffering from self-esteem issues and other behavioral and mental health problems.

Battered women are “groomed” every day. Just ask the formerly confident, attractive, independent woman who, after years of mental and physical abuse, finds herself kowtowing to their partner’s every wish and demand, losing her autonomy, and finding herself mentally unable to leave the relationship.

Women and teenagers are groomed in a different way. They’re taught to sit quietly without asking questions, to immediately respond to any text or phone call, to put their own needs and desires aside to focus on what their partner wants, to dress and behave in public the way the other person wants, to give in to sexual desires that make make them uncomfortable, to respond to things in a manner in which they are uncomfortable. They’re groomed to do these things in the beginning by being rewarded, just like a dog is rewarded for treats. And later, when they’re not complacent, they’re punished.

Certain women are targeted. Perhaps they appear vulnerable or weak. Or maybe they’re just young. They learn to gain the other person’s trust. They find their needs being met. Then the relationship becomes sexualized. From there, control is maintained. At that point, they’re often so entangled within the relationship that it’s difficult to get out.

If you’d like, I can provide data, research, case studies, and message boards where you can read many experiences from women and teenagers who have been “groomed.” From women and teenagers who have escaped abusive relationships and even sex trafficking situations.

“She probably seduced him. That’s how this stuff usually goes.”

I would like to see citations for peer-reviewed studies that show that the “most men having sex with teenage girls are doing it because the girls seduced them” and that “Also in almost all cases it is consensual”. Because I can tell you, as a woman and former teenage girl, that’s not been MY experience. As a family therapist, that certainly goes against the studies I’ve seen and read – not to mention the experience I’ve had with dozens of my young clients.

Regardless, a 13-year-old is a child. No matter how “mature” they appear, no matter if they’ve started menses or not, no matter if they have the body and vocabulary of a 20-year-old-they’re are NOT a woman. Either legally or emotionally.

Do you have a daughter?

I don’t have one, but if your daughter is a teenage girl, I bet she is pretty angry about the way you are trying to “protect” her from a harmless thing she doesn’t even want to be protected from in the first place! From her point of view, you’re annoying and in the way, big time.

In every case I heard about personally, the girl seduced the man. In all the cases I have read about on the Net, the girl went after the man. Teenage girls like men, you know. They mostly like boys, but there’s definitely a fair number of them who like men too, usually the better looking ones.

And underage teenage girls did this too me more times than I can count when I was having sex with them from ages 18-21 and then later when all relationships were platonic. I never sought out underage girls even as a young man when I was dating them. I didn’t have to. I just sat back and waited for them to come to me. They approached me or mutual friends said the girl wanted to go out with me. “Hey Bob, do you want to go out with Clarissa (14 year old girl)? She wants to go out with you.”

And I certainly never sought them out as “easy lays,” mostly because they aren’t. Teenage girls are not easy targets. It is actually quite difficult to date them if you are an adult. If we lowered the age of consent right now, it would be murderously difficult for me to date a jailbait. I’m too old for them, and they’re too hard to get anyway.

I have never in my life heard of men seeking out teenage girls as “easy targets.” Why would anyone do that? Girls like men enough that if you are into teenage girls and you are goodlooking and have good Game, all you have to do is sit back and wait for them to come to you, or at least make the first signals.

I have never in my life heard of a man who “could not get a woman his own age,” so he went after teenage girls. It boggles my mind that women and feminists actually believe this ludicrous notion. It doesn’t work that way! If you can’t get a woman your own age, of course you cannot get a teenage girl because they are far harder to date than grown women your own age.

I am 59 years old and although somehow I do date attractive young women in their legal teens through 20’s (against all odds and to my own astonishment), I must say that it is horribly difficult. And when I have to deal with young women in my regular doings around town, most of them look at me like, “Get the Hell away from me, creep!” It was never like that before. It was the opposite. Obviously I am too old for them. This is 100% due to age and 0% due to anything else. Even if it were legal, dating teenage girls would be even harder for me than young women because honestly they harder to get if you are older. The younger the female, the harder it is to get her if you are an older man.

For one thing, teenage girls are much pickier than women. In every case I have known personally, the girls seduced the men and the men were basically studs, players, playboys, womanizers, or whatever you want to call them. These were good-looking men with great Game who did great with women. Even in the cases I read about in the paper, the girls seem to be targeting the “Alphas.”

I have talked to teenage girls about this, and they told me, “We are not really into older men that much. But if we are at all, we only want the best, the cream of the crop.” Teenage girls are boy-crazy, and they will date all sorts of teenage boys. You don’t have to be an Alpha at that age. Many teenage girls have Beta or even Omega boyfriends. They are not so selective about boys their age. But once you start getting above the boys into the men, teenage girls get far pickier.

Bottom line is as far as I can tell, Beta and especially Omega men cannot even hope to get a teenage girl. Those girls only want the ~20% best men in your age group.

Look at cases in the paper. How many times have you heard of teenage girls pursuing movie directors (Roman Polanski repeatedly), rock stars (Bowie, Steve Tyler, Jimmy Page and surely many others, rich men (Trump, Jeffrey Epstein), teachers (strong authority figure with a good job and better than average smarts), writers (JD Salinger). See? They make a beeline for the best men.

Which has exactly been my experience. There are men out there who are attractive to most of the women. Call them the Alphas. Typically there are a number of women who would gladly date these men. These are the men that “all the women want.” Well, guess what sort of men teenage girls like? Exactly that type. Girls want the same cream of the crop men that all the women want. Girls and women are not all that different when it comes to sex. They all want the same thing.

Why on Earth would you get involved with a man if it wasn’t consensual? If it’s not consensual then it’s rape. If it was rape, why didn’t you report it to the police? Color me baffled. You say in your practice you have met many teenage girls who were in nonconsensual relationships with men. Leaving the family aside (where coerced sex with minors is very common) how many girls get into nonconsensual relationships with men? Why would anyone do that? Are you saying that all these girls were raped? That every time they had sex, it was a rape? That’s what nonconsensual means. Rape. If all these girls got raped, why didn’t they report it to the police?

If most of these cases are really rapes and not consensual, why doesn’t LE file rape charges against the men? Instead it’s usually some statutory type charge that merely says his only crime was having sex with a female in some restricted, off-limits age range.

I’ve never heard a typical older man-teenage girl relationship that was not 100% consensual. If it’s not consensual, why would she be there in the first place. Teenage girls are pretty damn smart. You can say that kids don’t have the ability to consent because they are unclear on the concept in the first place. But to conflate the lack of agency of little girls with the wariness,  worldliness and sophistication and argue that somehow teenage girls can’t figure out what consent means is nuts. Of course they know what it means. Only kids don’t know, and teenage girls aren’t kids. Their neither children nor adults. We might as call them girl-women. I know them very well. They are far smarter, wiser and sensible about this stuff than most people think.

Every case I read about in the paper appears to be consensual, especially long-term relationships. How many times have you read that the girl refuses to testify against the man because she loves him, thinks he did nothing wrong or regards the relationship as consensual.?

I have read that so many times that I can’t count it. She often pleads with the court to release him, saying she hasn’t been harmed in the slightest. The court disregards that fact that this was a crime involving two people where there somehow was no victim and heaves the guy into prison and throws away the key. In fact, so many teenage girls refer to testify in these cases that it is almost epidemic or expected. The only reason the men ever go down is because someone else reported the case. The girl almost never reports the case. Why would she? She’s doing what she wants to do.

This non-testimony is such an epidemic that many states had to dig out their laws and make new laws and rules so that the testimony of the victim was not even required for a conviction. They had to throw out proof of harm because most of these teenage girl fake-victims will swear on a stack of Bibles that they were not harmed at all.

I would say that the one group that is probably most angry at all about this Teenage Girl Mass Hysteria is the girls themselves. Quite a few of them want to get with hot men, but every time they nab one of their dream men, people like you grab her beloved boyfriend and throw him in prison. Hell, the “victims” themselves probably hate this mass hysteria more than anyone else. Most of the “victims” probably hate the law that is supposedly “protecting them.” Isn’t that rather idiotic?

I still don’t believe a woman can be groomed. The author says grooming occurs whenever there is a power discrepancy. Does she realize how often there is a power discrepancy between adult men  and adult female sexual partners? Does the author think it should be illegal to “groom” women? Would she propose an anti-grooming law for women victims of grooming?

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A Girl in Every Woman, a Woman in Every Girl, and a Chicken in Every Pot

I have been meaning to write this post for some time now but I have been terrified to do it. But it is an excellent subject of discussion. The stages of biological life that all humans go through is an interesting subject and it is perfectly sensible and normal for any human to be interested in such a topic. If we put this topic anywhere, we should put it under Medicine, which is the study of the human body after all. Problem is anyone who broaches the subject is going to get bombarded with accusations of pedophilia and perhaps ever reported to the police. In that case, let the bombarding and reporting commence.

The vast majority of people flipping out about a post like this are going to be persons of the hysterical gender, that is females. This makes no sense because the stages of biological life development ought to be very interesting for any curious woman. After all, every woman was once a girl, though no doubt most would probably deny it.

I would actually go further and say that there’s a girl in every woman.

Based on what? Based on years of experiences with relationships with many females, some of them even long-term. After a while, a student of women starts to learn quite a bit about them. Who knows more about women? A man who has been married to one woman his entire life or a man who never married and dated 200 women? I put this question to the smartest woman on Earth, which is of course my mother. She instantly said it would be the guy who had had experiences with all sorts of women. I don’t think having sex with prostitutes 200 times is going to cut it, though I guarantee you will learn a bit.

Sure the other guy gets to look at one woman down through the years, but one woman does not say much about Womanhood as a whole. He has a blinkered perspective. Whereas a man with many experiences (especially deep, prolonged and long-term ones) is going to sample the a good cross-section of Womanhood. As they say in statistics, sample size is everything. The larger the sample, the more accurate the results. The married man above has a sample size of one. The other guy has a sample size of 200. Whose study is going to be more accurate?

Women are mysterious and confusing and often make no sense at all. My female friends tell me that women are weird and impossible to figure out. But get a nice sample size, get to know some of them long-term and deeply, and after a while, you are going to see some real patterns.

As I said, there’s a  Girl in every Woman. And if you can get that Girl to come out and play, you can have a lot of fun with women. Some women have apparently killed their Girl. They are too serious and no fun, stuck in the dull and drab monotony that we drearily call Maturity. Yawn. But only some women have killed their Girl. Most have a Girl in there romping around somewhere. The trick is luring it out. And here’s where your Game skills will come in extremely handy.

And another thing I noticed, though not from dating, is there’s a Woman in every Girl.

If you watch little girls long enough, you can actually the Woman coming out in a lot of vague ways. Watch little girls playing house and tell me those are not tiny Women. I think Girlhood is a trial run at Womanhood. Girls seem to be in the process of learning how to be a Woman.

Of course as girls get older, you see the Woman more and more. But even in teenage years, girls are trading Woman and Girl back and forth and mixing them up.

  • Teenage girls are not children.
  • Neither are they adults.
  • They are girl-women, something in between that is neither a child nor an adult. A transitional phase.

It would be nice if rational people would believe this obvious fact, but alas, common sense has run away from our fair land and has not been heard of in some time.

A 16 year old girl has a complete woman’s body and a full-blown sex drive to boot, I assure you. But observing one lately, I was stunned at how much of a girl a 16 year old girl still is. Sure, she’s partly a woman. But she’s still so much  of a girl.

My latest revelation came from observing one seriously hot 16 year old girl at a function I attended in the Fall. Why was I looking at her? Well for one  thing, the feminists haven’t made looking illegal. They’re working on it, but that’s still a ways into the future. For another thing, she was staring at me, checking me out, and giving me bedroom eyes and zombie stares all night long, so what was I to do?

What did she want? No idea. But obviously I was making her horny. I’ve been around enough females to know what a horny female looks like. I can almost spot one half a mile away, blindfolded, at night, by now.

Not that she necessarily wanted to act on that feeling. What females feel and what they actually want to do about that feeling is a major part of female psychology that is poorly understood by almost everyone, including most women. See that woman staring at you all night long? Well, obviously you’re making her horny. Duh. So that means she wants to have sex with you then, right? Ay, there’s the rub. That’s not necessarily true. Maybe she just likes to look. Females probably encounter 10,000 males who make them horny in a lifetime. They don’t exactly jump on all of them you know. Thoughts and actions are two different things, although every day tens of millions of idiots can never seem to figure that out.

That 16 year old girl? Yes, it’s a woman. But in so many ways,it’s still such a girl. You don’t notice this until you get older because only then can you see immaturity for what it is. A young man gets too caught up in thinking these are little women because he’s not old enough to see how immature they are. Plus he’s thinking with his dick, and your dick doesn’t have a lot of brain cells last time I checked.

But you get to be my age, and you can see that girl as clear as air.

A 17 year old girl, ok, now we are getting somewhere. Especially right before they turn 18, a lot of them are after older men aged 29-59. This like graduation from Girlhood and on to Womanhood on a fast track. A 17 year old girl can be surprisingly mature. Nearly a little Woman. She’s way beyond a 16 year old girl, half a world away and past the International Dateline. How do I know? Guess. I told you I understand women pretty well. And that includes those little women called girls too.

But if you are around 17 year old girls enough, you are going to see that the girl is still quite prominent. She’s just having a dueling match with the Woman is all.

A few years back, I dated an 18 year old girl at age 56. How I pulled off this impossible task, I have no idea, but somehow I did it. She was interesting. Maybe I can only see it with age, but while there was a little Woman in there for sure romping about, I was stunned at how much of a girl this young woman still was. Even at adulthood, legally adult with all that comes with that, she was still quite a bit of a girl.

Although it was hard to obtain this information and the only way I got it was from men confessing to crimes, as soon as that sex drive hits, the Real Sexual Woman is out and about. There is a lot more to female sexuality than just sex. It’s a whole huge area of study that they could probably offer PhD’s in. The fun house mirror maze of Female Sexuality is what those Game/PUA blogs are trying to figure out. And they are doing a good job of it.

I read on the Net about a couple of men who had had sex with 13 year old girls. The girls seduced the men. Happens more often than you think. And they really did. Grabbing a man’s penis out of nowhere is pretty much open seduction, no? Because that is what these girls did. 

One was the mother’s boyfriend, and the other was the stepdad. These men described the sex that followed, and I almost fell out of my chair.

Because some of the things those girls did, I thought, “You know, that’s exactly what a woman would have done.” Precisely. Something happens in the female brain with the onset of the sex drive. They somehow get attracted to other humans (How does that work?), and the whole weird ball of wax called Female Sexuality comes out in full-blown form. A lot of this is cognitive stuff. I assume that the rush of hormones causes changes not just in the female body via a sex drive but also in the female brain to create a whole new cognitive way of looking at the world. I’m not going to go into it too much because you guys should know:

  • Confusion of love and sex, mixing them together, and mistaking one for the other.
  • Suddenly feeling very vulnerable and even frightened.
  • A desire to be not just protected but dominated.
  • A desire for a strong masculine man for this purpose.
  • The allure of the mysterious bad boy.
  • A bit of masochism or often more than a bit.
  • A desire for pain of different kinds and an association of sexual arousal with this feeling.

This is all cognitive stuff, and apparently somehow the estrogen creates all these cognitive effects in the brain. Amazing or what?

A girl after the full-blown onset of the sex drive is indeed a Woman in some very important ways. Now at that age, the girl predominates obviously, but I am stunned at how mature 13 year old girls are. The difference between a 12 and 13 year old girl is like a light year. A 12 year old girl is still not just a girl but a little girl. A 13 year old girl is no longer a girl. She’s a girl-woman beginning her maturational curve. And a girl that age is way smarter than you think.

So you see, the roles of Girl and Woman trade back and forth throughout the lifespan of a female. Girls are Little Women. Just ask Luisa Alcott. And women are big Girls. It’s a nice part of a woman, and it’s pleasure to see because usually woman are usually so happy when they let the Girl out. Happy, silly, joking, role-playing, nonsensical, absurd and even childish. But that’s a great thing to see in a woman, unless you’re all hard-faced and mature and all that. Plus she might be in love with you because women really let that Girl out when they fall in love. And she’s probably horny as Hell too, because you and I that know by a certain age, most girls are boy-crazy.

 

 

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PUA/Game: What – Besides Money – Are the Secrets of Older Guys Who Successfully Date and Bed Younger, Beautiful Women?

Question from Quora

At my age of 59, it is sort of like doing the impossible. Or the near-impossible. It’s that hard. Like climbing Mt. Denali maybe. It can be done, but it is so difficult that  most guys will just give up and not bother.

Money: This is actually not necessary, but it sure helps. You can do it without a nickel, but it is extraordinarily hard, like climbing a mountain. I think most men without money my age could not do it. Even if they could, most would not bother, as you would have to wade through an avalanche of hundreds of often-angry flat out-rejections to get anything even slightly positive. Older man without money – attractive young woman is a very discouraging game, as defeating and ego-deflating as they come.

Power: This helps but is not necessary. Women are powerfuckers. Period. Get power, get women.

Status: This helps but is not necessary. I ran a Facebook group that was full of single women for a while. The women in the group were always coming after me, apparently because I was the owner of the group. Alpha. Top dog. Boss man. Guy in charge. Think powerfuckers. If I was not in that position, probably hardly any of those women would have come after me.

Fame: This helps a lot. Some big male bloggers actually have blogger groupies after them. There will be groupies in any line or work of play who will go after the top men in that line.

Looks: Lacking any of those, the older man should be very good-looking for his age group. Say top 20% in his age range. As a young man, he was probably very good-looking, even a male model type. I know a couple of former male models far into their 50’s who still date young women, even teenage girls. Sure, they’ve been beaten with the age stick, but they still great compared to other men their age.

Game: This is really the end-all of the whole thing. I know men in their 50’s who still get hot young women. I asked them how they did it, and over and over I heard strange words like Game, x-factor, magic, telepathy, psi skills, spell-casting, mindreading, brainwashing, hypnosis. Some described themselves as Warlocks. I was shocked at the number of men who told me that they used almost psi-like skills to get women. I do not know if there is anything to any of these things. Perhaps they all work on some known psychological mechanism. Perhaps there is something to this stuff beyond known psychological mechanisms. Who knows how it works? But at any rate, these men are working very hard at psychological manipulation of female minds in any way they can.

These men are also expert seducers. They have the best Game I have ever seen. Their Game is usually better than most young men’s Game because they have been at it for longer. A 25 year old man has been using Game for 10 years. A 55 year old man has been using Game for 40 years. Who do you think might have the better Game? These men almost a PhD in Game. Game is simply the style, skills, appearance, vibes, behavior, charisma, charm, manipulation, etc. that men use to get women. A number of these men told me that over and over women told them that they were irresistible. Women felt actually powerless in their presence, as if they were under some seduction spell, and there was literally no way these women could say no to these men.

Barring all of the first four, an older man under 60 with great Looks + great Game should be able to get women of any age. And really with Looks + Game, any male of any age can get females at the very least around his own age range. It’s the deadly duo. Females can’t resist it.

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Charlie’s Pimpin’!

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80 year old Charles Manson with his hot 26 year old bride. Daaang Charlie, you’re pimpin, bro! Look how good he looks for 80. 80 years old and still playin! Play on playa!

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New Photo, Age 59

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Robert Lindsay the legend! Trolling Indians like a boss before it was even cool to troll Indians! Neener neener elephant jockeys.

I hate taking pictures of myself because I think my looks are pretty much shot from the glory days of my youth. Every now and then someone snaps a picture of me. Here is me eating out at a restaurant a few days ago. Photo taken by the woman I was having dinner with. We are pretty much the same age at heart, although I am 31 years older than she is.

I’m not sure what to think of this photo.

Women my age say I look fantastic, but I guess that’s compared to the competition. I’m not sure what young women think of me. A few tell me I’m cute. I dated a 29 year old woman recently, and she told people I was sexy. She asked my friend, “Hey, where’s your sexy friend (me)?” An 18 year old girl told me I was cute recently. She said, “You’re not hot. You’re cute.” A 28 year old woman told me I look great the other day.

If you were very good-looking in youth, which I apparently was because people were always raving about it, it’s a bit hard to take when your looks go, and you’re not that hot young handsome devil male model type you were as a youth.

All those women who were always checking you out like you were what’s for lunch? Now they won’t even talk to you. Sometimes if you approach them, they act like they are actually physically revolted. It’s a bit hard to take, but I manage because for some totally psychotic reason, I love myself, and I have the delusion that I am great. I’m not great; actually I am a total failure, but that’s reality, and as I told you, I’m psychotic, and fortunately, I am out of touch with reality. I enjoy this psychosis, and I refuse to take meds to cure myself. I hope to be psychotic like this until I drop.

Look, no matter how handsome or beautiful you are, there’s going to come a day when your looks are blown to smithereens.

“If you bet on the body, you bet on a losing horse.”

Famous Buddhist saying.

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Heterosexual Dating in Your 50’s in the USA, 2017

I had a date a while back, and even before our first date, this woman read off this list of all the perverted porn star stuff she would do.

“OK. Deep throat, anal sometimes, you can tie me up, you can handcuff me…but I will not have sex with another woman for you! And I give the best deep throat west of the Mississippi. That’s why you should choose me instead of those other women.”

I never even asked her to do a lesbian show for me. She just assumed I would want that. I have heard this a lot lately. I guess a lot of men are asking their women to put on lesbian shows for them or engage in male-female-female threesomes with them.

I thought it was pretty funny because I have been running into this a lot lately with women age ~50. They give you this laundry list of all the slutty things they will do. All women this age are totally pornified nowadays and into full on porn movie sex.

And by that age, most women have done just about everything sexual, and I do mean everything, and they have figured out what they like and don’t like. You can ask them to do just about anything, even things that young women flip out on, give you dagger eyes, yell at you and threaten to walk out the door for even suggesting that they do. The 50 year old woman just smiles gently and tells you she’s not into this or that perverted act for this or that reason. It’s like they’re at least open to just about anything sexual, you name it.

You meet these women age ~50, and even before the first date, they rattle off all the kinky and perverted stuff they do and how you should pick them because other women won’t do this or that dirty thing that they will.

I approve of this new trend among the older ladies.

This always makes me chuckle. Good God, in the US now, middle-aged single women are actually trying to outwhore each other. They are actually bragging about what big sluts they are, just to get a man. I guess by my age, decent men are a bit scarce, so the women really start competing hard for the guys.

I’m a Boomer. God I love my generation! I swear we will still be having sex and taking bong hits in the old folks’ home! We ain’t never gonna quit. We’ll party til we drop.

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Game/PUA: Effects of “Alpha” Behaviors on Love and Sex in Females

Juan: Alpha- from my observation that’s true when women hit 25-30. Before that TRASH is correct.

It seems to be a “shallow” thing as TRASH said.

Trash has made a number of statements about various female ethnicities and their sexual proclivities. My experiences have not matched his, but his reality is valid.

Studies consistently show that only 25-30% of women consistently reach orgasm with sexual intercourse. The rates go up to 80% with oral sex. I would say that all women like oral sex. I have given oral sex to quite a few Asian women, and they liked it just fine. Also to a few Hispanic women with the same response. The Hispanic women were pleasantly surprised that I would want to do such a  thing. With Black women, one thought it was weird, but she really got into it big time when I did it to her. For some reason, Black women think it is odd that any man would actually like to do such a thing.

Contrary to Trash’s characterization, I have found that White women can be very good fucks. Even White girls all the way down to age 14 can be really good fucks. They’re horny as Hell, and they really like to fuck from age 14 at least all the way to age 52 at least. I have no experience with females under 14 or over 52, so I can’t comment there.

Females at all ages, even teenage girls, can go at it for hours if you can keep it up. And I have had porno-style sex with quite a few White women. A White woman will do just about anything sexually if she is turned on by you and especially if she is in love with you. Sexual attraction turns on the female sex drive and love ramps it up to overdrive.

A woman in love frequently complains that she is horny all the time. She often says, “What is wrong with me? What have you done to me? Have you cast a spell on me?” I have heard this a number of times from different women and even from teenage girls. Yes, I did cast a spell on her, but it was a love spell. She’s horny all the time because she’s crazy in love and also because she is very turned on to the guy sexually.

Acting “Alpha” is great for getting women to fall nuts in love with you and turning them into nymphos who feel horny all the time and want to fuck all the time. I have no idea if my love spells work, but the women were definitely in love and they often accused me of putting a spell on them. Sometimes they even told me, “Take the spell off, dammit.”

I have also read quite a few other cases of men acting “Alpha” and getting women to fall nuts in love with them. These women also complained that they felt horny all the time.

Sexual attraction is necessary to turn on the female sex drive. “Alpha” behavior can add to this sense of attraction, but good looks really helps. Alpha -looks probably doesn’t work that great. Alpha behavior + good looks is a great ticket to wild love and crazy sex from women.

“Alpha” behavior can also create wild, head over heels love-type behavior in women. A woman this wild in love can also feel horny all the time because passionate love is an on switch for the female sex drive.

However, this wild love for “Alpha” behavior has a very unstable aspect to it. There is a lot of love-hate, screaming and yelling, wild fights, calling you back 20-30 times in an hour while cussing you out and hanging up, continuous threats, bickering, crying, fistfights, intense hatred and rage, along with a lot of wildly passionate love and all the great things that go along with that. “Alpha” behavior can also cause extreme submission in women. They often started calling me “Daddy” went they went crazy-submissive like that. In these relationships, I ended up doing a lot of incest role-play where I was Daddy and she was the teenage girl. I know you all are going to start calling me names now, so I will remind you that these roleplays were instigated by the women, not me.

I’ve never had such wild love affairs as when I started acting consciously “Alpha.” A certain amount of that was bastardy, but really it was more being not being pussy-whipped and refusing to fight back. I used to be horribly pussy-whipped and would never fight back against girlfriends for fear she would cut off the pussy supply. This did not work so well, but the relationships were a lot more stable. They also did not last that long and they were characterized by a lot of contempt coming from the women.

After I went “Alpha,” I did not so much act like a jerk who treats women like crap. Instead I started fighting back against bitch behaviors. “Shut up bitch!…Shut up you little bitch!…Fuck you!…Fuck you bitch!…” I even called them cunts quite a bit. “Shut up cunt!..Shut up you stupid cunt!…” etc etc.

The “treat them like crap” guys are right in the sense that fighting back brutally against bitch behaviors does seem to turn on a wild sex drive and a wild and crazy head over heels passionate love. But you have to be very kind and good to them when they are not bitching out. So it’s a combination of being a very kind and good man when she is being a good girl and being a real motherfucker when she is being a bad girl.

It’s almost like the way her parents treated her. As you can see in the submission and calling you “Daddy,” perhaps you are reverting her to childhood or better yet teen years when a powerful father was the source of tremendous love when she was good but also brutal coldness and cruelty when she was acting up. I have a feeling that females’ relationships with their fathers may be a lot more sexual than people think. Why else do women crumble into submission scared eyes and little girl voices and start calling you “Daddy” when faced with a dominant man? Why else do they want to do teenage girl-Daddy incest roleplays? What other explanation can there be for this?

You would think cussing women out when she is acting up would drive them away but it did not. Instead it tended to cause this wild, unstable, horny-all-the-time love affair-of-the-century behavior, albeit combined with frequent or continuous mood swings, frequent fights and a lot of hatred but little if any contempt. If you want wild, passionate love affairs with horny all the time nymphos down for anything goes porno style sex, this is apparently the ticket. On the other hand, these relationships are very wild and unstable, with continuous fights on a daily to multiple times a day basis. The bonus from that downside is the wildest love you have ever experienced. Love and hate are very close.

If you don’t want this wild, manic-depressive Hollywood movie love then you might want to try something more down to earth but more stable.

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The Old “Treat Woman Like Crap” Advice

GondwanaMan: Pumpkin Person told to me to try some sociopathy/narcissism, but it’s hard! I started reading Chateau Heartiste/Roosh V, then went outside of my apartment to try it out. First girl I tried it on, walked away. Same with the second. Then I went to a third one. Same thing.

Finally I found an elderly woman and talked down to her like she was stupid. She liked me, but I think only because she was hard of hearing and lonely. So I’ll try again tomorrow on someone else.

Personally, the last men on Earth I would read for advice on how to get women are ultra-misogynists and narcissist/sociopaths Chateau Heartiste and Roosh V. I suppose that technique could work if you are a real scumbag. Roosh’s advice seems to be mostly a How to Date Rape Women and Get Away with It manual. And Roosh is indeed a date rapist. That’s for sure. And boy does he hate women.

You hear a lot of players and womanizers give precisely this advice on how to get women and deal with them. They claim it works fantastic. Some of the worse ones even say that they beat and hit women, and this works wonders. None of this has ever made the tiniest bit of sense to me, and I’m pretty experienced with women.

As a man who has done quite well with women in his life, I would say that acting like a sociopath/narcissist in the sense you are talking about is just not going to work. I’ve never gotten women by talking down to them like they are idiots. Lots of players say the secret to women is to treat them like shit, but I’ve had many girlfriends, and that’s never worked for me. I don’t get it. How to guys treat women like shit and get away with it?

As it is, women in my life are always accusing me of insulting them or not caring about them or being mean or hurting their feelings. That is, being an asshole. However, I am generally not even trying to do that! I actually try very hard not to insult women or put them down too much, but it seems like women are paranoid and always reading insults into places where they are not intended. To the extent that I have treated women poorly in this way, albeit usually unintentionally, it’s never been anything but a disaster. I don’t get it. How do misogynists get women? How does insulting a woman get you laid? How does talking down to a woman make her want to go out with you?

Color me mystified.

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What Is Masculinity in US Culture?

Jason Y: Generally, I would disagree with crying and find it unmanly. Nonetheless, I think those obsessed with masculinity, honor culture on the level of Chuck Norris etc.. are masking insecurity. But hey, we all go thru karate phases etc.. growing up. At some point, though, it begins to seem idiotic.

No they aren’t. Those guys are the most secure about their masculinity of all.

Want to get along with them? Real simple. Just mirror their behaviors somewhat and abide by their codes of ethics and behavior. They really do not require much, and it is surprisingly easy to get even the macho-est guys to respect you.

Guys don’t really care too much about how you live your life. I had women tell me, “Oh masculinity is courage or honor or dignity or work ethic or grace under pressure or bla bla this or that,” but really it’s not any of that. These women were shocked when I said all you have to do is walk, talk, sit, stand, hold your coffee cup, move your limbs, and have mannerisms in the proper way. There is also an emotional code you should conform to but that’s not too hard. There is also a behavioral and ethical code which is about how you are supposed to act and what you are supposed to say in any given circumstances.

The women were stunned, “You mean all you have to do to be a man is display certain mannerisms and behaviors, tone of voice, etc.”

That’s it. Masculinity in the US is more of a talk the talk thing than a walk the walk thing. It’s all about a certain type of display. You engage in that display and you are pretty much in. Not much else is required. You ought to be heterosexual. Masculine men don’t like faggots too much. They may accept them, but they don’t want them in their club. Nor are faggoty straight men welcome. That gay stuff is just not ok. It might help if you can get laid too. Even better yet if you can pull hot women. If you are straight, get laid and pull hot chicks a lot of masculine guys will give you a break on all sorts of other things.

There are a few other things. Don’t be a flake. That means emotional. Don’t be too emotional. In fact, you might not even be able to be very emotional at all. Masculine men don’t seem to like much emotional display, especially negative emotion. They don’t even like anger too much. Too much anger looks scary and it looks like you don’t have your shit together. Also you seem like a “kook” or a “nut” – someone who is going around looking for fights. Believe it or not, that is very unacceptable in masculine culture.

Masculine men actually spend a good part of their time toning down their anger, ignoring it, burying it, displacing it, etc. Men are so violent and dangerous that any proper functioning male society has to have rules that call for mass tamping down of the anger most if not all of the time. Once you loosen those controls and let men get as angry as they want to anytime they want to, they will start fighting.

And fights among men are just too ugly. They get physical almost immediately because words lead to fists very fast among men. And physical fights among men are not ok at all because men are so strong, so dangerous and with such potential for extreme violence that there is almost no such thing as a simple fistfight that is guaranteed to leave it at that. Even a simple shouting much or God forbid a fistfight can escalate very quickly into dangerous, harmful or even deadly violence.

This is why when  you see a lot of men together, one thing you will notice is that they are actually going to extreme lengths to keep any fights from breaking out. This leads to a lot of insincerity, men pretending to like men they don’t even like, and a lot of BS talk like endless jokes or talk about sex, sports or other meaningless subjects. All of those stupid jokes and pussy talk has one main purpose – to keep these men gathered here from killing each other!

If any sort of hassle or fight breaks out, a lot of men will dive in quickly to break it up. Even arguments get shut down by others very fast. The reason is because all men know how violent and dangerous men are so even arguments can blow out of control very fast. And most men want to minimize violence in their lives as much as possible. Most men have dealt with male on male violence and most have figured out that it’s not a pretty picture. It’s not harmless good fun. It’s scary as hell and most men are very much afraid of the violent potential of other men. Men who do not fear such things usually end up dead or in prison at a pretty early age.

Women actually display far more anger and violence than men, but in women the rage and violence is almost all verbal and emotional. It does not often go physical and even when it does, no one gets hurt because women are too weak and wimpy to fight well. This is actually a good thing because if women were as physically dangerous as men, the world would be at least twice or more as violent and dangerous as it is now and you would not want to live in that world. Every time I hear a man bitching about women, I say, “Sure they’re nuts, but that’s because they’re not like us. You really want to live in a world where all the women act like men? Living in a world where 50% of the population is men is bad enough.”

I would also say that gay men are much more violent and angry than straight men, but once again, it is mostly channeled into a lot of verbal aggression, bitchiness, bitch-outs, temper tantrums, jumping up and down, screaming and yelling, etc. Yes, you heard me right. When gay men get angry, they act exactly like an angry woman! It’s pretty easy to take because a man having a womanly bitch-out is more comical than infuriating.

People do not give men enough credit for the tremendous efforts they go through to keep the peace. Men are probably 1% as violent as they would like to be, or even less. That’s how repressed our rage and violence is. You take those controls off, and you get Iraq, Syria or Afghanistan real fast.

Don’t be nervous. Men hate nervousness. It is a feminine quality.

Don’t be depressed. If you are, hide it, dammit. Lie and say you’re not. Drink. Do something else instead. Anything. Men really hate depressed men. It’s unbelievably pussy. And women don’t like depressed men either. Actually, they hate them with a ferocity that must be seen to be believed.

Know the rules. Don’t break the rules and say or do stupid shit. That’s being a flake, a kook, a weirdo or an idiot.

Keep the gay stuff out. Homosexuality is out among masculine men. That’s the one place no one wants to go. You can’t even talk about it very much. Homosexuality is the turd in the punchbowl at any gathering of masculine men. Not only can you not do such things, but you cannot even think such things. A man giving off gay vibes like he’s turned on by other guys will see those vibes get picked up very fast and other men will start avoiding him. He may be asked to leave the gathering. Why? He’s the turd in the punchbowl. He’s ruining the whole gathering with his stupid faggy BS.

It might help if you worked. Men don’t like bums too much. You can’t work too hard to please other men. In fact, if you work more than one job or more than 40 hours a week, you will earn immense respect from other men for some reason. Workaholism is rewarded.

Don’t leech. Men don’t like leeches. If you do leech, lie and say you don’t. It’s not masculine to live off social services.

Don’t have a woman who openly ridicules you in public. If she ever does that, get in her face and say, “Shut up bitch!” It doesn’t matter who hears you or how shocked other people are. Nothing will happen. And you will earn brownie points for standing up to the bitch. Men don’t like pussy-whipped idiots who let their women push them around and bitch them out. Just having her do this is not bad in itself. What’s bad is if you puss out like a little girl, act submissive and hurt and tell her to stop in some whiny,  high-pitched girly voice. It’s disgusting to just sit there and take it like a pussy.

You have to either fight back against the bitch or act cold and mean towards her. If you are in say a restaurant and your girlfriend is bitching you out in public, people might start giving you funny looks. I remember older Mexican men looking at me with disgust when that happened to me. You need to have serious consequences for that behavior. If that happens, tell her to shut up and then stand up and say, “I am leaving until you stop being such a bitch.” Go outside. Go sit in your car. If it’s your car, you can even ask when she will be done and tell her you will come back and get her when she’s done. Or if you have not ordered yet, tell her you are leaving and she’s either coming with you or taking a taxi home.

It’s not so much that it is humiliating to have your woman bitch you out in public. It’s more the reaction of the people around you. Some other people will be disgusted by her bitch-out and their attitude will be that you are a big fat pussy girly-boy who cannot control his woman. You lose a lot of respect from those people and their respect is important.

It’s not real difficult to get along with masculine men. Just follow some basic rules, be very careful about every little thing you say and do, and everything should go smoothly. Most such guys want to like you. They would much rather like you than hate you. If you act in a likable and proper way, they are more than happy to have you as one of them.

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PUA/Game: A Lot of Women Go Nuts for “Pure Androgynes”

Jason Y: A suspected queer in the family. Great, another way for the narcissist to feel superior.

He is not a suspected queer. Only the NPD called him gay. No one else in the family ever did. In fact, if you called my friend gay to the rest of the family, they would start laughing so hard they would almost fall on the floor. It’s because he’s the opposite of gay. It’s like laughing at a very skinny man trying to insult him by calling him fat. It’s preposterous.

That’s because my friend is so hyper-heterosexual that he is almost like the most wildly heterosexual man that ever lived. Even though he is rather “feminine” (quiet, soft, likes to read and write, and I think he even sews and knits lol) in some ways, he is not effeminate (acting like  a woman) at all.

All these PUA guys go on and on about acting masculine, but you would not believe how many of these “feminine” men I have met who were such crazed womanizers that it would blow you away.

But most of them had a masculine side going too. A lot of them were involved in illegal activity like selling drugs. They were almost all “bad boys.” Like bad to the bone. That’s the thing, everyone thinks that it’s only hypermasculine guys who are bad boys, but that’s not really true. You would be amazed at how many “feminine” (not effeminate) bad boys there are out there. Some of them are pretty bad too. Like, real bad.

Really, a lot of the craziest womanizers I have known had a strong feminine side along with a heavy masculine side. They were basically “pure androgynes.” I am thinking that the feminine side enabled them to get along with women well and maybe even understand how they think, to the extent that can be understood at all.

These PUA guys selling hypermasculinity like a drug are fools. My observation in life is that a lot of women and girls go absolutely nuts for these pure androgyne types. By no means all women are like this, and a lot of women say these guys are not their type because they prefer a more traditionally masculine man. White and Asian women especially go nuts for these guys. Black and Hispanic women, not so much. I think those women want or even demand hypermasculine guys. I am sure they are socialized that way, but still.

Iggy Pop said David Bowie got more women than any man he had ever known. “From waitresses to heiresses, they all wanted him,” he said. Go to a Bowie video on Youtube and it will be full of women and even girls gushing about how much they want to fuck him. And what’s a bit funny is there are quite a few guys, gay or bi I guess, who are saying the same thing. It’s like everyone wanted him. All the guys and all the girls, they all wanted David. Must have been nice.

For pure androgynes,  I am think maybe Jagger or James Dean. Or even Marilyn Manson maybe. Or Russell Brand for sure.

You don’t have to be a he-man to get women. That’s one of the biggest lies out there.

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