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Can Both Dependent Personality Disorder and Schizoid Personality Disorder Exist in a Person at the Same Time?

Answered on Quora.

That’s not possible at all. One diagnosis would cancel out the other one. It’s not possible to have both diagnosis.

A Dependent PD is characterized by an excessive need for others and an intolerance of being alone.

A Schizoid PD is characterized by no need for others at all and a love and preference for being alone.

You can’t both need  people and not need people. You can’t both love and prefer being alone and be unable to tolerate being alone.

The diagnoses cancel each other out.

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Is Overthinking about Personal Interactions in a Social Setting Part of Dependent Personality Disorder?

This is typical and often pathognomonic of Social Anxiety Disorder. It can also be seen in some people with Avoidant Personality Disorder. But with Social Anxiety Disorder, this symptom is always present.

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Are Psychopaths Really Bad People?

Answered on Quora. There are a lot of answers on there from psychopaths themselves saying that they are not bad people at all. Don’t listen to them. Seriously, just don’t.

Of course they are. But then, I don’t cotton well to assholes. I don’t see how anyone could tolerate such an aggressive and hostile person for very long. As a general rule, if you let a psychopath into your life, you will be harmed. Not maybe harmed, not a chance you will be harmed, but a certainty that you will be harmed. Because that’s what they do. Psychopaths harm and damage other humans as part of their basic life trajectory.

Even controlled psychopaths like some surgeons (a great profession for a controlled psychopath) are not very pleasant to be around. While they are not criminals, most people who know them will say that they are assholes or bastards. Of course, to a psychopath, that is a compliment.


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What Is the Most Misdiagnosed Mental Illness?

Answered on Quora. A lot of the other answers are also very good if you are interested in psychiatry.

I work for the most part only with persons with OCD. I don’t even claim to be able to treat any other mental disorders. When I get people with other disorders, I refer them out, especially if they badly need help.

OCD seems to be poorly diagnosed. I get people who obviously have OCD who have been misdiagnosed as something other than OCD all the time. A lot of the time, the clinician simply does not know what is wrong with the person. At other times, they diagnosis is simply something like “anxiety,” which is not very helpful, as there is a lot more to OCD than just anxiety. The people given a diagnosis of “anxiety” in general were not being properly treated.

The second one I get a lot of is some form of psychosis. It is very common for people with OCD to get a misdiagnosis of some form of psychosis. I see a lot of “psychosis”, “mild psychosis”, “mild schizophrenia”, “psychotic depression”, “schizophrenia”, “manic psychosis”.

Almost all of these people are being treated with antipsychotic drugs, and in almost all cases, the drugs are not working or are even making them worse. I simply tell them that they are not psychotic, the diagnosis is in error, please fire your psychiatrist, and look around for another one until you find one who figures out that this is OCD.

The problem is that people with OCD quite commonly appear psychotic when the illness is bad. They “appear” psychotic, but if you examine them very closely, it becomes glaringly obviously that they are in fact not psychotic at all!

In addition there is a form of OCD called by its sufferers “Schiz OCD” in which the person worries and obsesses that they are going psychotic. They often worry that they are developing schizophrenia. I have seen more people with this problem than I can count. Some of them were properly diagnosed, especially by clinical psychologists, but many others were not.

The condition is further muddled by the fact that the person will start to develop a number of “psychotic-like” symptoms that can even include perceptual alterations. They develop “fake auditory hallucinations” where they think they are hearing voices but actually they are not. They are just misinterpreting ordinary sounds in the environment as hallucinations. They also develop “fake delusions” in which they worry that they believe crazy things when in fact they do not.

I am now very good at differentiating fake hallucinations from real ones and fake delusions from real ones and worrying that someone is psychotic from actually being psychotic. But it took me a long time to figure it out, and it’s not clear or obvious at all unless you are very good at diagnosing this particular condition.

Also the obsessions themselves or the illness itself can simply look like a psychosis. I could give you some examples, but space is limited here. Suffice to say that OCD can be a very strange, weird illness and the obsessions can look like delusions. You have to be good at differentiating between an obsession and a delusion, and the distinction is not clear at all.

However, an obsession that looks like a delusion has a particular “feel” about it that an actual delusion simply does not have. It’s more of a Gestalt, intuitive or impressionistic conclusion than a logical one.

Suffice to say that people with OCD often have a certain sameness about them. I like to say “they are all reading off the same script.” After you have seen enough of them, you can practically spot them 1/2 a mile away blindfolded at night, but few clinicians see that many people with OCD.

When OCD is extremely bad, it does indeed look like a psychosis, and the difference between severe OCD and “psychotic OCD” (which actually exists) is not clear at all. I had people who I mulled over for months whether they were actually psychotic. However out there they are though, generally reality testing is still somewhat intact.

You can start getting into the territory of some truly bizarre symptoms. I remember describing one girl’s symptoms to a retired LCSW with decades of experience. She said, “Well, this person is psychotic. That’s all there is to it.” I actually now believe that she was not, but if I told you the very weird ideas going through her head, you would probably immediately say psychosis too.

The problem is that in order to get good at this sort of micro-diagnosis, you have to see a lot of people with the disorder. After a while, you start seeing a common syndrome and a diagnostic picture develops. But a clinician who only sees people with those symptoms rarely if at all has little opportunity to hone his diagnostic skills.

If any clinicians are reading this, you can see that I am complaining that many clinicians do not understand this condition well, hence it is often poorly diagnosed and treated. I believe it is important for clinicians to understand this poorly understood disorder better. How to go about doing that, I do not know. That is for you to decide.

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A Good Take on Khan Tusion, Notorious Porn Director

Interesting comment from a commenter on the famous “Porn Star Assaulted on Set post. That post gets a Helluva lot of views and it’s also been posted around quite a bit. If you want to see what Tusion is accused of in this matter (and other matters) head on over to the post and read up on it.

I must say that I generally agree with this fellow’s sentiment. I like it kind of rough sometimes, but that’s not as nuts you think. Do you have any idea how many women like it a bit rough? Are you kidding?

The reports about Khan Tusion bothered me on a deep level. Indeed, those clips themselves are very disturbing. The Facial Abuse site is similar. I’ve long felt that that site needs to be shut down. Those sociopaths are doing exactly what Khan is doing, with predictable results.

I really don’t get this. If I am in bed with a woman, it’s because I like her. If she’s my girlfriend, it might even be because I love her. If I like her or love her, why in the Hell would I treat her like shit? This has never made sense to me.

W. Addams: I just don’t understand why people can’t understand the difference between consensual rough sex porn and actual abuse. I’ve heard people argue that the actresses knew what they were in for, that they are stupid “whores”, etc., for getting involved with rough sex porn, and some people even say “He wasn’t even hitting them that hard, what’s the big deal?”

Dudes. I watch a lotta porn. I watch BDSM and rough sex porn. I practice BDSM and rough sex with my partner. Let me tell you– there is a way to do it that isn’t abusive.

One of the biggest issues with Tusion’s approach is the emotional/mental abuse. It’s quite personal in nature. He talks about the actresses’ families and parents while they’re engaged in degrading acts, demands to know the childhood names their parents called them, makes them say hello to their fathers, etc. He tells them they’re stupid, shit, worthless, etc. But all of it is done on a personal level, as an attack against the woman — the human being — herself.

In any rough porn, what typically happens is the sub actress (or actor) is given a safe word that she can use at any time.

Also, she is asked at the beginning what her limits are, and the director and dom actors will stay within them and not then try to bully her on-camera into going beyond them (something Tusion does).

Finally, these scenes are almost always enacted as an alternate reality — a situation like “school girl and principal” or “patient and nurse,” or even just the alternate reality of the actress as her actress self, not her real self. This creates a level of distance which makes a safe place for people to explore outrageous kink.

Tusion disregards all of this and flat-out mentally abuses human beings, on purpose.

There’s no reason for this except sociopathy. It isn’t just “misogyny.” It’s more than that. It’s a lack of respect for a fellow human being.

Just because someone is in porn doesn’t mean they deserve to be treated like absolute garbage. If anyone consumes porn, you know full well that you are a hypocrite if you criticize porn stars. You’re just as guilty as they are for supporting the porn system. So support them when they speak out about assholes in the industry. No one should be working with Tusion again.

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Male Homosexuality as a “Syndrome”

Roy Kozlowski: I love being fisted, have it elbow deep and a few times double fisted. Always have gloves and plenty of crisco. Was at a party a while back and let 6 men and 3 women fist me I loved it. Swallowed at least 12 loads of cum it was awesome would like it again.

This is a rather typical statement from a gay man. I can’t even count the number of times I have seen gay men write something similar. Face it, gay men are extreme whores, they are incredibly sleazy and they are sexually degenerate as Hell. And this is coming from a sexual libertine.*

I don’t necessarily begrudge them being this way because I think they are always going to be this way.

This behavior seems to be a permanent feature of male homosexuality. It is part of the “syndrome” of male homosexuality, and it is indeed a syndrome.

This is why clinicians insisted it was a mental illness for such a long time. Now I do not think it is a mental illness for a variety of reasons. First, there’s no cure or treatment. Second, the person is often completely happy and is not making everyone around them miserable. We generally only diagnose mental illness when the person is upset about it, when it is messing up their lives or when it is causing them all sorts of interpersonal problems with others.

Homosexuality fails on all of those tests. Another important test would be the sanity of gay men. If homosexuality were a mental illness, gay men would all be pretty nutty. Yes, gay men are pretty nutty. Go hang around an area that is swarming with them for years and you will figure that out for yourself. And they are significantly more mentally ill than non-gay men, although most of the pathology is in relatively minor things like depression and anxiety, which are always elevated in groups of gay men.

However, the fascinating thing is that there are gay men who are not just healthy but incredibly healthy. I know because I have met them. If there are significant numbers of gay men who are the picture of mental health, we cannot possibly call it a mental illness because robustly sane people cannot be said to have a mental illness.

So homosexuality is not a mental illness although, I would argue, it acts like one! That is, it is a syndrome. Homosexuality usually comes as a package with a lot of other things attached to it, and quite often those “barnacles” are pathologies of one sort or another. So whatever causes the homosexuality might cause the other issues too.

My current argument is that it is a developmental process in the womb – that is, homosexuality is a developmental disorder like, say, left handedness. Studies show that gay men in the most pro gay nations have just as much psychiatric pathology as those in homophobic countries, implying that the mental stuff is a feature, not a bug. However, purely anecdotally, in recent years, the young gay men that I meet seem to be so much mentally healthier than the ones I grew up. They’re so healthy that sometimes I wonder if they are really gay!

Before we knew what this illness was all about – We used to think homosexuality was caused by childhood upbringing and straight guys turned gay, even against their will, meaning you could turn gay at any time. I actually used to worry that this would happen to me. I imagine I was not alone, as jokes about turning gay were very common in that era.

Back in that era of ignorance, the subject of gay men would come up. My mother would always look at me gravely and say, “They’re not happy. That’s one thing about gay men. They’re just not happy.”

One time I stayed over at a friend’s house who was living with a gay man. I met him early in the AM and then later on for breakfast. I told my mother about it the next day as I had just gotten out of college and was still at home. She looked at me deeply. “They’re not happy,” she said. It perked me right up and lights went off in my eyes. “Yes!” exclaimed with stunned recognition and acknowledgement of her wisdom. “He wasn’t happy. He wasn’t happy at all.” I shook my head. “Yes,” she said, nodding her head.

A very popular book about lesbianism forever now is called The Well of Loneliness. One of the best plays ever written about homosexuality (I highly recommend it) is called The Boys in the Band A group of gay men in their 40’s get together and talk about life. Their basic unhappiness is palpable and tragic. Once again, the basic unhappiness of homosexuals seems more of a feature than a bug. Somehow or other, it’s part of the “syndrome.”

If we see homosexuality as syndromal, so many things light up for us.

The vastly decreased lifespan; the frequent hatred for women; the hatred for their fathers; the effeminacy; the bitchiness; the extreme and nearly deranged promiscuity and polymorphous perversity; the obsession with seducing straight men; the love of opera; the almost bizarre obsession with sex; the increased and often extreme sadism and masochism; the somewhat elevated rate of pedophilia; the marked preference for younger males (the preferred age is 18-20); the very frequent obsession with pederasty and teenage boys; the seeming death-wish underneath so much of the behavior; the basic unhappiness, the elevated levels of depression and anxiety, the heavy use of tobacco, drugs, and alcohol; the very frequent domestic violence; the nearly messianistic proselytizing; and even the apparently elevated creativity…it’s all part of a package.

And if you go back and read the earlier analytical literature on homosexuality, they may have been wrong about the cause, but their description of homosexuals was immaculate and touched on everything above. The reports often had a numbing sameness about them through decades. In terms of descriptive psychology, the portrayal was almost perfect. And although the profession got far off track in trying to cure it, even Freud said it was basically incurable. He also said it wasn’t really a mental illness even if it was not exactly an optimal outcome.

The usual Cultural Left comeback is that straight people are like that too.

Really? Did you see how that gay man acted at that party?

Just how many straight men go to sex parties and orgies and act like that? How many straight men like to get fisted in their asses, much less double fisted? I can tell you, having researched this, that it is very few.

How many women live like this? How many women go to parties and get fisted and double fisted by groups of people. There are now some women in porn who are getting fisted, mostly in BDSM porn (you can see a lot of this at but that is a very bad trend. I have never met a woman who liked to get fisted in the ass. Most are not even wild about anal sex, for Chrissake. How many women go to parties and suck off 12 men and swallow the semen of all of them? I’ve never met one woman in my life who did such a thing, and I’ve met and dated a lot of women.

The number of straight people who engage in such over the top ultra-whorishness and near-deranged perversity is very small. In fact, I’ve never met one in my life. But this level of sexual debasement and degeneracy is very common in gay men. Statements like you see above are not uncommon at all. Go to gay websites where they talk about their sex lives and read around.

The Cultural Left keeps insisting that gay men are just like straight men except for the PIV sex. Well…no, they’re not. Gay men are…well…they’re different, and it’s not just about where they stick their dicks. They’re different from us on a completely different level, so different that male homosexuality is nearly a syndrome or cluster of common behaviors in and of itself.

* I would like to add that not all gay men are like this. Some gay men are upset and condemning of the profound whorishness of gay men. I knew a gay man who was not like this at all. In fact, he had been celibate for the last five years. So while a lot of them are like this, it is definitely not all of the. Some gay men are rather conservative sexually.


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PUA/Game: Freud’s Eternal Question: The Hamster Wheel, Strong Emotionality, Female Self-Delusion – Self-Annihilation Drive, and Feminism

If you start to figure out females, pat yourself on the back. You’re better than 75% of both men and women in that regard. Even Freud could not figure out these endlessly baffling, complex and mystifying creatures.

What does a woman want?

– Sigmund Freud, father of modern psychology.

And yes, the fact that females don’t even understand females is seriously pathetic. Misogynists take note. Here’s one more weapon for your arsenal!

But it’s probably not as bad. Most people are not as evil as their enemies say they are, and the MGTOW’s and redpillers overestimate their opponent, a natural human tendency. Remember the Missile Gap? Remember the SALT Talks? North Korea, Iran, Russia, and Venezuela are current cases. It must be a natural human tendency:

  • Always grotesquely exaggerate the danger and evil of your opponent.

So the charge like so many misogynist beefs is probably false. Actually women probably really do understand women, if they have any sense anyway. No wait. Well, anyways. Moving right along.

Women probably understand women as they understand so many things, but women spend most of their lives blinding themselves to cruel reality because it doesn’t line up with their fairy tale dream of what life is. These self-delusions that women are constantly spinning as, frankly, a defense mechanism, are what is known as the hamster wheels.

So women are not really stupid. More that they are in general self-deluded. The delusions or hamster wheels were created typically by emotions, and women are extremely emotional. So the wild emotions are like your pet rat on the wheel. They’re the fuel that powers the hamstering.

The strong emotions created the delusions (as a defense mechanism) because the truth about life is so awful that many women find it horrific, and they just can’t handle it. Really none of us can handle life (men mostly just fake it), but men are much more like to say, “If life gives you a shit sandwich, eat it whole!” Women shrink back remarks like that, being the Tender Sex. And with their natural tendency towards depression and even annihilation, worldviews like that rapidly tumble them into depression that often becomes suicidal. Almost all women will become suicidal at some point in their lives. Suicidality is nearly a feature of the feminine. I have had enough girlfriends to where I almost wonder if it as an actual drive towards self-annihilation.

On the other hand, we males are born with a drive to annihilate others, so maybe the born suiciders level out the born homiciders and somehow harmony is created.

The takeaway point here is that all the female hamstering and self-delusion is a defense mechanism, probably against depression and suicide. One can hardly fault women for creating defense mechanisms against such things, and there’s an excellent argument that such defenses are necessary.

So they make up the fake reality and call it real. In general, most women cannot tease apart the fake reality from the real reality in all cases, but the best women can tease it apart in 80-90% of cases. These are the women you want in your lives. The more wild hamstering and self-bullshitting with no capacity for reflection at all, and the more problems you are going to have with that women, in my opinion. You will have problems with her if you choose to live in actual reality while she chooses her hamster world.

That’s a recipe for endless fights and outrages. She probably also thinks you are a scum or you’re evil. Women look at men who see life as it is and say, “Wow! Look at how that man thinks! He’s scum! He’s so evil!” This is because in our world people who do not buy the pretty lies about life (usually created by women) are regarded as evil. This is because in the reality of the Hamstering World, the way it is set up is that anyone who refuses to see the reality of Hamster World is simply evil. Hamster World is a nice place full of lots of pretty little lies. Anyone who refuses the reality of this beautiful world in favor of a worldview which is much more evil (even if it is grounded in reality) is seen as having an evil worldview.

People with evil worldviews are bad people. Assholes, bastards, pigs, wankers, creeps. We’ve all been called them all. Being called those names is the price you pay for being a man who sees the world as it is really is – a shitty, lousy, down and dirty rat race dog eat dog jungle full of dangerous apex predators of both sexes. Notice I said of both sexes. This is important. Women call us predators, but all humans are predators. More importantly, all men are predators due to their male imperative. However there is also a female imperative that makes women just as predatory as men. Both sexes are preying on each other. Our prey is our needs. This goes for both sexes. Dog eat dog, and eat or be eaten. I choose to eat, thank you very much.

We see Hamster World in women’s politics first and foremost, such as feminism. Feminism is simply the worldview of women, which is largely constructed of self-delusions created to make the world seem like it is the world women want to live in instead of being the pretty damn lousy world that women really do live in. This is why feminism is so nuts and irrational. It’s also why it is as devious and conspiratorial as the Protocols. Feminism is a philosophy with a based on massive self delusions about how the world works, so it literally cannot be rational, and the psychological drives pushing the Hamstering logic make it crafty, conniving, devious, deeply unfair, and somewhat wicked.


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Time Wounds All Heels

I was worried that I was a narcissist myself because I had a therapist who told me I was one, mostly because I happen to like myself a lot. So I sought out my best old therapist from the old days and asked him. He told me that I had “high narcissism” which just means “high self-esteem.” I am perfectly happy to have high self-esteem, but some people don’t like it. I have had girlfriends complain that I am “self-impressed.” My attitude is, “This is bad?” When I was young I remember a young woman maybe aged 18-20 once offhandedly said, “All men are vain,” in a world-weary tone of voice. She acted like it was some sort of basic fact of nature.

I don’t have NPD because I still care quite a bit about other people. But I have gotten the “You don’t care” thing from girlfriends before. One thing is just that I don’t need humans all that much. I won’t even call my best friends for long periods of time simply because I don’t need them. I mean I love them, but I would probably only call them if I needed them. I am quite happy by myself, and I don’t have huge needs for others. But girlfriends keep interpreting this as “you don’t care.”

What’s nuts is when they say this I am so crazy head over heels nuts in love with them it’s pitiful. I keep trying to tell them that, but they keep coming back with the “You don’t care” thing. I told my Mom and she said, “Oh, women are always saying their husbands don’t act like they love them.” Then she told me the story above about the guy who responded to his wife that the fact that he stuck around at all meant he loved her since if he didn’t love her, he would be gone in a New York minute. I think men and women have different ways of expressing love.

Generally speaking, when narcissism is excessive and you are turning into an asshole, it’s better to tone it down, and you will often become a better person as a result.

I watched a couple of documentaries about some rock stars who are now in their 40’s and 50’s. A couple were notorious for being arrogant, egotistical assholes. Actually I imagine it was more than a couple. But I noticed that so many of these guys had really toned it down at age 48-58. Even the ones who were serious arrogant assholes had seriously toned it down. They were so much more likeable as a result that it is hard to put it into words. A little bit of humility goes a long way.

A lot of people are pretty narcissistic, arrogant, egotistical and assholey when they are young. In particular, many young men in their 20’s and even into their 30’s are serious assholes. I like to say that the reason they are like is because they haven’t had enough bad things happen to them yet!

But usually by age 40, most people have toned it down. Arrogant people over age 40 are not common. The thing is that by age 40, most people have had about a million failures and bad things happen to them and not too many still think their shit doesn’t stink. With age comes humility. This is a rather normal life course for a lot of basically normal people who do not have any particular personality disorder, narcissistic or otherwise.

The problem with NPD is the narcissist hits 40 and has had a million failures and bad things happen to him, but instead of becoming humble, his response is to wildly ramp up the narcissism as a response to all of the narcissistic injuries or wounds that these bad things and failures caused. NPD’s also don’t take to aging very well. Aging is hard on anyone’s self-esteem, and to the narcissist it is positively confounding.

In other words, NPD’s do not follow the typical life course of increased humility with age.


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We Are All Narcissists Now

This is an older post that I fixed up and added a lot of new stuff too.

fMRI scans show that we’re most comfortable looking at faces similar to our own.

As you can see, we are always in love with ourselves. Even when we are in love with other people, we are really in love with ourselves.

In my opinion, everyone is somewhat narcissistic. It’s adaptive to a certain degree, especially among males. It’s only when it starts getting out of control that it is pathological.

Keep in mind that another word for narcissism is self-esteem. You either have low, moderate or high narcissism, which means you either have low, moderate or high self-esteem. High self-esteem in and of itself is not pathological and instead is typically seen as a sign of good mental health. However, they can seem a bit overbearing or too much, I would agree with that. These are the people who we say are egotistical, have huge egos, or are self-impressed.

Visualize a scale from 0-100. A score of 1 is the least narcissistic, most ashamed, guilty, self-effacing, self-denying, masochistic doormat around.

Anything above 50 and you are starting to get into the narcissistic without being pathological, high narcissism or high self-esteem folks, which is where a lot of males are anyway, and it’s definitely where I am. Here you find a lot of folks, mostly males, who are vain, conceited, self-centered and sometimes arrogant. They are friendly people, but people who get close to them, for instance female lovers, often complain, “You don’t even care about me.” As a matter of fact, this is a very common complaint that women in general make about their male lovers/spouses in general. They make this complaint because males tend to be more narcissistic than females.

A female friend of my mother’s once asked her husband, “Do you still love me? You never tell me that you love me anymore.” Her husband looked around at the room he was sitting in, looked back at her and said, “Well, I’m still here, aren’t I?” A classic male response. “Hey, if I didn’t love you or like you, I wouldn’t even stick around.” But that’s not good enough for women. Women want to be reminded. Males and females are capable of love, even intense love, for each other, but they often express it in different ways. Women fall in love and form relationships for attachment needs – needs that want and require continual reinforcement. Males fall in love and form relationships for other reasons.

When you start getting up around 70 or so, you get into some pretty pathological narcissism, but it’s not yet the nightmare world of Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

I had a friend on the Net who was very perverted and loved to talk about sex all the time. He was a bit of a swinger, and he had screwed countless females. He was also somewhat bisexual, as many male perverts are. We would get into long, dirty conversations on the Net, and he would tell me all about his life from a sexual point of view.

One very interesting story he told was that when he was a teenager, his parents hired a Thai maid. She slept in a bedroom next to his and they could sort of hear each other through the walls. He jerked off every night like most teenage boys. At some point, every time he jerked off, he heard strange noises coming from the maid’s room. After a while, he figured out that every time he jerked off, she was also masturbating in tandem with him and getting off herself. A great story!

But he would go on and on with these wild stories, talking a mile a minute like someone hyped up on speed. But the stories were all about him and his doings and goings on. I really didn’t mind because I am narcissistic myself and listening to others gets me out of my head for once. But he was definitely a self-centered person, and he was also pretty vain. These people can be annoying, but they are not a walking catastrophe.

The dividing line seems to be whether or not you care about others. As narcissism goes higher and higher, typically people care less and less about others. It’s as if we only have so much love inside of us. If we use up all of our “love potential” on ourselves, there’s nothing left for anyone else. I have no idea if this theory is correct, but it’s an interesting idea I thought I would toss out there.

Now we get to the NPD’s, the Narcissistic Personality Disorder types. These are simply a disaster. Some of them can be nice to some people if they choose to be, but in general, they are uncaring and not very nice. They brag constantly and can’t be bothered to do anything for you.

There are degrees of NPD. There is Mild, Moderate and Severe NPD. NPD is not incurable, but it is quite hard to fix. But some can get better if they work on it. I have known some NPD’s who made some decent progress. The NPD’s who get better become much less annoying and insufferable, show more insight into their behavior and in general simply become better and wiser human beings.

The reason NPD is so hard to fix is because most simply think there is nothing wrong with themselves and hence don’t think they need fixing. If you have NPD and are aware of it, look around at your relationships with others. Are they satisfying or dissatisfying? If they are dissatisfying, you might want to look at working on the NPD.

I had an NPD friend who made a big deal about how he was going to my father’s funeral, but then he never showed up. It turned out he didn’t even have a very good reason either. He just didn’t care. If it wasn’t about him, it was irrelevant. If you started talking about you, he would listen for a bit and quickly become bored and uninterested.

An NPD I have known for many years will ask, “So what’s been going on with you lately?” You start to tell them, and after about 15-20 seconds, they are already bored and looking around the room. Like most narcissists, this person is absolutely clueless about how and why they offend others or why so many people despise them and want nothing to do them. I finally cut this person out of my life after decades of trying to suck up to them, be nice to them, and get them to like me. They were always disappointing me, and it felt like they hated me. I blamed myself and said it was because I was such a loser: “If I wasn’t such a loser, they might like me better.”

After decades of this, I started acting about as crappy towards them as they did towards me. This caused this horrible person to have hurt feelings that I didn’t like them, which they tried to make me feel guilty about. This person was also 100% clueless about why I was returning his jerkiness in pure form. Mutual friends got on my case about why I was being “mean” to this family member. Apparently this person gets to be a shit to me for the rest of my life, and I’m evil if don’t kiss their ass, smile and refuse to fight back.

NPD’s are a nightmare. If you have an NPD in your life, you really need to think about maybe getting this person out of your life. Some of the NPD’s I have known have only caused me pain and damage in my life. It’s not worth it.

Going further along, you get to the Elliot Rodger type of Severe Narcissistic Personality Disorder. NPD’s are not typically violent, but they are definitely capable of it, especially if they are shamed or rejected – because they can’t handle any rejection. They may then commit acts of aggression, dishonestly, and even violence as revenge. Elliot Rodger is a case in point that shows how NPD at certain times can lead to violence, even extreme violence.

Beyond that we get into the real monsters. These are the malignant narcissists. Ted Bundy comes to mind. Others call these narcissistic sociopaths, among other terms. I don’t understand them very well, and I am not sure how this differs from pure narcissism or pure sociopathy. Obviously, these are some of the worst human beings on Earth, incurable and often highly dangerous. A number of serial killers have been diagnosed with malignant narcissism as opposed to sociopathy.

You might be interested to know that our own President Donald Trump is a classic malignant narcissist. Of course he is an awful person, and he is definitely dangerous. All malignant narcissists are dangerous by default, but they don’t always act out with violence extreme enough to get them in trouble with the law. There are controlled malignant narcissists just as there are controlled psychopaths.


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About that Coup in Turkey

Remember the bizarre coup a year ago in the summer, which Turkish President Erdogan said was fomented by his arch rival Gulen and his network?

This coup is an example of just how dirty and evil geopolitics really is. The truth is that geopolitics is a dirty game where only sociopaths need apply. If  you’re not already a sociopath, you will have to act like one in order to play this nasty game. If you’re not a sociopath, I have a hard time seeing how you can even engage in geopolitics considering all the dirty business you will have to engage in.

Back to the coup.

Actually Gulen and the Gulenists had nothing whatsoever to do with the coup. The coup was actually staged by secular Ataturkist Turkish nationalists in the military over Erdogan’s attempt to Islamicize a secular state and his disgusting corruption. It looks like Erdogan was warned about the coup beforehand by someone, possibly the Russians.

It also looks like the US was involved in the coup and definitely had foreknowledge. The US motivation for the coup would have been to punish and remove Erdogan for his recent moves cozying up with the Russians, as Erdogan had started making friendly with them only a week before the coup. This infuriated the Deep State, so they activated their coup network in the Turkish military. This network already had their own reasons for wanting Erdogan out.

It looks like Erdogan knew that the coup was going to go down and simply allowed it to happen so he could use it to his devious advantage. Erdogan already had lists with tens of thousands of names on them of his enemies to be arrested in case of a coup. Obviously these lists had been made up long beforehand and were sitting in some drawer just waiting to be used.

So he whipped them out and arrested ~40,000 of his enemies, mostly people who were part of this Gulen Network, which actually had nothing whatsoever to do with the coup. Gulen is an Islamist just like Erdogan and in fact, he was close to Erdogan until they had some sort of falling out, which resulted in Gulen’s becoming Enemy #1. Gulen does indeed have a network in the military and all around society, but they are not secular and were not involved in the coup. We can tell who the coup plotters were by the language used in the statements they issued during the coup. The wording used would only be used by Turkish secular Ataturkist nationalists. Many of Erdogan’s enemies were killed in the roundups. Much more were arrested and thrown in prison, where many of them were tortured.

Anyway, Erdogan immediately blamed Gulen (falsely) and then set about dismantling his network in Turkey while also shutting down most of the opposition press and arresting most of the opposition politicians. As of now, Erdogan is simply dictator of Turkey. Turkey is also an untouchable member of NATO of all things.

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