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Genius Syndrome

I read an article on very high IQ people the other day. These were folks who had IQ’s of 160+. Many of them were men. It was a very interesting piece. Many of them had very low incomes and quite a few were living in poverty or near poverty. Many lived alone and most rarely dated, even though they were heterosexual. Terminal bachelorhood seemed to be chronic. Consequently, many were very lonely. Quite a few were either unemployed or employed in jobs far below their abilities.

It was common for them to be very introverted, odd, strange, weird, nervous or anxious. The introversion was often so strong as to be be described as “painfully introverted.” The author did not feel that any of them were autistic or Asperger’s types. Instead, they were more properly what we think of as “neurotics.” Nowadays, idiotically, everyone thinks that odd introverts are “Aspies.” But this is not true. In fact the vast majority of odd introverts are probably just neurotic, or perhaps they are just introverts. Introversion and oddness have been known to go together for a very long time.

Another thing the author noted was that many of them had turned into some sort of misanthropes. They were disgusted with the world and humanity, mostly because they thought the world was full of “idiots,” as they put it. They had gotten so tired of dealing with what they considered to be a moronic world that many of them had just given up and sought solace in solitude.

I am starting to suffer from the last one – misanthropy. Not because I like misanthropy – actually I hate it. But increasingly I feel like I am surrounded by idiots, and I do not mean people with low IQ’s.

I mean people who do not know how to think about the world. I mean people who have stupid ideas and stupid attitudes, not low IQ’s. I mean people regard whatever garbage and lies society told them as some sort of a cookbook about how to live your life. I mean people with black and white, either/or thinking to whom nothing is a shade of grey. I mean people who are allergic and hostile to the very idea of shades of grey or continua in the first place.

I mean people who do not know how to reason logically, which has little to do with IQ. Many people with IQ’s of 90-100 can reason very logically. I mean people who won’t think outside the box. I mean people who do not know the meaning of words. I mean people who understand little or nothing about human psychology and the psyche.

I mean people who cannot seem to grasp logical, simple, obvious truths of the human condition because they go against whatever “cookbook” they were brought up with. The main problem seem to be people trying to get along by thinking only along society’s dictates and not moving out and forging their own way in thinking and in life. Societally mandated thinking and it’s preposterous “logic” which is not logical at all is nothing but a prison, but it is a comfortable one.

I guess what I am getting at is wisdom. A lot of folks are pretty wise, but it is the ways in which they are not wise that bothers me most.

It’s really starting to get on my nerves.

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Bronies

A brony convention, whatever the Hell that is.

A brony convention, whatever the Hell that is.

Bronies are a bizarre new postmodern phenomenon in which a large group of grown men aged 18-35 have become fanatical fans of a cartoon show for little girls called My Little Pony.

Yeah.

They have conventions in which they all dress up as cosplay players representing cartoon characters on the show. I am not sure exactly what they do at these conventions. Maybe it is like the Star Trek Trekkie phenomenon. In fact, bronies seem much like Trekkies in character and personality. These people are best described as “nerds.” There are also quite a few females involved in this scene, and some of the women look pretty cute.

Bronies have been widely derided for much the same reason that Trekkies are except bronies are even worse because this is a subculture of grown men obsessed with a cartoon show for little girls. There have been many attempts to troll bronies by 4chan members, and the show’s bulletin board had to be shut down because of 4chan troll invasions. I do not know why the chans hate bronies so much, perhaps because it is a group of grown men obsessed with a cartoon show for little girls.

Like many cartoons, My Little Pony does operate on several levels as the writers are quite clever. One level is for little girls who obviously cannot get sophisticated in-jokes. The other level is aimed at adults in which there are all sorts of clever allusions to modern life, other TV shows and characters and even movies. I confess to being a Spongebob Squarepants (mostly due to the cool first name he has), and it operates on this level also. But no way would I go to a Spongebob convention dressed as a kitchen sponge or whatever.

We really ought to see this as harmless fun I suppose as these folks are nerds who feel alienated and rejected by society. Many are highly introverted and have problems with socialization. It doesn’t hurt anyone, allows them to socialize and meet other humans and have a good time for once in a society that is probably largely rejecting of them.

A very large percentage of the males in this fanbase (really the whole MLP genre) are obese and I assume that they also tragically have very small penises, which used to make me fear that they would not reproduce much. However, my fears were alleviated, and many little bronies are now being popped out. Nerdy guys are males after all, and they need pussy like all the rest of us. Nerdy girls are sort of sad creatures, but they deserve the pleasures of motherhood.

Below is a post by a brony couple (yes these nerds do get together, marry and even mate and produce offspring – see above) who outrageously named their baby girl Pinkamerica Zecora. Supposedly that is a “pony” name.

Weird screengrab of bronies naming their little girl a really stupid name.

Click to enlarge and read. Weird screengrab of bronies naming their little girl a really stupid name.

I am sorry, but that is just messed up. Don’t give your kid weird names like that. They turned their own daughter into a joke. That seems just wrong.

That kid is probably going to end up an otherkin, a transsexual or a porn star, and I bet she offs herself before age 25. But I hope none of that happens.

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Perez Hilton

This outspoken, famous, offensive homosexual gossip blogger is on some British show called Celebrity Big Brother. Maybe my British readers know something about this show. It sounds inane like most such shows. Big Brother shows are where they get a bunch of people to live in a house together and then film it as live reality show. There is a popular one in the Philippines. Apparently in this one, they get a bunch of British celebrities to live together in a home and then film it, which sounds even more inane if that is even possible.

This gay man is bitchier than ten women PMS’ing at the same time. Gay men are known to be about as bitchy as women. PC says I am a homophobe if I say that, but I said it anyway. Anyway, it’s true, gay men are bitchy as Hell. I don’t hate them – I actually wish them the best, but that gay men are even bitchier than women is surely a truism.

This clown has somehow made himself into “the most hated man in Britain” and apparently he is reveling in it.

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Never Go Full MRA

MGTOW is a movement of men who have decided more or less to live without women. The logical results of such a trend are exemplified here.

Click to enlarge. MGTOW is a movement of men who have decided more or less to live without women. The logical results of such a trend are exemplified here.

There is definitely such a thing as going too MRA.

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Are Shy Men Being Rational or Irrational?

The worst part is when your a straight guy, but your not a confident leader. That makes you look really bad in front of ladies. Actually, you can even be a shy guy, but if you can show your “good at what you do” then you can win over people.

Shy guys don’t approach women, so they can go long periods without having sex or even dating, they can stay single a long time, be long-term bachelors, etc. I am sure that a lot of these incel guys are very shy.

The problem is that introverted shy guys get treated like garbage by society at large, so that just makes them even more shy. I have met a few retarded women who think shy guys are “pedophiles, serial killers, rapists or psychos.” It is absolute bullshit as shy men are incredibly less violent than extroverted men.

So the shy guy not only gets treated like complete shit by almost everyone, he also gets accused of being a child molester, a murderer, a rapist and other lunatic notions. After a while he gets really terrified to approach much of anyone, much less a woman because he just assumes he is going to get rejected. I honestly do not blame them.

Think of this. If most of the last 50 times you approached a woman, she blew you off, was cruel to you, acted like you were a creep, or accused you of being a depraved criminal, you would see a woman over there, think about going over to talk to her, remember what a catastrophe it was the last 50 times, and just figure the same thing is going to happen this time as happened the last 50 times. Do you blame them. How can anyone say that shy men are acting irrationally. They are acting all too rationally.

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What Is Femininity and How Much of It Can Men Use?

From some kooky Tea Party/right wing populist/conspiracy nutcase site, nonetheless a good article:

Thoughtfulness – is something we see very little of these days but encompasses elements of thoughtfulness, nurturing, care and consideration. People who are thoughtful place others ahead of themselves and very rarely expect anything in return.

Beauty – In beauty there is warm softness, in some cases a slight curviness, or it can be fragile delicateness that speaks softly. It’s something that is striking, but it doesn’t strike. Beauty can be touching, mesmerizing, heart-stopping, but it’s not something that has to be forced or sold. Beauty in women exists naturally.

Vulnerability – a way for women to show they are not strong in everything, show a weakness that perhaps men can step up and assert their manliness, strength and willingness to take care of situations that women don’t have the physical strength to handle the situation. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an admission that one cannot handle everything life throws at them, and a great sign of strength.

Empathy – This beautiful quality exists when a person sees someone else suffering and relates to their pain, then tries to ease their state.

Intuition- The “Gut” feeling many of us often get when something either really good, or really bad is about to happen, when we listen to it, become in tune with it, we can solve problems with our intuitive nature before they come to fruition. Many times it can feel almost psychic in nature, but in reality it’s just being in harmony with the surrounding environment.

Patience – is an even temperateness and capability of being the calm person during every storm. Patience comes with life experience and seeing our peers react in a calm confident manner.

Acceptance – accepting who one is, and every facet of our being the physical, the emotional, and the mental, without denying or pretending to be something else.

Sensuality – is the willingness to use patience, exploration and discovery to fine what really works while utilizing all that the body has to offer in regards to sexual pleasure. With sensuality, the fun is in the exploration and flirtatious foreplay.

Radiance – It’s that internal glow that shines so bright it reaches the skin’s surface and makes one’s entire aura fill a room with positive energy. Radiance is something that is acquired from taking the time to reflect on who, and what a person’s gifts here on earth, and appreciating those gifts for what they are.

A pretty good summary of the feminine ideal anyway in all of its glory. I think this is mostly correct. My remarks:

Patience – is an even temperateness and capability of being the calm person during every storm. Patience comes with life experience and seeing our peers react in a calm confident manner.

Yeah well forget that. Although I will say that a lot of women do get a lot more peaceful in this way as they get older. The female is the calm person in every storm. LOL no way Jose. Most women I know get quite emotional, depressed, anxious, angry, terrified, furious, mean, violent, contemptuous, annoyed, irritated and most certainly not the slightest bit patient whenever things start heading south. It is generally a male who exhibits calm under pressure. Men from some Asian cultures, such as older Japanese men, can be experts at this.

Intuition- The “Gut” feeling many of us often get when something either really good, or really bad is about to happen, when we listen to it, become in tune with it, we can solve problems with our intuitive nature before they come to fruition. Many times it can feel almost psychic in nature, but in reality it’s just being in harmony with the surrounding environment.

I don’t believe in precognition. Nevertheless, intuition is a form of genius in which women excel. They are not so good at logic or reason as that is the domain of the male, but they make up for it with their intuition. Intuition plus logic and reason is a great quality in man. For instance the best detectives have excellent intuition and logic/reason. That is a mind that is hard to beat.

Empathy – This beautiful quality exists when a person sees someone else suffering and relates to their pain, then tries to ease their state.

Women excel at this, of course. Men are much less empathetic. This is no doubt biological as women raise children, and men raid other tribes, kill the men and steal the women, all the while hunting dangerous mammoths. In those situations, the empathetic man is soon a dead man.

Although I do believe men can improve their empathy if they only work on it. I often get complaints from ex-girlfriends that “You don’t care. You only want one thing. You’re using me. You never call me,” and sadly, “You lack empathy.” I do not mind most of those, although the don’t care is not helpful in my relationships. The no empathy thing stings though.

I assure you that I try very hard to feel empathy for others, but I am just not very good at it. For some reason, every time I think about someone’s horrible or lousy situation, I think, “Oh well, it’s not that bad. If that happened to me, I would be able to handle it no problem.” This bothers me as it seems to minimize their problems, and the truth is that I flip out and take to bed all day defeated with much lesser stresses than the others in my life have to deal with. But no matter how hard I try to put myself in their place, there is still the matter of, “Yes but it’s not me. It’s another person.” If it’s me, it’s the end of the world; if it’s another person, it’s no big deal, and I could handle it easily although I couldn’t.

My therapist said that women are always accusing men of not caring and lacking empathy. These complaints are a dime a dozen. He said that men do have empathy, but not as much as women, and they show it in different ways than women, often experiencing it more cognitively than emotionally.

Vulnerability – a way for women to show they are not strong in everything, show a weakness that perhaps men can step up and assert their manliness, strength and willingness to take care of situations that women don’t have the physical strength to handle the situation. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an admission that one cannot handle everything life throws at them, and a great sign of strength.

Sure women are vulnerable. But should men be vulnerable? I say bad idea. Sure, sometimes you have to ask for help if you really need it, but a lot of people that a man who is not handy or is asking for help is seen as a great big pussy. The more vulnerable a man is, the more problems he is going to have in life as people will see this quality as babiness, pussification, and downright unmasculine.

Pity the obviously vulnerable man. Other men will sneer, mock or suppress a cruel laugh. Women themselves have a lot contempt for him. God help the seriously depressed man. Women will give him way more crap than men will. Past a certain age, all men know what it means to be sad. Women see a depressed man, and they want to kick his ass.

Sensuality – is the willingness to use patience, exploration and discovery to fine what really works while utilizing all that the body has to offer in regards to sexual pleasure. With sensuality, the fun is in the exploration and flirtatious foreplay.

Sure, women are great at this. I think men could use this quality too. Women love sensuous men as lovers. They eat em like candy. No downside here.

Beauty – In beauty there is warm softness, in some cases a slight curviness, or it can be fragile delicateness that speaks softly. It’s something that is striking, but it doesn’t strike. Beauty can be touching, mesmerizing, heart-stopping, but it’s not something that has to be forced or sold. Beauty in women exists naturally.

Sure this is a part of women, but some women harden as they age, maybe go through a bad divorce and become angry middle aged women who are cynical about men. They appear hard, and whatever beauty they had is history.

Beauty is a mixed blessing for men. Sure it turns on a lot of people sexually especially if you are good-looking. Many of the most successful womanizers I knew had a certain element of feminine beauty like this about them. They slinked when they walked, had smooth movements with their limbs, sometimes looked like vulnerable little boys, spoke softly and had delicate features. Women literally could not resist these guys.

When I say mixed blessing, I mean that the more beautiful a man is, the more people are going to insist that he is homosexual or at least has some gay component. And beauty in men will attract gay men like mosquitoes in Alaska.

I think this quality if good in small doses but can quickly go too far and now you’re a fucking faggot and that’s an inane sort of unnecessary and aggravating stressful confusion for a straight man. Even very handsome men are often seen as gay simply because they are very good looking. John F. Kennedy himself remarked on this. This problem is particularly acute when a man is pretty, soft-faced, or baby-faced. Pretty boy is a double edged sword.

That fragile delicateness that speaks softly part is so not going to work unless you can turn it into a James Dean, beautiful loser, doomed bad boy, tragic outlaw sort of thing, in which case it’s Women RAID.

The vulnerable little boy thing is good and if you do it right, it’s a lady slayer. Embarrassing secret: I often play little boy-Mommy with girlfriends when I get up in the morning. “Mooooom can I have some bweckfast?” with an expectant pout. Then Mommy cooks her little six year old son breakfast and makes him all happy and full. It sounds asinine but it goes over great with most girlfriends, and they love it and think it is hilarious.

But mostly fragile delicateness is just going to look pussy. You need to watch it with that one.

Thoughtfulness – is something we see very little of these days but encompasses elements of thoughtfulness, nurturing, care and consideration. People who are thoughtful place others ahead of themselves and very rarely expect anything in return.

Women are superb at this as nature has selected for it as an essential component of mothering. The maternal quality is hardwired in most females, even the childless ones in their 40’s and 50’s who say they hate kids. It’s not true, but some of them have turned their dogs or cats into surrogate children.

Men just are not good at this at all. I don’t see anything wrong with a man being thoughtful in this way, but it doesn’t come naturally, and the guys that are “good” at it are often Omega wussy manginas friendzoned by the female planet who suffer masochistically while their woman friends use them as sounding boards and crying shoulders. This is a very lame wussy thing to get into, and most men like this are pathetic. If this is the way you are stumbling through life right now, get out. Not now. Yesterday.

Acceptance – accepting who one is, and every facet of our being the physical, the emotional, and the mental, without denying or pretending to be something else.

I am not sure if any women ever accept themselves. Men are a lot better tat this than women are because frankly a lot of them simply do not care. Not caring has its downside, but if you don’t give a damn, you usually won’t find yourself lacking.

Women are usually dissatisfied with one or more aspects of themselves, typically their bodies. Even women in their 40’s and 50’s are still pretty crazy and insecure over their bodies. Of course all young women are in a permanent state of body insecurity. That is one of the defining features of a young woman. Woman of all ages are masters of denial as this is one of their favorite defenses, often utilized to the point of sheer blindness, in which they find some odd peace being lost in total darkness.

I do not think women accept themselves emotionally either as they are often undergoing some sort of anxiety/depression minor emotional troubles, that is when they are not out and out suicidal or at wit’s end. By the time a women reach 70, almost all of them will have experienced at least one major depression and will have been seriously suicidal.

By the time a woman reaches 55, a stunning number of them will have made a suicide attempt. Fortunately most women’s suicide attempts are just cries for help and are are done in that typical histrionic, theatrical mode that females excel at. That is, they are not serious. They are trying to get attention. People scoff at these fake attempts as pussy, but men are much more logical, rational and successful at suicide so maybe this is one time it is better to wuss out, make a scene and act like a girl. At least you’ll be alive when you wake up. Men use guns, women use pills. This is one case where male efficiency and practicality is a bad idea.

Interestingly, gay men also excel at these histrionic fake suicide attempts. Don’t believe the lies Gay Identity Politics tells about the gay suicide rate/ teen gay suicide rate. Neither do do it any more than straight. They just make a lot more attempts.

Radiance – It’s that internal glow that shines so bright it reaches the skin’s surface and makes one’s entire aura fill a room with positive energy. Radiance is something that is acquired from taking the time to reflect on who, and what a person’s gifts here on earth, and appreciating those gifts for what they are.

This is a nice one, and women can be pretty good at this as they are in touch with this sort of positive feeling. Many men probably shut this glorious feeling down in their 20’s at the same time they were shutting down all their bad feelings, and as we get older and chronically serious and “adult,” we are not good at this anymore. But teenage boys and young men can often have this innocent, Jesus-like quality.

I don’t see anything wrong with men doing this, but you can get into trouble for smiling too much. As a young man I was always smiling, and other young men who saw themselves as “adult” seemed to get quite annoyed by it. The idea is that a man who is smiling all the time is somehow ridiculous, not manly or serious or is still a teenager. Grow up, idiot!

Personally, I love nothing better than to see the uncommon man, often older, with a smile of pure blissed out LSD like peace shimmering across his placid face. Peace is yours for the taking.

I doubt if women care if you smile all the the time, and an extremely calm man who appears to have near total peace of mind at the time is quite attractive with women who are so often in a state of emotional turmoil and roiling seas.

I do not think a man can go wrong with this one, but it is a bit hard to achieve because life is often pretty painful and shitty, and it’s hard enough to drag yourself out in the morning, resist the urge to kill yourself, and determinedly march into a new quotidian speed-bump. That takes up enough energy for many men, and there is not much left over to imitate the Buddha. If you manage to achieve this though, good for you, as the world that unfolds when you have achieved substantial peace of mind is as gorgeous as this life gets. Savor it, hang onto it, thank your lucky stars. You are one of the blessed ones. Go forth my son, and frown no more.

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How Gay Men Prey on Straight Men

Below, Dave’s remarks are in blockbusters. Mine follow.

Dave writes:

What is this “weirdness” you’re talking about? Gay men aren’t “sensible enough?”

If I have a gay or bi man significantly in your life to the point where I am hanging around with him either alone or as part of a group, he is going to try to fuck me at some point. 100% guarantee. Usually they will try to do this immediately.

I do not care if they are sensible or not.

Are you afraid a man might undress you with his eyes?

Well they do do that, and also if I am friends with a gay or bi man even if he is not trying to fuck me, he is going to be making regular remarks about how good-looking I am while licking his chops like the big bad wolf. I do not like this bad weirdness. And also, yes, he might be giving off a lot of gay sexual energy in my direction. I really do not like that either, as it bad weirdness.

Have you considered that might be how women feel around “masculine” straight males?

I could care less how women feel around straight males. Why should I care?

You appear very educated which makes your fear of gay men seem pretty bizarre.

It is not bizarre at all. Just about every gay man that I got to know significantly tried to fuck me or gave off some really weird intense gay sexual vibes when he was around me.

I had a gay boss once who looked at me like I was a sirloin steak, sexually harassed me and fired me when I wouldn’t suck his dick.

Two of my best friends were threatened by gay men who tried to blackmail my friends into fucking them.

Here is how the scam works: gay man offers young, good looking, single straight man a room in his place. “Hey you’re straight, I’m gay, no problem, I won’t bother you.” But that’s a lie because he is going to try to recruit/convert.

Then he may offer you a job. My friend was offered a job and a place to stay by a degenerate gay. Everything was so cool until about a month into the job when the hammer came down – degenerate gay said you either fuck me or you’re fired. My friend said I guess I am fired. Then he went home, and the hammer came down again. Degenerate gay said you either fuck me or I throw you out of this place on your ass. My friend said ok I guess I am homeless. And then he was jobless and homeless thanks to a degenerate homosexual. It was quite unnerving for me to even hear about this disturbing situation.

Another friend idiotically took a room for rent from a homosexual degenerate in West Hollywood. Same deal: “I’m gay, you’re straight, no problem, I leave you alone.” My friend lost his job. Could not pay the rent. The degenerate fag offered him a deal: you either start fucking me or I throw you out of here, and you are homeless. My friend was so freaked out by this that he came down and stayed with me in my apartment for several days. I was quite unnevered by this very weird situation myself. After several days, he left and apparently went back. I had no idea what that meant.

Later he and I went out on the town in Hollywood trying to pick up actress and model types. Of course we struck out, and we went back home. My friend offered me a couch at the place he shared with the degenerate. I woke up in the middle of the night in the living room. The bedroom was 20 feet away. From sounds and smells, I concluded my friend and the degenerate. Frankly, I think my friend was getting fucked in the ass by the degenerate but it was hard to tell as I could not see it. That was weird enough but I just figured it was a very bad dream and went back to sleep.

I woke up in the morning, and that was when the degenerate laid this totally bizarre trip on me trying to brainwash me by saying that I wasn’t really straight, I was really gay just like him, and I needed to come out of the closet and quit lying and being phony. The degenerate later used this exact same brainwash technique with my best friend, so I guess it is one of their recruitment/converting tricks they use on straight men.

That morning I lost my contact lens, and the two of them made a big faggy scene pretending to look for it and gleefully putting their hands all over my upper body, which was pretty weird. My friend was into it because by now he had been recruited/converted.

I hung out with this friend a bit afterwards, but he soon got deep into bisexuality, and I had to end the friendship because there is no way you can be friends with someone like that. For instance, my friend and his older lover used to come over to my place on the weekends with some other gay men. They were headed down to Laguna Beach for the weekend for all sorts of queery fun and games.

Ok, look, your friend comes over to your house with his older boyfriend and some other gays and says we are on our way down to Laguna for the weekend. There would be massive pressure on me to join in on the faggy fun if not on this occasion than on others. They are going to pressure you really hard.

Another time I was over at my neighbor’s place, and my friend, the neighbor and the guy downstairs, a closeted gay not really out even to himself yet, were there. Weed and booze were consumed, and soon the three guys were dancing around the living room, putting their hands all over each other, kissing each other and having all sorts of homo hedonism. I was seriously weirded out so I got as close as I could to the neighbor’s live in girlfriend from the faggery. After they were done, two of them threatened to beat me up for not joining in the queery delights. That was profoundly weird and very disturbing to me.

Later I rented an apartment in LA with a male roommate. I always thought he was straight, and he did have a strong heterosexual component for sure. Mostly he was just weird. He was one of the most nervous guys I have ever met. After living there about 5 weeks, one night he tried to fuck me which was very bad and weird. I haven’t had a male roommate since then, and I have instead lived alone. I do not want to live with male roommates anymore due to that experience.

Then there was this guy across the street who made friends with me. I never knew he was queer. He was just known as a neighborhood criminal burglar. He got out of prison and said he was clean now. I started spending some time with the guy somehow. The vibes got weird almost right away, but it took me a while to figure it out.

After a while, I put the pieces of the weird vibes together and it was oh no not this gay nightmare again. He kept coming over and hanging out, and he gave off massive gay vibes the whole time he was around, and it was really bad weirdness. And he was always making queery suggestive remarks which is even more weird.

One day he destroyed my car’s engine, costing $800 damage. That and the constant creepy and queery innuendo and seduction attempts made me so furious that I went over to his house in broad daylight with a baseball bat and smashed his front door in. Then I walked home. The cops let me off because they hated him too just like everyone else. The next morning I was leaving for work and my neighbors came out of their houses and waved to me, cheering me on for bashing his door down because everyone hated him. I am very proud that I took that baseball bat and bashed his front door in with it. One of my best moments.

I hope you explain the really bad weirdness from having gay friends and why it is so important to know if other guys are bi/gay.

It has been my position for many years that straight men cannot be friends with bisexual or gay men. It doesn’t work. I do not see how it is even possible. As you can see from my history above, I and my friends have had quite enough trauma and bad weirdness from gay and bisexual men, and honestly I want them as far away from my life forever because frankly I have had more than enough of them for one lifetime, and I don’t feel like giving them any more chances.

I also advise all my straight male friends with regard to gay and bisexual men:

1. Do not make friends with gay or bisexual man. Don’t hang out with them. Don’t spend time with them. Don’t invite them over. Don’t go over to their place. Nothing good can come of this.

2. Never rent a room from a gay or bisexual man ever for any reason. This is a catastrophe waiting to happen. As far as having a gay roommate, I would be extremely cautious about that.

3. Be very cautious when accepting a job from a gay man where he will be your boss. He may well sexually harass you.

4. In general, just stay as far away from gay and bisexual men as possible. You here, them over there. Avoid them. Nothing good can ever come of any significant contact with these men.

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How Do Women Really Feel about Effeminate and Non-macho Straight Men?

Beatrix wrote:

I suppose it depends on what you define as effeminate. If my husband were some knuckle dragging, overbearing, loud mouth, obnoxious jock with questionable hygiene – I doubt I’d be attracted to him either.

Would I date an effeminate man?
Yes.

Would I marry an effeminate man?
Yes.

Though your husband is probably not effeminate, would you be happy if he changed his behavior tomorrow and started acting effeminate?

If that’s what made him happy too, yes.

I would absolutely not date or marry a man I deemed stupid, nor do I like depressives.

Well that is pretty interesting. Most straight women seriously despise effeminate straight men. I mean hate them with a psychotic homophobic passion you ain’t never seen before. They don’t mind effeminate men as long as they stay on the gay side of the street, but they don’t want them in the straight world.

Not only that, but a lot of straight women have extreme hatred even for not only effeminate straight men but also straight guys who don’t act macho or stereotypically masculine. This means straight men who are not even 1% effeminate, but they are “not macho”: they are soft, soft-spoken, gentle, passive, quiet, sensitive, and often very handsome (but in a pretty way like a pretty boy) straight men. Even non-macho straight guys are constantly being accused of being gay, and I know several who got gay-bashed, one seriously enough to be hospitalized.

All of the guys like this I have known have had difficult lives, dealing with constant and annoying accusations of being gay, but also in fending off interminable attempts by gay men to recruit, convert and fuck, sexually harass or blackmail them.

Not only that, but these guys all have had a lot of problems with women. Some of them have been notorious womanizers, why I am not sure, but they were extremely good-looking. But over and over I have noticed and they have told me about problems with women. Their women often do not think they are real men, ridicule them, put them down, attack their masculinity, laugh in their faces, humiliate them, try to dominate them, and especially cuckold them by having affairs right in front of their faces as a provocation practically daring these men to kill them.

One man got married and had kids, but the last time I talked to him he told me his wife is contemptuous of him, and they never have sex anymore.

Bottom line is their women are upset that they do not act macho or stereotypically masculine and they react in all of these contemptuous ways above.

What is bizarre about this is if you ask most women, they act confused and annoyed that men make such a big deal about masculinity. “Why are you guys so hung up on that?” they ask. They act like they could care less about masculinity. In addition, many women claim they want a non-macho, sensitive, caring, gentle type guy, but they really don’t. They want a meathead caveman. They’re blind and lying to themselves, but women are always blind and practicing self-deception as this is part of female nature.

But I have found out fairly late in life that masculinity is a massive deal for huge numbers of women except they are mostly blind to it and either won’t admit it or are not even aware of it.

I encourage all straight men to act as masculine as they are comfortable with not only to scare off gays and not be accused of being gay but also so they will have more pleasant relationships with women.

If women are going to make such a massive deal out it, we need to realize its importance in our lives and do something about it.

Men really need to start taking masculinity seriously. Either you take it seriously or its going to take you seriously.

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Gaydar

Lisa FOS writes:

You are discounting ‘false negatives’ ad ‘false positives’.

The first is where you don’t pick they are GLBTI at all. You have no way of knowing how many there are.

The second is where you pick them as GLBTI but they are not. Again you have no idea how many there are.

Here is a very simple right off the top of my head probability calculation (1st order approximation). Say 95% of males are straight. Your false positive rate is 10%, that is 10% of the time you pick a male as gay and they are not. That means you incorrectly pick 10% of straight males as gay, that is 9.5% of all males.. Which is nearly double the actual number of real gay males.

Combine that with a reasonable false negative error rate and you might as well toss a coin.

Many, many GLBTI are very adept at disguise and ‘fitting in’. They may drop their guard when they are in ‘safe areas’, but the rest of the time?

I could take you to just one GLBTI pub in Melbourne. Look at all the people there, then meet them in their ‘normal’ life. The vast majority look totally ordinary and act ‘normal’. You’d be lucky to pick 10% and that is only because they have all or mostly ‘come out’. You’d pick virtually zero ‘part time’ transgendered people.

Gay males come in all shapes and sizes and ages. Some dress well, others as daggy as straight males (particularly in normal life).

So called ‘tells’, such as appearing uninterested in females are very unreliable. Some males are shy around women, some don’t want to be rude, some are in committed relationships Some, though they are sexually straight simply don’t like women, they don’t like to talk to them or spend time with them, in their mind females only exist for sex.

I haven’t been wrong yet since I got good at this around age 24. I have never yet picked out a man who was straight as gay. I have never yet picked out a gay man as straight.

I can’t necessarily figure them out right away, but I can tell after 3 weeks-2 months of close contact, say at work.

The only time I have been wrong is pegging guys as gay who also had a gf, but this guy was very gay, quite effeminate, and was very into me.

My mother said,

“Look, if you have a room full of men and a beautiful woman walks in, every single male in there from nine to ninety is going to look at her and they will look at her in a certain way. The gay man won’t even look.”

I believe she is correct. If you want to know the truth about anything, just ask an old lady.

There is a real problem with effeminate heterosexual men.
There are millions of these men in the US alone. But I only give effeminate men a ? Question Mark until I can figure them out better. I have met many effeminate heterosexual men in my life. They all got the ? Question Mark right off the bat, but after a while, I was able to figure out that they were not even 1% gay. One married one of my female relatives. He had this mode he would go into where he was faggoty as all get out. I have no idea why he did that. Maybe he was relaxing.

But after a while, I can usually sort it all out, and I label him as effeminate straight guy.

Mostly straight occasional bisexual men (incredibly common especially in men in their 20’s) are very hard to figure out as they only do gay things once in a while. It is really impossible to get them until the time they openly hit on or proposition you, which I guarantee they will do at some point if you know them long enough, though sometimes it might take 2-3 years until they proposition you.

I have worked in workplaces with closeted gay men. At any rate, they were not openly out. None of them were fooling anyone, certainly not me. One had a beautiful gf, but I think he was completely gay, as other than her, he had no interest in women.

The problem with closeted gay men is they are not celibate. Their sex drive is quite active, and many are actively having sex with guys. So they often give off a very strong sexual vibe when they are around you to say the least.

There was one guy at one workplace who was hiding pretty well, but he got phone calls at work all the time. 100% of the time, it was a man calling him up. No woman ever called him. We pegged him as gay.

Another one was my boss at a school paper. He was very good-looking, and he was hiding very well. I got to be pretty good friends with him, and he left me alone the whole time I worked there. However, a lot of us were wondering if he was a closeted gay.

One time at work, I think the drawer on his desk popped open and he leaped backwards in his chair and screamed EEEEEK like a woman seeing a mouse. He yelled like a girl! Basically that was his inner gay breaking through, and after that, we thought he was gay. A while later, I was graduating from college, and I was walking away from the ceremony with my parents, and he was following us in the background, looking at me with the expression of a starving timber wolf on his face. He would not quit following us, and it was scaring the crap out of me. I was almost having a panic attack until we got to the car. Also after that, I knew he was gay for sure.

One group that is very hard to figure are young gay males who have not even come out to themselves yet . I have known two of them. These guys are usually around ages 16-21. One thing you will notice is that they have no interest in females at all. They never talk about females ever. But you can also make friends with them pretty well, and even hang around with them and it will all be ok because generally they don’t give off gay vibes of attraction or seduction towards you. So they are not sending out sexual energy towards either males or females.

Apparently these guys are not sending out any sexual energy towards anyone. The older guy at one point came out, and I met him where he was living in an apartment with an older man. He looked happy for once, but now he was giving off strong gay vibes towards me, apparently because he was out.

One thing about gays who have not even come out to themselves yet is that they might seem unhappy. The older guy always looked worried and frequently stared out into space. They were threatening to fire him at work for scaring off customers. He was also drinking quite a bit and using drugs, mostly pot, but he especially like cocaine. I did quite a few lines with the guy myself.

Another group that is hard to figure out are people who may well be asexual. My mother worked at a community college and one of the teachers was like that. He taught math. Everyone in the office was certain he was gay, but I was not so sure. He was extremely awkward, geeky, dory, and very nervous, anxious, and shy. He never looked you in the eye. He was in his 50’s and still lived with his mother. He never looked at women, but on the other hand, he never looked at men either. He was somewhat effeminate, but my mother said he was not so much faggy as just plain weird. I suggested that he might be an asexual with no sexual interest in males or females.

One time my mother had some extra concert tickets so we went to a fancy concert (tickets were $50/each). This guy was on stage there as part of the classical music orchestra. Of course it is well known that many male classical musicians are homosexual. At intermission, I suggested that we go up and talk to him to see if he was gay or not. We went up to the stage and called him over and had a very friendly conversation with him. He was really nice but also a rather nervous. Over ten minutes he did not give off the slightest gay sexual energy in my direction. We went back to our seats and I told my Mom, “Forget it. He’s not gay.”

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Primitive Sexual Signaling in Human Beings

Lisa FOS writes:

I always get a bit skeptical about people (of any sex) claiming to being able to pick 100% of GLBTI ones. Except in some areas where there are large concentrations most GBTI people keep themselves very undercover in general society and most have become adept at hiding and fitting in. Chances are you have met a fair few GLBTI people without ever realizing it.

I can’t pick them out everywhere, but after a bit of close contact, it is often not that difficult because they usually reveal themselves to me.

Gay men are pretty easy to spot if you have a close enough interaction with them, generally a face to face interaction that lasts at least a minute or two. And any reaction more extended than that is quite simple, especially if you see them every day for a few weeks or a month or two. Most other guys can’t get it, but I can. That is because I am almost an expert at reading people. I can nearly read minds at this point.

A woman who likes men (straight or bi) during a close enough interaction with them, generally a face to face interaction that lasts at least a minute or two, gives of a sort of “heterosexual signaling”:
It says,

“Hi, I am a woman. You are a man. And I like men!”

That’s really all it says. It doesn’t even mean she likes me and it certainly doesn’t mean she wants to fuck me.

To me it simply signals that she is heterosexual.

I think I probably react this way to most females automatically, as I find myself in sort of a sexual mode with any close interaction with most females, even fat and homely ones! I do not know why I do it with fat and homely ones, but I think it is simply the fact that they are female, after all, and my mind automatically reacts to any mature female like this. The signal must look something like:

“Hi, I am a man. You are a woman. And I like women!”

Except that I never really think about it and it seems to come on almost automatically without my even being aware of it.

Now I can turn this off if I want to, and of course I do around my mother, sister and other close female relatives. Also I might do it say if I was visiting my friend and he had a beautiful girlfriend, and I did not want it to seem like I was turned on by his girlfriend. Just a matter of respect. I also might try to turn it off with very young teenage girls. They are of course a little interesting, but I can’t touch them, and I don’t even really want to. And I don’t want to have those feelings around them, so I sort of shut them down.

I have noticed that lesbians in many cases simply do not give off this basic primitive sexual signaling –

“Hi, I am a woman. You are a man. And I like men!”.

You simply don’t get that vibe, and why would they send it out anyway?

At times I get what looks like a stone wall of black ice, an icy glacier staring me in the face, a wall of sheer hate.

With others, it is not that intense, but there is a sort of “What the Hell do you want anyway?” along with stone faces and a general standoffish air. This is often in a store she is running apparently with her girlfriend, so it doesn’t seem to be good business, but maybe this stuff is so subconscious it is hard to turn off.

Other lesbians act like you are not even there.

With other lesbians, they might be friendly, but it only goes so far, and there is a bit of a distance and even hostility there, an edge, sort of like, “Sure I like you, but not like that! Don’t get any ideas!” Or at some point, your friendliness seems run up against a barrier as they throw up a wall that says, “Stop! Go no further!”

Some lesbians can be normal and friendly, but those are more likely to still have some heterosexual interest. These are usually younger ones in their early 20’s. I have recently met some lesbians aged 13-27, and they were quite friendly. Maybe the young ones are getting friendlier.

But the stone icy wall, the short hair, and breast cancer pink ribbon, and statue-like face, ok Shirley, I get the picture.

A lot of lesbians for whatever reason seem like they simply do not like men. I will leave it to others to figure out why that might be.

Some females are hard to figure out. They seem cold and lifeless, like robots. They don’t seem to give off lesbian vibes, but you can’t tell if they like men either. They don’t seem to give off any sexual energy at all. They simply seem to be cold, stony and shut-down people who are hard to figure out or get close to.

I can usually spot a gay man if I have a close enough interaction with them, generally a face to face interaction that lasts at least a minute or two. If I am working with the guy every day in office, it is trivial to figure them out. I feel like most of these guys aren’t fooling anyone. They sure aren’t fooling me.

First of all, many gay men are effeminate to one degree or another. It’s a stereotype, but it’s true. I have run across it countless times in the past, and I continue to see it to this day. A lot of straight men are not very masculine, and quite a few are out and out wimpy, but most straight men are not really effeminate in the way a gay man is. The straight men are more soft, gentle, sensitive and wimpy while the gay man tends to have more of that overt effeminacy.

Any effeminate man immediately sets off my alarm bells with me. I usually do not label them gay, and of course I would never call them that to their face. I would not even ask them if they are or not as I think that is horribly rude. Instead, I put a great big question mark by him in my brain. Then as I interact with him more and more, the question mark either fades away or strengthens to a conviction.

if I have a close enough interaction with them, generally a face to face interaction that lasts at least a minute or two, I typically get the same vibe that a woman who likes men gives off, with a variation:

“Hi, I am a man. You are a man. And I like men!”

It looks exactly the same except a man is giving it off instead of a woman. This is probably operating at such an unconscious level that he is not even aware of it.

It can escalate from there. But that is usually enough to clinch it for me.

A straight man will almost never give this vibe:

“Hi, I am a man. You are a man. And I like men!”

They just never do. Their vibe is completely different, but it is a vibe that has all sexuality completely removed from it. Straight men just don’t usually generate sexual energy towards other guys. Sometimes they do, but I might save that for another post.

If I am working with a gay man, he will usually start giving off this vibe, except a lot more intense:

“Hi, I am a man. You are a man. And I like men!”

Also he will be markedly effeminate. And if you look carefully, you will notice that even when surrounded by women, he never looks at them. I had a gay boss once, and there were all these beautiful women in the office. To him they were part of the furniture. Another man who I suspect was a closeted gay (fake bisexual) would be sitting in the room with us. A beautiful woman would walk in and he would not even look up. Women were like ghosts to him.

I haven’t spent considerable time around any gay man who has fooled me yet, but maybe I am better than others at this sort of thing.

If you think about it, this sort of thing (:

“Hi, I am a man. You are a man. And I like men!”

and

“Hi, I am a woman. You are a man. And I like men!”

along with others we have not delved into here like:

“Hi, I am a man. You are a woman. And I like women!”

and

“Hi, I am a woman. You are a woman. And I like women!”

might be thought of as “primitive sexual signaling.” These humans are simply signaling their sexual orientation to another human upon meeting them for a nontrivial interaction. It is probably most unconscious and may well go back to cave man days. And it is logical. After all, I understand that animals, especially dogs and cats, often go through elaborate nonverbal signaling gestures when they come face to face with another of their species.

So when we are having a brief interaction of a minute or more with another human, we are probably doing more than taking care of business or shooting the breeze. We may well be signaling on a most primitive level who we are and what we like, consciously or not.

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