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What Is a Hardass?

A recent thankfully permanently departed girlfriend called me a hardass. I was staying with her for a few weeks and she looked over and me one night and shrugged and said, “You’re just an old hardass. That’s all you are. You don’t care. You act like you don’t care.” Other than the “don’t care” part, which is disturbing but I guess is part and parcel of FTW, I am wondering about this hardass word.

I didn’t really know what to say to that because my personal self-image is that I am a great big gigantic pussy (at best – you really do not know what my self-image is at my worst). I could not believe my ears. Me? The pussiest of pussies? A hardass? WTH.

What the Hell does this word mean anyway? I have never heard it used that much before, especially in a positive light. I have only heard it used in a negative light, like, “That Drill Sergeant sure is a hardass. That cop was just a hardass. My boss is a hardass!” It seems to be a euphemism for “asshole.”

But there must be more to it than that.

Does it have any relationship to masculinity? The definitions I am reading seem to imply that being a hardass is on the far end of ultramasculinity or hypermasculinity. Which is fine by me. I don’t see why anything masculine is bad, as long as it doesn’t kill me. I’d rather be a hardass than a wuss or a faggot. There are worse things in life you know.

Everything masculine is good, everything pussy and wussy is shit. Masculine gets you everywhere, wussy leads you only to an eternal world of shit.

That’s pretty much what I have learned in 57 years. Actually that is a pretty damn sad statement, isn’t it? Especially considering that I actually like some wussy stuff.

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Russell Brand

Here.

This guy comes up in a lot of discussions of  “effeminate straight men.” I had never seen the guy on video before and this was my first exposure to him. You go on a lot of forums and you see these endless comments like, “Who is this fag?!”

I checked him out because I am interested in the phenomenon of so called effeminate straight men although I think they hardly exist.

From right off the get-go from when he walked towards the stage, I knew this guy was straight. First of all, I could tell by his face. Straight men have a certain something about their face a lot of times. Their face has a “masculine” wear about it or their face somehow “looks masculine.” Now by this I do not mean how they were born. But the fact is that there are all sorts of different ways of “carrying your face” so to speak.

Gay men often exude effeminacy and it shows up all through their face. A masculine man simply “carries his face” in a masculine way. It is hard to describe but the only way I can describe it is that such things as masculinity, femininity and effeminacy are expressed in our faces somehow via our emotions, thoughts and vibes.

What is interesting about this is that over time, these ways of “carrying the face” actually tend to carve the face into particular shapes. It has been argued that many gay men have expressed certain effeminate emotions facially so many times that the effeminacy is by now actually carved into their faces naturally.

About two minutes into the video, and I had this Brand guy all figured out. First of all, he’s not effeminate at all. Back in the 1970’s, this is how you were supposed to act. If you wanted to drown in pussy, you put on this act X 10 and no one thought a thing about it. You would be assumed to be straight until proven otherwise with good solid evidence and you would not be called gay very often.

The behavior that he is doing is simply 1970’s rock star androgyne. This guy is just Mick Jagger born too late. The clothes are just some glam androgyne get up that he is doing for some funny reason and they don’t have much to do with him as a person. I think he might be wearing those clothes just to get a rise out of people and piss people off.

I also noticed how he was interacting with the four females on the board. I could tell immediately that he is attracted to females simply by the way he was acting around these women. He said, “It’s so nice to be with a group of women.” This type is “the player.” There are two kinds of men who like to hang around women all the time:

  1. Gay men.
  2. Players, womanizers, manwhores, etc.

This guy is in the second category. When he interacts with these women, you can see his sexual energy almost radiating out of his body in all of their directions. It’s like he wants to fuck every woman on the panel.

I would agree that he has a feminine aspect but all androgynes do. But I get a very strong masculine vibe off this guy. A man with a strong masculine vibe who also has a visible feminine aspect is the very definition of a strong androgyne. That both of these aspects are quite strong and often going at the same time is why true androgynes are so confusing. Nobody knows what to make of them.

Bottom line is I do not think this Russel Brand is effeminate at all. That behavior you see as effeminate is actually his feminine aspect settling into its natural role as he is surrounded by his own kind (women). Another thing that is mistaken for effeminacy is his strong sexual energy towards these women. This sexual energy is extremely sexy (indeed he exudes sex from every pore as many androgynes do) and men who are acting very sexy often seem to be mimicking a female sort of sexiness – soft, fluid, flowing, insinuating, intimate.

All in all, he comes across sort of like Paul Stanley.

PS, this Brand character also clowns around a lot. You notice his main mode is simply clowning. Look at all the funny faces he makes.

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Question for the Men on the Site

She’s In Parties writes:

Topic question for male posters.

Would you fuck Casey Anthony? Basically would you fuck/date a woman who killed her own child? She did it but got off. Huge national story.

I wouldn’t in a healthy state of mind. But I’m rarely in that state. I’m highly neurotic with a high dose of low self esteem and sense of self. Ultimately I would do it. I think a lot of males, including healthy ones, would do too.

Can you date a notorious figure? With all eyeballs on you. Oppose to just fucking her randomly, and the public having no knowledge of situation.

I wouldn’t feel threatened in her presence, despite being an obvious social path/psychopath. She may do something to fuck me over, but I wouldn’t feel my life was in danger. Aileen Wournos was convicted serial killer who died by lethal injection. I wouldn’t spend a second with her if she was alive, and I knew about her or some woman that was going around town suspected of killing johns for obvious reasons.

PS: Sorry if my writing sucks. Intellectuals bother me.

Would you fuck Casey Anthony? I think it’s a great question to pose.

Well, guys, what do you say? Would you date a notorious woman?

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What Does the Word Effeminate Mean?

From the Net:

I don’t believe truly effeminate straight men exist. Yes, there are straight men who are meek, submissive, sensitive, artistic, or who like to do “domestic” activities like cook, entertain or shop, but none of these traits are truly and exclusively “effeminate”. Lots of very masculine men have traits associated with women, like being nurturing, gossipy, or prone to easy excitement/emotions. Doesn’t make them effeminate at all though.

For me, effeminate means acting and speaking like a woman, and only (some) gay men or latent transsexuals actually do like this. A guy who doesn’t act stereotypically butch is not automatically effeminate, just like an aggressive and outgoing woman is not necessarily “butch”/lesbian/secretly wishing to be a man. Some people just don’t adhere to traditional gender roles in every aspect of their lives. A soft-spoken man who likes to sew can still have a low-level, easy-going masculine vibe, even if he’s not slapping you on the back while screaming at the game on TV.

Like said, the only “effeminate straight men” I’ve known have all been closet cases in the end. Lived next door to a HUGE flamer with a wife and kids for years, then they moved away, heard they divorced, yadda yadda yadda five years later, I see the husband drunk in a gay bar. Not shocked at all. Everyone else just thought he was “colorful” and eccentric. PLEASE…

…Along the lines of discussion—it matters how you’re defining ‘effeminate’. Some seem to only define it as extreme queeniness – everything short of Richard Simmons doesn’t qualify. Others cast the net too broadly and label everything short of a grunting meathead alpha persona as ‘effeminate’…

…So my question is, is a man who wears makeup considered effeminate even if he otherwise sounds and acts basically masculine?…

…Effeminancy to me is a guy who is hung up on little details/anal, passive-aggressive/ manipulative, dramatic and over-the-top in his emotions, narcissistic/conceited … all deal-breakers with me…

…Truly femme straight guys don’t exist. There is no heterosexual male on this planet who acts like the Figure Skater Johnny Weir…

…No such thing. There is difference between a straight man with feminine tendencies and someone who is overtly effeminate and obviously gay…

…As has been discussed elsewhere, men of certain ethnicities register as gay to Americans because we have this John Wayne-Clint Eastwood ideal of the perfect man being this quasi-psychopathic, uncivilized, violence-prone loner. Any man who’s well-groomed, has good social skills, is empathetic or prone to feelings other than rage and sadistic joy at someone else’s suffering is regarded as a possible gay…

Any comments on this? I agree with these sentiments in general, except for this one:

…Effeminancy to me is a guy who is hung up on little details/anal, passive-aggressive/ manipulative, dramatic and over-the-top in his emotions, narcissistic/conceited … all deal-breakers with me…

Ridiculous. None of that is effeminate to me. To me, effeminate is femme as in a stereotypical male homosexual – a man who overtly acts like a woman. You know what I mean – that campy, bitchy, faggoty, swishy, limp-wristed, lisping, fluttery style so many gay man have to one degree or another.

However, I would disagree with the men above. I have indeed mat some pretty faggoty straight guys. I am 100% certain that they were completely straight as I knew them pretty well, and I can figure out these things pretty quickly after talking to a man only a few times. That said, they seemed to be able to turn the faggoty thing on or off at will, unlike a lot of gay men who are on all the time.

I have also noticed that some men who are normally passive, meek, soft and withdrawn can, in times of high stress when they feel particularly defeated by life, act very faggoty. I actually have some relatives who I have seen act this way. The one I am thinking of is in no way gay at all as I knew him well growing up and he had a vast collection of girlie mags. No young gay man would ever collect such magazines.

In this case, the femme, effeminate, faggoty behavior is a temporary mode that this passive, meek, not particularly masculine man went into from time to time. It probably signified that at that moment, he felt particularly defeated and negated as a man and his response from this was to totally withdraw from the male role altogether into this faggoty stuff.

Another time I was over at friend’s house. The friend was a bit of an asshole, but he was completely straight nonetheless. He had a roommate who seemed like a regular guy except he could get pretty faggoty in his behavior. I am sure that if he were gay, Randy would have told me this important fact. So one night we were sitting around downing beers and taking bong hits with Randy and his roommate and we got to talking.

The roommate was faggoty as all Hell but he wouldn’t stop talking about women. This guy apparently had pussy on the brain 24-7. Also I got no gay vibe of attraction off of him, and I almost always do from a gay man. I have met many gay men and I have never in my life seen a gay man rant and rave about women and pussy like that. I assume it simply doesn’t happen.

So I would say that campy, femme, faggoty straight men do indeed exist, but often this is simply a mode that they go into from time to time and not a regular habit, but in some cases, they may be on most or all of the time.

On the other hand, most straight men who are accused of being effeminate are nothing of the sort in that they are not femme in that faggoty way that gay men are. They simply not living up to the macho roles of masculinity that society lays down for us.

Also some straight men speak with a lisp. My understanding is that a lisp is often a speech impediment and is not always indicative of homosexuality.

And I would say that straight men can surely wear makeup. I knew some guys in a band recently who wore makeup all the time. Apparently it’s the thing to do nowadays. They were also into “kissing guys” which I thought was pretty weird but was told that this along with the makeup was some sort of hip, Hollywood, glam thing to do nowadays. All of these young men were completely straight and they were all quite masculine. In fact, they gave off such masculine vibes that one might peg them as street gang members. They all had totally hot girlfriends or wives and I think some had little kids. That combined with the makeup and the kissing guys thing made for a pretty bizarre mix.

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Genius Syndrome

I read an article on very high IQ people the other day. These were folks who had IQ’s of 160+. Many of them were men. It was a very interesting piece. Many of them had very low incomes and quite a few were living in poverty or near poverty. Many lived alone and most rarely dated, even though they were heterosexual. Terminal bachelorhood seemed to be chronic. Consequently, many were very lonely. Quite a few were either unemployed or employed in jobs far below their abilities.

It was common for them to be very introverted, odd, strange, weird, nervous or anxious. The introversion was often so strong as to be be described as “painfully introverted.” The author did not feel that any of them were autistic or Asperger’s types. Instead, they were more properly what we think of as “neurotics.” Nowadays, idiotically, everyone thinks that odd introverts are “Aspies.” But this is not true. In fact the vast majority of odd introverts are probably just neurotic, or perhaps they are just introverts. Introversion and oddness have been known to go together for a very long time.

Another thing the author noted was that many of them had turned into some sort of misanthropes. They were disgusted with the world and humanity, mostly because they thought the world was full of “idiots,” as they put it. They had gotten so tired of dealing with what they considered to be a moronic world that many of them had just given up and sought solace in solitude.

I am starting to suffer from the last one – misanthropy. Not because I like misanthropy – actually I hate it. But increasingly I feel like I am surrounded by idiots, and I do not mean people with low IQ’s.

I mean people who do not know how to think about the world. I mean people who have stupid ideas and stupid attitudes, not low IQ’s. I mean people regard whatever garbage and lies society told them as some sort of a cookbook about how to live your life. I mean people with black and white, either/or thinking to whom nothing is a shade of grey. I mean people who are allergic and hostile to the very idea of shades of grey or continua in the first place.

I mean people who do not know how to reason logically, which has little to do with IQ. Many people with IQ’s of 90-100 can reason very logically. I mean people who won’t think outside the box. I mean people who do not know the meaning of words. I mean people who understand little or nothing about human psychology and the psyche.

I mean people who cannot seem to grasp logical, simple, obvious truths of the human condition because they go against whatever “cookbook” they were brought up with. The main problem seem to be people trying to get along by thinking only along society’s dictates and not moving out and forging their own way in thinking and in life. Societally mandated thinking and it’s preposterous “logic” which is not logical at all is nothing but a prison, but it is a comfortable one.

I guess what I am getting at is wisdom. A lot of folks are pretty wise, but it is the ways in which they are not wise that bothers me most.

It’s really starting to get on my nerves.

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Bronies

A brony convention, whatever the Hell that is.

A brony convention, whatever the Hell that is.

Bronies are a bizarre new postmodern phenomenon in which a large group of grown men aged 18-35 have become fanatical fans of a cartoon show for little girls called My Little Pony.

Yeah.

They have conventions in which they all dress up as cosplay players representing cartoon characters on the show. I am not sure exactly what they do at these conventions. Maybe it is like the Star Trek Trekkie phenomenon. In fact, bronies seem much like Trekkies in character and personality. These people are best described as “nerds.” There are also quite a few females involved in this scene, and some of the women look pretty cute.

Bronies have been widely derided for much the same reason that Trekkies are except bronies are even worse because this is a subculture of grown men obsessed with a cartoon show for little girls. There have been many attempts to troll bronies by 4chan members, and the show’s bulletin board had to be shut down because of 4chan troll invasions. I do not know why the chans hate bronies so much, perhaps because it is a group of grown men obsessed with a cartoon show for little girls.

Like many cartoons, My Little Pony does operate on several levels as the writers are quite clever. One level is for little girls who obviously cannot get sophisticated in-jokes. The other level is aimed at adults in which there are all sorts of clever allusions to modern life, other TV shows and characters and even movies. I confess to being a Spongebob Squarepants (mostly due to the cool first name he has), and it operates on this level also. But no way would I go to a Spongebob convention dressed as a kitchen sponge or whatever.

We really ought to see this as harmless fun I suppose as these folks are nerds who feel alienated and rejected by society. Many are highly introverted and have problems with socialization. It doesn’t hurt anyone, allows them to socialize and meet other humans and have a good time for once in a society that is probably largely rejecting of them.

A very large percentage of the males in this fanbase (really the whole MLP genre) are obese and I assume that they also tragically have very small penises, which used to make me fear that they would not reproduce much. However, my fears were alleviated, and many little bronies are now being popped out. Nerdy guys are males after all, and they need pussy like all the rest of us. Nerdy girls are sort of sad creatures, but they deserve the pleasures of motherhood.

Below is a post by a brony couple (yes these nerds do get together, marry and even mate and produce offspring – see above) who outrageously named their baby girl Pinkamerica Zecora. Supposedly that is a “pony” name.

Weird screengrab of bronies naming their little girl a really stupid name.

Click to enlarge and read. Weird screengrab of bronies naming their little girl a really stupid name.

I am sorry, but that is just messed up. Don’t give your kid weird names like that. They turned their own daughter into a joke. That seems just wrong.

That kid is probably going to end up an otherkin, a transsexual or a porn star, and I bet she offs herself before age 25. But I hope none of that happens.

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Perez Hilton

This outspoken, famous, offensive homosexual gossip blogger is on some British show called Celebrity Big Brother. Maybe my British readers know something about this show. It sounds inane like most such shows. Big Brother shows are where they get a bunch of people to live in a house together and then film it as live reality show. There is a popular one in the Philippines. Apparently in this one, they get a bunch of British celebrities to live together in a home and then film it, which sounds even more inane if that is even possible.

This gay man is bitchier than ten women PMS’ing at the same time. Gay men are known to be about as bitchy as women. PC says I am a homophobe if I say that, but I said it anyway. Anyway, it’s true, gay men are bitchy as Hell. I don’t hate them – I actually wish them the best, but that gay men are even bitchier than women is surely a truism.

This clown has somehow made himself into “the most hated man in Britain” and apparently he is reveling in it.

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Never Go Full MRA

MGTOW is a movement of men who have decided more or less to live without women. The logical results of such a trend are exemplified here.

Click to enlarge. MGTOW is a movement of men who have decided more or less to live without women. The logical results of such a trend are exemplified here.

There is definitely such a thing as going too MRA.

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Are Shy Men Being Rational or Irrational?

The worst part is when your a straight guy, but your not a confident leader. That makes you look really bad in front of ladies. Actually, you can even be a shy guy, but if you can show your “good at what you do” then you can win over people.

Shy guys don’t approach women, so they can go long periods without having sex or even dating, they can stay single a long time, be long-term bachelors, etc. I am sure that a lot of these incel guys are very shy.

The problem is that introverted shy guys get treated like garbage by society at large, so that just makes them even more shy. I have met a few retarded women who think shy guys are “pedophiles, serial killers, rapists or psychos.” It is absolute bullshit as shy men are incredibly less violent than extroverted men.

So the shy guy not only gets treated like complete shit by almost everyone, he also gets accused of being a child molester, a murderer, a rapist and other lunatic notions. After a while he gets really terrified to approach much of anyone, much less a woman because he just assumes he is going to get rejected. I honestly do not blame them.

Think of this. If most of the last 50 times you approached a woman, she blew you off, was cruel to you, acted like you were a creep, or accused you of being a depraved criminal, you would see a woman over there, think about going over to talk to her, remember what a catastrophe it was the last 50 times, and just figure the same thing is going to happen this time as happened the last 50 times. Do you blame them. How can anyone say that shy men are acting irrationally. They are acting all too rationally.

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What Is Femininity and How Much of It Can Men Use?

From some kooky Tea Party/right wing populist/conspiracy nutcase site, nonetheless a good article:

Thoughtfulness – is something we see very little of these days but encompasses elements of thoughtfulness, nurturing, care and consideration. People who are thoughtful place others ahead of themselves and very rarely expect anything in return.

Beauty – In beauty there is warm softness, in some cases a slight curviness, or it can be fragile delicateness that speaks softly. It’s something that is striking, but it doesn’t strike. Beauty can be touching, mesmerizing, heart-stopping, but it’s not something that has to be forced or sold. Beauty in women exists naturally.

Vulnerability – a way for women to show they are not strong in everything, show a weakness that perhaps men can step up and assert their manliness, strength and willingness to take care of situations that women don’t have the physical strength to handle the situation. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an admission that one cannot handle everything life throws at them, and a great sign of strength.

Empathy – This beautiful quality exists when a person sees someone else suffering and relates to their pain, then tries to ease their state.

Intuition- The “Gut” feeling many of us often get when something either really good, or really bad is about to happen, when we listen to it, become in tune with it, we can solve problems with our intuitive nature before they come to fruition. Many times it can feel almost psychic in nature, but in reality it’s just being in harmony with the surrounding environment.

Patience – is an even temperateness and capability of being the calm person during every storm. Patience comes with life experience and seeing our peers react in a calm confident manner.

Acceptance – accepting who one is, and every facet of our being the physical, the emotional, and the mental, without denying or pretending to be something else.

Sensuality – is the willingness to use patience, exploration and discovery to fine what really works while utilizing all that the body has to offer in regards to sexual pleasure. With sensuality, the fun is in the exploration and flirtatious foreplay.

Radiance – It’s that internal glow that shines so bright it reaches the skin’s surface and makes one’s entire aura fill a room with positive energy. Radiance is something that is acquired from taking the time to reflect on who, and what a person’s gifts here on earth, and appreciating those gifts for what they are.

A pretty good summary of the feminine ideal anyway in all of its glory. I think this is mostly correct. My remarks:

Patience – is an even temperateness and capability of being the calm person during every storm. Patience comes with life experience and seeing our peers react in a calm confident manner.

Yeah well forget that. Although I will say that a lot of women do get a lot more peaceful in this way as they get older. The female is the calm person in every storm. LOL no way Jose. Most women I know get quite emotional, depressed, anxious, angry, terrified, furious, mean, violent, contemptuous, annoyed, irritated and most certainly not the slightest bit patient whenever things start heading south. It is generally a male who exhibits calm under pressure. Men from some Asian cultures, such as older Japanese men, can be experts at this.

Intuition- The “Gut” feeling many of us often get when something either really good, or really bad is about to happen, when we listen to it, become in tune with it, we can solve problems with our intuitive nature before they come to fruition. Many times it can feel almost psychic in nature, but in reality it’s just being in harmony with the surrounding environment.

I don’t believe in precognition. Nevertheless, intuition is a form of genius in which women excel. They are not so good at logic or reason as that is the domain of the male, but they make up for it with their intuition. Intuition plus logic and reason is a great quality in man. For instance the best detectives have excellent intuition and logic/reason. That is a mind that is hard to beat.

Empathy – This beautiful quality exists when a person sees someone else suffering and relates to their pain, then tries to ease their state.

Women excel at this, of course. Men are much less empathetic. This is no doubt biological as women raise children, and men raid other tribes, kill the men and steal the women, all the while hunting dangerous mammoths. In those situations, the empathetic man is soon a dead man.

Although I do believe men can improve their empathy if they only work on it. I often get complaints from ex-girlfriends that “You don’t care. You only want one thing. You’re using me. You never call me,” and sadly, “You lack empathy.” I do not mind most of those, although the don’t care is not helpful in my relationships. The no empathy thing stings though.

I assure you that I try very hard to feel empathy for others, but I am just not very good at it. For some reason, every time I think about someone’s horrible or lousy situation, I think, “Oh well, it’s not that bad. If that happened to me, I would be able to handle it no problem.” This bothers me as it seems to minimize their problems, and the truth is that I flip out and take to bed all day defeated with much lesser stresses than the others in my life have to deal with. But no matter how hard I try to put myself in their place, there is still the matter of, “Yes but it’s not me. It’s another person.” If it’s me, it’s the end of the world; if it’s another person, it’s no big deal, and I could handle it easily although I couldn’t.

My therapist said that women are always accusing men of not caring and lacking empathy. These complaints are a dime a dozen. He said that men do have empathy, but not as much as women, and they show it in different ways than women, often experiencing it more cognitively than emotionally.

Vulnerability – a way for women to show they are not strong in everything, show a weakness that perhaps men can step up and assert their manliness, strength and willingness to take care of situations that women don’t have the physical strength to handle the situation. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an admission that one cannot handle everything life throws at them, and a great sign of strength.

Sure women are vulnerable. But should men be vulnerable? I say bad idea. Sure, sometimes you have to ask for help if you really need it, but a lot of people that a man who is not handy or is asking for help is seen as a great big pussy. The more vulnerable a man is, the more problems he is going to have in life as people will see this quality as babiness, pussification, and downright unmasculine.

Pity the obviously vulnerable man. Other men will sneer, mock or suppress a cruel laugh. Women themselves have a lot contempt for him. God help the seriously depressed man. Women will give him way more crap than men will. Past a certain age, all men know what it means to be sad. Women see a depressed man, and they want to kick his ass.

Sensuality – is the willingness to use patience, exploration and discovery to fine what really works while utilizing all that the body has to offer in regards to sexual pleasure. With sensuality, the fun is in the exploration and flirtatious foreplay.

Sure, women are great at this. I think men could use this quality too. Women love sensuous men as lovers. They eat em like candy. No downside here.

Beauty – In beauty there is warm softness, in some cases a slight curviness, or it can be fragile delicateness that speaks softly. It’s something that is striking, but it doesn’t strike. Beauty can be touching, mesmerizing, heart-stopping, but it’s not something that has to be forced or sold. Beauty in women exists naturally.

Sure this is a part of women, but some women harden as they age, maybe go through a bad divorce and become angry middle aged women who are cynical about men. They appear hard, and whatever beauty they had is history.

Beauty is a mixed blessing for men. Sure it turns on a lot of people sexually especially if you are good-looking. Many of the most successful womanizers I knew had a certain element of feminine beauty like this about them. They slinked when they walked, had smooth movements with their limbs, sometimes looked like vulnerable little boys, spoke softly and had delicate features. Women literally could not resist these guys.

When I say mixed blessing, I mean that the more beautiful a man is, the more people are going to insist that he is homosexual or at least has some gay component. And beauty in men will attract gay men like mosquitoes in Alaska.

I think this quality if good in small doses but can quickly go too far and now you’re a fucking faggot and that’s an inane sort of unnecessary and aggravating stressful confusion for a straight man. Even very handsome men are often seen as gay simply because they are very good looking. John F. Kennedy himself remarked on this. This problem is particularly acute when a man is pretty, soft-faced, or baby-faced. Pretty boy is a double edged sword.

That fragile delicateness that speaks softly part is so not going to work unless you can turn it into a James Dean, beautiful loser, doomed bad boy, tragic outlaw sort of thing, in which case it’s Women RAID.

The vulnerable little boy thing is good and if you do it right, it’s a lady slayer. Embarrassing secret: I often play little boy-Mommy with girlfriends when I get up in the morning. “Mooooom can I have some bweckfast?” with an expectant pout. Then Mommy cooks her little six year old son breakfast and makes him all happy and full. It sounds asinine but it goes over great with most girlfriends, and they love it and think it is hilarious.

But mostly fragile delicateness is just going to look pussy. You need to watch it with that one.

Thoughtfulness – is something we see very little of these days but encompasses elements of thoughtfulness, nurturing, care and consideration. People who are thoughtful place others ahead of themselves and very rarely expect anything in return.

Women are superb at this as nature has selected for it as an essential component of mothering. The maternal quality is hardwired in most females, even the childless ones in their 40’s and 50’s who say they hate kids. It’s not true, but some of them have turned their dogs or cats into surrogate children.

Men just are not good at this at all. I don’t see anything wrong with a man being thoughtful in this way, but it doesn’t come naturally, and the guys that are “good” at it are often Omega wussy manginas friendzoned by the female planet who suffer masochistically while their woman friends use them as sounding boards and crying shoulders. This is a very lame wussy thing to get into, and most men like this are pathetic. If this is the way you are stumbling through life right now, get out. Not now. Yesterday.

Acceptance – accepting who one is, and every facet of our being the physical, the emotional, and the mental, without denying or pretending to be something else.

I am not sure if any women ever accept themselves. Men are a lot better tat this than women are because frankly a lot of them simply do not care. Not caring has its downside, but if you don’t give a damn, you usually won’t find yourself lacking.

Women are usually dissatisfied with one or more aspects of themselves, typically their bodies. Even women in their 40’s and 50’s are still pretty crazy and insecure over their bodies. Of course all young women are in a permanent state of body insecurity. That is one of the defining features of a young woman. Woman of all ages are masters of denial as this is one of their favorite defenses, often utilized to the point of sheer blindness, in which they find some odd peace being lost in total darkness.

I do not think women accept themselves emotionally either as they are often undergoing some sort of anxiety/depression minor emotional troubles, that is when they are not out and out suicidal or at wit’s end. By the time a women reach 70, almost all of them will have experienced at least one major depression and will have been seriously suicidal.

By the time a woman reaches 55, a stunning number of them will have made a suicide attempt. Fortunately most women’s suicide attempts are just cries for help and are are done in that typical histrionic, theatrical mode that females excel at. That is, they are not serious. They are trying to get attention. People scoff at these fake attempts as pussy, but men are much more logical, rational and successful at suicide so maybe this is one time it is better to wuss out, make a scene and act like a girl. At least you’ll be alive when you wake up. Men use guns, women use pills. This is one case where male efficiency and practicality is a bad idea.

Interestingly, gay men also excel at these histrionic fake suicide attempts. Don’t believe the lies Gay Identity Politics tells about the gay suicide rate/ teen gay suicide rate. Neither do do it any more than straight. They just make a lot more attempts.

Radiance – It’s that internal glow that shines so bright it reaches the skin’s surface and makes one’s entire aura fill a room with positive energy. Radiance is something that is acquired from taking the time to reflect on who, and what a person’s gifts here on earth, and appreciating those gifts for what they are.

This is a nice one, and women can be pretty good at this as they are in touch with this sort of positive feeling. Many men probably shut this glorious feeling down in their 20’s at the same time they were shutting down all their bad feelings, and as we get older and chronically serious and “adult,” we are not good at this anymore. But teenage boys and young men can often have this innocent, Jesus-like quality.

I don’t see anything wrong with men doing this, but you can get into trouble for smiling too much. As a young man I was always smiling, and other young men who saw themselves as “adult” seemed to get quite annoyed by it. The idea is that a man who is smiling all the time is somehow ridiculous, not manly or serious or is still a teenager. Grow up, idiot!

Personally, I love nothing better than to see the uncommon man, often older, with a smile of pure blissed out LSD like peace shimmering across his placid face. Peace is yours for the taking.

I doubt if women care if you smile all the the time, and an extremely calm man who appears to have near total peace of mind at the time is quite attractive with women who are so often in a state of emotional turmoil and roiling seas.

I do not think a man can go wrong with this one, but it is a bit hard to achieve because life is often pretty painful and shitty, and it’s hard enough to drag yourself out in the morning, resist the urge to kill yourself, and determinedly march into a new quotidian speed-bump. That takes up enough energy for many men, and there is not much left over to imitate the Buddha. If you manage to achieve this though, good for you, as the world that unfolds when you have achieved substantial peace of mind is as gorgeous as this life gets. Savor it, hang onto it, thank your lucky stars. You are one of the blessed ones. Go forth my son, and frown no more.

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