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As US Gays Became More Open, Clothing, Grooming and Behavioral Spaces for Straight Men Shrunk

Social Democrat wrote:  I don’t know if Robert would allow this comment, but whatever.

This is a problem of American culture and it has nothing to do with the Queers

Russian, Italian and French men still wear speedos. I live in EU, and heterosexual men can wear short shorts, pink shirts and tight shirts/pants

I know some of you see EU men as less masculine than the American alpha, so I won’t debate it as you won’t change your minds.

Again, this is an problem of American culture.

European men still kiss and hug each other in France, Italy, Spain and Portugal. Don’t believe me?

Even the most alpha neo-nazi soccer thug cries, hugs and kisses his buddies during soccer matches. I live in medium size city of 700k with 2 fútbol teams and when one of them wins a match, perfectly masculine shirtless alpha males celebrate it hugging and kissing their buddies.

Another example: we do not a have a distance when we talk with each other, that’s an american thing. Here it’s totally normal to touch the face of another men, his belly or his back, an example: some days ago I was walking my dog, as he looks so old -he is 11 years old- a man asked about his health and then put his arm over my shoulder and start talking about his own old dog. Again, this behavior is normal here, as he was with his wife and children.

Try to open a bank account in Spain or Portugal, if you are a young man, the male bank clerk will slap your back o even put his arm over your shoulder. This is because they celebrate a young man is finally opening a bank account.

There are exceptions, of course, but this behavior is widespread.

America culture and the fabric of civil society is broken. That’s the reason you cannot do male bonding anymore.

Curious stuff: opposition to gay rights in EU has been minimal.

There’s no way that the degeneration of US culture, if it is even occurring (I say it is) would have anything to do with males not bonding. Why would cultural decline cause men to not bond anymore? Even in nations completely destroyed or significantly destroyed by wars, males bond as well and as intensely as ever, possibly even more so because the increased violence means that women spend more time at home and have relinquished the street to men. Yemen, Iraq, Eastern Ukraine, Libya, Afghanistan, Syria, Palestine are all war-destroyed, and it has not harmed male bonding. In fact, it probably increased it. Turkey and Saudi Arabia are partially war-wrecked, and males bond as closely as ever in those places.

So this argument is simply not valid.

The truth is that as gays got more and more open, flaunting and out, the spaces for straight men’s clothing, grooming and behaviors progressively shrunk. It’s almost a linear curve.

The commenter is half-right and half-wrong.

It’s has all to do with the queers. And it has to do with US society.

I would say that it has to do with US straight male society’s reaction to increasingly out gay men and open homosexuality. I told you that when they were more closeted, straight men had so many more freedoms. And as gay men got more and more out, straight men reacted to that by becoming more and more hypermasculine. I would hate to be a young man nowadays. There’s no way I could live up to modern standards of masculinity. Nowadays your average male looks like a tatted up street thug, biker, truck driver or parolee, often with behavior to boot. I’d be called gay and accused of being not masculine enough more than ever. It looks like a total nightmare.

It’s also the fault of gays though because gay men have bought into the whole project, and like straight men, they assume that all men who are not hypermasculine are gay. So straight male society has gone increasingly hypermasculine as a result of more open gay rights, and both straight and gay men have reacted to that by radically restricting the behaviors by which straight men must uphold. Gay men demand that straight men act hypermasculine also, and if you don’t, they will insist that you are gay, and no amount of evidence or arguing will convince them otherwise.. So the gays are at fault here too. I am not letting gay men off the hook here.

Gay men have been in on it! And they stole a lot of our clothes, grooming styles and behaviors and made them gay-only and punished any straight men trespassing on what is now gay territory by accusing those straight men of being gay.

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Why Homosexuals Are A Signalling Hazard In Traditional Societies

Why Homosexuals Are A Signalling Hazard In Traditional Societies.

I would reprint the article, but it says copyright Hestia Society, so I’d better not. This is yet another neoreaction blog. I despise reactionaries in general, but as the Cultural Left gets more and more insane, it starts making sense to not only be a social conservative (let’s stop all this change right now, enough is enough) but to be an actual social reactionary (we’ve gone way too far already – it’s time for a rollback to a saner era). That’s in part what the Alternative Left (at least my vision of it) is all about.

As far as the subject in the post, I have noticed this too, and I have been discussing it for some time now. I think I have ever written about it a bit.

Extremely out gay men have ruined all sorts of things.

I used to be a glam rocker. My favorite band was the New York Dolls, a bunch of straight men who dressed up like women for an in your face gag.

I wore silk and cotton scarves and bandanas. They drove women crazy with lust. I was told this by a few women I had sex with. Good luck wearing anything like that now. I would not do it if you paid me.

I wore velvet pants routinely. Who would dare do that now?

My favorite shirts were silk shirts. When was the last time you saw a straight man in a faggy silk shirt? I can’t even remember when.

I loved to wear platform heels, and my favorite were – get this – four inch high blue platform heels! God I loved those high heels! No straight man in his right mind would dare wearing platforms (really just another word for high heels) these days.

I used to wear very short shorts. Even back then, people were dubious about them and called them faggy. You last saw a straight guy wearing those when?

Ever see men wearing those nicely trimmed beards or very nicely trimmed mustaches? Nope, sorry. That’s for the Castro Clones now. One more thing gay men ruined.

I used to wear speedo like underwear. My brothers hated those things even back in the day. They said they were faggoty. I really didn’t care though because every time I stripped in front of a new woman, and she saw those speedo speedos, she would give out a wolf whistle or an “Awoooo!” I have a lot of those still in my drawer, but I refuse to wear them anymore. Instead I wear these boring and lame white jockey shorts. They’re dull and lame, but at least they aren’t suspect.

I also loved wearing something called a short kimono. Supposedly Japanese men like to wear these things in the house and maybe even outside the house. The short kimono is for men and the long kimono is for women. I would wear it over my shirt and pants like some sort of a robe. Even back then, this garment was very suspect, and I remember once when I met a friend wearing that, I could tell he was just barely resisting the urge to punch me in the face. But I even wore them on dates, and no one cared. I also used to wear Hugh Hefner style smoking jackets over my shirts and pants. I only wore them on one date, but the woman cooed over it. I would not wear that stuff nowadays if you paid me.

Back in the day, a lot of men wore pink. I rather like the color actually. You could wear pink on a date with a chick, and she would think nothing of it. The line back then was, “I’m secure enough to wear pink,” said with a nonchalant shrug. When was the last time you saw a straight man wearing pink? I recently met a woman originally from Colombia, and I was chatting her up. I told her I liked to wear pink, and she flipped out and started yelling at me and calling me a faggot in Spanish. I insisted that I was straight, and she modified her insult to some word that meant “wimpy, pussy, faggoty straight guy.” It was not much of a consolation.

Back in those days, the general assumption was “straight until proven otherwise,” and the barrier for proving homo- or bisexuality was quite great because few men were doing these things, and those that were acted pretty quiet about it. Arab men at my local store and even a lot of Mexican men still believe in “straight until proven otherwise.” Homosexuality is simply never discussed, and anyone who brings it up is suspect and the conversational shift is greeted with shock and open hostility, though the older Arab man my age found male homosexuality to be ridiculously hilarious.

“Straight until proven otherwise” is a great way to run a society. I love it. Nowadays it is actually homophobic to assume that men are straight until proven otherwise. In other words, what was once common sense and good manners is now regarded as hatred of gay men!

The fanny pack I wear is almost never used by anyone, though they were popular with men in the 1990’s. Now that gays are so much more out though, I suppose most men will not be caught dead with one. Women I am trying to seduce openly mock me for wearing a fanny pack, and they are my age! I like to play along and jokingly call it my “fag pack.” Nevertheless, I will not leave the door without it, and I am convinced that all men should carry some sort of a handbag. Purses are not just for women, you know. We men need purses too, call them whatever you want – handbag, fanny pack, etc. European men have been carrying them forever now. But here in the US with all these wildly out gay men, good luck with that.

I still like to wear my girlfriends’ clothes sometimes (assuming they fit). Sweaters, fur coats, socks and shirts work best. Pajamas are a tough call, but I do wear their pajamas, especially the silk ones. My girlfriends think it is hilarious, and they love to give me their clothes to wear. A recent girlfriend offered to put some eyeliner on me. I was going to do it. A gay man on my site heard that I wore my girlfriends’ clothes, and his assumption was that obviously I must be gay or bi. He simply could not comprehend a straight man doing such a thing. That did not compute.

Friendships among straight men, especially very close ones, have also been sort of weird, uncomfortable and somewhat hazardous, but nowadays it seems like they are getting rarer.

When I first moved to Los  Angeles, I had another man for a roommate. He was pretty damn weird, and he was not completely straight, but he was predominantly straight. He was just weird and hard-up. One night while I was watching TV the door to his room opened very slowly. The crack slowly widened. Soon there was my roommate standing the barely opened doorway, naked as the day he was born. He had a bizarre thousand yard stare in his eyes like some alien force or pod people had colonized his brain. I turned quickly away with a “I didn’t see that!” notion, and later on, his weird behavior that night was never discussed. What was I supposed to say about it? But he never did it again.

Anyway, I went to visit my grandma once, and she looked at me with a grave look and talked in sheer seriousness, “Yes, that was when you were living with that other man…” I didn’t say anything. What can you say to a comment like that?

But inside, I flipped. My own grandma thought I was a faggot! She should have known better. Did she have any idea of how I had lived my life? Me!? The guy who, at age 24, had already dated ~50-75 females and was a legend in my neighborhood? The guy who won Player of the Year two years straight and one year won Most Valuable Player? Apparently it was all a fraud and a cover-up. I was actually a closeted faggot the whole time! Who knew?

Ever since then, I have never roomed with another man. For guess what reason? I’ve lived alone and had to move back to my parents house a few times when it was either that or homelessness. The Hell if I will have another male roommate as long as I live. So there’s one more thing gay men ruined. Straight male roommates.

I had a friend who was in a sort of a glam rock band. Most of the other guys were these tough, half-Mexican guys, so tough they almost seemed like street gang members. They all had seriously hot girlfriends. But for some bizarre reason, they were into kissing the other guys in the band. I don’t know what it meant, but I think it was some New York Dolls type thing where they weren’t gay at all but they kissed each other as some gag. My friend hated that.

One time my friend was at a party in a bathroom, and the other band member kissed him. A young woman was entering the bathroom at the same time, and she jumped for joy and insisted that they were both gay. “I love gay men! I love gay men!” she gushed, plunking herself down on the toilet. They tried to explain to her that they weren’t gay, but she would have none of it.

I have told people about my friend’s band and they insisted that the band members were gay. I told a gay man once, and he stated that if they kissed each other, they were obviously gay. They simply not be otherwise. It made no sense.

One guy in the band was actually wimpy in some ways. He had a girlish face, very long dark hair, and loved to wear a bit of makeup (all the guys in the band were way into makeup, and my friend had to go along). He was so femmy in some ways that he would actually scream and jump up on a chair if he saw a mouse or if there was an insect in the house. On the other hand, he was this tough half-Mexican who gave off a street gang member vibe and he had a seriously hot girlfriend, so he was clearly a pure androgyne. I told the same gay man about this, and he absolutely insisted that the guy was gay due to his reactions to rodents and bugs. It simply had to be the case. There could be no other explanation for his behavior.

The mental and physical spaces we straight men can move around in without suspicion have progressively constricted as homosexuality has become more and more open.

Thanks a lot, gays!

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Weirdest Festivals in the World

Here.

Look at all of these bizarre, crazy and even downright stupid festivals humans hold all over the damn world! Unbelievable. On the other hand though, no matter how dumb these festivals are, there’s never much of a reason not to have a good time, right? Even an insipid good time is still a good time after all.

The only one I think is truly idiotic is the Running of the Bulls in Pamplona, Spain. Downright stupid. My Mom,  who is the smartest woman in the whole world, shakes her head when someone brings up this festival.

“Only men would do something that stupid,” she says, chuckling.

“Women would never do anything like that?” I ask.

“Of course not!” she scofffs. “Women are not that stupid! Only men are dumb enough to do something like that.”

You know what? At the risk of sounding misandrist, she’s right. Only men are dumb enough to run ahead of those dangerous bulls. No woman is that stupid.

Men like to make a lot of jokes about women being dumb, and it’s true, women are pretty damn stupid, at least from a male point of view. Mostly they seem inane and idiotic to us. Men hear typical women’s conversation and want to plug their ears. It sound utterly trivial and pointless, yet the women seem to be so fascinated by this silly discussion. They remind us of birds chirping away in the trees, and they seem to make about as much sense. Of course, I like women, so I even like it when they are chirping away being idiotic talking about relationships or drama or feels or gossip or makeup or clothes or hot guys or whatever it is women pointlessly chirp on about. I know it’s idiotic conversation, but I love it anyway. I even join in.

So yes, of course women are idiots, but they are usually harmless idiots.

Men on the other hand are also very much idiots also (note the morons running with the bulls in the street), but men are dangerous idiots, and that’s so much worse.

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Sexual Capability and Drive in Female Children and Adolescents

Goldie: I have read your blog – here and there. I find it interesting, in one entry, you state that “children do not have sexual feelings”. I am a female and have been masturbating (with climax) since at least age 8 (and masturbating without climax long before that)… Just wanted to make you aware that your assumption is at least false in some cases (just judging by my own life experiences and what my friends have told me). This is probably not accurate among ALL females (as nothing ever encompasses ALL of anybody); however, I felt it important to share this with you.

P.S. My response is to one of your blog entries from a long time ago, where you call teenage girls “dangerous’ since they do have sexual feelings, yet children do not. You were discussing whether Abby or Libby might have been going to meet a male the day they were murdered– or not (just for reference).

Thank you very much for your interesting comment, Goldie.

I know very well that little girls can reach orgasm. I have had girlfriends who started masturbating to orgasm at age 5. And if you go out on the Net, you can find quite a few women saying that they learned how to do this as girls, sometimes by accident.

One woman said she was seven years old and she was riding the back of the couch like it was a horse. Well as you can imagine, that went on for a while and then there was an explosion which totally freaked the girl out. ”

Mommy!” she called out. “What was that!?”

Well Mom came into the room, figured out what happened, and they had a little talk.

I have had female commenters and a couple of female clients who told me that they started masturbating to orgasm at age 7-8.

The difference is though that I am absolutely convinced that little girls simply do not want to fuck boys or men. They do not have any actual physical or mental sex drive in that sense. They do not lubricate, get abdominal tingles or have the psychophysiological sensation of a “hunger for sex.” Furthermore, they do not find boys or men sexually attractive in the sense that they get turned on by them.

So while yes, little girls have the full capability of masturbating and reaching orgasm, on the other hand, they lack and actual mind-body physical and psychological drive for sex that mature females have. Yes, they can get off, and no, they don’t have a sex drive, and no, the fact that they can get off is not the same thing as an actual drive for sex.

Yes, children do indeed engage in sex play. I hear about this all the time from my clients, and it is often incestuous and sometimes bisexual. You would not believe the wild stories I have heard! The sex that they have is more exploratory in terms of sex play.

For instance, little girls simply do not lubricate. They just don’t. Lubrication starts at puberty. Women lubricate. Even women as young as 18 or 20 have told me that they go through phases where they are wet all the time from the time they get up in the morning til the time they go to bed at night. That’s a turned on sex drive. Little girls experience nothing like that.

I have had girlfriends who told me that there are other sensations associated with the female sex drive. One described it as “a pain in the stomach, but a pleasant pain.” I asked if it was a tingling sensation, and she said yes. Another female friend told me that it is a tingling sensation, and it is lower, in the abdomen. Little girls simply do not have this physical sensation in their abdomen. They don’t get actually physically horny in that sense.

There is also a mental component. One female friend described it as simply a “hunger.” It is actually a “hunger for sex,” like when you are thirsty or hungry for liquids or food. It’s a mental and physical drive. I do not believe that little girls have this psychological “hunger for sex” feeling. They don’t want or need to have sex. With anyone.

In addition, mature females have the psychological feeling of finding other mature persons physically attractive in a sexual way. Most women develop an actual physical and sexual feeling of attraction towards males as a normal part of their development. Boys and men turn them on. I do not believe that little girls find anyone sexually attractive. No one turns them. Neither boys nor men nor anyone at all for that matter.

What happens is that at puberty, something kicks in in the human female. The actual physical sex drive complete with abdominal tingles, a strong feeling of psychological hunger for sex, lubrication and a new feeling of attraction, usually to boys and men. No one knows how this attraction part kicks in, and it is not well understood, but something kicks in in the brain that actually makes you start looking at other humans as sexually attractive and makes you feel like you want to have sex with them.

For girls the onset of the sex drive seems to be around the time menarche. Nowadays most all teenage girls start masturbating at age 13, which is probably around the time of menarche. That seems awful young to me. I doubt if that many girls were masturbating so often and so young when I was 13. It makes sense that menarche and the onset of the sex drive would coincide. Menarche signals that your body is ready to start making babies. Of course if your body is ready to make babies, it makes sense to turn the mind-body drive that makes you want to do the thing that makes the babies, right?

The onset of the sex drive is also very poorly understood in terms of sexual orientation. We also do not know if sexual orientation is malleable. Obviously it is in women, however, most true biological lesbians seem have been wired up that way from an early age, possibly even in the womb as a developmental factor.

It seems to be somewhat malleable in boys too, and boys seem to be able to modify their sex drives somewhat from ~9-~13, but they can’t modify them too much at the later age. Sometimes an environmental drive developed in childhood crashes into a biological drive. In the case of George Michael, a true bisexual, he got very interested in girls at an early age as a boy, and he was still very much into them when his sex drive came on like gangbusters at puberty. What happened was that a pre-programmed homosexual orientation exploded into his mind and came onto him in a rush of thoughts and sensations as it does in all biologically gay men and boys. However, since he had established a strong interest in females as a boy, he remained very much turned on by women his entire life.

All available data shows that male sexual orientation cannot be changed in the lab after age 15. We don’t know if it can be changed before age 15, but it might be hard to get funding for a study like that! Not only can gay men not be turned gay, but they cannot even be moved 10% on the sexual orientation scale. Although only gay men trying to turn straight have been studied, it stands to reason that if is works one way, it works another.

Getting back to the topic at hand in regard to the Delphi Murders, as post-pubertal girls with a full, strong sex drive, of course Abbie and Libby could have been in the park to meet boys. Teenage girls are interested in boys sexually as we all know. On the contrary, if they were younger, say 11 and 12, it would be highly dubious if they were there to meet boys. 11 and 12 year old girls have no sex drive, other humans don’t turn them, and they don’t desire to have sex with other humans. In fact, girls that age are often quite boy-phobic. This is why it was important to note that based on the girls’ ages, they could well have been there to meet boys, whereas if they were younger, we could probably rule that out.

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Homophobia Is Normal for Straight Men

Jason Y: My limited experience with gays is that I don’t like them. They’re always coming on to you. But I haven’t been around enough to know the whole story on them. Anyway, though, gay guys pressuring you is akin to some Trump/Andrew Dice Clay type pig harassing women. It’s unwanted behavior.

Yes, this is exactly what they do, this is exactly how I feel about them, and this also seems to be the way that most straight men I know feel about them.

On the other hand, I support most of their political project, and I even work on their damned political campaigns. But they won’t stop calling me homophobe!

And nowadays, any man who feels like you and I do about gays gets labeled conservative, Republican, reactionary, fascist, bigot, etc. Isn’t that dumb? So the Left is shoving every guy who feels like we do into the Republican Party! Way to go, geniuses.

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Macho and Homophobic Behavior Is Quite Common among Liberal Men

Jason: SHI, based on your comments on FAGS, I would think you’d be out cheering Trump’s masculine pro-white agenda.

Jason sounds like a Cultural Left type here. Newsflash: a lot of White liberal straight men have some pretty un-PC views on race, ethnicity, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, etc. Sexist, racist, bigoted, transphobic and homophobic views are notoriously common among White liberal straight men. There’s more to liberalism that this Cultural Left crap you know. This is what it’s boiled down to now: people think that the only reason anyone is liberal is because they are Cultural Left. If you’re traditional or not Cultural Left, how can you possibly be a liberal. And if you hold traditional social views, you must vote Republican. No ifs, ands or buts about it.

I hang out on Left websites like Daily Kos a lot (even though they gave me a lifetime ban recently). Most of the articles on there have nothing whatsoever to do with the Cultural Left. They don’t talk about race, feminism, gay rights or trans rights a lot and when they do, it is more in the sense of basic rights than Cultural Left crap. An article about feminism would take the line of the pay gap or cutting birth control coverage out of the health care bill. An article on gay rights would argue for anti-discrimination in employment and the right to marry.  An article on transsexuals would  say they ought to be able to serve in the military. An article on race would talk about the ways that Blacks are being openly discriminated against in voting rights nowadays, leading to a new Jim Crow. I actually support all of those positions and I hate the Cultural Left.

We need to get off this liberalism and Left = Cultural Left insanity. It needs to strong leftwing men like me getting constantly abused being called conservative, Republican, rightist, fascist, Nazi, anti-Semite, misogynist, homophobe, transphobe, bigot, reactionary, Alt Right, and all sorts of bullshit. Never mind that no rightwing group wants anything to do with me and  I have identified with the Left my whole life. We are throwing a lot of good people out of the Left because they aren’t going along with whatever the Cultural Left carnival ride of the day is. It’s morally reprehensible and it’s also just plain bad politics.

A lot of liberal men are pretty masculine. This whole thing of if you are a masculine man, you have to vote Republican because Democrats are all cucks and faggots is a new thing.

And a lot of liberal straight men don’t like gay men too much. Homophobia is basically normal for straight men. Straight male society has a lot of rules, but one of them is:

1. Absolutely no faggotry whatsoever in any way, shape or form.

You can’t even have thoughts like that. I have known some straight men who told me that they have low level gay interests but they have no interest in acting on them. The attractions are very minor and these are mostly just regular straight men. However, they told me that they had to suppress those feelings when they were around other straight men because they insisted that when they experienced those gay attractions around straight men, even in the privacy of their minds only, straight men often picked up on it and they tended to get very angry in response. You simply cannot have even thoughts like that around other straight men. They will freak and reject you flat out.

Straight men hate effeminate behavior, they hate wussy, pussy, girly, sissy, faggy, wimpy men, and the very idea of gay sex is physically revolting to most of them. A lot of straight men would say the worst thing you could do would be to have sex with another man, and a number of straight men have told me they would rather take a bullet than have sex with a guy.

On the other hand, a lot of these same straight men will support gay rights. They just don’t want any gay men around them. I’ve never known one straight man from my generation who had a gay friend. In my generation, the idea of straight men having gay friends is simply bizarre. How could any straight man have a gay friend? It’s just too weird.

Friendships are based on having a lot of things in common. The one thing binding together most straight male friendships is heterosexuality or love of pussy if you will. Quite a bit of straight male friendships are about socializing around women. You get together and talk about women most of the time. That’s one of the main things you have in common and that’s the glue that makes a close friendship possible. With gay men and straight men, the gap in fundamental basic interests is as wide as the Grand Canyon and I do not see how you bridge that.

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Intuition, Logic’s Unacknowledged Twin

“The more time I spend around this guy the creepier vibes I get from him.”

This is that thing called intuition. It’s actually sort of the opposite of logic. It’s all about the feels. It is also what we call “vibes” which is literally short for vibrations. The implication is that we can feel actual vibrations in the air when we are around something or usually someone that makes us feel a certain way.

It also works on something called Gestalt, which is “I know it when I see it.” You can’t put your finger on exactly why you feel that way, but you just feel that way and can’t even figure out how you got to that conclusion. Sometimes the hair on the back of your head will stand up. Sometimes a shiver runs through your body. Gestalt is “the sum is greater than the whole of its parts.” It’s the “smell” of something, without even using your nose. Like “this smells fishy” about a bad deal.

I am into birdwatching, and one of things we use is Gestalt. Sure, we have all sorts of guides and photos and drawings and whatnot that show us how to tell one bird from another by looks, terrain, behavior, song and all sorts of things, but oftentimes, it just boils down to Gestalt. You see a bird, sometimes just for an instant, and you just know it was a “so and so bird.” Someone asks you how or why you reached that conclusion, and you can’t even say. You shrug your shoulders and say, “I don’t know. I just knew it.” Something about it all added up.

Men decry this because it’s not logical thinking, but logical thinking only gets you so far, and a lot of things cannot be figured out with pure logic. You will dead end and stall or need to back out.

I think holistic thinking or “seeing the whole picture” or “putting it all together” may be intuitive also. You don’t exactly see the whole picture by some logical inductive or deductive method. You sort of “put it all together.” You form a picture in your mind, and there it is. The Gestalt. The “whole picture.”

The finest detectives have excellent logic and intuitive skills. Women are much better at intuition than men. We beat them at the opposite, so it all sort of evens out. That’s why men are stereotyped as such social retards, and women often say we just don’t get it. We men go at social interactions via brute force logic like a dictionary attack to break a password, and the result is a bull in a china shop.

So much of social communication works off subtle signals, vibes, small changes in conversational subject or tone, and the whole panoply of nonverbal communication where you can communicate with people merely by looking at their faces and body language. The pure social actor has mastered this whole pantomime. The social retard just doesn’t get it. Asperger’s people simply cannot read nonverbal communication at all. They often don’t get jokes or irony. They do not understand social conventions, and social rules are lost on them. This shows how important intuition is in social communication or what we call “social skills,” a term I despise.

I would like to see more women get into detective work. Looking at this websleuth group, and some of our best sleuths are women who seem to be operating off sheer intuition. We have a few female detectives and they can be quite good, but almost all detectives are men.

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I Will Not Take Crap from a Woman

I realize that nowadays that the Cultural Left, PC and feminism have taken over society and the patriarchy has been overthrown and replaced with a repressive matriarchy, what I am going to say will seem like a horrible sexist attack on women, but I will say it anyway.

The thing is, I can take crap from a man. Online for sure. I just block him on Facebook or Quora or on my site. He’s just gone. Other than that, I just leave the conversation. I don’t usually start stuff with men online. I have started stuff with a few of them, but they came to my site walking right in the front door swinging fists at me. I wrote a few of them back emails cussing them out and vaguely threatening them. Vague threats are 100% legal by the way. If LE arrested everyone who engaged in vague threats, they would have to lock up half the population. Even people who make full and explicit threats are rarely charged, though they can be. If it’s done on the phone, you need to record the conversation. If it’s in person, you need to record it or have witnesses. And there are great problems with online threats, which are almost never prosecuted.

Thing is, I can hold my own against men, especially if I have done something wrong. If I screw up, I just apologize and try to calm the guy down. Or maybe I just walk away and call him some name as I am out the door. I don’t want to get into it with a man. I accept because it’s man to man, so it feels “fair” to me.

In Man World, if you insult a stranger or someone you do not know well, all men know that you can very well get hit. Or worse, you can be killed. I sort of feel that  other men have a right to punch me in the face, and that’s why I suck up to almost all men when I am out in public. And if there are any serious bullies, I usually just apologize, back down, go submissive and try to get them to back off.

People do not understand the world of men. When a bully challenges you and threatens you, he is not necessarily going to hit you. He is going to hit you if you don’t back down. What he wants first and foremost is a sign of submission. So you go seriously submissive to the guy and apologize floridly. Generally speaking, the bully just backs down. It’s like when a cat attacks another cat and the other cat goes submissive and rolls on its back exposing its stomach. That’s all the attacker wanted. He just wanted to dominate that other cat. Once the other cat goes submissive, it’s over, and the has proven its dominance and is free to walk away.

Most displays of aggression are often just dominance games. The attacker is trying to dominate the other party, and he wants him to go submissive in front of him. Once the attacked person has gone submissive or apologized, it’s all over because the attacker has now shown his dominance over the attacked.

The thing is, I absolutely will not take crap from women at all. Period. Not even 1% really. Especially from strangers either online or in meatspace. I almost never get any crap from women in meatspace.

The thing is, I have an end to the bargain to uphold. I have to behave with basic common courteous politeness and decency in general and to any woman that I am interacting with in particular. If I start acting like a serious ass, men and even women around me are going to start giving me crap and rightfully so. So in order to not invite justified aggression against myself, I behave like a gentleman in public.

I pretend to like people all the time.

I can take it from a woman if I know her and she has some power over me. My landlord chews me out sometimes. I just go submissive to her and apologize whether I did anything or not. She’s my landlord. I have to kiss her ass. I have to at least pretend to like her, and for the first five years I lived here, I did just that.

Does anyone know why I feel this way? When I react this way, I am not even thinking. It is raw and primal. It feels as natural as urinating, defecating, eating or drinking. My mind just goes into automatic and I act completely unthinkingly. Afterwards I often ask myself, “Why did I blow up and cuss that woman out, anyway””

 

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Face It, Seduction Is Basically a Scam

If we are honest with ourselves, we must admit that seduction is a scam. It’s true, seduction is basically men scamming, tricking, fooling and lying to women. Show me an expert seducer or player, and I will show you a superb and masterfully skilled liar, one of the best. Honestly doesn’t work if you want to be a player. If you want to be a womanizer, you need to learn to lie your fool head off and get damn good at it.

I tried to be an honest womanizer for a while when I was around 20. It was a serious failure, and looking back on it, it was one of the stupidest things I have ever attempted. I told men about my experiences, and they got this little twinkle in their eye and said, “Why were you honest? You’re supposed to lie about that, didn’t you know?”

If you can’t stand being a big, fat damn liar, just forget about being a player. You will only fail.

There’s nothing wrong with monogamy. Many monogamous men live fantastic lives. Just find yourself a girlfriend or wife and be in a monogamous relationship with her. It should not be too hard as you are an upright fellow anyway.

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PUA/Game: The Easiest Female to Get Is Always One That Is Your Age

KCH: It seems to me that getting a woman his own age would be less work, not more work. Just saying. Perhaps these women misunderstand the intentions of said male.

It’s always easiest to get a woman your own age, always. If you cannot get a woman your own age, God help you. You may be able to get an older woman, maybe. Even there though older women want hot young men for their boy toys. When I was a young man, I noticed that the young men who were dating women say 7-18 years older than they were, were generally the…Alphas, shall we say. A lot of them were very good-looking, and they were cleaning up with females their own age and even younger down to JB’s for the guys in the 18-20 range.

Once women get outside their age range, they start getting pickier. Getting a legal teenage girl would be almost impossible for me now. Getting a woman in her 20’s would be very difficult. Even getting a woman in her 30’s would not be easy at all. All of those are serious uphill climbs. I am on dating sites, and they only women who respond to me are in my age range. Most are in their 50’s, a few are in their 60’s, and not too many of them are in their 40’s. Women in their 40’s pretty much never respond. Women in their 30’s are practically hopeless, and I am not sure if I even bother with women in their 20’s because the odds are so nuts.

Sure, there are men who are behavioral Betas or Omegas who are not very attractive to women. I would say that any guy in that behavioral/looks range is going to do best with women his own age, no matter what his age is. If he’s 18, try for girls that age. If he’s 30, go for women around that age. If he’s 40, go for women around that age. If he’s 50, same, and on and on. The least picky women will be the ones right around your own age. A lot of women are not exactly runway models or prizes themselves, and after a while, most women figure out that Alphas are crappy boyfriends and husbands, and their Prince Charming on a horse is never going to show up, so they cut their losses and go for some guy who is right around their own speed and attractiveness level.

As women get younger and younger than you, they get harder and harder to get because you are simply not that attractive to them. Yes, young women and even girls will go for older men, but they seem to aim for high status when they do, possibly because as the man gets older, he is less attractive. So he needs status, power, money, fame, etc. to make up for his losses in the looks department. As the age difference between a younger woman and an older man gets greater and greater, you will need higher and higher status to make up for progressively decreasing looks.

With older women and younger men, I am not so sure, but most older women are not into boy toys all that much in the first place, and if they are, they probably try to select the best looking of the younger men.

Bottom line is all females more or less want Alphas. Even girls want Alphas. They’re all competing for the 20% Alphas. Yes, women of course go for non-Alphas, but that’s more of a second choice thing. Women are status-fuckers. They’re powerfuckers. And my observation of teenage girls is that they really are no different from women in that way.

Female sexuality seems to be largely biological and unconscious, and much of the psychosexual program probably loads with the onset of the sex drive, with some changes of course with aging.

One thing I have noticed is that teenage girls like pretty boys. They like boys who look like girls. Very pretty, handsome, almost feminine-looking boys do great with high school girls. As women age into their 20’s and up to 30, they are less interested in pretty boys and more into masculine man’s man types, possibly because these are better as husbands and fathers. At the same time, women seem to develop an attitude that pretty boys are either playboys who are not serious, or they are effete men, no matter how handsome they are, or worst of all, that they might be or are gay. There is a real suspicion of “pretty boy” men that comes with women as they age. They just don’t go crazy over Justin Beiber types the way high school girls do.

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