Wow, that is too weird.
Look at all of these bizarre, crazy and even downright stupid festivals humans hold all over the damn world! Unbelievable. On the other hand though, no matter how dumb these festivals are, there’s never much of a reason not to have a good time, right? Even an insipid good time is still a good time after all.
The only one I think is truly idiotic is the Running of the Bulls in Pamplona, Spain. Downright stupid. My Mom, who is the smartest woman in the whole world, shakes her head when someone brings up this festival.
“Only men would do something that stupid,” she says, chuckling.
“Women would never do anything like that?” I ask.
“Of course not!” she scofffs. “Women are not that stupid! Only men are dumb enough to do something like that.”
You know what? At the risk of sounding misandrist, she’s right. Only men are dumb enough to run ahead of those dangerous bulls. No woman is that stupid.
Men like to make a lot of jokes about women being dumb, and it’s true, women are pretty damn stupid, at least from a male point of view. Mostly they seem inane and idiotic to us. Men hear typical women’s conversation and want to plug their ears. It sound utterly trivial and pointless, yet the women seem to be so fascinated by this silly discussion. They remind us of birds chirping away in the trees, and they seem to make about as much sense. Of course, I like women, so I even like it when they are chirping away being idiotic talking about relationships or drama or feels or gossip or makeup or clothes or hot guys or whatever it is women pointlessly chirp on about. I know it’s idiotic conversation, but I love it anyway. I even join in.
So yes, of course women are idiots, but they are usually harmless idiots.
Men on the other hand are also very much idiots also (note the morons running with the bulls in the street), but men are dangerous idiots, and that’s so much worse.
Goldie: I have read your blog – here and there. I find it interesting, in one entry, you state that “children do not have sexual feelings”. I am a female and have been masturbating (with climax) since at least age 8 (and masturbating without climax long before that)… Just wanted to make you aware that your assumption is at least false in some cases (just judging by my own life experiences and what my friends have told me). This is probably not accurate among ALL females (as nothing ever encompasses ALL of anybody); however, I felt it important to share this with you.
P.S. My response is to one of your blog entries from a long time ago, where you call teenage girls “dangerous’ since they do have sexual feelings, yet children do not. You were discussing whether Abby or Libby might have been going to meet a male the day they were murdered– or not (just for reference).
Thank you very much for your interesting comment, Goldie.
I know very well that little girls can reach orgasm. I have had girlfriends who started masturbating to orgasm at age 5. And if you go out on the Net, you can find quite a few women saying that they learned how to do this as girls, sometimes by accident.
One woman said she was seven years old and she was riding the back of the couch like it was a horse. Well as you can imagine, that went on for a while and then there was an explosion which totally freaked the girl out. ”
Mommy!” she called out. “What was that!?”
Well Mom came into the room, figured out what happened, and they had a little talk.
I have had female commenters and a couple of female clients who told me that they started masturbating to orgasm at age 7-8.
The difference is though that I am absolutely convinced that little girls simply do not want to fuck boys or men. They do not have any actual physical or mental sex drive in that sense. They do not lubricate, get abdominal tingles or have the psychophysiological sensation of a “hunger for sex.” Furthermore, they do not find boys or men sexually attractive in the sense that they get turned on by them.
So while yes, little girls have the full capability of masturbating and reaching orgasm, on the other hand, they lack and actual mind-body physical and psychological drive for sex that mature females have. Yes, they can get off, and no, they don’t have a sex drive, and no, the fact that they can get off is not the same thing as an actual drive for sex.
Yes, children do indeed engage in sex play. I hear about this all the time from my clients, and it is often incestuous and sometimes bisexual. You would not believe the wild stories I have heard! The sex that they have is more exploratory in terms of sex play.
For instance, little girls simply do not lubricate. They just don’t. Lubrication starts at puberty. Women lubricate. Even women as young as 18 or 20 have told me that they go through phases where they are wet all the time from the time they get up in the morning til the time they go to bed at night. That’s a turned on sex drive. Little girls experience nothing like that.
I have had girlfriends who told me that there are other sensations associated with the female sex drive. One described it as “a pain in the stomach, but a pleasant pain.” I asked if it was a tingling sensation, and she said yes. Another female friend told me that it is a tingling sensation, and it is lower, in the abdomen. Little girls simply do not have this physical sensation in their abdomen. They don’t get actually physically horny in that sense.
There is also a mental component. One female friend described it as simply a “hunger.” It is actually a “hunger for sex,” like when you are thirsty or hungry for liquids or food. It’s a mental and physical drive. I do not believe that little girls have this psychological “hunger for sex” feeling. They don’t want or need to have sex. With anyone.
In addition, mature females have the psychological feeling of finding other mature persons physically attractive in a sexual way. Most women develop an actual physical and sexual feeling of attraction towards males as a normal part of their development. Boys and men turn them on. I do not believe that little girls find anyone sexually attractive. No one turns them. Neither boys nor men nor anyone at all for that matter.
What happens is that at puberty, something kicks in in the human female. The actual physical sex drive complete with abdominal tingles, a strong feeling of psychological hunger for sex, lubrication and a new feeling of attraction, usually to boys and men. No one knows how this attraction part kicks in, and it is not well understood, but something kicks in in the brain that actually makes you start looking at other humans as sexually attractive and makes you feel like you want to have sex with them.
For girls the onset of the sex drive seems to be around the time menarche. Nowadays most all teenage girls start masturbating at age 13, which is probably around the time of menarche. That seems awful young to me. I doubt if that many girls were masturbating so often and so young when I was 13. It makes sense that menarche and the onset of the sex drive would coincide. Menarche signals that your body is ready to start making babies. Of course if your body is ready to make babies, it makes sense to turn the mind-body drive that makes you want to do the thing that makes the babies, right?
The onset of the sex drive is also very poorly understood in terms of sexual orientation. We also do not know if sexual orientation is malleable. Obviously it is in women, however, most true biological lesbians seem have been wired up that way from an early age, possibly even in the womb as a developmental factor.
It seems to be somewhat malleable in boys too, and boys seem to be able to modify their sex drives somewhat from ~9-~13, but they can’t modify them too much at the later age. Sometimes an environmental drive developed in childhood crashes into a biological drive. In the case of George Michael, a true bisexual, he got very interested in girls at an early age as a boy, and he was still very much into them when his sex drive came on like gangbusters at puberty. What happened was that a pre-programmed homosexual orientation exploded into his mind and came onto him in a rush of thoughts and sensations as it does in all biologically gay men and boys. However, since he had established a strong interest in females as a boy, he remained very much turned on by women his entire life.
All available data shows that male sexual orientation cannot be changed in the lab after age 15. We don’t know if it can be changed before age 15, but it might be hard to get funding for a study like that! Not only can gay men not be turned gay, but they cannot even be moved 10% on the sexual orientation scale. Although only gay men trying to turn straight have been studied, it stands to reason that if is works one way, it works another.
Getting back to the topic at hand in regard to the Delphi Murders, as post-pubertal girls with a full, strong sex drive, of course Abbie and Libby could have been in the park to meet boys. Teenage girls are interested in boys sexually as we all know. On the contrary, if they were younger, say 11 and 12, it would be highly dubious if they were there to meet boys. 11 and 12 year old girls have no sex drive, other humans don’t turn them, and they don’t desire to have sex with other humans. In fact, girls that age are often quite boy-phobic. This is why it was important to note that based on the girls’ ages, they could well have been there to meet boys, whereas if they were younger, we could probably rule that out.
Jason Y: My limited experience with gays is that I don’t like them. They’re always coming on to you. But I haven’t been around enough to know the whole story on them. Anyway, though, gay guys pressuring you is akin to some Trump/Andrew Dice Clay type pig harassing women. It’s unwanted behavior.
Yes, this is exactly what they do, this is exactly how I feel about them, and this also seems to be the way that most straight men I know feel about them.
On the other hand, I support most of their political project, and I even work on their damned political campaigns. But they won’t stop calling me homophobe!
And nowadays, any man who feels like you and I do about gays gets labeled conservative, Republican, reactionary, fascist, bigot, etc. Isn’t that dumb? So the Left is shoving every guy who feels like we do into the Republican Party! Way to go, geniuses.
Jason: SHI, based on your comments on FAGS, I would think you’d be out cheering Trump’s masculine pro-white agenda.
Jason sounds like a Cultural Left type here. Newsflash: a lot of White liberal straight men have some pretty un-PC views on race, ethnicity, gender, gender identity, sexual orientation, etc. Sexist, racist, bigoted, transphobic and homophobic views are notoriously common among White liberal straight men. There’s more to liberalism that this Cultural Left crap you know. This is what it’s boiled down to now: people think that the only reason anyone is liberal is because they are Cultural Left. If you’re traditional or not Cultural Left, how can you possibly be a liberal. And if you hold traditional social views, you must vote Republican. No ifs, ands or buts about it.
I hang out on Left websites like Daily Kos a lot (even though they gave me a lifetime ban recently). Most of the articles on there have nothing whatsoever to do with the Cultural Left. They don’t talk about race, feminism, gay rights or trans rights a lot and when they do, it is more in the sense of basic rights than Cultural Left crap. An article about feminism would take the line of the pay gap or cutting birth control coverage out of the health care bill. An article on gay rights would argue for anti-discrimination in employment and the right to marry. An article on transsexuals would say they ought to be able to serve in the military. An article on race would talk about the ways that Blacks are being openly discriminated against in voting rights nowadays, leading to a new Jim Crow. I actually support all of those positions and I hate the Cultural Left.
We need to get off this liberalism and Left = Cultural Left insanity. It needs to strong leftwing men like me getting constantly abused being called conservative, Republican, rightist, fascist, Nazi, anti-Semite, misogynist, homophobe, transphobe, bigot, reactionary, Alt Right, and all sorts of bullshit. Never mind that no rightwing group wants anything to do with me and I have identified with the Left my whole life. We are throwing a lot of good people out of the Left because they aren’t going along with whatever the Cultural Left carnival ride of the day is. It’s morally reprehensible and it’s also just plain bad politics.
A lot of liberal men are pretty masculine. This whole thing of if you are a masculine man, you have to vote Republican because Democrats are all cucks and faggots is a new thing.
And a lot of liberal straight men don’t like gay men too much. Homophobia is basically normal for straight men. Straight male society has a lot of rules, but one of them is:
1. Absolutely no faggotry whatsoever in any way, shape or form.
You can’t even have thoughts like that. I have known some straight men who told me that they have low level gay interests but they have no interest in acting on them. The attractions are very minor and these are mostly just regular straight men. However, they told me that they had to suppress those feelings when they were around other straight men because they insisted that when they experienced those gay attractions around straight men, even in the privacy of their minds only, straight men often picked up on it and they tended to get very angry in response. You simply cannot have even thoughts like that around other straight men. They will freak and reject you flat out.
Straight men hate effeminate behavior, they hate wussy, pussy, girly, sissy, faggy, wimpy men, and the very idea of gay sex is physically revolting to most of them. A lot of straight men would say the worst thing you could do would be to have sex with another man, and a number of straight men have told me they would rather take a bullet than have sex with a guy.
On the other hand, a lot of these same straight men will support gay rights. They just don’t want any gay men around them. I’ve never known one straight man from my generation who had a gay friend. In my generation, the idea of straight men having gay friends is simply bizarre. How could any straight man have a gay friend? It’s just too weird.
Friendships are based on having a lot of things in common. The one thing binding together most straight male friendships is heterosexuality or love of pussy if you will. Quite a bit of straight male friendships are about socializing around women. You get together and talk about women most of the time. That’s one of the main things you have in common and that’s the glue that makes a close friendship possible. With gay men and straight men, the gap in fundamental basic interests is as wide as the Grand Canyon and I do not see how you bridge that.
“The more time I spend around this guy the creepier vibes I get from him.”
This is that thing called intuition. It’s actually sort of the opposite of logic. It’s all about the feels. It is also what we call “vibes” which is literally short for vibrations. The implication is that we can feel actual vibrations in the air when we are around something or usually someone that makes us feel a certain way.
It also works on something called Gestalt, which is “I know it when I see it.” You can’t put your finger on exactly why you feel that way, but you just feel that way and can’t even figure out how you got to that conclusion. Sometimes the hair on the back of your head will stand up. Sometimes a shiver runs through your body. Gestalt is “the sum is greater than the whole of its parts.” It’s the “smell” of something, without even using your nose. Like “this smells fishy” about a bad deal.
I am into birdwatching, and one of things we use is Gestalt. Sure, we have all sorts of guides and photos and drawings and whatnot that show us how to tell one bird from another by looks, terrain, behavior, song and all sorts of things, but oftentimes, it just boils down to Gestalt. You see a bird, sometimes just for an instant, and you just know it was a “so and so bird.” Someone asks you how or why you reached that conclusion, and you can’t even say. You shrug your shoulders and say, “I don’t know. I just knew it.” Something about it all added up.
Men decry this because it’s not logical thinking, but logical thinking only gets you so far, and a lot of things cannot be figured out with pure logic. You will dead end and stall or need to back out.
I think holistic thinking or “seeing the whole picture” or “putting it all together” may be intuitive also. You don’t exactly see the whole picture by some logical inductive or deductive method. You sort of “put it all together.” You form a picture in your mind, and there it is. The Gestalt. The “whole picture.”
The finest detectives have excellent logic and intuitive skills. Women are much better at intuition than men. We beat them at the opposite, so it all sort of evens out. That’s why men are stereotyped as such social retards, and women often say we just don’t get it. We men go at social interactions via brute force logic like a dictionary attack to break a password, and the result is a bull in a china shop.
So much of social communication works off subtle signals, vibes, small changes in conversational subject or tone, and the whole panoply of nonverbal communication where you can communicate with people merely by looking at their faces and body language. The pure social actor has mastered this whole pantomime. The social retard just doesn’t get it. Asperger’s people simply cannot read nonverbal communication at all. They often don’t get jokes or irony. They do not understand social conventions, and social rules are lost on them. This shows how important intuition is in social communication or what we call “social skills,” a term I despise.
I would like to see more women get into detective work. Looking at this websleuth group, and some of our best sleuths are women who seem to be operating off sheer intuition. We have a few female detectives and they can be quite good, but almost all detectives are men.