Category Archives: Gender Studies

When You Bet on the Body, You Bet on a Losing Horse

Most younger women seem to think that I am not attractive at all. That’s the message I seem to get from them all day long every single day. Compared to younger men, I suppose I do not come across well.

I was supposedly very goodlooking as a young man. I assume so because I heard this constantly.  I even had 2-3 offers to be a male model, all around age 24 which is when I assume I looked my best. I was also quite thin at that age, all the way down to 150-165. Do they want male models thin like they want female models?

I applied at one agency. They told me I was goodlooking enough but they were not sure if I could handle the rest of the job because modeling is more than just being goodlooking.  I turned down the modeling jobs because I was afraid of all the gay men. I was having way too much hassle with gay men at that point in my life anyway. Actually they were turning my life into something resembling a nightmare that would never end. Every day I got up and it was here we go again.

People think most male models are gay, but it’s not true. Actually most of them are straight. I know a man who was a male model and he told me that 1/3 of male modes are gay, another 1/3 are regular guys with a wife or girlfriend and another 1/3 are trying to screw every woman on Earth. He also told me that all straight male models have to fight off gay men all the time, “like mosquitoes in Siberia” is how he described it to me. This suggests that gay men do no go after men that they think are gay like everyone thinks. Instead I assume that they simply have no idea at all who is gay and who isn’t and instead they simply go after any goodlooking man. Their gaydar is a pitiful joke.

As a young man I had girls and women after me all the time. Unfortunately I also had men after me all the time too! Now why this is, I have no idea, but I have been gaybait since my teens. Maybe someone can tell me why this is.

It felt pretty good to be the hot guy that everyone wanted or at least liked to look at. But looks don’t last. Now matter how handsome or beautiful you are, there will come a day when your looks are shot all to Hell. I suppose I am approaching that point. My looks are pretty much history I suppose. It is a natural process but it is hard to take. It’s like going from the handsomest man on Earth to the ugliest man on Earth. It’s a pretty serious blow especially if you have some egotism going on, which of course I do.

The Buddhists say, “When you bet on the body, you bet on a losing horse.” Yep.


Filed under Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, Man World, Sex

The Pitiful Joke Called Gaydar

Actually, I think most gay men do not have the faintest idea who is gay and who is not. Their gaydar is one of the most pitiful cognitive devices devised by man. Bottom line is it’s a fraud. Idiotic gay men and their even  more stupid straight worshippers insist that gay men have perfect gaydar, but that is a comically idiotic statement. If it works so great, why were they always hitting on me and so many of my friends? Couldn’t they tell we were straight. I think we should resign gaydar to the realm of urban myth.


Filed under Gender Studies, Homosexuality, Man World, Sex

When Your Girlfriend is 30 Years Younger Than You Are: Problems of Attraction

dat writes:

I think it’s fine if 2 consenting adults want to be in a relationship regardless of age, but there is a certain point where it’s just awkward… when it’s a man above 60 trying to date women 18-25, that’s kind of odd. I feel like only a woman with very little future prospects would fall into that type of situation. When I was 18 or 22, I felt like I had a bright future ahead, why would I want to be with an old fogie who already lived most of his life?

If I were uneducated and had no path in life, perhaps I would have tried to go that route in hopes of gaining a future of financial stability out of him… hopefully I would inherit the bank. If he didn’t own a home or have money, no way in hell I would have been seen with him. My point is, the only woman who does that is one who is not confident in her ability to build her own financial stability and wealth. All this stuff goes out the window after 30 or 40. At that point date whatever age person you want, you’ve lived, you’ve worked, you probably know where you are in life.

For men, it makes them feel good about themselves when they are with a younger woman. It makes them feel younger and more desirable. it also gives them a hard-on, which apparently is the main goal of men. Plus, it’s easier to control younger women. Less experience, less hard headed, less confidence, less financial stability, less income. It’s easy to get them trapped, get them in a comfortable place away from their families and become their source of income…

I am 58 years old. In the last few years, I have had relationships with a few young women aged 26-29. All of them had serious older man fetishes. Two of them were hot, and the other was not. One was a model! However, there were some pretty serious problems with these relationships, in particular due to attraction. A couple of them started off the relationship by saying how hot and sexy I was and what a great body I had.

A 55 year old man with a great body wtf? Then after a while they started telling me that they were not attracted to me, often because I reminded them of their fathers. This has never happened to me in my entire life. No woman has ever told me she was attracted to me and then changed her mind I decided I was undesirable. Once a woman thinks you’re sexy, it’s for life. Women don’t decide you are goodlooking and then change their minds about it.

But maybe with middle aged men it is different as for a female to get attracted to us in the first place is not that easy. The truth is that it is almost impossible for a man my age to get a younger woman, especially one in her 20’s. It’s even hard to get a woman in her 30’s. It’s even not that easy to get a woman in her 40’s! I have dated a few women in recent years who were in their 40’s, but they were in their late 40’s.

If you are my age, and you are somehow able to get a much younger woman, even in her 30’s but especially in her 20’s, you are kicking ass. Everybody thinks this is an easy thing to do, but it is not easy at all. 99% of the young women I meet act like they want nothing to do with me sexually. The basic message is that I don’t turn them on. I guess they think I am unattractive or ugly. One can hardly blame them.


Filed under Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Man World, Psychology, Romantic Relationships, Sex

Men, Women, Sex and Love

Beatrix: This was a wtf for me – A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It’s more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being “halfway between” sexual and asexual.

RL: Actually I think demisexual is the natural state of the human female in a way.

Bernardista: Wow! Cool! So you think women who seem to experience sexual attraction to most anyone with a shlong are faking it to be PC? I always thought I was missing out.

My response: No, women can enjoy sex for sex sake, and they are doing it more nowadays.

But my mother always said that men can have sex without love with no problems, but women can’t. They need love to have sex. What she says is not 100% true, but once again the wisdom of ancients beats PC bullshit.

Some women enjoy being a slut more than others. Some women are just horny and want to get laid to satisfy their sex drive. However, women have a long tradition of finding sex without love to be somewhat to completely unsatisfying. They often feel empty afterwards. This seems to be the normal mode of female thinking, but nowadays, women are encouraged to have sex for fun, and a lot of them are doing it so there is some social learning and behavioral modification going on. It’s not that they cannot do it, but it’s harder for women to have sex without love than it is for men.

And speaking from personal experience, even among women who have had quite a bit of sex without love, once they fall madly in love with a man, their sex drive often goes through the roof. Yes, women can be turned on by a sexy guy, but when sex is combined with love is when you really see the female sex drive go crazy. I would say that women need love to turn on the sex drive, but that is not completely true. But love sure revs it up into overdrive more than anything else that I have ever experienced.


Filed under Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Psychology, Romantic Relationships, Sex, Women

Straight Men and Gay Men: Some Real Talk

You don’t think gay sex is disgusting?

I would say that all straight men think gay sex is disgusting and sickening. 100%. So in that sense really all straight men are somewhat homophobic. I really think most straight men are a bit homophobic. It just seems to be normal for straight men to be that way. The extreme revulsion that most straight men have for gay sex has to be seen to be believed.

That revulsion is caused by homophobia. So in that sense, I would say that a bit of homophobia is a good thing. Once you take the controls off, and you tell men that they can just go fuck guys anytime they want to, lots of guys who would not have ordinarily have done such a thing are going to start doing just that. The only reason most guys won’t touch that behavior with a 10 foot pole is due to a bit of homophobia. It is the natural homophobia of straight men that keeps them from doing that stuff.

My experience with gay men has been almost uniformly negative. Generally, you can’t make friends with them or get close to them.

However, I do have one very good gay friend now and we talk a lot. But he is a super intellectual guy (he is a published writer), and he’s not a base, low personality like so many gay men. He also happens to agree with everything I say about gay men. Some might call him a self hating gay, but I think he is just realistic.

Generally straight men and gay men cannot be friends. It just doesn’t work. The reason is because they won’t stop trying to fuck you. They will try to fuck you, you say no, and then as long as you hang around with them, they will never stop trying. After a while, you seriously start wanting to kill them. I am convinced that this is behind a lot of gay bashings or at least a lot of gay men getting punched in the face. With some exceptions, this has been my experience with gay men.

I know two men who were hired or given jobs by gay men who were their bosses. Both were sexually harassed, and both were fired for not fucking their gay bosses. One of those men was me. I would be very careful taking a job offer from a gay man.

I know two men who rented rooms from gay men. Both were blackmailed. Everything was fine for a while, and then the hammer came down and you have to fuck them, or it’s out on the street. I would say any straight man renting a room from a gay man as a roommate is out of his mind.

I know a few straight guys who were like, “Gay men are wonderful. They’re so cool! I’m straight, but gay men are the greatest thing since sliced bread!” One straight guy, one of my best friends, went on for a few years like that, and last I heard of him, he was taking cock up the ass in West Hollywood on a regular basis. I guess he wasn’t so straight anymore. So I am a bit worried about straight men who think homosexuality is the greatest thing since radial tires.

My friends experienced the same thing.

One made friends with a gay man, and the gay man tried to fuck him. My friend said no, but the gay man would never stop and eventually started pressuring my friend very hard. My friend told me he was “this far” from punching the gay man in the face.

This same friend met some “really nice guys” one night after after the bar closed. He told me they were straight acting and seemed like regular guys. “Come on over to our place for drinks,” they said.The guys seemed totally cool. He got there, and after a while, he started figuring out that there was something very weird going on. The guys kept making all these weird insinuating remarks, and I think they finally put on some gay porn on DVD. My friend told them no thanks, but they never quit trying to fuck him. It went on all night like that, for several hours.

If they give you a job, they might sexually harass you and fire you for not fucking them.

If they give you a room to rent as roommates, they might throw the hammer down after a while and say, “Sex or the street.” Incidentally, remember my recruited and converted friend in West Hollywood above? This is how he got initiated into homosexuality – blackmail.

I am actually 100% supportive of gay rights. I am on the mailing lists of a lot gay rights groups, and I participate in their campaigns. I “tolerate” gay men, but I don’t think they are the greatest thing since sliced bread. I want nothing but the same happy lives for gay men as I want for myself, not even 1% less. But it is sort of like me here and them over there and never the twain shall meet. I want a divorce from gay men.

I just think that friendships between gay men and straight men simply don’t work. But you can be acquainted with them on a casual basis. And rooming with gay men seems like a very bad idea. Accepting a job from a gay boss is pretty worrisome too.

Society has gone too far in the other direction. Homophobia was bad, but now we are on the other extreme to where we worship gay men like some sort of gods or kings. It’s bizarre.

There’s a whole downside to male homosexuality that you only figure out if you spend a lot of time around them like I did. It’s not all peace and roses and everything bright.


Filed under Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, Man World, Psychology, Sex

Sexually Transmitted Parasitical Infections

Concerned Assman writes:


You mentioned in an earlier post on this general subject that something like 60% of Gay man have nasty parasites in their gut. Where does this come from? From stuff like licking asses and drinking evacuated enema water? I love licking my girlfriend’s ass, but she has impeccable hygiene — however, I do not want to get any nasty parasites in my gut that don’t belong there. Not worth it.

The figure is incorrect. It is not 60% of gay men that have parasites, it is more like ~100% of them do, or at least that was what one study found. I said that they have on average 60 different species of parasites in these gay men. I think most of them are harmless, but still.

Gay men get that from licking asses, which is something they really love to do. They really go to town when they do it too. I have seen a few videos and photos. They go for it like a man who hasn’t eaten in 30 days. It is quite a sight to behold.

I do not think that gay men commonly drink evacuated enema water. Or I certainly hope they don’t. There are probably a few that may do such a thing. I have never in my life heard of gay men engaging in this activity. Neither have I heard of any straight people doing this either, thank God.

The thing is that the gay male population is totally saturated with these parasites, so you are dealing with a disease base or reservoir that is unbelievably infected with these critters.

However, your average straight man has zero parasites in his gut. The same study found both zero parasites in straight men and 60 different species in gay men. It was a health clinic, not sure what kind.

There are only a few of these that are going to get you sick: Giradiasis or Giardia, Ameobiasis or Amoebic dysyntery, and shigella or shigellosis.

There is also Hepatitis A. Gay men at least in the past experienced frequent big outbreaks of Hepatitis A in some of our big cities.

Almost no straight men get Hepatitis A heterosexually. I have never heard of Hepatitis A being transmitted heterosexually, but anything is possible. The problem once again is that the gay male pool is or was heavily infected with Hepatitis A. Further, many to most people who contract it never get it and just become carriers who can infect others. Straight people do not get Hepatitis A heterosexually probably just because the reservoir  is so clean. Few heterosexual people have Hepatitis A, so the reservoir is clean enough that your risk of getting it heterosexually is very low.

There are a few other diseases that can be transmitted this way like typhoid fever. Yes, there have been a few cases of Typhoid fever among gay men, but maybe only ~5 cases in the whole literature.

Most of the other things that can be transmitted this way are more or less harmless and are only a problem for the very young, the very old and the immunosuppressed such as people with HIV.

I did a huge lit search on parasites being transmitted sexually and only came up with 5-10 cases. However, those did occur in recent years. I think it was giardiasis. I still have the notes on that and I can turn it into a good post if I want to but I was afraid to do the post because I was afraid people would attack me for writing about this subject.

If you were going to get something this way from your girlfriend, you would have already gotten it by now due to all the exposure you already had to her. And it’s doubtful that she is a carrier of giardiasis, shigellosis or amoebiasis. After six months of living together, peoples gut bacteria tend to harmonize. What is really happening here is that after six months of living closely together, everyone has eaten enough of each other’s shit (in tiny miniscule amounts) so they all now have the same gut bacteria.

Really you are eating shit all the time, and not just figuratively like with me in my life. I mean literally. Even if you live alone, you are eating your own shit. Surely you are consuming tiny bits of your own shit on a regular basis.

It is sort of like life. The thing that your own shit is not a problem. It’s other people’s shit that is a problem. In other words, the problem is not you, it’s other people, which is my favorite saying.

As in life, so in the human gut.

You can probably even eat your own shit, though I would not recommend it. You might vomit, but you cannot catch a disease. The reason is simple and that is that you cannot catch a disease that you already have. I will leave you to think about that brainteaser a bit.

People like to go on and on about the horrible toxic deadly E. Coli that is found in our guts and our shit. The thing is that this E. Coli strain is pretty much harmless. Just keep it our of your vagina, your urinary tract and especially your blood. As I said, you can even eat shit that has E. Coli in it and nothing will happen except you might puke because it is so disgusting.

The problem here is confusion about strains. The E. Coli strain that causes this nasty outbreaks in humans, sickening and even killing some very young and very old, comes from cows. That’s the nasty strain. You get it from a cow. On farms, cows shit all over the place, so cow shit can get in irrigation water and then on crops, so this is how you might get it from food. Some of these outbreaks are coming from Mexico where farms are not so hygienic.

On the other hand though you can certainly catch a disease from eating other people’s shit but in most cases you probably will not, although I do not recommend going around eating other folks’ shit. It is not such a great idea.

Besides it’s gross. I mean really people, come on now.

I suppose if the commenter is going to lick his girlfriend’s ass, I would have her wash that area with soap and hot water well beforehand.


Filed under Gender Studies, Health, Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, Illness, Man World, Sex

No Generalizations! Gay Men, Checking People Out and Cunnilingus

A gay SJW writes:

Hey! Just wanted to let you know that u r wrong! I’m gay, and I’ve never “checked out” a man or women when going into a room, so does that mean I’m not sexually attracted to people? No, haha,

Guess what, I’m gay and I have PLENTY of friends who are bi/pan (Don’t know what that is, look it up), and they DO exist. My friends have “eaten pussies” and had sexual encounters with men before. Also, although I am a guy man, I am not afraid of nor would I kill myself over “eating a pussy.” Next time, please try to be a little less ignorant when offending a large group of humans.

A couple of things here. This post is more of the typical PC stuff we get all the time.

Newsflash: Gay Men Don’t Check out Women!

First of all, I find it hard to believe that this gay man has never walked into a room anywhere and checked out anyone, male or female but especially male. If Justin Beiber is in the room, this guy won’t check him out? Get real.

I would wager that most human beings with a normal sex drive have walked into a room where there were attractive post-pubescents present and checked them out, males or females, depending on the orientation of the person doing the checking out. A person that has gone through their whole lives never doing this is either lying or strange, sorry.

My mother told me that gay men never look at women. She said she had a job once in college in San Fransisco in a big office. There was one man there who they always wondered about. Finally people decided that he was gay. But she said, “One thing. He never looked at women, ever. Not even once.” Since then I have noticed other gay men who did the same thing. I had a gay boss once.

The secretaries were always coming around to my desk for some reason, maybe for business or maybe just to flirt with me, I am not sure. But it was pretty fun. So there were these hot women sort of circulating around my desk off and on every day. Well the whole time, I worked there, my fag boss never once looked at any of those women. It was if there were not even there, like they were furniture, desks, carpet. They might as well have been nonhuman office furnishings to him for all he cared.

And once I caught him looking at me like I was a T-bone steak.

The next job I had was in another office. Offices are often full of gay men and I was working in publishing and there are lots of gay men in publishing. There was a man there named Arthur who was definitely gay but who was not out at all. In fact he was seriously closeted. But he was gay as Hell, and I figured this out from almost the moment I met him due the way he acted when he first met me.

He acted towards me the same way a man acts towards a hot woman, let’s put it that way. He had a hot girlfriend, but other than that, he seemed to have no interest in women. He was 28 years old. I now feel he was a closeted gay man pretending to be straight (out) or bisexual (covert).

I have now met a number of other young men just like this, married or with girlfriends and in their 20’s. Nowadays many of these men identify as bisexual, however they spend most of their time hanging around with gay men and in gay venues. It’s pretty clear where their real interest lies. Usually by their early 30’s,most of these men have come out as gay. The “bisexual” thing is some fake phase that they undertake while young because they cannot accept the fact that they may be gay.

I used to eat lunch in the lunch room sometimes with Arthur across from me. We had a lot of hot women working for us, and they would come into the lunch room all the time. The whole time I was there I saw women come into that room many times while Arthur was sitting there eating his lunch. He never even looked up once. It was as if they were ghosts.

I have since seen many more cases like this. Also I have some gay counseling clients and some of these men have affirmed to me that they pretty much never check out women when they are out and about. They are only looking at the men.

My mother also told me something else. She said when a beautiful woman walks into a room, all of the males in the room, “from nine to 90” will turn around and look. Even the 90 year old guys who can’t get it up anymore. I mean, they may be old, but they’re not dead, right? She said that is what straight men do, they all do it, and it’s a good way to tell if a man is straight or not because it is such universal behavior. She also said that if there is a gay man in the room, he won’t notice the beautiful woman at all.

This sort of thing is called “the wisdom of the ages.” It just so happens that the wisdom of the elders contradicts just about every insane thing that the Cultural Left believes. So who is right and who is wrong? If I were a betting man, I would put my money on the wisdom of ages, sorry.

So despite Mr. SJW’s “What about the exceptions?” objection, it looks like we are onto something here.

Gay Men and Cunnilingus

Next Mr. Gay SJW says that he knows many bisexual and pansexual men who like to eat pussy.

Well that’s nice to know. Always nice to hear about more men taking up this enjoyable activity.

I never argued that bisexual men don’t eat pussy. Maybe they do, maybe they don’t. I would say that the more straight-leaning they are, the more they will want to do this, and the more gay-leaning they are, the more they would just as soon pass.

I have now spoken to a few women who were married to gay men or men that they suspected were gay. Every single one of these women told me, “He didn’t like to eat pussy.” Incidentally, they all also said that all of these men preferred doggy style from behind, presumably so they could fantasize that they were with a man when they were having sex with the woman. It’s well known that gay married men often fantasize that their wife is a man when they have sex with her so they can get through the act which otherwise they haven’t much interest in.

I have also read quite a few women who have husbands or boyfriends who are or are suspected to be gay or having sex with men surreptitiously. It is very common when reading these reports to notice that these women often say that the man in question didn’t like to eat pussy.

One more thing. I had a friend who was a haircutter. He went to beauty school. Although he and his brother mostly got in on haircutting to get women I think, they told me that there were a lot of gay men in hairdressing and hair styling.

Sometimes I would be hanging out with my haircutter friend in Hollywood at the home of one of his gay hair stylist friends. There were often a number of other gay men in the room.

My friend and I used to torment these poor guys. We would start talking about sexual exploits in detail. We would say, “Oh man last weekend I fucked this beautiful chick. She had the nicest pussy. Nice and red and juicy,” and then we would hold our hands up like we were opening a clam and flicker out tongues at it. We would say this very dramatically with a lot of hand gestures and exclamations. The gay men would flip out when we did this. A lot of times they would start yelling at us. “Shut up! Oh gross! Ew disgusting! I think I’m going to be sick! Make them leave, make them leave now! If you are going to talk about that gross stuff then just leave ok?”

We thought this was absolutely, hilariously, side-splittingly funny.

So there’s a case of a room full of gay men reacting to tales of cunnilingus as if it were the most disgusting thing on Earth.

So once again this idea that cunnilingus is probably gay men’s least favorite sex act looks pretty accurate. It’s once again looking like we are onto something here.

Leave a comment

Filed under Cultural Marxists, Gender Studies, Homosexuality, Man World, Sex

What In the Hell is a Pansexual?

First of all, what in God’s name is a pansexual? Up until maybe a decade ago, I never once heard this idiotic word pansexual. I guess they must have all been leading horribly closeted lives. Oh poor pansexuals! Poor babies! So much prejudice! All those panphobes out there! All the anti-pan discrimination and bigotry! My heart weeps for them!

Despite the fact that I never heard this moronic term pansexual until maybe 2005, I must say that the world was none the worse for the lack of such a category. The world seemed to go quite smoothly without any pan folks around. I really doubt if these pansexuals are necessary for advanced human civilization.

It’s because of idiot insanity like this that I abandoned the Cultural Left a while back. I rode the Cultural Left train for a while, but at some point, it seemed to be going way past where I wanted to go, so I had to get off. Since then it’s gone so far into the horizon that I can’t even see it anymore. It could have fallen off the edge of the Earth for all I knew. Come to think of it, that’s exactly what it did do!


Filed under Cultural Marxists, Gender Studies, Sex

Why Is It That Many Gay Males Sound Different from Other Males?

I answered this question on Quora below. Let me know what you think of my answer.

Why is that many gay males sound different from other males?

Not always, but often I can tell that a person is gay from the way they speak, particularly from pitch and by the way they pronounce the ‘s’ sounds (also d, t, and z). For example, in a documentary I was just watching, the interviewees at ~ 5:10 & 11:45, sounded gay to me (and in fact are gay).

Most of these answers are simply going to be wrong in that particular PC, Gay Identity Politics way which is sadly so common among gay men these days. It is sad that gay men have taken up Gay Identity Politics because like all IP, it is based on lies. Gays take up IP like any other group does- to protect themselves. With most IP groups, there are negative things about that group that are flat out factual.

The purpose of IP for gays or anyone is to exalt their identity, blow up all the great things about themselves and play down or usually to flat out lie about all of the bad things about the group. The purpose of this is simple: the IP group feels that the truth is dangerous, and if the truth about the negative things about the group get out, that could lead to prejudice.

This is not a completely irrational fear. Because the IP group fears more prejudice, they lie and deny all the negative things about the group. Sadly, in most IP groups, this leads to near incessant lying, sophistry, logical fallacies and all sorts of lawyerese, diplomat-speech, half- truths and all manner of bullshit.

The Gay IP claim is that gay men are no more likely to be effeminate than anyone else. Yes, some gay men are effeminate, but some straight men are effeminate too, they say. This is factually correct, but like most sophistry it is a form of lying and deliberately obscures the truth.

I have been around gay men for much of my life. I hung out in Hollywood for years and Hollywood is gay as Hell, maybe even gayer than San Francisco. After about 10 years there, I had a crash course in homosexuality. Also, I have known a fair number of homosexuals. In addition, for some reason, I am gaybait for gay men, countless numbers of whom have hit on me over the years. I have no idea why they love me so much. You tell me. Anyway, after all that, I feel I could write an encyclopedia entry on male homosexuality.

The truth is this: 75% of all gay men experience something called Sissy Boy Syndrome when growing up, and 75% of sissy boys end up becoming gay. As gay men are only 3% of all men, and 75% of sissy boys grow up gay, you can see that sissy boy backgrounds are incredibly more likely among gay men than among straight men. Where there’s smoke, there’s fire.

75% of gay men were sissy boys. These are feminine to effeminate boys who renounce the usual rough and tumble, dog eat dog, trial by fire, Masculinity Boot Camp called Normative Boyhood. Most heterosexual men go through this cruel, sadistic, vicious and brutal process by which rather sensitive boys are beaten figuratively and literally into masculine men. Most come out of it ok, but some are damaged.

Gay men as boys seem to sit out this whole process. The effeminate boys did not play with us, and we taunted, teased and ridiculed them mercilessly. Effeminate boys were not welcome in our boy circle, and I fear for any effeminate boy who might have tried to join and I am glad none did because we would have tormented them mercilessly.

My understanding is that while most straight boys are going through Camp Pendleton for Boys, pre-gay or gay boys are in the kitchen with Mom baking muffins. Now I could be wrong. But this is my perception.

I do not blame gay boys for bailing out of Boy Boot Camp, as it is one Hell of a savage and mean place. But by never having their masculinity questioned much, perhaps the feminine behaviors in gay boys get stuck. I have no idea.

Now why so many gay men were sissy boys is not known. It is probably biological, and the effeminate behavior probably goes along with the homosexuality.

Perhaps gay men have brains that are like women’s brains. After all, the female brain wants to have sex with a man. And the gay male brain wants to have sex with a man also.

In order to attract a man for sex, women act feminine and fluttery. When a woman wants sex, she often turns up the feminine behaviors to where she is almost a Southern belle. By the way, this is one way to tell if a woman wants to have sex with you! Women do this because feminine behaviors turn on men and make men want to have sex with the feminine female object. It’s all sexual signaling.

So when gay men want to have sex with a man, they act feminine just as straight women do in order to turn on the man. Perhaps gay men, still being men, are turned on by feminine behavior as all men are. Hence gay men are turned on by effeminate behavior in other gay men.

Also, when gay men hit on you, they dramatically increase their effeminate behavior for some reason. I know this because it has happened to me many times. I am not sure what they are doing. Sexual signaling?

Anyway, many or really most gay men are at least somewhat effeminate in behavior. Often the most noticeable behavior is voice. Gay men themselves note this many times as in the common saying, “I didn’t know he was gay until he opened his mouth, and a purse fell out.”

Also there is pressure in the gay community to act effeminate, as straight-acting men can be treated badly. I recall one straight-acting gay man was a bartender in a gay bar and dealt with constant comments of, “Fire the straight guy,” “What’s this straight guy doing here? “Since when do you hire straight guys?” “Why does this bar have a straight bartender?” etc.

In fact, effeminate behavior, especially voice, in a man is a pretty good way to out a homosexual man.

The problem here is that many conflate feminine men with effeminate men. Many heterosexual men could be called feminine. They have soft voices, are sensitive, pretty, soft, wimpy, passive, or kind and often are just not very masculine or certainly not hypermasculine or macho.

However, most of these soft straight men do have a certain “soft” masculinity about them. A gay men pointed this out to me for the first time and a light went off. I do think that gay men understand the nature of masculine – feminine – effeminate men much more than any other humans. And they have an excellent understanding of masculinity itself, often better than straight men. The men in my life who understood masculinity best of all were gay men, which is odd if you think about it.

If you can ever learn to tell the feminine men (who are mostly straight) from the effeminate men (who are mostly gay), then you are halfway there already.

It is often said that there are effeminate straight men. Technically this is true, but once again this is sophistry. Yes, I have met a few effeminate straight men in my life, and more commonly you see straight men who are effeminate sometimes and not at other times. In other words, they turn it on and off.

Some straight men who are feminine, passive, and wimpy can become defeated by life and essentially run up the white flag and surrender. At these times of low self-esteem, the passivity, wimpiness, helplessness, etc. gets an effeminate component added to it.

Straight effeminate men can easily be mistaken for being gay because, well, to act effeminate is to act like a gay man.

There are some straight married men, often with 3–5 kids, who are absolutely, flamingly effeminate to the point where you notice them. They always baffle people, who shake their heads and somehow accept them anyway. Such a man will be very accepted in straight society, even though people will say, “He acts like a faggot!” Others will quickly point out the wife and four kids, and then the name-callers  will quiet down. In straight society, the wife and kids are enough to get accepted, albeit reluctantly, as a heterosexual. It’s not how you act, it’s what you do.

However a gay man I know said he has followed these married flamers over a period of time ranging from 5–20 years, and he said that all of these married flamers had come out as gay and left their wives and kids during that time frame. So if you meet one of these flaming straight men who are married with children, a bit of skepticism may be in order.

While effeminate straight men are maybe 1% of the straight population, if that, effeminacy is much more common among gay men. I would guess that maybe ~65–75%??? of gay men are effeminate to one degree or another.

Those that are not are commonly not so much masculine as wimpy (commonly extremely wimpy, much more wimpy than a straight man) or soft like the feminine straight men described above. This may be ~15%??? of gay men.

Some gay men do indeed act out and out straight. They look and act no different from any “regular guy.” However, I think that they are not common. The % of truly straight acting gay men may only be ~15%??? Anderson Cooper is a very famous and excellent example of a gay man who acts completely straight. In fact, I watched him for years and thought he was just another straight man until he stunned me by coming out.

There are even some gay men who are not just straight acting but are actually hypermasculine to macho in the exaggerated manner of many straight men. Jack Donovan is an extremely masculine gay men. He is one of the most masculine men out there, and he is totally gay. I saw another hypermasculine gay man in a movie about bugchasing. This was one of the most masculine men of any orientation that I have ever seen (he reminded me of a longshoreman, sailor or merchant marine). I almost fell out of my chair when I saw that he was gay.

Hypermasculine or macho gay men are extremely uncommon. Less than 1% of gay men are like this.

So, like everything else, the continuum of hypermasculine – masculine – feminine – effeminate behaviors among gay men exists as it does among straight men. However, the graphs will look dramatically different when we plot them out, and effeminate men will be dramatically more common among gay men, and hypermasculine men will be profoundly more common among straight men.

So gay men do tend to be more effeminate than straight men, but it is just a tendency, not a hard law. And straight men do tend to be more macho than gay men, but once again this is a tendency and not a law.

If true male homosexuality is biological as it seems, then the effeminate type behavior seems to be part of the package that results from this biological mechanism. In other words, the homosexual orientation and the effeminate behavior are bound hand in hand. And if the effeminate behavior is caused by the same biological mechanism as the homosexuality, then it might be hard to change. Anyway, after years of effeminate behavior, many gay men will develop a behavior pattern that becomes ingrained and second nature and is extremely difficult to change.

If the effeminacy is as biological as the homosexuality, maybe we ought to give effeminate gay men some slack on the grounds that they can’t help it. If we are to accept their orientation, perhaps we should accept the effeminate behavior that rides along with it.


Filed under Cultural Marxists, Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, Man World, Psychology, Sex


Where’s the band? All I see are the Nip chicks (pronounced Nippochikko). So who’s playing the music? God? The Emperor?

Ok here’s the band below. It’s pretty of hard to play music without a band.

The lead singer chick’s name is Moa. She’s hot! Gimme Moa! God I love Nip chicks! Those have got to be the sexiest women on Earth. Don’t you find the sexiness of them rather disturbing though? I mean they look like little girls? Neoteny. And then they act like little girls too. And that is apparently why we find them so sexy*. Good God.

We are all pedophiles now!

*However, it has been shown throughout the world that women tend to have a a more neotenous look than men, and this is apparently why men find them so attractive. Not because men are naturally pedos (though that is possible) but more because neoteny implies youth.


Filed under Asia, Babes, Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Japan, Man World, Music, NE Asia, Psychology, Regional, Sex, Women