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Girls and Women, Boys and Men, and Girl-women and Boy-men

oops I did it again writes:

All objects have surface meanings and deep meanings. The deep meaning is the true meaning of what the object is.

I am fine with that, as long as it’s acknowledged that both meanings (let’s think a little about the word “meaning”, shall we? Meaning a bridge… meaning it’s a connection between our mind and the unreachable object of your knowledge; meaning is not what is at the other end of the bridge, but the bridge) are constructs of our mind, just like the verb “to be”, and the ideas of truthfulness and falsity (let’s say it: all what we can think).

Instead of to Heidegger for details on what sets girls and women apart from each other, I point you to Schopenhauer, and Hindu sapience, for some sobering humility and sense of one’s own proportions, if I say so. (Read “you” as in “you, Western civilization of the last 18 centuries”. A very plural pronoun.)

I wrote the post because I work as a mental health counselor. I have quite a few clients who get very upset at the fact that they get turned on by young teenage girls. Like age 14 or so. I was given photos of these girls to look at, and I almost fell over laughing. I told the clients, “That’s not a girl. That’s a woman! She turns you on because she looks like a woman, or in a sense, she simply is a woman.”

Why does a man get aroused by a 14 year old that looks like a woman? Because his brain looks at it and the brain thinks, “woman” because, let’s face it, the brain does not work very well by thinking, “Hey wait a minute. That is only the optical illusion of a woman. That is not a real woman because of ‘years lived’ or some weird statistic like that. Therefore she does not turn me on because I only get turned on by statistics like ‘years lived’.”

Hell no!

Your brain looks at that and if it looks like a woman, your brain screams, “Woman!” and it turns you on, just like that.

You argue for the other definition, that is she is not a woman due to her mind. In the mind, the teenage girl is not a little girl. But she is also not a woman. If you spend a lot of time around them as I have, you will see that yes, it is a woman, very, very much so, in some important ways. But in some other ways, it is still a pretty silly girl. It’s not a woman at all. So it’s neither a woman nor a girl, but something in between, or it’s both a woman and a girl at the same time.

Personally, I call them girl-women, and I call teenage boys boy-men.

I remember when we were in high school, the teachers habitually addressed as “young men” and “young women.” This felt very respectful to me, and I knew deep down inside that it was correct. It is very insulting to high school students boys and girls. It’s very demeaning, and it’s not even correct. I remember when I was 16 and 17 years old. I am not sure exactly what I felt like, but I do know that I sure didn’t feel like that boy that I had been for so many years up until maybe age 13 or so! Teenage boys are young men. Teenage girls are young women. This is the old fashioned way in which we referred to them for hundreds of years here in our country and it was not wrong.

Is it a man? Not really. “Young man” means something like “becoming a man.” The phrase young woman means something like “becoming a woman.” They are on the road, transitioning. But are they children? Hell no! For females, children are what we call “little girls.” If it’s not a little girl, it’s not a child. Period. A teenage girl is not really a little girl, though a 13 year old girl can come close. So it’s not a child. Maybe it’s not an adult either yet, but it sure as Hell isn’t a little girl for Chrissake.

Does your brain look at a 14 year old girl who looks like a woman and think, “Oh no! That doesn’t turn me on because it has the brain of a girl! It thinks like a girl, so it doesn’t turn me on.”? Hell no! The brain does not work that way. The brain doesn’t get turned on by a female or not based on how she thinks. The brain gets turned on by a female based on how she looks or appears.

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Homophobia as Default Setting in Heterosexual Men

cheez121 writes:

I agree homosexuality should not be constantly promoted like it is today, but it should not be persecuted either. Just leave it alone. I am curious what you mean when you say homophobia is the default.

It is 100% normal for heterosexual males to be homophobic. It’s just the way they are.

One of the main rules of straight male culture is: No faggotry, dammit. There can be no homosexuality or even suggestion of such at any time. Even the slightest bit of homosexuality in straight male culture is like throwing a turd in a punchbowl – it ruins the whole thing.

Imagine that there are twenty straight men in a room. There are all sorts of rules that go along with that situation, but No faggotry is surely one of them. That’s just not allowed. If any man starts violating that rule in the room, he’s pretty much destroyed the whole gathering. It’s hard to say how the others would react. I’m not sure I’ve ever been in a situation like that.

Let me give you an example. I am friends with some of the local Yemeni Arabs at the store.

I am convinced that most straight men have a deep and abiding hatred of male homosexuality. Not male homosexuals necessarily, although that would probably be their first instinct. Nowadays most straight men would probably check that instinct and say, “Oh well, be nice to him, he can’t help it.”

Nevertheless, straight men are in general pretty leery around gay men, for good reason. Straight men and gay men are never going to be friends. I just can’t see it. I used to think it was some groovy idea, but boy was I in for a horrifically rude awakening. My life has shown me that straight men and gay men in general cannot be friends at all and need to keep at arms’ distance. It might be nice if it worked, but it just doesn’t. The main problem with friendships between gay men and straight men is gay men won’t stop trying to have sex with us.

The level or revulsion that your average straight man has for male homosexuality is very high. It’s a very strong reaction, an aggressive and almost violent sort of repulsion.

Male heterosexuality is about a lot of things, including masculinity.

In fact, I feel that one of the principal components of masculinity and male heterosexuality is aggressive denial and revulsion towards male homosexuality. Macho or hypermasculine behavior seems to be a way of saying, “I’m not gay, dammit!” The most macho or hypermasculine man of all is screaming, “Hell no, I’m not gay!” the loudest of all. Seeing as some level of homophobia seems to be the default in straight men, along with the extreme disgust, repulsion and contempt that most straight men have for male homosexuality, I don’t think that this sort of background homophobia is going away anytime soon.

What is changing though is that although homophobia is still the default, many straight men are incorporating a certain level of tolerance along with that background revulsion that they have towards male homosexual behavior. The attitude is, “We hate that activity, but you have to be kind.”

Hence a lot of the acceptance of male homosexuality among straight men is more tolerance than anything else. Most straight men nowadays are not about to beat up a gay man or even taunt or harass one. That is actually seen as uncool. If you did that, other straight men might grab you and say, “Hey leave him alone, ok?…Whatever, man…Let him live how he wants.” On the other hand, these same men stopping the man from harassing gay men probably have some pretty serious background homophobia themselves in the sense of revulsion and disgust for that behavior.

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Arab Men as Classic Hypermasculine Heterosexual Men

I am friends with the local Yemeni Arab men at the corner store. These men are aggressively masculine and even sexist in all of the stereotypical ways, so it should be instructive to examine them to see how normative hypermasculinity and homophobia works in general straight male culture.

Now these guys never bring up the subject of male homosexuality, however, which is probably the way it ought to be. Most straight men would probably prefer to talk about such things as little as possible.

These guys are quite sexist, but they also really like to fuck. They love to talk about sex. The father man is my age, and we talk about screwing women all the time. He’s a classic dirty old man, and I get the feeling that that is normal in their society.

And they are extremely macho, but not in an exclusionary way like so many American men. For instance, all of those macho Arab guys accept me completely. The way to get along with those guys is simple: act macho, act masculine. You do it, and they do it back. You have to act like a man. That may be all you need to do to get their acceptance, but I would argue that is it necessary to get their respect. If you don’t act masculine, they will probably not respect you.

You do not actually have to be married to be accepted by Arab men. There are men in Arab society who never marry. As long as they act very masculine, no one is going to care. Some of these are known to not like women very much, but most Arab men will laugh about that, as they are brutally sexist themselves. There’s generally not a suggestion of homosexuality in an unmarried man in that culture.

If you are a single man, you are pretty much ok, but you can become much more ok if they know you screw women. In their culture, single men can’t screw women at all, so if you are a single guy screwing women without marrying them, to them, that is a source of amazement and jealousy. Those guys have seen me with goodlooking women from time to time, and they know that women come stay with me from time to time. They also know that I go stay with women sometimes. Also I have picked up women and phone numbers and dates with them right in front of their yes. And women sometimes come in the store asking the guys if they’ve seen me.

That’s all you need to do! If they know you get laid, you are in like Flynn. And it helps if the women are goodlooking. You don’t even have to get much sex. If you get any at all, they think that is amazing since you are single.

One of the other rules with those Arab guys seems to be: No faggotry. They don’t even discuss it. I’m straight, but I assume that if I started talking about screwing guys or flirting with those guys, they would get pretty upset. That’s something that is simply not done and would be seen as very outrageous.

The rules for getting along  with Arab men are simple:

  1. Act macho, act like a man, be tough and hard as nails.
  2. Marriage is not necessary, but it very much helps to get laid now and again.
  3. No wimpy, pussy, sissy or feminine behaviors: no complaining, no bitching except in a macho way, no admitting you are depressed, no cowardliness, etc.
  4. A sense of humor is very helpful. Arab men love to laugh and take it easy.
  5. No homosexuality period, dammit.

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Idiotic Cultural Left Insanity of the Day

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Even a lot of lesbians hate this sort of nonsense, especially the more militant ones.

Now the truth is that I despise lesbian-feminists.

However, I will give these lesbian feminist bitches one thing. They say two thumbs down on the idea of lesbians marrying men. Why? Because they say it’s nuts, that’s why. They say the definition of lesbian means exclusively or predominately attracted to other women for romance and sex. That doesn’t necessarily preclude sex with men on occasion, but surely that is not what a lesbian prefers. And of course a lesbian would never marry a man. Why the Hell would she do that?

And what sort of a feminist man pussified idiot would marry a dyke anyway? I have heard of a few of these insane relationships. The men are often rad fem men. Yes, there is such a thing. These are men who hate other men, hate masculinity and think men are just evil in the way they treat women. They’re traitors to their brothers off consorting with the enemy, their sisters.

These pussies boy-men never learned one of the first rules of Man World that a boy learns in life: Bros before hos. Rad fem men are often very sissy and effeminate. Quite a few of them are gay men. They’re down with their sisters because these sissies identify with femininity. There are actually some very sissy straight men who are radfems. These are heterosexual men, but a lot of other males think they are gay, and they have been getting gay-baited and gay-bashed since school. There was one fellow that was writing on the web a while back who I actually enjoyed.

The radfem argument against these moronic “married lesbians” is quite simple If you are a “lesbian” who falls in love with men and marries men, guess what? That means you’re not a lesbian!

Duh!

The Gay Politics crowd has always been one of the nuttier wings of the Cultural Left because, well, let’s get real here for a moment. Although healthy homosexuals (especially biologically gay men) definitely exist, any sane person who has studied the gay community for any length of time has to realize that a lot of gay people are crazy, weird, and bizarre.

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Lesbian Feminism 101

You know what lesbian feminists are? Ever heard of them? Well if you have not, that I will give you a brief backgrounder on who and what they are. If you had the slightest inkling of what that word means, you really need to hate them too. If you don’t hate lesbian feminists, you’re either one of them or there is something very wrong with you, or I don’t want to know you because you’re my enemy.

I don’t really have the time to go into it by now, but more or less by definition, a lesbian feminist is absolutely not born that way. She’s not a born lesbian. If she’s born anything at all, she’s born straight. I am sympathetic to biological lesbians, and I have met a few, but lesbian feminists? Um, no. As a simple explanation, I will just say that these are women who have 100% chosen to be lesbians out of their own free will.

And why did they choose to be idiotic dykes? Because they hate us men more than any other bitches on this planet, that’s why. They hate us so much that they don’t want to engage in romance and sex with us, and beyond that, a lot of them don’t even want to have anything to do with us at all.

There is a fairly large section of the lesbian community that supports lesbian separatism, which is an apartheid like ideology not unlike White nationalism, Zionism, Nazism, etc. They actually want to live their lives seeing and dealing with us men as little as possible because that is just how much they utterly despise us. What did we ever do to them?

Well you will have to check into your nearest university’s Women’s Studies Department and enroll in some Gender Studies classes and get back to us. These feminists are the female version of MGTOW. It’s like the Manosphere, except with misandry instead of misogyny. The MRA tard says the whole problem with the world is women, and the lesbian feminist tard says the whole problem with the world is men.

Guess what? They’re both full of shit. And not only that, but they are very much like each other. Perhaps some MRA’s and MGTOW’s ought to hook with some of these lesbian feminist bitches and get hooked. After all, they deserve each other. In fact, the polar opposite of an MRA is not a lesbian feminist – it’s a man who loves women or a woman who loves men. The opposite of a radfem is not an MRA – it’s a real woman who loves men and a normal guy who loves women. Those two tard groups only think they hate each other. Really they are just the opposite sides of the same damned mirror.

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Face Facts: Homosexuality and Transsexualism Are Not Normal

A lot of gay men act like women. A lot of lesbians act like men. Neither is normal behavior, face it. Many gay men even like to wear dresses. We call them drag queens. Lesbians typically wear men’s clothes and cut their hair short and mostly try to look ugly as sin.

The very state of being homosexual in and of itself is sort of a violation of the nature of gender, and as such, it is no secret that a longstanding goal of the gay community is “the elimination of gender.” Why? Because many homosexuals are “at war with the concept of gender.” Their war is all wrapped up in their homosexual status and identity. That’s why we are seeing all of these bizarre transsexual freak things or whatever they are. Things, its, heshes, call em what you will.

Let’s get real here too. This crap is not normal. If you’re a man, it is not normal to think that you are a woman. If you are a woman, it is not normal or healthy to think you are a man. In fact, in both cases, it is not even true! It can best be thought of as a delusion. It’s weird as Hell for a man to chop off his dick, grow tits and turn into a lady. It’s so weird it’s almost sci-fi weird. It’s straight up bonkers for a woman to turn her vagina inside out and turn it into a flopping dick while hacking off those lovely female breasts of hers. I would argue that that is not even surgery. It’s mutilation masquerading as surgery.

But you can see that the transsexuals are tied in with the gays. Transwomen and many gay men are at war with their biological gender. Transmen and most bull dykes are at war with their very own womanhood. Transwomen are surely at war with their own manhood. Most of these tranny cases are on a homosexual continuum. Most transwomen are best thought of as an extreme form of male homosexuality – sort of like drag queens that ran so fast towards the cliff that they fell off. The Ultragays. Most transmen are an extreme form of lesbianism – sort of the ultimate motorcycle bull dykes. The Superdykes. It sounds like a comic book series.

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Why Straight Men Get Angry When Gay Men Hit on Them

The question was asked on Qujora: How do straight men feel when gay men hit on them? The answers that followed were typical Cultural Left Quora types. They were all along the lines of, “Oh no, I would be perfectly ok with it. It would be flattering. But I would tell him thanks but no thanks.” One thing I found shocking was how many straight men have been hit on by gay men.  A number of the straight men commenting said they had been hit on by gay men many times. I guess this goes to show a couple of things that I have always suspected:

  1. Gay men don’t have the faintest idea who is gay and who isn’t.
  2. Gaydar may work sometimes, but the false positive rate seems incredibly high.
  3. Gay men probably just go after any goodlooking man. I had some friends who were (straight) male models, and they told me that they had gay men after them constantly such that it was almost like swatting mosquitoes.

Here is my answer:

It makes me extremely uncomfortable.

Do I get angry at the gay man for hitting on me? No, I would not get angry at the man because that’s rude and mean, and I am not a mean person. Would I get angry afterwards? Quite possibly. Or disgusted. Or frightened and worried.

First of all, this has happened to me so many times I cannot even count them. For a long time, it just made me feel extremely uncomfortable.

Once as a teenage boy, I was hitchhiking, and a very nervous man gave me a ride and then asked if I would give him a blowjob. I got very offended and angry, said no, and demanded to be let out of the car right then. He got very upset and started crying and said he wanted to take me home. All the way home he was crying and saying, “I’m not a bad person.” This was 1973 before things got so liberal. I must say that this is a very sad story and I did feel rather sorry for this tragic man.

It is generally not true that gay men who get angry when gay men hit on them have “issues.” Issues implies that these straight men are secretly gay themselves or some other idiocy.

This goes back to the stupid but very popular notion that homophobes are all gay themselves. They’re not. Yes, there are some men who are engaging in some reaction formation. Instead of being gay, these men are basically straight with a small amount of homosexual interest. I suppose they can’t handle having that bit of interest, so they assault gay men or men perceived to be gay.

I have found instead that the more masculine and aggressively heterosexual a man is, the more he reacts negatively towards gay men. So most homophobes are not gay at all. Instead they are extremely macho and aggressively heterosexual men who simply hate and despise gay men.

Gay men need to get over this crap that all homophobes are gay. Maybe a few are a bit gay, but most of them just hate your guts. Yes, gay men, there are a lot of men who just out and out hate you for whatever reason. This is a bitter pill to swallow, so maybe that is where the homophobes are gay nonsense came from.

People want to know why straight men hit gay men who hit on them. Well, here is the reason, and I have quite a bit of experience with this.

As I said, I have gotten hit on by gay men more times than I can count, mostly when I was a young man in my 20’s. I was often told that I was very handsome back then, so maybe that was it. Also a fair number of people used to think I was gay myself, so maybe that was part of it too.

Now, when I told people that gay men hit on me, I got this aggressive, violent reaction that typically boiled down to the person calling me a faggot. The reasoning goes like this: to a lot of homophobic men, a man should be so aggressively macho or hypermasculine such that it would be dead obvious to anyone, including a gay man, that he was not gay. So a real man would never get hit on by a gay because all gay men would figure out he was straight and leave him alone.

You follow?

Ok, now following on from that, these same homophobes say that if a gay man hits on you, that means you’re gay. Yes they actually believe this and quite a few times, when I related how gay men wouldn’t leave me alone, that was the response I got: “That’s because you’re gay, Bob.”

Get it?

Along the same lines, a lot of homophobes think that if a gay man hits on you, then that is because you give off a gay vibe. In other words, if they hit on you, it’s because they think you’re gay. And why do they think you’re gay? Because you act gay obviously. So when you admit that a gay man hit on you, you are admitting that you act gay.

I admit that I often worried this. When a gay man hit on me, I used to get quite worried. “Why did he hit on me? Does he think I’m gay? Why does he think I’m gay? Do I act gay? Do I look gay? What am I doing wrong here?”

Now most straight men find it very insulting if you tell them that they act gay. It’s such an insult that if you say it, you might just get hit.

One more thing: masculinity. Masculinity is a huge deal to most men, though none of them will ever admit it. It’s also a vast deal to most women, and none of them will ever admit it either. Masculinity is sort of the elephant in the room that no one talks about.

Now when a gay man hits on a straight man, he has just given the straight man the message: I think you’re gay. Other possible messages are: You’re gay. You act gay. You seem like you are gay, etc. etc.

Now many men perceive messages like that to be attacks on their masculinity. And in a way it is. So a gay man who hits on a straight man is committing a serious assault on that man’s masculinity. You’re telling him he’s not a man. You’re calling him a faggot.

One thing I never do is attack a man’s masculinity. I also never call any man gay ever for any reason, even if he is flaming. I know my gender very well and I know that many straight men will defend their masculinity aggressively. If you seriously attack a man’s masculinity in any way, you are likely to get an angry response. You might even get hit. You might even get killed. So what it boils down to is that I consider all men to be potential killers (sadly that’s what they are), and I am so frightened of men that I would never insult a man’s masculinity for fear he might kill me.

So there you have some of the reasons why straight men react angrily or violently if a gay man hits on them. It’s not a bafflingly irrational act. There’s a logic behind it. You may not agree with the logic, but it’s there all right.

 

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What Is Masculinity?

A female friend, wondering what it meant to be masculine, averred that masculinity was about three things: exhibiting authority, being disciplined and only fighting with equals.

While any of those things will win you masculinity brownie points from  other men, unfortunately, I do not think that you need to do any of these things to be masculine. You don’t really need to exhibit authority, though if you are masculine enough, you tend to generate that authority anyway automatically if only through fear and intimidation.

You don’t have to be cool under pressure either, although that helps. My father always fell apart under pressure, and he was regarded as masculine. But you should not wear your heart on your sleeve, you should not be too nervous or defeated-looking, you should not always be deferring to women, you should not talk about your problems, and you should never admit that you are depressed.

There is a masculine way of exhibiting depression which is to be very cynical, complain in a helpless but tough guy, what can you do sort of way about things, and act like it’s hopeless in a cynical way. This stoic attitude is called “surviving.” You go out with that attitude, and guys will ask how you are doing. If you are depressed, you shrug your shoulders stoically. The other guy nods his head and says, “Surviving, eh?” It’s ok to be “surviving.” Even if you are depressed, you are supposed to be “surviving.” You are always surviving. You have never given up. That’s masculinity. A man survives.

It’s also ok and masculine to have this sort of “Life sucks”, “Fuck life”, FTW, badass sort of mindset, once again, rather stoically. The message is: life is tough. Life is hard, but you’re toughing it out. Masculinity means you are always toughing it out. Sure, life sucks, but you carry on anyway, hope for the best and look forward to the future maybe being better.

Don’t complain too much. Men are not supposed to be bitching and complaining all the time. If you complain about your job, a lot of men will say, “Go get a new one then.” If you don’t like where you are living, men will say, “Well move then.” If you are miserable with your girlfriend, a lot of men will say, “Go get a new one.” If you complain that your girlfriend is a bitch, a lot of men will say, “Show her who’s boss! Don’t put up with that shit! Put that bitch in her place!” Though marriage is a lot trickier.

A masculine man does something about it. Whatever it is, he does something about it. No matter the problem, he tries to deal with it to make it better in some way or another.

Unfortunately you can pick on weaker people and still be seen as masculine. A lot of masculine guys beat up women and hit their kids. If they act macho enough, no one cares. In Mexican society, it is considered macho to beat your wife. I asked about a job for a friend of mine once at Walmart, and a Mexican asked, “Does he have a criminal record?” I said yes. He asked what for. I said, “Domestic violence. Beating his girlfriend.” And I shrugged my shoulders as if to say, “What the Hell kind of crime is that?” The Mexican laughed and acted like, “LOL that’s not a crime.”

It would be nice if masculinity was really about exhibiting authority, being disciplined and picking on people your own size, and indeed, displaying obvious evidence of any of these things brings you great respect points from other men, possibly because they do represent masculine behaviors.

Really, being masculine is all more just a walk the walk and talk the talk sort of thing. If you walk the masculine walk and talk the masculine talk, most men assume that you are masculine right there. That’s really all you have to do. Masculinity is more about a surface behavior of “putting on a show.” As long as you put on a good show, other men figure you are masculine enough to be ok.

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The Importance of Masculinity

Jason Y writes: If your a tall skinny guy, or maybe a short one, what good does being masculine do you anyway?

If you are not masculine, other men will not accept you. If you are not that masculine, you are going to have troubles with women your whole life. Trust me on that one. I’ve experienced it, and I actually have a very strong masculine identity.

Woman all lie and say it’s not true, but actually one of the most important factors in a male-female relationship is masculinity. It’s important for the woman, not so much for the man. They pretty much demand that their men act in a masculine way. If you’re goodlooking and have good game and you are not masculine, yes, you will get women because women love to screw goodlooking men. Yes they screw goodlooking non-masculine men, but then they bitch afterwards if they think he’s not masculine enough. So these guys get a lot of hot sex and a lot of nasty bitchery.

The whole Alpha-Beta-Omega scale is sort of down to masculinity. Alphas the most masculine, omegas the least and betas in between.

Why do women love bad boys? Bad boys are masculine.

You have to distinguish between what women say and what they do. Many women ask, “Why is masculinity so important? Why are you guys so hung up about masculinity?” The thing is, the woman who is saying that is usually making a huge deal about it herself in her relationships with men, but she has blinded herself to that fact, as women do with so many things. They don’t know what they think, what they do or why. That’s the nature of woman.

Anyway, men should act masculine just because. Because that’s what men do. If you don’t act masculine, you aren’t acting like much of a man.

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What’s Wrong with Boot Camp Boyhood?

I do not know about actual bullying, but what I am talking about is teasing, taunting, horseplay, peer pressure, etc. I mean boyhood is rough. It’s like boot camp. It’s boot camp for manhood. Iron boys have to pass through the flames to be smelted into steel men. Most boys make it through and turn into healthy, more or less masculine and considerably toughened up men. Those who don’t make it through seem like they end up damaged by this process.

But boyhood has always been this way probably all down through history. Many primitive tribes have hardass ceremonies that they make boys suffer through in order to be called men. I figure it’s a normal process. I mean boyhood is where boys are turned into men. Boyhood is a process whereby boys are turned into men, not always with loving care and kindness. You are supposed to make it through like I did.

People who didn’t make it through, well I am sorry for them, but there are a lot of boot camp dropouts too you. The process is there for a reason. You really want boyhood to be not a sometimes hardass process whereby boys and toughened and turned into men? Without that toughening up process, you may well end up with way more sissy, wimpy, pussy, lame men.

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