I pretend to like people all the time.
Even if I do not like the woman I am dealing with, I usually just fake and pretend to like her so I can get through the encounter without generating any hostility on her end. One therapist told me that this is “dishonest communication,” but I could care less what it is. I really don’t care if people like me or hate me and pretend to like me. What do I care? If they hate me and pretend to like me, I won’t know that they hate me, right? So what do I care what they think in their minds? They can think anything they want to about me. It’s a free country. I am not the Thought Police.
With my friends and acquaintances, I really do prefer that they like me. On the other hand, if they just pretend to like me, I am not sure if I care. If I never find out, what difference does it make? I am not in this world to solicit pure and honest reactions and emotions from people. I feel most people are lying a good part of the time and faking their reactions and emotions another part of the time. I really don’t care about sincerity. On the other hand, when someone sincerely likes or loves you, it’s quite apparent anyway, so it’s paranoid to worry about sincerity.