Beauregard: Weren’t “1950’s Wives” almost maternal towards their husbands? I mean, an extremely insecure teenage girl cannot provide that. I suppose strong men (Alphas) might not need that, but 85% of men, including myself, are not that.
Well I would say that a lot of those 1950’s wives were teenage girls, aged 18-19.
Females want to take care of males. Women want to take care of men. I assume teenage girls want to take care of their boyfriends.
Several years ago, I had an 18 year old girlfriend, and she told me that she wanted to take care of me. Every night before she went to sleep she prayed to God to not let anything bad happen to me. She worried all the time that something bad was going to happen to me. I was pretty shocked that such a young woman would want to take care of me. I guess the maternal instinct in females starts awful young. Females don’t just want to take care of babies. They also want to take care of their men.
Most of my most recent girlfriends tried to take care of me. They were concerned about my health, and they worried a lot about me. They pretty much mothered me in some ways. It’s normal for your woman to mother you.
Also it means she loves you. If she loves you, she is going to mother you. If she doesn’t love you, she may well not mother you. The maternal instinct to care for her man seems to be tied into love. If she cares enough about you to love you, then she wants to protect you.
Also women seem to know that we men are like babies or children. Face it, we don’t take care of ourselves, and we do a lot of stupid, self destructive, or out and out dangerous stuff.
Sure, Alphas are not looking for women to take care of them, maybe. The dirty little secret is how much most men love their mothers. You go to a prison, and most of the men in there will tell you that they want to kill their fathers, but they all also have Mom tattooed on their shoulders, and you better not diss their momma, or you might get hit or worse.
Men are pretty much babies, as tough as we act. Our mothers take care of us until we leave the home, whenever that is, and after that, we take up with a girlfriend or wife, which is actually a surrogate mother. No man wants to admit this because it sounds so pussy, but it’s actually true. Men know instinctively that they cannot take care of themselves very well, so we live most of our lives relying on women to take care of us in one way or another.
As men age, this mothering of husbands becomes quite profound, and many older and elderly men are dependent on their wives, often to an embarrassing degree. Many men’s health collapses after they divorce because there is no woman to take care of them anymore.
Lifelong bachelors like yours truly do a lot better because we have been on our own forever, and bachelor life is sink or swim. You either learn to cook, or you eat like a dog. You either take care of yourself, or your health collapses.
It’s downright Darwinian, and an early grave awaits the bachelor who never learned to be self-sufficient and in effect mother himself. Because newly divorced men have been relying on their wives for food, shelter, comfort, medical care and even the laundry, a newly divorced man is quite often a fish out of water. This is where you see the statistics about single men living less long than married men go astray. Those statistics are distorted by the poor health of divorced men. Lifelong bachelors often do much better, as they have learned to survive on their own.