GondwanaMan: I wanna be masculine.
There’s not much to it. Masculinity is a show. It’s a mask you put on for other men. It’s simply a behavioral display and most any man can learn to act this way if they practice.
Practice. Try to act masculine. First try to think in a masculine way. Then start envisioning yourself as a masculine man. Look at masculine men and frankly just imitate them. Imitate actors. I do that a lot. I actually imitate of a couple of porn stars from the Golden Age because I like their style. One is Jamie Gillis. He was a bastard but he had a good style.
It won’t look funny at all. Try it on for size and see how it works. Even if it feels like you are doing the most idiotic parody of masculinity on Earth that would make anyone burst out in laughter, you probably are not. You are probably just acting the way many men do all the time. Keep on practicing when you are alone. Get it to where it starts to feel pretty normal. The more it feels normal, natural and not forced, the better it will come across. At some point, hopefully it will become a sort of second nature and you will act this way without trying.
Try not to worry so much about what others think. If you are prone to being very self-conscious and sensitive, say to yourself over and over, “I don’t care about them. I don’t care about you. I don’t give a damn what you think about anything! You think I care? LOL yeah right. I don’t care what you think!”
This sounds narcissistic if not sociopathic but if you are already introverted and sensitive, you are so far on the other side of Cluster B that thinking those thoughts will not turn you into a monster. You will be your normal pleasant self, but you will care a lot less about what others think.
This is very important. Fear is a life-killer. If you worry what everyone thinks all the time, you will hardly ever act. You won’t ask many women out. You won’t even approach many women. You might be scared to act masculine. All of these things are life-destroying because if it goes too far, you end up living an isolated life with little dating, fun or human interaction. Shy people are usually very nice, but shyness can ruin your life by keeping you from doing much of anything at all.
“If you think you’re masculine, you’re masculine, period.”
My father, who had a typical moronic view of masculinity, used to get furious at me when I said that. But it’s true.
For some reason this is very controversial with a lot of idiotic masculine men. A lot of masculine men are very stupid about masculinity. They treat it like it is some precious elixir that only the finest anointed ones are gifted with. The rest of the men will never attain it no matter how hard they try. So many men have told me things like, “They’re trying to be men. But it’s bullshit because they’re not men.” This is retardation. Got news for ya, pal. If you’re trying to be a man, you are a man. It’s real simple. If you’re trying to be confident, you are liable to act a lot more confident.
I have known many unmasculine men in my life. Most were soft, passive and sometimes wimpy. There are no unmasculine men who think they are masculine. Feminine, soft, passive or wimpy men know that they are not masculine. They simply don’t care, or they don’t feel that they have it in them. Trust me that most of these men did not even try to act masculine. I know this because they confided this in me.