Men, Women, Sex and Love

Beatrix: This was a wtf for me – A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It’s more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships. The term demisexual comes from the orientation being “halfway between” sexual and asexual.

RL: Actually I think demisexual is the natural state of the human female in a way.

Bernardista: Wow! Cool! So you think women who seem to experience sexual attraction to most anyone with a shlong are faking it to be PC? I always thought I was missing out.

My response: No, women can enjoy sex for sex sake, and they are doing it more nowadays.

But my mother always said that men can have sex without love with no problems, but women can’t. They need love to have sex. What she says is not 100% true, but once again the wisdom of ancients beats PC bullshit.

Some women enjoy being a slut more than others. Some women are just horny and want to get laid to satisfy their sex drive. However, women have a long tradition of finding sex without love to be somewhat to completely unsatisfying. They often feel empty afterwards. This seems to be the normal mode of female thinking, but nowadays, women are encouraged to have sex for fun, and a lot of them are doing it so there is some social learning and behavioral modification going on. It’s not that they cannot do it, but it’s harder for women to have sex without love than it is for men.

And speaking from personal experience, even among women who have had quite a bit of sex without love, once they fall madly in love with a man, their sex drive often goes through the roof. Yes, women can be turned on by a sexy guy, but when sex is combined with love is when you really see the female sex drive go crazy. I would say that women need love to turn on the sex drive, but that is not completely true. But love sure revs it up into overdrive more than anything else that I have ever experienced.

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4 responses to “Men, Women, Sex and Love

  1. Lon Spector

    Female sexual desire is on a bell curve anywhere from asexuality
    to “male-like” female sociopathy.
    Many women grudgingly realize the era they are living in and can
    emotionally compartementalize. They can fake it, anotherwords.
    Even in “good” relationships, they largely “fake it.”
    Some few unfortunates like myself have Saturn in the 5th house.
    The dog won’t hunt.

  2. RockT

    There is no getting around this one: the traditionalist were right. The righter they are, the angrier leftists get. Cultural Marxists really, that’s all that’s left of the left anymore. The revolution failed guys, deal with it, and reverse things back to what works.

  3. Gaston_D

    Some women enjoy being a slut more than others.

    :)) And this is from someone who claims he bans hopeless misogynists.

    Why didn’t you say some women are better at dealing with societal programming aimed at making them repress their sexual persona, and leave without murderous battles between the field of what they want and the field of what they are made to feel they should not want fought within their brainpans?

    And I am sure you know the prime means of keeping them repressed is that very slut tag.

    Just try to be a bad guy like me, who’s not good at suffering the common people’s feeble character, deprive a woman of the chance to enjoy sex with you and rationalize it as something you wanted, decided and started while she did no more than accept it, and see her fall into hysteria.

    Or, afterwards, stress how it was all her choice, desire and doing, and enjoy beholding her melting down.

    However, women have a long tradition of finding sex without love to be somewhat to completely unsatisfying. They often feel empty afterwards. This seems to be the normal mode of female thinking

    All ideological merchandise aside… how are we supposed to find how much of this is deep nature (a result of evolution), how much second nature (something that’s gotten into the genetic code, but recently), and how much due to societal programming underwent since birth?
    There’s no hoping serious, truth-devoted research on this stuff is coming any time soon, is there.

    This seems to be the normal mode of female thinking, but nowadays, women are encouraged to have sex for fun, and a lot of them are doing it so there is some social learning and behavioral modification going on.

    This is now true in respects with a good deal of the developed world. Societal programming and peer group pressure contrary old ones.
    You have this amusing situation in which half of women in the world are ashamed to be heterosexual chaste and unwed, while elsewhere women are still pushed to repress any real homosexual instinct that may lie in them, as well as any real heterosexual instinct not sanctioned by the marriage contract or at least a “serious story”.

    Statistic findings on American women say the percentage of bisexuals is roughly 50%.
    They ignore, however, that there’s a strong pressure on the part of society to go beyond heterosexuality.
    What would the percentage be in Japan?
    Indonesia?
    Saudi Arabia?
    We can’t know, and we won’t be told.

    But then, why should that matter so much?
    One kind or another, there will always be some societal programming in action.

    And speaking from personal experience, even among women who have had quite a bit of sex without love, once they fall madly in love with a man, their sex drive often goes through the roof.

    Isn’t this true of males too? Or, otherwise, I may be a womanly man, because it happens to me likewise.
    Since the drive for sex resides in the brain, it appears ever so natural that when the entire brain is involved the drive gets amplified.

    Also, seems you are calling NRE “love”

    New Relationship Energy. The temporary, short-lasting, overwhelming feeling of joy one experiences when first dating a new person, usually not lasting longer than several months (though it can be artificially extended out to a year or so if people get married or have a baby together). Often referred to as the “honeymoon period”. NRE is likely the most powerful positive emotion a human being can feel, stronger even than love, but it is extremely temporary. NRE often leads to poor decision-making and oneitis, and is the cause of many divorces, breakups, and drama.

    It’s been found that women get fed up with their stable partners, on average, after three years, and that all boredom stems from sexual boredom — despite many women finding it hard to admit it.

    • Look you cannot just sit here and be all contrary like this. And I am not enjoying your tone in this response or in another one. You are in danger of being banned for “hostile tone” and “contrariness.” Also you are a hardcore feminist I see, and we don’t like feminists here. They have a tendency to get banned.

      I do not ban hardcore misogynists. They can post all they want. Most of them tend to ban themselves or get thrown off the site.

      I take exception to the notion that the fact that I use the word slut makes me a misogynist. Also I don’t do slut-shaming. I luv sluts.

      You are being an SJW Cultural Left type here, feminist variety. According to you, nothing can be proven I guess. Even surveys are unreliable. Even case reports and anecdotal findings are unreliable. You recite the Cultural Left mantra: what about the exceptions? What about the exceptions? What about the exceptions?

      Also you seem to think that everything is cultural and nothing is biological, which is SJW thinking.
      Are you a professor of social science by any chance?

      Personally, I think the percentage of women with a bisexual mental orientation is interesting. SJW’s say, “Why does it matter?” They say this about anything sexual. If 50% of men were gay and AIDS was exploding across the nation and the country was falling apart in other ways, which is what would happen with a gay rate that high, SJW’s would say, “What does it matter?” Surely they would be saying this when the % of men who are gay approaches 100%. “What does it matter? Society is collapsing, but why is this a problem? To each his own, man.”

      The male sex drive does not go through the roof when men are in love. Men are horny all the time anyway. Male sex drive goes high with an attractive woman. Men give love to get sex anyway, not the other way around.

      There is no such bullshit as New Relationship Energy. Humans since time immemorial have referred to this NRE bullshit as “love,” which is exactly what it is. It is also called infatuation, but infatuation is the most powerful phase of love.

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