Jason Y thinks that just because I said that bullying is ok sometimes means that I think it is ok all the time. Absolutely not so. Only serious outliers need this treatment to get them in line. However, teasing, taunting, and roughhousing is just boys being boys. It’s not as bad as severe bullying, and as a boy you need to learn to handle being teased, taunted or roughhoused around without flipping out. So maybe it is sort of a test for toughening you up.
Boys can’t go around falling apart every time there is a bit of roughhousing, teasing or taunting. This is a universal aspect of boyhood, and they need to get through it and learn to take it and not have it destroy or damage them into adulthood. However, this can be a bad thing, and I know a man who is still angry at his brother for teasing and taunting him into a reaction and then using that reaction to beat him up. This man is over 50 years old, and he still has not forgiven his brother for this, and knowing the brother’s personality, an apology is not forthcoming.
Nothing about Jason and nothing Jason did deserves bullying. Or even teasing and roughhousing. And I would say that none of the men on this site revealing how they were bullied as boys deserved it. That’s just mean, and sadly it can leave scars into adulthood.
You see, Jason thinks when I say bullying is ok sometimes, he thinks I said bullying is ok all the time. See? It’s an error in reading comprehension.
But I don’t say that. A lot of the time it is not deserved. So Jason’s hair was sort of curly and messed up. So what? You can’t help it. No one should be bullied or maltreated over things that they cannot control.
However, I do feel that serious outliers deserve to be bullied, teased, taunted etc. about things that they can control. They need to get the message that what they are doing is not ok. But only some kids need that sort of treatment:
Assholes, psychos, mean boys. Fuck em, bully em. They deserve it, they should not be that way, that’s no way for a boy to be. That behavior needs to be arrested. An asshole, psycho, mean boy may well grow up to be an asshole, psycho, mean man, and that is a lot more dangerous. Nip it in the bud. How would you like to see way more asshole, psycho, mean men than there already are? There are enough men like this as it is, and even one is unacceptable. These men do a lot of damage to society and the people they victimize. Boys need to get the message that it is not ok to be an asshole, mean, psycho male. We cannot send boys out into the society of men acting that way. It causes serious societal problems.
Crybaby boys. Boys should not cry or at least they should not cry excessively. It is not acceptable for a 10 year old boy to be crying all the time. He needs to be bullied, teased, roughhoused, even hit, to get the message that males simply cannot do that in our society. Also the rest of the boys need to be taught that boys and men simply cannot be crybabies. That is as unacceptable as it gets. Do you want to raise generations of crybaby men? Come on.
Seriously effeminate boys. Sorry, no boy is born effeminate. This is obviously learned behavior. That means they could knock it off anytime. Boys need to get a strong message that serious effeminacy is not acceptable. If that means teasing, taunting, etc. effeminate boys, that is fine with me. The rest of the boys need to be told that this is not ok. If you do not do this, you might end up with a lot more effeminate men than there already are, and that would not be good. You could end up with whole generations of effeminate men.
Weirdos, idiots, seriously dorked out nerds and fools. Look, if you are this much of a nerd, idiot, fool, dork, clumsy, awkward, idiot clown of a boy, that is just not acceptable. Boys who act that way deserve bullying, teasing, taunting and even a bit of roughhousing. They need to get the message that they need to knock it off, and the rest of the boys need to get the message that this is seriously not ok. Otherwise you might end up with whole generations of nerdy, dorky, idiotic, lame and foolish men.