Ingrid Lyne, a 40-year-old mother of three, went missing April 9 after attending a Seattle Mariners game with a man she met online. Her purse and keys are still in her house, but her car is missing. Now, body parts have been found in a recycling bin outside a home in Seattle. The remains are believed to be those of Ms. Lyne. The man she met, John Charlton, is now under arrest.
Very few women will ever die this way, and almost no killings like this occur from a man who kills a woman on the first date or a woman he takes home from a bar. The reason is quite simple – how many people saw him leave that bar with her? How many dozen people saw him leave that bar with her?
Likewise with dates, although I would advise all women to get the name, home address, phone number and maybe email of any man they are going out with.
I had a woman do that once on a date with me once, and it totally freaked me out when she did it because of the implication that she thought I might even be capable of killing her. She lived with her Mom, and we were over at her Mom’s house.
I had picked her up after work in Century City, and then we went to some barber shop in South LA where she got her hair cut. There were a bunch of older Black guys in there who acted like they hardly ever dealt with a White man. One was a bit frightened and leery of White men but we still sort of hit it off anyway and I hope I showed him that not all White man are evil.
The other was from South Carolina, and we had a good conversation about Gullah. It was pretty cool to meet some really authentic Black men who hardly ever dealt with White people. I will say that I thought both of them were very good people, but most older Black men you meet either working regularly or retired are almost always very cool people. I think most of the really bad older Black men are dead or in prison. And one of the wisest humans you will ever meet is that retired Black man with a twinkle in his eye who looks like he has seen the whole world and then some.
From there we ended up at her house, but her Mom was not home. This was a Black woman who actually lived in South Central LA. She went over to the calendar, looked at me very suspiciously (which I did not appreciate) and asked for my name and phone number. I told her I lived alone, but that was not good enough for her. She wanted a relative’s contact number, so I gave her my Mom’s. She wrote my name and number on the calendar.
The date that followed is a very long story.
Even on a first date with that woman, how many people saw him come to her house and pick him up? How many people saw him leave with her?
However, all women should at least write down the names, addresses, phone numbers, etc, of the men they date on their phone numbers.
A man who kills a woman on a first date (psycho killer) is almost always automatically arrested. Men rarely kill their casual dates. They do hit them and beat them up a lot of course, and they rape them a lot. But kill them? No.
A man who kills a woman he leaves a bar with is often arrested very fast. There was a guy 20 years ago who killed a few in a row, but that might be harder to do now. How many witnesses saw him leave that bar with her?
Even killers are not morons. In fact, they are often far more intelligent than your average guy. Few if any of these guys ever want to get caught.
Killers like this (psycho killers) prey on strangers or sometimes very casual friends. They do kill women that they know, but almost never on a casual date or a bar pickup. Instead they will break into her house, kill her and leave. If they are good at disappearing bodies, they can even kill women who come visit them, but this is not common because most men cannot disappear bodies. It’s a million times harder than you think.
There are many cases where a man, a suspected killer, was the last person to see a missing woman alive. The key is that her body vanished. Just being the last person she was seen with is not enough to arrest any man, ever!
I know of one guy who was the last man seen with several women who disappeared and were presumed murdered. I think the body of one was found. He has not been arrested to this date. Just being the last man seen with a murder victim is not enough to arrest usually. No DA in the nation will ever file on that case. But these guys do not make first dates with women and kill them. They tend to kill women who were casual acquaintances. Often she was seen at his place or he at hers shortly before she vanished. That’s not enough to file!