There are young men in this town who are obviously gay and they don’t even seem to be interested in me, and they would have been when I was younger, that’s for sure.
But if I change it from official business (ordering something at a counter) to more friendly banter, I do see something turn on in them. I suppose that it’s inevitable that as a man ages, he not only becomes less attractive to women, which is obvious, but he also becomes less attractive to men. It’s more that that thought never even occurred to me.
But now thinking of it, they say in the gay community, “Nobody wants the old guys,” and the position of an older gay man in the gay world is even more tragic than many gay lives are already. If you think straight culture is youth-obsessed, you should check out gay male culture. It’s insanely youth obsessed.
Some say it is so bad that once you are over 25, you are considered an old man and are no longer desirable. Quite a few older gay man compensate for this by entering into Daddy-Son type live-in relationships where the older man plays the Daddy and the younger man is the “son.” I have seen some of these relationships and I have heard about many others. It’s not uncommon that the older man is paying the young man’s way at least in part in these relationships. I don’t know a whole lot about male prostitution, but I have heard that it is often older gay men with some money buying sex from very goodlooking young gay men who would apparently be not very accessible otherwise.
If there are any gay men among our readers, perhaps they could give our gay friend here some advice?