Hey Robert, do most the older women you date have kids? Are they divorced? Cheating on husbands? Childless? I kinda have a feeling I won’t ever get married, and I’m wondering what things will be like when I’m in my 50s and trying to meet women.
Also, are women’s vaginas looser at 50 than at 25 or are older women just as tight?
I do not mess with married women, as I am not suicidal.
100% of them were divorcees or never married, mostly divorcees who had been married one time. Most had no kids. One had two kids, but I hardly dated her.
The crazy thing is, I have dated some women aged ~50 in the last 10 years who had vaginas so tight I could barely even get in. With some of them, I could not even get in at all without lube.
With one I dated only six months ago, I could go say halfway up her vagina, and then I would hit this sort of “sudden narrowing road” where the vagina would be so narrow that it was basically blocked. So I could only go halfway in, and then I am at what amounts to a roadblock. The only way I could get all the way in was with lube.
With others I could not even get in at all without lube. I even had to lube up my fingers to get in.
Also if they go without sex for a long time, their vagina gets really tight. 10 years ago, I dated a woman aged ~50 who had not had sex in four years, and she was tight as a virgin. Crazy.
Their vaginas were not dry. That’s the the thing. Women’s vaginas do not dry up after menopause, but the oldest woman I have been with lately was 51, so I do not know if they dry up later on. But I had two female friends aged 57 and 62 who told me that they still lubricated. I think women going dry as the Sahara is a myth. As far as I can tell they still lubricate, but not as much, and it takes longer for them to lubricate. Some of them have vaginas that may be dealing with thinning blood vessels. With one ~50 year old woman I was with 10 years ago, my fingers had blood all over them after I fingered her. But then I went and lubed up my fingers and it was all good, no blood.
Women need to go on estrogen for five years after menopause. After that, they need to look into estrogen creams or an estrogen ring that goes up by the cervix. If you keep the estrogen flowing, vaginal atrophy and aging is more or less arrested, and her vagina will stay as youthful as a young woman’s. All of the drying, thinning of the blood vessel walls and atrophy of the vagina after menopause is down to lack of estrogen. If you keep the estrogen flowing, everything keeps moving real well. It’s like putting oil in a car. Estrogen is the oil, and the vagina is the vehicle.
Older women are fantastic fucks. The best fucks out there. They are very, very relaxed about sex, but when you are their age, you will be too. One cool thing about middle age is that everyone really relaxes about sex and could care less about much of anything in the bedroom.
No one cares what goes on or what happens in bed. No one gives a damn anymore. Guys don’t care if they have impotence problems. Women don’t particularly care if you can’t get it, lose it or don’t cum, with some notable and ball-busting exceptions. If it means no sex, then she’s not happy. But you don’t need a penis to give a woman an orgasm. If you have dick issues, you just use your fingers, mouth or knee and get her off instead.
Anyway in middle age, a lot of guys start having at least sporadic dick issues anyway, so it’s seen as an ordinary thing. My urologist told me that 40% of men in their 40’s and 70% of men in their 50’s are impotent, but I do not know what he means by “impotent.” Those are scary figures, but if you make it to age 60 with an intact erection, you can feel proud enough to die happy.
It’s pretty common for a middle aged guy to have sporadic dick issues over a period of time with a woman. In other words, you spend a lot of time in bed with her, and your penis varies from impotent to half-hard/ soft-on/weak erection to full erection. It just sort of goes variably up and down slowly over the hours. But generally you can keep it hard enough at least to get off.
Two years ago at age 56, I had three orgasms in one night over several hours. I kept waking her up for more sex. It was incredible. I am not sure I have even done that as a young man. But I was insanely turned on. So it’s not like you can’t be a sexual athlete anymore either.
Those Viagra pills really come in handy as you age. One problem with aging is something called venous leak that may well get in your 50’s. You can still get it up, but if the penis is not being stimulated all the time, it will slowly go down. So the penis has to be manipulated the whole time to keep it up, and it’s annoying.
Apparently a lot of guys are more or less completely impotent in middle age, with the presence of impotence increasing with age. If you can make it through middle age with a dick that works at least a good part of the time, everyone’s happy. At some point, it seems like a guy who is not impotent is a treasure. I have had women tell me, “All men over 50 are impotent. It’s really sad.” That’s not true, but there’s your competition. A middle aged guy with a working member is considered a good find.
By middle age, women have shed all their inhibitions and frankly the men have too (a lot of men have inhibitions too). You are both relaxed, so you can try all sorts of perverted and kinky stuff you were too uptight to do before. Also older women are dirty as Hell. They are really nasty and kinky. By the time a woman is 50, she has piled up a fair amount of perversions and kinks over the years via secular effect and little else, and most of them are down for just about anything sexual that you want to do with them. Well not anything, but you get the picture.
But even if there’s stuff they don’t want to do, they don’t flip out about it. If you ask them if they want to do some super-kinky sex act that would freak out a lot of people, an older woman just smiles kindly and says in a soft voice, “You know, I have done that before, and it really doesn’t do anything for me. Plus it sort of grosses me out.” But she’s super polite about it. You can ask her to do just about anything sexual, and she will just smile and either do it or politely decline.
Also by the time they are 50, women that age have pretty much done it all sexually. Well not literally done it all, but a lot of them they have done a lot of perverted and kinky stuff. A lot of them have had sex with woman, had sex with two guys at once,things like that. Plus a lot of them have piled up quite a few sex partners. It’s not uncommon for a 50 year old woman to have been with ~50 men over the years.
They’ve seen it all, and they are basically unshockable.
There is none of this outraged, screaming, “You want to do WHAT with me?! You sick, perverted fuck!” threatening to dump you on the spot that you get with a lot of young women.
Plus most of older women are readily orgasmic. Not only that, but most older women are multiple-orgasmic. They can actually have multiple orgasms. A lot of young women cannot do that or can’t even have one with a man at all. If you want to work at it, it is pretty easy to give an older woman 3-4 orgasms a night, and it doesn’t take a tremendous amount of time to do it. A 3-4 orgasm night does not guarantee you a bitch-free next day (nothing does), but I would say that should be enough for maybe 8 bitch-free hours the next day. A few orgasms a night is a different between a woman who is a bitch all the time and one who is a bitch only half the time, which is more tolerable.