From Robert Karl Stonjek’s Evolutionary Psychology group on Facebook:
The Child from an Evolutionary Perspective
We leave so much behind and perhaps so much undone and yet to do in the process of our maturation that, with regard to at least some of that, we can address those shortcomings when the child within, the child we were, becomes the child raised.
Not necessarily vicariously or by substitution but a second chance to correct, modify and/or help to maturity those parts of the inner child by addressing the child within and one’s own child at the same time, as if what was a hidden child within is now visible to you, perhaps an invisible playmate of the child now flesh…we see it in you when you allow the child within to play with your offspring…
For instance a fear of the dark may have been experienced as a child. But you are no longer in fear of the dark. A fear of the unknown persists (you matured, but the child within remained cautious or frightened.) In reassuring one’s own child one has the opportunity to address the source of what may seem like an unrelated adult fear.
From the evolutionary perspective we note that each subsequent layer of intellectual sophistication is proceeded by subsequent layers of brain tissue built right over the top of existing brain tissue ~ the ancient parts, right down to the aplysia brains, still exist within ours in some form or other. No doubt our maturation proceeds in layers with each one only directly addressable during that part’s period of maturation until the second opportunity occurs during the process of bringing up one’s own child, perhaps only because our attention is drawn to those parts within; perhaps because we resonate to the child and our own inner child becomes visible once more, even if only briefly.
We observe that we are the interim custodian of an adult’s childhood. In time, they take responsibility and possession of this period of maturation themselves.
We can complete the cycle now by asking how, after taking possession of their early maturation, they can modify it to their own needs. And in answering this we return to the top of the page :)
Ok, nice. Good show, good show.