Women and girls really can’t stand a guy who is not getting any or who doesn’t have a woman.
I can’t even count the number of times women said things like this to me, along the lines of, “You don’t have a girlfriend, you loser,” or “You aren’t getting any are you, chump?” or “You probably can’t get it up or get it off, huh?” or “When was the last time you got laid LOL?”
Mostly they said this in an oblique rather than open way. Even some of my female friends were rather rude about matters when they did not see me with a woman by my side very often. And this was back when I had a pretty good record with females.
When I was 23, by which time I’d already dated maybe 100 females, new friends were asking me if I’d ever had a girlfriend or if I was a virgin! What the Hell. Granted this was 30 years ago, when everyone was supposed to be getting laid constantly. If you weren’t, it was like there was something seriously wrong with you.
One thing I found out pretty quickly was that saying that I wasn’t dating anyone or didn’t have a girlfriend at the moment didn’t seem to work very well.
One would think, hot, sexy guy that I was, that women for miles around would perk up their ears to that sound like dogs to a whistle. One would think that cool guys would fall all over themselves to introduce me to hot chicks.
Instead, the usual response was like, “You don’t have a chick, huh? Loser. Well, I certainly won’t help you get one,” or “Well, I’m sure not going to go out with you then LOL.”
Most of this was when I was a younger guy, but I still get it every now and then. In particular, I would not answer questions like that if I were you unless you have an excellent factual response to it. Lately, if a woman asks me contemptuously, “When was the last time you got laid?” I generally say, “None of your goddamned business, bitch.” Then I start calling them lots of names and tell them to shut the fuck up.
After a while, I adopted the line of, “I don’t talk about my sex life.” And just let them guess. Maybe I’m getting it all the time. Maybe I slept with 50 women this year. Maybe I haven’t been laid in 20 years. Who knows! That actually seemed to work better than admitting you were girlfriendless. Back then, girlfriendlessness was a bad thing. It was almost like if I admitted I was not dating anyone, then any woman who heard that wold lose all interest in me.
Now that I’m older, things have loosened up a bit. A lot of older single people of both sexes aren’t getting much (or any at all), so it’s no big deal if you’re not getting any either. But when I was a young man, things were nasty.
All you guys out there, if you’re not getting any, have never gotten any, are going through dry spells, or don’t have a lot of sexual experience, I would advise you to STFU about it around women. Granted, there are some women who will take you up on your plight. That’s called a “mercy fuck.” But most women don’t do mercy fucks.
Just act coy, say, “I don’t discuss my sex life,” or lie about your sex life, or say, “None of your goddamned business.” You an also say, “I am just dating a couple of/few women here and there, nothing serious.” The last one is probably the best one of all.
There was even a time, as a young man, when I had a very long dry spell, over one year. I later told some girlfriends about it, and they had looks of utter contempt and disgust on their faces. They hated me for not getting laid!
I really don’t understand this mindset among women, unless females are just Cavewoman. If you’re a Cavewoman, you all want the Man With the Golden Sperm, the guy who’s getting all the other cavewomen. Everyone wants a shot at him. They’ll line up outside his cave and take numbers just to fuck him and walk out the cave door with big satisfied grins on their faces. If every other woman wants him, then so do I!
The unlucky caveman who hasn’t gotten any for a while isn’t likely to get any either. He’s an object of scorn, derision and contempt. If no other woman wants him, then I certainly don’t either!
I’m tempted to say that women are simply evil for being like this, but maybe they can’t help it.
Gay men aren’t like this.
Gay men don’t care how much ass you get or if you’re a gay virgin. If you’re a gay virgin, a lot of gay men would be quite happy to break you in.
Men in general are not like this.
Although there is some derision towards guys who don’t any, it’s not that widespread, and a lot of guys, me included, have tremendous sympathy for guys who aren’t getting any no matter what their lack of experience is. Women don’t put out that easily. All males know this. Getting a female into bed is not an easy task for any male, even the players. And even the players have dry spells, often very long ones. We understand. We sympathize.
Why are women so evil about this? Why do they hate men who aren’t getting any or have never gotten any? I don’t get it.