This is something you just have to work on and work and work on. It helps if you have a lot of experience with females. As I said, I’ve dated maybe 200 females over 35 years. After a while, you can pretty much figure out when a woman likes you or doesn’t like you, likes you but is only being friendly, or likes you in a sexual way. Once you’ve seen the sexual vibes over and over with hundreds of women, it’s as clear as air.
There are a lot of problems with this. First of all, you’re on your own. I often tell my guy friends, “Hey this chick at the ____ really likes me. She won’t stop looking at me.” The response is typically total nonsupport. “Who says she likes you? Chicks look at guys for a million reasons.” You need to ignore these people. For some reason, possibly competitiveness, guys rarely back up another guy. They always pour cold water on him.
Sure, a woman who looks at you could be doing so for 1000 reasons. But if she keeps staring at you and looking at you, it’s a pretty damn good sign. But you need to see how she looks at you. Sometimes women look at me like, “Damn you’re weird!” Other times they look at me with contempt or hatred. Both of these looks are pretty common. Just because she’s looking at you, doesn’t mean she likes you. She has to be looking at you in a certain way.
Guys who pour cold water on this stuff are ruining your game. Because you really need to figure out first if she likes you or not, then make your moves. Otherwise you will be constantly coming onto women who could not care less about you, and that’s totally lame, and women hate it. If she’s giving you “that look,” it’s not because she hates you or thinks you’re weird. Those looks are completely different.
It’s also important to categorize the women you run into on a regular basis. For instance, there are some women in this town who apparently despise me. I don’t know why. They are young women, and some of these young women around here hate me because I look at young chicks and try to talk to them. That really pisses them off! I have categorized these women as enemies, and I try not to have much to do with them. I’ve stopped looking at them, and I don’t talk to them. I give them the cold shoulder and act pretty hostile towards them.
There are some other young women in a store I go to a lot, which I won’t name. With one of them, I saw her get out of her car and go in to work. As I picked up my order, I pointed to her car and asked if that was her car. She freaked out and acted really weird. It took me a while to analyze that. I finally figured out that she thinks I’m stalking her by asking that question! WTF!
So that’s been noted in my index file, “Idiot woman thinks I’m a stalker!” I’m very careful how I deal with her now, she gets no tips, and I don’t talk to her. I try not to even look at her. She’s on the enemies list.
I don’t give a flying fuck why this chick thinks I’m a stalker. Fuck it, I can’t waste my time with that. That’s her problem.
One thing is it’s ok for women to be on the enemies list. Anyone can hate me, it’s a free country. I’m not going to hurt anyone on the list. But it’s nice to know both who your friends are who your enemies are. Women on the enemies list are simply avoided like the plague. If I keep on looking at them and talking to them, things will only get worse. I don’t trust these women, I’m suspicious of them, and want nothing to do with them. Quit while you’re ahead!
Another one at the same place is very beautiful. I was looking at her the other day. She noticed me doing this quite a few times, then looked pissed off. I figure that means, “Quit looking at me, dammit.” I made a mental note to either quit looking at this woman, or not look at her so much. I might start acting cold towards her too.
If you keep notes on women, their behavior, if and how it changes and for what possible reasons, you can deal with them a lot better, and you won’t fuck up so much.
One of the major ways guys fuck up is they keep hitting on women who want nothing to do with them or even hate them. It’s ridiculous. Figure out who the bitches are, and write them off. Don’t agonize over them. If she hates you, who cares why, right? It’s not important. Just zero her out of your life and don’t deal with her anymore. No more looking, no more talking, and act cold when you deal with her.
I wish I could tell you how you can tell when a woman is looking at you in a sexual way.
It’s important to divide up those who just like you for a friend from those who want something more. This is hard to do, but you can figure it out with time. Another way guys fuck up is that they think a friendly woman wants sex. Not necessarily so! Friendly means friendly. Sex means sex. Two different things altogether. Until proven otherwise, I would just assume a friendly woman is being friendly. Just let her be friendly, and see what comes of it.
I usually leave it up to the woman. If a friendly woman wants more, she lets you know.
One way is by touching you. Once a woman starts touching you, all bets are off. I don’t think women should touch men unless they want sex, because that’s generally what that means, and that’s how it should be treated. If she wants to just be friends, tell her to get her mitts off you!
With me, pretty quickly, if they want something more than friendship, one thing they do is start talking about sex. Once a woman starts talking about sex and making sexual remarks, that’s pretty much of a come-on. If women just want to be our friends, then they can quit talking about sex all the time in our presence. A woman talking about sex, and bringing it up out of the blue, is giving off a clear sexual signal that needs to be treated as such.
Sure there are idiot women who put their mitts all over you, talk about sex, call you baby, bla bla, and then say, “But I just want to be friends!” They need to be called out on this crap, told that they are teases and to knock it the fuck off!
I don’t usually initiate things too much with women. I let them lead and watch for signals. A woman who likes you sexually makes this known pretty damn fast, usually in the first hours of conversation. Now it’s time for you to make your moves on the chessboard.