This is another in a series of articles where I try my hand at Game Theory, which is basically showing guys how to get women. This is a collaborative exercise. In other words, I am not Joe Stud teaching losers who can’t get women how to get one. This is a collaborative effort whereby males share their knowledge and experience as far as what works to get women.
One thing that I would like to say is very painful. It’s this:
You need to get a woman to get women. Or, you need to have a woman to get women. You get one woman, now you get more. See? The problem with this is, What about the guy who has no women, or, worse, who has never had any at all? I don’t want to say he is up the creek, but his prospects do not look too good.
If you had success with females in the past, then typically you can parlay that into more success in the future. So in that case, you don’t need to have a woman to get a woman. If you had a woman, you can get a woman. Or if you had women (better yet) you can get new ones.
The one common requirement here is experience and success. As with so much else in life, what to say to those poor souls who lack either or both? I do not know what to say to such a person.
However, there was a time in my teens when I had little or no success with females. At 16, I had hardly even been kissed. I overheard my father talking to my Mom in bed one night. “I am really worried about him,” my Dad said. “He doesn’t have any girlfriends!” My Mom said, “Don’t worry, he is still young.”
This sent a shiver of terror running down my spine. My own father was worried I was a faggot! This was back in the day when we thought homosexuality was contagious. Basically, all males started out straight but through some distortion of their self-image and sexuality, some straight males simply “turned gay.” A lot of us seemed to be worried about the prospect of “turning gay,” from conversations with my friends. And I read a Playboy statistic back in the 1970′s that said that 62% of all males have worried at some point or another in their lives whether they were gay or not. Probably for most of them it was but a passing worry.
Anyway, after hearing that, I resolved that I better to get myself some chicks right quick lest I turn into a homo! I grew my hair long, started smoking dope and listening to rock and roll. Wild fights with my father, sometimes fistfights, ensued. He as much as called me a faggot. He would sit there glaring at me at the dinner table, finally pounding his fist on the table. “Goddamn it!” he would scream. “You look like Veronica Lake!” Some old days movie star with fine curls. Which I had. Fine curls that is.
Anyway, all it took was the long hair, the dope and the rock and roll and pretty soon the chicks started rolling right on in. My Dad was furious that I was no longer a nerd. I dumped all my idiot, pussy, often somewhat fagged-out nerd friends who had no females in sight. I quit going to Chess Club meetings. Looking back on it, maybe I should not have dumped these nerds. One is now a brain surgeon, and the other owns a factory. Neither of these guys ever got any pussy, but I figure they must have got some by now. They lacked charm being nerds, but money has its own subtle allure you know.
Anyway, at one point in my life, I had zero experience, and pretty soon, I had quite a bit. I am not sure how I did it. It helped that at my age (16) most guys were complete failures as far as girls went. People were kind to me when I joined the hipster club.
At any rate, confidence helps. Even if you have dated 75-100 females, you can reach a point in your life when your confidence is zero. It won’t be appealing.
If you’re not having any success, I would urge you to shut up about it. I learned that awful quick. Back in the 1970′s, you were allowed about 3 weeks with no chick. After that, you were Loser City. Any females found out you had not girl in your life, they would start laughing and humiliating you right to your face. A few times, I offered that I had no chick in my life, and I might want one. I generally just got laughed at by both sexes. “Haha! Loser! Don’t expect me to help you!” That was from the guys. From the females it was crueler if anything.
I learned real quick to shut up about my sex life, and I also learned to lie a lot. My stock answer to every question was, “I don’t talk about my love life.” And I didn’t. That way you keep everyone guessing.
The painful realization that I got out of all of this was that at least at a young age, say early 20′s, pretty much nobody, I mean nobody, I mean nobody, is going to help you get laid. And the longer the incel spree goes on, the worse things get. Your confidence, formerly as high as the clouds, is now down in the mud. After dating 75 females at age 23-24, people were asking me if I was a virgin! They were asking me if I had ever had a date! If I had ever had a girlfriend! I assume they were reacting to what appeared to be possibly the lack of confidence that I was generating.
So now we finally roll around to the subject of the post. After much mucking about, the Whale is finally in sight, waiting to be stuck.
I have noticed in recent years that when there is not much going on female-wise in my life, I turn women off everywhere I go. Especially with young women, the attitude is basically, “Get the Hell away from me!”
As my love life picks up and things get moving along nicely, the women suddenly become way, way friendlier. Even previously inaccessible young women. All of a sudden, there are friendly and sexy females everywhere I go.
You wear your life in your sleeve. It takes a woman to get a woman!