Repost from the old site.
Homosexuality – it’s a subject, that, as a straight man, I’m not wild about writing about, because as soon as you do, our insane society usually starts wondering WHY you are writing about such a thing. But you may be wondering what this blog’s position is on gay rights. In case you are wondering, this blog supports gay rights fully, including non-discrimination laws, adoption and foster parent rights and full gay marriage.
However, I feel that at times gay-rights activists go over the line, for instance, the latest case regarding Microsoft’s neutral stance on a gay rights bill in the Washington Legislature. The gay-rights jihadis are going ballistic all over the Internet about this, because Microsoft has taken a “neutral” stance on a gay-rights bill. Is that over the line or what?
My feelings on gay rights are based on my view that homosexual, bisexual and heterosexual attraction levels are 100% fixed in the human male by age 15, or possibly younger. That’s attraction levels, not behavior. Behavior is malleable in the human male – attraction levels are not.
Therefore, after age 15, there is no need to worry about any male “catching” homosexuality or bisexuality, at least in terms of what they are attracted to. I spent a long time studying this subject and the latest scientific evidence indicates that male attraction levels are indeed fixed by at least age 15.
Allow me to elaborate. This means levels of attraction. In other words, your average straight male shows maximal attraction to females and minimal attraction to males. Your average male homosexual has maximal attraction to males and minimal attraction to females. There is also a suggestion that most straight males have minimal gay attraction, and most gay males have minimal straight attraction.
There are males who are bisexually oriented, who may have, say, 70% attraction to females and 30% to males, or 50% to females and 50% to males, or 70% to males and 30% to females, all up and down the decimal scale. We can actually measure these attraction levels in the lab. This has nothing to do, however, with intensity of attraction.
In other words, a heterosexual male with a very low sex drive may not have much sexual interest in women. A bisexual male who is evenly attracted to males and females may have a very high sex drive (in fact, they often do) and may have tremendous sexual interest in females.
However, male homosexual behavior, or males having sex with males (MSM) is quite possibly contagious; it certainly is in many cases, and I have seen this with my own eyes.
Those straights who worry themselves sick about males “catching” homosexuality may wish to obsess about the fact that MSM behavior can be contagious, and its prevalence may rise or dip depending on the degree to which it is accepted, promoted, condemned or discouraged in society.
But they shouldn’t worry about males “catching” homosexual attraction. It’s either there to some degree or it’s not, and it doesn’t move around.
However, neither should anyone feel pressured into such behavior. I feel a bit strange when male homosexual behavior is completely normalized to the point where straight men are considered “quaint”, as I learned in my many years in gay-overrun Hollywood. Personally, I am quite happy to live in a quiet mountain town where the homo- and bisexuals are quite discreet about it, and few in number.
The feeling of going to the coffee shop and having 20 gay men slavering at me while I order coffee, or of seeing hundreds of gay men rubbernecking me every day as they drive alone, cruising, down the roads, or having gay men flirt with me or ogle me wherever I go in town, or in any store I go into, is something I can do without.
Not to mention the continuous suspicion from others that I might be gay myself, which is quite common in gay-overrun zones. The reason is because in these zones there is so much homosexuality around that lots of folks (mostly the straights) are always going around “wondering” if this or that single male is gay or bi.
If people see you out with a male friend at a restaurant or a nightclub, they suspect the guy must be your lover. At least that’s the way it was for me. So many people have homosexuality “on the brain” in these crazy zones that they are always jumping to conclusions about who is gay.
Furthermore, in gay-overrun zones, homosexual behavior becomes so normalized that many men end up engaging in varying degrees of bisexual behavior, including men who are married or engaged. When I worked in Beverly Hills, I figured out that about 1/3 of the men were gay or bi, including apparently my married boss.
In these gay zones, there’s also a lot of pressure on single males to engage in MSM behaviors, a lot of on the job sexual harassment of males, including of straight males (I was fired once by a gay boss for not having sex with him) and a lot of hatred for celibate or dateless males, even if you are only temporarily doing without.
Sex is also deeply commodified in these areas and in urban US society in general. Allow me some examples of behaviors that are extremely common and totally accepted in these zones:
It is seen as completely normal to demand sex in return for this or that favor or to blackmail a newly-jobless roommate (male or female) for sex in lieu of the rent they can’t pay.
You see many cases of gay men offering jobs and roommate situations to straight, single men with “no strings”, then a few weeks into the new living/working situation, demanding sex on penalty of losing your job or your place to live. This has happened to friends.
In urban US society in general, sex is all tied in with money, and rather than seeing this commodification of sex as a sleazification of human existence (my opinion) this commodification is cynically regarded as completely normal, “the way it is”, and those who object are regarded as evil, puritanical, sick, disturbed morality police.
These zones are what we might call “hypersexualized zones”, where we almost have a Sexual Dictatorship. Everyone has to be “doing it” all the time, well, at least the single males anyway. Single males have to have a date every weekend, and preferably during the week too. Males who are seen as not active, even temporarily, are ridiculed or regarded as deeply sick and disturbed, or even evil and immoral.
In short, these zones have transformed themselves into the very depraved, degenerated, sick societies that so many pious Muslims and Christians rail about. And these pious folks have a point. There is no reason sexual behavior should be mandated in order to become a normal citizen.
If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. If you want to be celibate for any length of time, go for it. If you want to be straight, be straight. If you’re gay, be that way. If you want to act on your bisexual urges, be my guest. Feel free to have as few, or as many partners as you wish. I really don’t care, and I can’t see how any of the above has anything to do with morality or normalcy.
I can’t see how any type or degree of sexual behavior is immoral in any way. That includes everything from sex orgies, promiscuity, prostitution, porn stars, pornography, all the way to those who are monogamous for life, or celibate for any length of time, including a lifetime.
It’s sign of the sickness of all of the major religions, including Islam, Christianity, Buddhism, Judaism and Hinduism, that these religions even bother to comment at all on sexual behaviors. Sex is simply outside the moral sphere of religion. No type of sexual behavior of any type, degree, or number of partners has any bearing whatsoever on the normal purview of religion – how to be a good person.
Here in the mountains, gays are essentially invisible and may as well be nonexistent, hardly anyone thinks I’m gay and I don’t have to deal with gay/bi men ogling me, flirting with me, rubbernecking me or coming on to me scores of times every single day. In other words, it’s a normal town, and it feels a lot better.
Perhaps you are also wondering why I am so defensive about celibacy. Well, my life has been interesting. Without going into too many details, I shall explain.
I have gone through periods in my life of being deluged by attractive females, such that my life would have been the envy of many males. On the other hand, I have also had periods of celibacy and datelessness lasting weeks, months and even years! On top of all that, I have also been monogamous for varying lengths of time.
And I can’t see how my behavior in any of the above periods made me a better or worse person to the slightest degree.