Repost from the old site.
First of all, we are obsessed with sex, as a nation. When I was growing up, sex was mandatory. If you were not doing it all the time, there was something wrong with you. Shoot, if you had not done it in two or three weeks, there was something horribly wrong with you.
I would submit that that is nuts right there. These were college aged young adults aged 18-24 that we are talking about here. Part of the reason it is unfair is that I am convinced that lots of people who do not have very active sex lives are not doing that out of choice. They really want to be having tons of sex, but they just not getting any, or not much anyway.
From a liberationist point of view, this person has their heart in the right place. Unless you have lots of money, are gay or very good looking with an excellent personality, sex is not necessarily the easiest thing in the world to get tons of if you are a male.
There are some other issues here. First of all, looks. I really do not believe that looks do much for a guy in the same way they do for a woman. You could be the best looking guy in town, but if you don’t have any money, or if you are strange or weird in a neurotic kind of way, or maybe if you are just shy, you could probably go years without so much as a date.
The most beautiful woman in town will have no such problems. If she is broke, no problem. Half the guys in town will gladly pay her way or even let her move in with them for free. She won’t even have to work for a living! Hell, she can work on her back!
She can have sex and make a living at it and not even be a prostitute. Just get yourself a sugar daddy or a rich guy, and a beautiful woman gets an excellent income and never has to do a day’s work for the rest of her life.
Suppose the most beautiful woman in town is shy? So what! Shyness is no obstacle for females, and women don’t really ask men out much anyway, despite all the liberationism. Women just have to sit back and wait for men to ask them out. Wow, that’s really hard!
So, the shy guy really has some problems. He needs to ask women out, but women often give out conflicting signals. The woman who seems like she really likes you one day becomes your worst enemy the next, especially after you ask her out.
With the insanity of sexual harassment laws and pseudo-laws, I have actually seen cases where men were called on the carpet on jobs for asking a woman out – it happened once at a workplace. The guy was kind of strange, but I thought he was harmless enough. I talked to him about it afterwards, and he said he had worked there for five months and that was the first woman he had asked out.
He said he thought about it very carefully and only asked her out when he thought she might say yes. He said he did not ask out the overwhelming majority of women he met because he did not get good enough feelings from them. He told me had not asked out a woman in almost two years. I saw him years later and he told me that after that incident, he had not asked out a woman for four years.
But the whole office was up in arms over this! This weird guy had asked out a woman! Horrors! Horrors! Such a terrible man. My God, I bet he was tying to get laid, that evil bastard creep. The office ran to the rescue of the fair maiden being pestered by the horny male. What were they looking to preserve? Her virginity?
Shy guys have it bad enough without everyone dog-piling on them after they ask someone out. I honestly think men ought to be free to ask women out. Really. That should not fall under sexual harassment charges.
Ok, now what if the best looking woman in town is kind of weird? Let’s say she’s kind of neurotic. She often looks distracted and worried, and looks like she is thinking about something else all the time.
Now, for a guy, this is absolutely deadly. First of all, it’s going to get seriously in the way of making money. Second of all, hardly any woman will touch a guy like that, even if he’s the best looking guy in town. He’s going to get pegged as a weirdo, or maybe dangerous, or a creep.
Now, a woman can be like that and no one is going to say she’s dangerous or a weirdo just for having a funny look in her eyes. Female creeps don’t even exist. Creeps can only be male!
Actually, this sort of woman will have even more guys after her than ever, I bet. She’s known as a spacer chick, or a space chick. No guy in town will care about this. She can have dates with rich guys every night of the week if she wants. Being spacy will probably attract even more guys to her, because guys think spacy women are just out of it enough for her to be easier to get into bed.
This is where I really part company with Western feminists and their “woman is so screwed” line. From where I’m coming from, Western women in the US have it made.
Women won’t even go out with us until they look at our bank account and our net worth. Yet a beautiful woman doesn’t even need to work. There’s a ferocious anti-sexual current in feminism, and it’s particularly aimed at males who are, um, trying to get laid.
Looking at women in public? Ogling! There is nothing, I mean, nothing, a feminist hates worse than ogling.
I know a 45 year old guy who just got thrown out of a local Starbucks for checking out the waitresses, aged about 17-20. He said he’s been looking at women his whole life, and all of a sudden it’s a problem. Fact is, he’s gotten too old, and he’s not rich. If he had lots of money, those same silly young women would have thrown their phone numbers at him instead of banning him.
The guy’s an acquaintance of mine. He said since they tried to ban him, he’s afraid to look at women period, because he’s afraid they are going to try to get him in trouble again.
As I said, the problem is the guy is aging. Young women really don’t want us old guys, despite our fantasies. They want guys their own age. At some point, if we keep looking at them, we become, “Ewwww!” creeps. Dirty old men. Society plays into this mad bullshit with the recent insanity over child molestation. A man over age 45 who looks at girls aged 16-20 is considered a child molester. No kidding!
Truth is, non-dead, non-homosexual males of all ages are attracted to teenage girls. Any man who says he isn’t is a hypocritical liar.
Young females are empowered and think they can throw men old enough to be their dads out of establishments for the crime of wandering eyes.
Another favorite rant of feminist rantings is “guys who ask women out” or maybe “ask them out too much”. Or something. Or this or that. Along the same lines, guys who make sexual innuendos are a major target.
Sexual innuendos are what’s called flirting. Since humans have sex, humans flirt. Flirting is what humans do when they want to have sex. It figures that feminists would make flirting all but illegal, and it almost seems that is what they have done.
Nothing offends a feminist more than a guy looking at her, talking about sex within earshot (damages those pretty little ears of hers), flirting with her, or asking her out. Except if he’s rich. Then she’s all ears.
I submit that this lunacy has gone way too far. We are for all intents and purposes living under a Feminazi Dictatorship here in America. Really, men of all ages ought to be reasonably free to look at women within reasonable bounds. It’s normal for any man to look at a teenage girl a bit, even if he can’t touch her. There’s a reason beauty contest feature 18 year olds. The female is at her most beautiful then.
Men really ought to be free to ask out women, provided they aren’t being completely clueless idiots about it. Any reasonable guy asking out a woman with no power differential involved is never a case of sexual harassment. Flirting is one of those things that humans do. They do it because they have sex. I guess if we want to get rid of flirting, we need to get rid of sex. As sex is not going anywhere, flirting is here to stay.
Once again, there’s a time and a place. Women flirt with men all the time. Men even flirt with men. I’ve been on the receiving end of all sorts of innuendo from both sexes. Some of it wasn’t exactly optimal, but I never thought of calling the PC Police. Men really ought to be free to engage in carefully thought out flirtation with judiciously chosen women.
If she doesn’t like it, just communicate that.
What makes all of this so much more complicated is my perception of the way women act. There’s a couple of women out there who really hate me right now. What’s weird is I swear a little while ago, they seemed like they really, really liked me. Hate is close to love, especially in the female. Ask a woman out, she says no, and she’ll probably hate you forever.
Ask a woman out, she says yes, you date for a bit, and she’ll probably hate you forever still. I’ve dated a couple of hundred women in 50 years, and I don’t look forward to meeting any of them. The few that I still come across act like they hate me. I suspect the rest all feel that way too. I just figure that’s normal.
But supplying these hot and cold burning and freezing objects called females with a weapons dump of ammo called Political Correctness is a bad idea. They’re going to abuse it, and they do.
Honey, listen up. This is Bob the Pig talking.
If a guy asks you out and you don’t want to go out with him, just say no, and say it not very nicely. If he’s ogling you too much, glare at him. If he’s flirting with you, and you don’t like it, act huffy, glare at him and storm out. If he’s talking about sex, and it hurts your dainty little ears, do the same.
Women have been doing this for centuries, and it’s worked just fine. All those centuries, women lived without any PC Police protection, and they didn’t even go extinct. Will miracles never cease?