More on How To Tell If a Man Is Gay or Not

Doug writes:

Wow, could you be any more hypocritical in this article? First off, I am a homosexual. I have never had sex with a woman, nor do I want to. So the first line of your article says “Sexual orientation is determined by thoughts and attraction and not by behavior.” This is true. There are plenty of guys who are married to women who tell people they’re straight but in fact they fantasize about sex with men. Things go downhill in your article after that.

Later in the article you say “[I can tell whether someone is gay or not because] gay and bisexual men act like they are attracted to me!” WHAT? Ok, first, you’re pretty average looking. If I met you, I would NOT act like I was attracted to you. So thus, how would you know if I were gay or not? I guess you couldn’t tell.

In one of your responses to a comment, you say “You mean guy guys just hit on any guy that they think is hot? That makes a lot of sense to me! I always wondered how gay and bi men figure out who to hit on.” This is ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS. How does a straight man figure out who to hit on? What if he hits on a lesbian?

And no, not every gay men hits on everyone he thinks is hot. I’m not a moron, I do realize that most guys I see are not gay. Jesus. As a gay man, I can tell you that there are definitely some very effeminate gay men out there, as well as some very masculine ones. There may be a very few effeminate straight men, but believe me, most of those guys are just closet cases. If you think someone “seems” gay, he probably IS gay.

No, no, no, no, no! You cannot tell who is gay or not based on behavior. This is the biggest lie of them all. There is a vast number of straight men whose behavior ranges from effeminate to androgynous to soft, quiet and sensitive and “not macho.” The number of straight men who I have met who got falsely pegged as gay or bi based on behavior is very high! And many, many straight men are quite effeminate. It’s rather common actually.

If a gay/bi man is friendly towards me, traditionally he gives off vibes like he is attracted to me on some level, at the very least. It’s not commonly the case that a gay/bi man acts friendly and not attracted to me. On the other hand, many gay men are unfriendly or hostile. Even some of those act like they are turned on by me, but many are simply hostile. If they are hostile, they often don’t act turned on.

Gaydar is the biggest lie of the century. There is no such thing as gaydar! And even if it does exist, it doesn’t even work! And even if it did work, gay/bi men wouldn’t even use it anyway, since many of them spend a good part of their time trying to screw straight guys. I am convinced that gay/bi men simply like hot guys. They don’t even bother to figure out if the guy is straight or gay or whatever. It’s simply, “Get the hot guy.” That’s all it is. The commenter says he actually tries to figure out if a guy is gay or not before he goes after him. I figure that is pretty unusual for gay/bi men.

Figuring out if a guy is gay is fairly straightforward.

Things that may mean something:

1. Acts quite effeminate. This actually doesn’t prove anything at all, but with a lot of these guys, I give them a “question mark,” meaning “possibly gay.” I like to believe everyone is straight because I think being gay or bi sucks. It’s an insult to think a guy is gay/bi. So in order to be kind to him, I simply assume everyone is straight until I have some pretty good evidence otherwise. It’s extremely cruel to assume that a man who is not gay/bi is gay/bi. That’s a terrible thing to think about someone. To me, you have just accused him of one of the most horrible things on Earth. Innocent until proven guilty!

2. Guy acts like he is turned on by you as a man. Generally speaking, he is also somewhere on the effeminate spectrum of effeminate/androgynous/soft, sensitive, quiet/not macho to boot.

It is not common at all for a straight man to give off vibes like he is attracted to you. Sometimes it happens, but it has a very different feel to it. Sometimes they act like they are very uncomfortable with the feelings. Other times, they act like, “I am having these feelings, but I don’t want to act on them.”

Sexuality “leaks.” Young men in particular are highly sexual. Their extreme sex drive is “leaking out” all over the place. So if there is a very good-looking guy around, some of that excess sex drive might “leak” over in his direction.

Usually I can sort it out regarding a guy who is truly gay/bi or a straight man having passing feelings. For one thing, the gay/bi guys have a very serious aspect to their attraction, like it is something they really want to act on.

3. Has zero interest in females. I worked with a gay man once. The good looking secretary types were always coming up to my desk for some reason. After a while, I figured out he was oblivious to them. They were like part of the carpet, the furniture, the walls. They may as well have not even been there, like they were ghosts.

Admittedly this is hard to figure out.

Sometimes you see a “question mark” effeminate guy who is working somewhere. He is extremely popular with the females he works with, and he is always hanging around with them. However, they treat him like he is “one of the girls,” and he acts like “one of the girls.” A straight man in a situation like that would be giving off some pretty strong sexual energy towards the women he was horsing around with. You will notice that the gay man who is being “one of the gals” is not giving off any sexual energy at all towards those women, and they are not giving off any towards him. This is not an easy thing to pick up on, but if you are good at observing humans, you can sort of figure it out after a while.

Things that indicate nothing:

1. Behavior. Degree of effeminacy or masculinity is not indicative of anything at all. The range of normal behaviors among straight men is vast. Many straight men are on the effeminate/androgynous/soft, sensitive, quiet/not macho spectrum. So are most if not all gay men. Many gay men are not even effeminate at all. Instead, they are more the soft, sensitive, quiet/not macho types. As such, they overlap with a vast population of straight men, and it is quite hard to sort it all out.

So many people double down on behavior when really it’s the biggest red herring of all, and at the end of the day, it literally means nothing. I have known huge numbers of straight men who have been accused of being gay or bi their whole lives, apparently based solely on outward behavior.

2. Married or not. Means nothing in particular, though most married guys are not all that gay. A lot of single guys are gay, but huge numbers of them are not. Quite a few long term, never married bachelors are actually straight.

3. Dating history. Means nothing in the sense that a guy with no women around is not necessarily gay. The number of straight men with no females in their lives for whatever reason is very high. Many long-term incel guys who have never had anything sexual going on with women their whole lives are actually straight. Anyway, homosexuality is not determined by the absence of sex with women but by the presence of sex with men.

Looks, Game or Status, Which Gets More Women?

Tulio writes:

Hey Robert, another question for you. You have said numerous times that you went through a lot of pussy in your 20s. What do you think was responsible for it? I know you said that when you were that age you were a very good looking guy and even had gay guys constantly trying to fuck you.

I figure that a man’s access to pussy comes down to 3 factors:

1) Looks
2) Game
3) Status

I didn’t list those in any particular order of importance but I’m curious as to how you would rank them in terms of importance from your experience.

That is what I used to look like.

1. Looks yeah it helps all right. But looks with zero game is worth bukwas. I have known great looking guys have not yet had sex in years. I know one who is 50 yrs old and he has never had sex in his life. He’s a very good looking guy!

Also when you are young, really good looks is not that great because it attracts whole armies of horrific, monstrous and diabolical faggots. Queers are extremely attracted to good looking guys, and if you look good, you need to fend these morons off constantly. So looks is really a double edged sword because of all the nightmarish queers it attracts.

2. I don’t even know what Game is! What is it? But anyway, it is really more Game than anything else I can think of. You just have to give off a certain vibe like you are a Sex God, or the King of Love or the Hottest Stud of All Time. Personally, I think I am King of the World, and I always have. It’s completely ridiculous as honestly I am a total loser, but I believe it anyway. It was my looks combined with sheer egotism that got me chicks. The looks without the egotism was nearly worthless.

3. Get women by getting women. You get a reputation as a player, and the new ones will keep coming up to you buying tickets for the next ride on your train. Females want a guy who gets women. If you don’t get women, you can’t get women. If you don’t have a woman, you can hardly get one. Once you start getting women, you get this aura thing about you. You get one chick, and it grows so big. You get two, now it doubles in size. You get three, now it’s tripled. And as your aura grows and grows, more and more females are attracted to you. Your aura doubles, now twice as many women are into you. It triples, and now it’s three times as many. Pretty soon you are attracting females everywhere you go, even to the store or the gas station. And pretty soon you have so many females in your life that it’s actually a great big gigantic hassle full of Hellish and insane chaos and drama.

Let me put it this way. There are times in my life these days when I am incel. I won’t say for how long. When I am incel, a lot especially young women act like I am poison. They are like, “Get away from me, dirty old man!” Total disrespect.

Then I get a woman in my life or more than one. Now all of a sudden something has changed about me. The women who were earlier treating me like crap notice that something has changed, and now their attitude changes a lot. It’s hard to describe the change, but it’s like an attitude of respect to say the least.

4. Giving off a sexual aura or projecting a sexual state. I have been doing this for a very long time, and I have gotten it down. It’s probably one of the things that attracts the queers, the bi queers, the bi queerious and the “straight but flexibles.” If you give off a really strong state like that, you will give off sexual vibes to any environment. Even guys will pick up on it and start making plays for you, and of course females will too. I can’t think of anything more important than giving off that sexual state. Problem is if you are incel for a while and still giving off that state, a lot of women just think it is creepy. You get a woman, and now it is ok all of a sudden.

5. Genuinely like or love women. The world is full of misogynists of varying degrees. Women act terrible, so it’s understandable how a lot of men hate women. On the other hand, a lot of men act terrible too, so it’s understandable how a lot of women hate men. I would say that misogyny just does not work, though I understand that a lot of players are misogynists. How do they make it work? I would say to not go the misogynist route. Instead just simply decide to really really really really love women! Despite all their faults and all of that.

For the longest time, I have liked females more than males. For long periods, many to most of my friends were females. I preferred to spend time around females versus spending time around guys because guys act like such idiots. Anyway, once you start hanging around females all the time, a lot of “brand new male friends” will suddenly show up and want to be your best buddy just to get in on the action, so you will end up with male friends anyway. A total reverence and worshipful attitude towards women by a man who truly loves women will get you further than the other things on this list.

6. I put status last because I’ve never had any status in my life! I guess I have some now as a writer. As a real young guy, you get status by getting chicks and being a cool guy. I also got status by selling weed. Around age 24, it all turns into money, and that’s where the real problems begin. I spent a lot of my 20′s fighting with bitchy girlfriends who were mad at me for not making enough money because they made more than I did. I also lived off older women who made decent money when I had no income, but that doesn’t last. Sure, status gets women, but as I have never had any, I can’t say how it ranks!

31 Year Old Man and 12-16 Year Old Girls

Humbert writes:

Robert, have you got any advice for a man in his 30s or 40s on how to pick up girls about aged 12-16? I am 31 at the moment and getting older every day. How did you get those girls when you where younger?

My advice is don’t do it! Not so much for moral reasons but instead for legal ones. Why would you want to take that kind of risk of going to prison?

I only had sex with underage girls from ages 18-21 and then I quit due to fear of going to jail, and not for any other reason I assure you! How did I do it?

I won Player of the Year for a few years straight and developed a reputation as the neighborhood stud. Everyone says females hate hominid males who have harems, but if you ask me, female humans are not that different from say female elephant seals. Once you get a reputation as the new Wilt Chamberlain, they start lining up at the door and taking numbers. They know what they are getting into, and most walk away satisfied. Then the 40 year old mother types find out about you, and they start wanting to get in on the action with the “hot guy” too.

I got underage girls at parties, through friends, on my ice cream route (I drove an ice cream truck and I used to stop and smoke weed with 15 year old chicks), through female friends and relatives fixing me up, through dope connections and mutual friends, etc.

I asked a 15 yr old girl I knew to get me some weed and coke (mostly as a ruse to seduce her), and she took me over to her friend’s house. Her friend was 17 and living with a 39 yr old guy. The 15 yr old thought that was a-ok. She admired her teen hottie friend and wanted to get in on the older guy thing. The guy had been screwing her Mom and then he left her for the 17 yr old daughter. We bought some weed and coke, and I took it up on vacation to go visit some relatives and some chicks I had hundreds of miles away in another city. I came back and had a relationship with the 15 yr old.

I had female friends who found out about me and starting fixing me up with their friends. One would fix me up with her friend, and then her friend would get jealous and try to fix me up with her friend. One friend had a 17 yr old friend and she fixed me up with the 17 yr old. The friend’s sister was 14 and got jealous of me dating the sister’s friend, so she fixed me up with her 14 yr old friend. Females are very competitive, and they see the guy who is getting the chicks, and they all want to steal him away from the other ones.

I also had female relatives who fixed me up with their friends. One time at age 20, I went to visit relatives hundreds of miles away. I was there like one or two days, and the phone started ringing for me and all these chicks were calling all the time. One day I was gone and came home. My older female relative said there had been 4 phone calls for me, all girls and young women. Two were other young female relatives who were my best friends. The other two were local girls who were friends with these girls.

My older relative looked at the list and rattled off the names of four girls who called for me aged 14-18. She was shaking her head incredulous like, “Jesus Christ, good God, how do you do it?” I guess she told her best friend, a single woman about 40, about that because later I was sitting around with this older relative and her 40 year old friend, and the 40 year old started hitting on me hard right in front of my relative. (I can’t describe these relatives any further for privacy reasons as they might read this site.)

As I got older, I could still get underage girls, I guess, but I didn’t try. There was this one punker chick I liked. I saw her outside a show and she was staring at me with that Stepford Wives zombie stare they get. I went over to her and started talking to her. She kept looking at me and talking about faggots. “Faggots, faggots, faggots…” Not sure if she was sending me a message or not. I later saw her at a punk show in the Valley. She basically wanted it, but I was 23 and I was afraid of messing around with a 15 yr old.

When I was 20, I had this little friend I used to hang out with on my janitor job at an elementary school. She was 11 going on 20. She befriended me for whatever reason and started hanging around with me and helping me on my job carrying the trash can for me and stuff like that. Her Mom led a crazy life with guys in and out all the time, and the girl told me about it.

To tell the truth, in all the time I was hanging around with her, I don’t think I ever thought of her sexually at all. At 11, she was just a little girl to me, and she wasn’t really a sexual object at all. I have no idea what her feelings were towards me at age 11 since I don’t understand female sexual development. She liked me a lot though. I just called her my “little buddy.”

At some point, it started raining all the time. I was supposed to go around picking up papers in the yard even when it was raining, and I said screw this, I ain’t doing it. So I would go in the office and sit there as long as it was raining. I did all the other parts of my job that did not involve walking around in the rain and getting rained on. It’s true I was sitting on my ass to an extent because I didn’t feel like getting rained on! Well my boss was an idiot, and he hated me like so many guys do. At that age, most middle age men totally hated me for some reason. He started getting really mad at me for not walking around in the rain picking up papers, and he engineered my getting fired.

It was later that summer, and I was jogging in the park and I saw my little friend. Now she was 12 going on 30 and starting to go through puberty. She told me she was a straight A student and track star. Then she said, “Ive been thinking about sex a lot lately.”

Me: “Ugh. Yeah?” Not knowing what to say.

Her: “I’ve been thinking I want to do it.”

Me: “Ugh, um ok…”

Her: “And I want to do it with you!”

I laughed nervously and I am not sure what I said, but at some point, I believe I said I didn’t think that would be a very good idea! Even in the 1970′s, a 20 year old guy and a 12 year old girl might very well get the law involved. Anyway, I wasn’t really into 12 year old girls at that time!

I did think about it a lot though, and I often wondered what it would have been like to do it with her if I could have gotten away with it. I even tried to have a fantasy of having sex with her in various ways, just because I’m a pervert, but the fantasy never really works right. She’s always too little or too young or too small or something. It just feels weird and bizarre, and it’s not even very sexy.

You get girls the same way you get a woman if you ask me. By being a stud, by being very friendly to girls, by approaching them and being open to them, by being nice to them, by being relaxed and calm around them.

At age 31, I would not advise him to not get involved with girls age 12-16. You can get arrested, and if you do, you are probably going down pretty hard. They will probably charge you with child molesting, not statutory rape. And doing 12-13 year old girls at his age is pretty questionable anyway. 12 year old girls are definitely within the realm of what people start calling pedophile, so if you get caught, you will get that label too. You will have to register for the sex offender list for the rest of your life. Whether or not you get beat up in jail, I have no idea. I’m a lot more comfortable with him being with the 14-16 yr olds than the 12-13 yr olds, but even the former is illegal.

I don’t much care if guys do this stuff, but to me, it’s just not worth it as it’s way too illegal.

When a Man Wants a Woman, Not a Girl

Hussyfan writes:

Many men desire to boff a Lolita and would do a murder to bed one (litterally). There is a lot of demand for this, and some offer to accommodate that demand (child prostitution).

What he means is teenage girl prostitution, not the actual prostitution of girls 12-under. I agree that the two things are completely different.

I had sex with so many teenage girls between when I was aged 16-21 that I really don’t have any need to do sort of thing anymore, and it’s illegal anyway. It’s a been there, done that kinda thing.

How Did God’s Gift to Man Ever Get So Silly?

What was odd was that at the time I thought teenage girls were God’s gift to mankind (they did not seem the slightest bit immature to me in general), but as I get older and older, they seem more and more ridiculous, immature and utterly idiotic to me, and it’s an extreme turnoff. I am not sure I would do a 14-17 year old girl even if it was legal!

Even when I look at them, which I admit that I do, I am often thinking about the teenage girls I knew back in the day who were my friends and girlfriends. So even though it looks like I am checking them out, I am actually reminiscing about the old days rather than having lurid fantasies about some 2013 hottie. Sometimes the girl I am looking at even reminds me of a particular girl. My memories are wonderful, but I don’t wish to relive them.

Memories of Underdevelopment

13 year old’s really do look like little girls – especially those baby faces – and that’s an extreme turnoff. 14 year old girls are very interesting creatures, and they are starting to get a woman’s body, so any man wants to look at them more.

But in recent years, I have started to dislike underdeveloped teenage girls. A 14 year old girl’s body doesn’t look that great because it is not well developed yet. Their bodies still look sort of like sticks, and they are just not fully developed. Even a 15 year old girl does not yet have the full hourglass woman figure that a man loves, so even they sort of turn me off lately as underdeveloped. I like a girl best when she is fully developed with a full woman’s body, which appears probably around age 16 or so. 16-17 year old girls look as great as any grown woman.

Don’t Call Us Kids

I always hated calling teenagers “kids,” because it seemed to be such an insult to someone who is honestly neither a kid nor an adult. I hated it when I was a teenager and people called me a kid. I yelled at them, “I am not a child!” “Young man” and “young woman” seems so much more respectful. But every year as I get older, teenagers of both sexes seem more and like the “kids” that everyone calls them. It disturbs me to think of them this way because it seems insulting, but that’s how they seem as I grow older.

College Girls Really Are Girls

In the last five years or so, I have even increasingly found young women aged say 18-23 to be increasingly insipid, ridiculous, empty headed, immature, and idiotic. They literally seem like they have nothing in the brains, and their emotions seem vapid and poorly attuned. Although they are beautiful of course, and I love to look at them, almost all of them want nothing to do with me, and I am quite aware of that. I would not object to sex with one, but it’s not something that I honestly even care about at my age.

It’s gotten so bad that I even find some women in their late 20′s to be ridiculous, overemotional, immature and empty headed. I was involved with a 27 year old at one point in recent years (she was even talking about marrying me), and I started thinking she was a silly young woman. I liked her a lot, so it pained me to think of her that way, but that’s how it went. It’s amazing that women continue to mature emotionally even past the late 20′s!

Respect for the Older Woman

So yeah, I have a new respect for older women. Women age a lot worse than men physically. God is obviously a sexist male pig as far as most women are concerned, and he’s probably a misogynist too. A lot of women my age don’t look that great anymore, but some still do. Nevertheless, one has to be realistic. I do judge women on looks, but fair is fair. I judge a 45 year old woman based on 1-10 for other 45 year old women. You judge a 55 year old woman 1-10 compared to other 55 year olds.

I know a woman in her 60′s. I have known her well from age 62-66. From 62-65, she looked knock out, drop dead gorgeous. And I told her this on a regular basis. She always corrected me by saying, “But Bob, you’re crazy! I’m an old lady!” Yeah, a hot old lady! Recently she has been battling a very serious illness, and sadly she is at last starting to look her age. I would say for a 65-66 year old though, she looks damn good.

If you have a brain at all, you want someone you can talk to. You can’t have sex all day anyway, and at my age, a lot of people aren’t even doing it anymore. I have a very high IQ, and I like intelligent conversation. Teenage girls are disaster zones as far as that goes, and young women are not much better. I have befriended some college girls in recent years (platonic friendships), and I even found the extremely bright ones to be vapid, ridiculous, child-like and preposterous. Extreme turnoff. You’re much more likely to have an intelligent conversation with a woman late 20′s-up.

A Porn Revelation

The other day I was downloading porn. Yeah I still do that. I had a ton of movies on my drive over a few hours. I was literally going nuts, out of control, addicted. Then I sat back and realized what the Hell I had been doing. Most of the movies involved older women aged 40-60. True they were with younger partners (that’s all you need to know), but they were older for sure. And the older they were, the more I was into the movie! The ones where there were late 40′s into 50′s were hottest of all.

I lay back in my chair and blinked my eyes hard. My God, I had been searching older women porn for hours! What in the Hell had come over me? My jaw dropped. I was officially an old man now.

A Man Wants a Woman, Not a Girl

I am a dirty old man, and of course I have a taste for young women. But there comes a time in his life when a man wants a woman, not a girl. Grown women act way too much like empty-headed, idiotic, overemotional, immature teenage girls as it is. Why on Earth would you want the real thing, which is obviously orders of magnitude worse?

The 65-35 Theory of Male Sexual Orientation

I read a great book once by the legendary Australian sexologist Nathaniel McConaghy (referenced below). One chapter was on the sexual orientation of males. In his lab over the years, McConaghy had tested many males for sexual orientation. He kept track of the scores over the years and was eventually able to graph them out. It turns out that male sexual orientation looks something like a 0-100 scale:

100-0: Completely heterosexual. Maximal straight response, minimal gay response.
90-10: Mostly heterosexual. Maximal straight response, some incidental gay response.
80-20: Heavily heterosexual. Maximal straight response, more than incidental gay response.
70-30: Mostly straight bisexual. Maximal straight response, considerable but much lower gay response.
60-40: Bisexual leaning straight. Maximal straight response, extremely strong gay response, but not as strong as the straight response.
50-50: Fully bisexual. Maximal straight and gay response.
40-60: Bisexual leaning gay. Maximal gay response, extremely strong straight response, but not as strong as the gay response.
30-70: Mostly gay bisexual. Maximal gay response, considerable but much lower straight response.
20-80: Heavily homosexual. Maximal gay response, more than incidental straight response.
10-90: Mostly homosexual. Maximal gay response, some incidental straight response.
0-100: Completely homosexual. Maximal gay response, minimal straight response.

Well, as it turned out, ~65% of all males were 100-0′s, that is, they were more or less completely heterosexual. Another ~4-5% were 0-100′s or completely gay. The remaining 30% were somewhere on the 90-10 to 10-90 spectrum. I believe that most of them were on the high end of the straight spectrum. This gives the lie to the gay propaganda nonsense that says 10% of the population is gay. It’s more like 4%, and that’s males. But it’s possible that ~10-15% of males have a pretty considerable bisexual leaning.

One thing that is well-known in psychology is that many males who appear to be in the 100-0 category or thereabouts nevertheless have sex with men, sometimes considerable sex with men. A lot of the time this is situational homosexuality that is seen in militaries, on ships and in prisons or jails. But a lot of the rest of it is not.

A psychotherapist named Joe Kort, who is gay himself, has written a book and runs a blog called Straight Guise, which explores a lot of the reasons who straight men have sex with other men. He has various categories listing the reasons. Kort has had many men come to him as a therapist telling him that they have strong attraction to females and no attraction, romantic or sexual, to other males. Nevertheless, they are having sex with men for whatever odd reason.

I was talking to a friend the other day and he insisted that any guy having sex with another guy in a non-situational case could not possibly be a 100-0.

Commenters, do you have any feelings about this matter?

References

Nathaniel McConaghy. 1983. Sexual Behavior: Problems and Management (Applied Clinical Psychology). New York: Springer.

Thinking About Gay Rights

Repost from the old site.

Homosexuality – it’s a subject, that, as a straight man, I’m not wild about writing about, because as soon as you do, our insane society usually starts wondering WHY you are writing about such a thing. But you may be wondering what this blog’s position is on gay rights. In case you are wondering, this blog supports gay rights fully, including non-discrimination laws, adoption and foster parent rights and full gay marriage.

However, I feel that at times gay-rights activists go over the line, for instance, the latest case regarding Microsoft’s neutral stance on a gay rights bill in the Washington Legislature. The gay-rights jihadis are going ballistic all over the Internet about this, because Microsoft has taken a “neutral” stance on a gay-rights bill. Is that over the line or what?

My feelings on gay rights are based on my view that homosexual, bisexual and heterosexual attraction levels are 100% fixed in the human male by age 15, or possibly younger. That’s attraction levels, not behavior. Behavior is malleable in the human male – attraction levels are not.

Therefore, after age 15, there is no need to worry about any male “catching” homosexuality or bisexuality, at least in terms of what they are attracted to. I spent a long time studying this subject and the latest scientific evidence indicates that male attraction levels are indeed fixed by at least age 15.

Allow me to elaborate. This means levels of attraction. In other words, your average straight male shows maximal attraction to females and minimal attraction to males. Your average male homosexual has maximal attraction to males and minimal attraction to females. There is also a suggestion that most straight males have minimal gay attraction, and most gay males have minimal straight attraction.

There are males who are bisexually oriented, who may have, say, 70% attraction to females and 30% to males, or 50% to females and 50% to males, or 70% to males and 30% to females, all up and down the decimal scale. We can actually measure these attraction levels in the lab. This has nothing to do, however, with intensity of attraction.

In other words, a heterosexual male with a very low sex drive may not have much sexual interest in women. A bisexual male who is evenly attracted to males and females may have a very high sex drive (in fact, they often do) and may have tremendous sexual interest in females.

However, male homosexual behavior, or males having sex with males (MSM) is quite possibly contagious; it certainly is in many cases, and I have seen this with my own eyes.

Those straights who worry themselves sick about males “catching” homosexuality may wish to obsess about the fact that MSM behavior can be contagious, and its prevalence may rise or dip depending on the degree to which it is accepted, promoted, condemned or discouraged in society.

But they shouldn’t worry about males “catching” homosexual attraction. It’s either there to some degree or it’s not, and it doesn’t move around.

However, neither should anyone feel pressured into such behavior. I feel a bit strange when male homosexual behavior is completely normalized to the point where straight men are considered “quaint”, as I learned in my many years in gay-overrun Hollywood. Personally, I am quite happy to live in a quiet mountain town where the homo- and bisexuals are quite discreet about it, and few in number.

The feeling of going to the coffee shop and having 20 gay men slavering at me while I order coffee, or of seeing hundreds of gay men rubbernecking me every day as they drive alone, cruising, down the roads, or having gay men flirt with me or ogle me wherever I go in town, or in any store I go into, is something I can do without.

Not to mention the continuous suspicion from others that I might be gay myself, which is quite common in gay-overrun zones. The reason is because in these zones there is so much homosexuality around that lots of folks (mostly the straights) are always going around “wondering” if this or that single male is gay or bi.

If people see you out with a male friend at a restaurant or a nightclub, they suspect the guy must be your lover. At least that’s the way it was for me. So many people have homosexuality “on the brain” in these crazy zones that they are always jumping to conclusions about who is gay.

Furthermore, in gay-overrun zones, homosexual behavior becomes so normalized that many men end up engaging in varying degrees of bisexual behavior, including men who are married or engaged. When I worked in Beverly Hills, I figured out that about 1/3 of the men were gay or bi, including apparently my married boss.

In these gay zones, there’s also a lot of pressure on single males to engage in MSM behaviors, a lot of on the job sexual harassment of males, including of straight males (I was fired once by a gay boss for not having sex with him) and a lot of hatred for celibate or dateless males, even if you are only temporarily doing without.

Sex is also deeply commodified in these areas and in urban US society in general. Allow me some examples of behaviors that are extremely common and totally accepted in these zones:

It is seen as completely normal to demand sex in return for this or that favor or to blackmail a newly-jobless roommate (male or female) for sex in lieu of the rent they can’t pay.

You see many cases of gay men offering jobs and roommate situations to straight, single men with “no strings”, then a few weeks into the new living/working situation, demanding sex on penalty of losing your job or your place to live. This has happened to friends.

In urban US society in general, sex is all tied in with money, and rather than seeing this commodification of sex as a sleazification of human existence (my opinion) this commodification is cynically regarded as completely normal, “the way it is”, and those who object are regarded as evil, puritanical, sick, disturbed morality police.

These zones are what we might call “hypersexualized zones”, where we almost have a Sexual Dictatorship. Everyone has to be “doing it” all the time, well, at least the single males anyway. Single males have to have a date every weekend, and preferably during the week too. Males who are seen as not active, even temporarily, are ridiculed or regarded as deeply sick and disturbed, or even evil and immoral.

In short, these zones have transformed themselves into the very depraved, degenerated, sick societies that so many pious Muslims and Christians rail about. And these pious folks have a point. There is no reason sexual behavior should be mandated in order to become a normal citizen.

If you don’t want to do it, don’t do it. If you want to be celibate for any length of time, go for it. If you want to be straight, be straight. If you’re gay, be that way. If you want to act on your bisexual urges, be my guest. Feel free to have as few, or as many partners as you wish. I really don’t care, and I can’t see how any of the above has anything to do with morality or normalcy.

I can’t see how any type or degree of sexual behavior is immoral in any way. That includes everything from sex orgies, promiscuity, prostitution, porn stars, pornography, all the way to those who are monogamous for life, or celibate for any length of time, including a lifetime.

It’s sign of the sickness of all of the major religions, including Islam, Christianity, Buddhism, Judaism and Hinduism, that these religions even bother to comment at all on sexual behaviors. Sex is simply outside the moral sphere of religion. No type of sexual behavior of any type, degree, or number of partners has any bearing whatsoever on the normal purview of religion – how to be a good person.

Here in the mountains, gays are essentially invisible and may as well be nonexistent, hardly anyone thinks I’m gay and I don’t have to deal with gay/bi men ogling me, flirting with me, rubbernecking me or coming on to me scores of times every single day. In other words, it’s a normal town, and it feels a lot better.

Perhaps you are also wondering why I am so defensive about celibacy. Well, my life has been interesting. Without going into too many details, I shall explain.

I have gone through periods in my life of being deluged by attractive females, such that my life would have been the envy of many males. On the other hand, I have also had periods of celibacy and datelessness lasting weeks, months and even years! On top of all that, I have also been monogamous for varying lengths of time.

And I can’t see how my behavior in any of the above periods made me a better or worse person to the slightest degree.

Asian Men and Masculinity

Ishmael writes:

And regarding Japanese society, that’s one of the most masculine societies in the world. I second that. Men definitely rule the workplace there working long hours and chain-smoke like crazy. There’s a Viet nightclub place near my house that are filled with rough, manly types – not the androgynous crap.

Oh yeah! A lot of Vietnamese men, especially the older ones, are very macho. Rough, tough, badass, hardass men. I met a lot of them when I lived in Orange County. Also, a lot of Filipino guys are also very hard. Maybe especially the older guys, but I have heard that a lot of younger Filipino men in the Philippines are very hard, rough, tough, badass, supermacho type guys. I made friends with a lot of Filipinas on dating sites and the husbands were all macho bastards. They drank, gambled and especially fucked around like crazy. They all cheated on the women. Especially when the women went overseas to work, the guys all take mistresses. Filipino guys are badass motherfuckers!

Of course older Japanese society is very rough, tough and hard. The men rule that place with an iron fist. I met a lot of Japanese guys when I worked in Gardena, and especially the older ones were very macho type guys. Badass dudes. There seemed to be a connection whereby the more connected a guy was to Japan, the more tough and macho he was. I also met a lot of younger Japanese guys with deep connections to Japan (typical of Gardena). These young teenage boys were quite masculine. One thing you noticed was tightly controlled emotions and a strong hatred and distaste for homosexual men.

I also met a lot of Korean guys in LA, and there, the older ones were pretty badass too.

I spent some time around the Chinese sections of LA, and there are organized crime gangs there called Tongs. The young men there are very hard, rough and tough. You really do not want to mess with them at all. And the Chinese women those gang guys had did seem to be the cream of the crop. I met quite a few Chinese women when I was getting my Masters. I asked around about Chinese guys and the general impression was not that they were pussies. I knew this one woman, and I was talking to her about a recent Chinese movie getting showed around in the West.

“God!” I said. “All the Chinese men in that movie! They were all such pigs! Are all Chinese men really such pigs?”

She looked at me knowingly and nodded her head.

It is said that many modern Thai men are a bunch of pussies, but that has not been true traditionally. Even today, I have heard that many young Thai men are very tough and hard. You don’t mess around in Thai nightclubs, especially those heavily frequented by Thais. If you’re non-Thai and you are acting up, the young Thai males will corner you and order you to knock it off. If you don’t, they will definitely kick your ass!

It is only in the last 20 years or so that I have noticed, especially in Asia, the seeming pussification of the Asian male. Young Japanese men are now called “herbivores,” by society as many seem to have abandoned masculinity. They are despised by young Japanese females as weak and pussy. There is an incredible amount of male homosexuality exploding in places like Thailand. It’s quite unbelievable.

And when I was working with a lot of young Koreans translating my shock articles, I noticed a lot of young Korean men who were adopting extreme androgynous appearances to where you often could not even tell if it was a guy or a chick. Really into clothes and hairstyle too. Many were extremely good looking. I have no idea if these guys were straight, gay, bi or what, but once your society gets to the point where the guys are so femmed out that you can’t even tell if they are male or female, I am thinking you’ve got a problem.

The “nerdy Asian” thing is new. It has to do with young Asian men in the West. Asian males traditionally despite their very high IQ’s were *not* nerds. Hyermasculinity has long been mandated in the Philippines, Vietnam, China, Korea, and Japan.

Bisexual Men are Nuts

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I have known this forever. I always knew that bisexual men were far crazier than straight men and they were even crazier than gay men, which is pretty bad because gay guys are pretty nutty.

Not sure what causes this. Most of the bi guys I was thinking of were in denial about it. In fact, I figure most bisexual men are in denial about their bisexuality to at least some folks if not to everyone. And most of the ones I knew seemed to be oriented more towards males than towards females. In fact, I thought that some of them were simply gay. The only thing that differentiated them from gay men was the girlfriend by their side.

I recall one guy (call him Arthur) who didn’t even look up when a hot chick entered the room. To him she was part of the furniture, part of the air. This is the typical gay male response to a hot female. From what I could tell, he had maximal attraction to males and zero to minimal attraction to females.

I had another involvement, unfortunately a long term friendship which ended very violently, with a bisexual guy (KL). All I got were the strongest gay vibes off the guy the whole time he was around. He never acted like he was the tiniest bit interested in females. I blew the whistle on him after a bit and told everyone what a world class, super star, gold medal awarded faggot he was. That ruined his cover, and he threatened to beat me up. In addition to being an ultra-fag, he was also probably most one of sickest, weirdest and most utterly twisted human beings I have ever met.

He spent two years in prison in Texas for burglary, and he desperately needed to go back there as that is where he belonged. Basic mindset: criminal! I mean like street criminal, burglar, prowler, thief, etc. That kind of criminal. The kind of guy who sneaks easily graduates to peeping, flashing, stalking, rape and even homicide. He was one sick fuck.

The other guy was just flat out weird. Lots of anxiety, tension, depression and especially paranoia and rage. He never looked happy; he was always dead serious to miserable. Other than fucking guys or sucking on their dicks, I don’t think he enjoyed anything on Earth. He was one twisted bastard, a bundle of raging and seething contradictions, a human storm at sea tossing about and threatening to sink every human ship around. Flat out weirdo. He lived in West Hollywood, made lots of money, wore fancy clothes and had a totally hot girlfriend that he obviously wasn’t turned on to even 1%. And he was 100% on the down low about his oh too obvious sexuality.

I am not too wild about male homosexuals or especially male bisexuals, but maybe it’s better for everyone the more out they are. That closet looks like a deadly and crazy-making place.

Come out, come out, wherever you are!

Asians FTW

LOL, this video has now had over 1 billion viewers. That means that somehow, 1/7 of the planet has seen this video. Huh? No way LOL.

I wonder how much they want for an ad on this video? I notice no one’s even bought one. Probably set you back more than a Super Bowl ad.

I like this Korean guy. For one thing, he’s macho. I spent a lot of time around Asians when I was in LA. I taught at schools that were heavily Japanese, and I spent a lot of time around LA Koreans. Older Japanese and Korean men are not pussies! They are some of the most badass, hardcore macho pigs on the Earth, and their women know it. They carry themselves with a certain air that you’ve got to respect.

Where I worked in the Japanese part of LA (Gardena) there were quite a few younger Asian men who were born in Japan. They stood strong and tall, men with a capital M.

This was all 25 years ago.

Recently we hear that a lot of young Asian men are undergoing severe pussification. Not sure if it’s true, but if it’s is, what’s going on. Pussyism isn’t genetic with these guys. Asian men can be some of the hardest guys on Earth if they want to be, and I believe traditional Asian culture encouraged this.

One more thing. Every time I look at young Asian women like the ones in this video, first thing I do is get horny. Second thing I do is I feel like a pedophile. Anyone relate?

Revenge, a Love Story

In recent years, I have joined dating sites. Over that period, I have turned down dozens of women who messaged me with flirts and whatnot.

I would get a message saying, “Hottie210 sent you a flirt!” You go to the page, and it says, “Hottie210 wants to chat!” You look in the box and there is some lame opener she picked out of a choice of canned openers. I look at her photo, frown and say, “Ugh, get out.”

A wicked smile creeps across my face. I am getting revenge. Yes! Revenge for all those bitches who turned me down, treated me like crap and dirt, called me a creep or worse, threatened to call the cops on me tried to throw me out of their workplaces, filed sexual harassment charges against me, refused to even speak to me. Thousands and thousands of humiliations minor to near-suicide inducing.

The page asks, “Do you want to chat with Hottie210?” It gives you a choice: “Accept” or “Decline.”

A diabolical smile worms across my face, made of sheer malice and wickedness, the weight of 40 years of humiliation. What goes around, comes around, bitches!

The mouse moves up to the “Decline” button, and I click it, bam! The page tells me, “You just declined a conversation with Hottie210.”

I leap out of my chair and clap my hands and jump up and down like a schoolboy. I run around my apartment laughing and singing and thrusting my arm in the air.

Believe it or not, life is transactional, though if you’re a heterosexual male, you wonder how that’s so. Women tempt fate and justice their entire lives. Usually what comes around, goes around (the justice or “paybacks” aspect of the transactional nature of life), but not here. For females, the dues never come around, much less get paid. Women are sexual scofflaws. Women commit the equivalent of sexual first degree homicide against us men their whole lives, and there’s no calling them to account. In fact, the more of us they kill, the more their status rises.

I am in my living room, dancing a jig like a drunken paddy. “Karma’s a bitch, ain’t it, ladies?” I shout at the sky. I lick my lips, and the revenge tastes good there.

I fired a shot for the boys! For the sins of her sisters, she had to pay.