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Can Males and Females Be Platonic Friends?

Beatrix writes:

I have a question for all you “Manly Men” out there…..
A colleague of mine (a Jewish male psychiatrist) says that any man that is friends with a woman has either -

A) hopes to have sex with the woman

or

B) has had sex in the past with that woman & hopes to again
Do you think it’s true that the only reason a man would maintain a friendship with a woman is due to some potential sexual gain?

In a way, it is sort of true, I will admit it.

Have you ever known any true, pure, real womanizers, ladies men or players?

I have known some guys like this. They love women and girls. They are often very close to their mothers and female cousins and aunts. They don’t like guys very much and most of their friends are women and girls. These guys are not out to fuck all of their female friends.

Sex very much gets in the way of friendships with males and females. Even if you don’t care about having sex with them, after a while, you often end up in bed with them anyway. At least I do.

I really like to have friendships with females where the sex part is ruled out very early on. Then we can just be friends. But probably she will try to fuck me at some point I suppose because they usually do.

What you do as a man is “leave the door open.” You agree to be friends with them or don’t bug them for sex. Some of my best female friends were married women, but after a while, I usually ended up sleeping with them. You just accept that you are friends and leave them alone and let them do whatever they want to. If they want to grab you, let them. Don’t bug them or pester them.

I know some young women and we got it out of the way real fast that they only wanted to be friends. I found it very liberating because now we know what the score is and we don’t have all this uncertainty. I would very much enjoy a friendship like that with a young woman at my age, but I would always “leave the door open.”

Thing is that women are very sexual. Friendships between men and women don’t really work because women are very sexual too and find it hard to just be friends with a man, maybe especially if he is sexy. So even if you leave her alone and don’t make a play for her, after she hangs around you for a while, she often tries to seduce you.

But a lot of men are dishonest about male female friendships and they are just trying to fuck her. But most guys don’t really love women like those players do. So really the only reason a guy like that would tolerate being around a woman all the time is for the sex.

And I have known some super Omega type guys who had friendships with women who they had no desire to screw.

I have always tried to fuck all of my female friends at one point or another I think, unless they are obviously married. If they just want to be friends, they shoot me down angrily and then you just make some sort of “let’s be friends” agreement, and really should not violate that, but you “open the door,” and “leave the door open.”

I have been “opening the door” and “leaving the door open” for women and girls my whole life and a lot of them just go for it and make moves on me and start trying to have sex with me. A lot of get sort of frustrated and angry that I won’t move on them. I have heard stuff like, “Aren’t you going to kiss me or what!?” or “Well are you going to try to fuck me or not? Come on! What’s with you?” Of course once I get the green light, I just do it.

Thing is at our age, a lot of people just don’t even fuck at all anymore. Look at the statistics for sexual frequency of married couples between ages 55-60.

Guys who are not attractive in some way can have lots of female friends, but I have had some male friends who were total lady killers, the type every other woman would want to jump on, and yeah, they had a lot of female friends but they usually ended up screwing them sooner or later.

The point I was trying to make is that females do this as often as males. The problem with straight men and women is we want to fuck each other. If your platonic female friend is a Hotty, there is a sexual tension introduced into the friendship. If your platonic male friend is a Sex God, it is going to be hard for a woman to keep it platonic. He’s so sexy that she is just going to try to fuck him at some point or another. So really it works both ways. But platonic stuff between heterosexuals is problematic not only because the guy wants to screw the girl, but I have found that in many cases, the girl wants to screw the guy, especially if he is a hot, sexy type.

So really sex just gets in the way of straight male-female friendships in general.

One thing that is very nice about female friends is they usually have lots of girlfriends or female roommates or coworkers or whatever, and sooner or later, you usually fuck her roommate or best friend, usually because they try to seduce you. And your platonic female friends are usually trying to fix you up with their hottie friends. So you get dates with their friends and that often works into sex.

Not sure why they do that, but platonic stuff with women usually leads to sex in one way or another you see. You either screw the platonic female friend at some point, or you screw her friends/roommates, etc. or she starts fixing you up with her friends and you screw them. It’s just generally going to end up in pussy territory on the Platonic Yellow Chick Road sooner or later, which is why I always liked platonic friendships with females.

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The Formula

Drama + Chaos = Woman

I wish it wasn’t true, but I swear to God it is. And I have had a lot of experience too. More than a lot of guys will in 20 lifetimes. I don’t really know what advice to give other men, but I would only say that if you wish to ride the wild waters of womanhood, it is best to look at this as some sort of an extreme sport like skydiving, hang-gliding or jungle safaris. To weather the humid and treacherous wilderness of untracked womanhood is the essence of life on the edge.

Live dangerously!

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Dominate Me, Daddy

Negrofication Magnification Ratios writes:

Bondage is interesting. I never can understand it. What makes people want to be so dominated.? I want freedom. I can never understand it. It is the very opposite of what I strive for.

The female wants and needs to be dominated by a dominant male. It is part of the sex act itself, which is an act of aggression with dominant-submissive overtones.

The natural female role is submissive. Submissiveness is the essence of femininity and many women like to be women and girly girls. They enjoy being submissive and feminine. When they feel this way, they feel like they are fulfilling their natural role and the comfortable in that.

The natural male role is dominant. That is masculinity in a nutshell.  Males enjoy being dominant and masculine.

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Let Your Man Flag Fly

Males enjoy being dominant and masculine.

I really think that most men enjoy this. I have known some guys who were not very masculine. They even admitted it. I saw nothing in particular wrong with this, but to guys like that, I come off as a sort of a hypermasculine machista. And when I hung around with these guys, often they would start to mirror my mindset and get back into their own masculine role. It wasn’t so much that they were not masculine. Instead it was that their masculine nature was hidden or suppressed for some reason.

When you bring this out of a man who has repressed it, he often seems very happy in his new masculine role. I have noticed that he often starts acting better too.

I have known men who cried all the time, had horrendous anxiety issues, seemed to have all sorts of psychosomatic stuff going on, had a lot of bitter anger and rage, were very defensive about their psychopathology, did not want to change, and were always being used as doormats by others. They were holed up at home where they played video games and watched weird anime stuff all day. They were also often into feminism and went on a lot about rape culture and men treating women bad. In other words, they were manginas – great big gigantic pussies.

I encouraged them to start acting more masculine, and the psychosomatic stuff died down, the anxiety attenuated, and they got out of abusive friendships. The bitter rage went away, and the defensive anger and refusal to change vanished. They openly admitted their faults and developed a sort of reflective, rational  and philosophical “old man wisdom.” In a number of cases they met a woman soon after. These were guys who hardly dated before. They often moved in with the woman and started having lots of great sex with her.

I noticed that their behavior changed, they were into more guy things, and you could have more of a typical guy conversation with them; whereas before they would often get offended or angry at typical guy mindsets. The feminism seemed to die back and a sort of typical “male irreverent piggishness” and defiant male “fuck the world” attitude emerged. They retreated a lot less into video game and anime worlds.

Sure, they would fall apart now and again, but they seemed to put themselves together pretty quickly.

I really think even wimpy, feminine or mangina type males have a real man deep down inside just dying to break out. Instead of putting these guys down, we should encourage them to release the man tiger from his cage and let their man flag fly.

For one thing, they seem to be very happy, satisfied and fulfilled in this role, and when they act more masculine, their behavior becomes more adaptive and a lot of their psychopathology dies down. They become more rational and competent.

Act masculine, guys! It feels good!

Let your man flag fly!

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What Americans Want

As we can see, Americans just voted for a bunch of Republicans. We can conclude the following then:

Americans no longer want social security, nor do they want a living wage.

This is correct. Republicans have been on record for many years now affirming their commitment to destroying Social Security completely. That’s right. They are going to end up. Wipe it out. Zero it out. Get rid of it. So I guess most Americans want to zero out Social Security?

Republicans oppose a living wage. Not only that, but they oppose raising the minimum wage. Republicans are always hostile to labor and working people. In fact, conservatives are always against workers. Conservatives have always been opposed to workers and labor, and they are against workers and labor everywhere on Earth. That is one of the definitions of a conservative – one who opposes labor and the working classes. So apparently Americans are opposed to labor and working class people and oppose raising the minimum wage. What a bunch of idiots.

In this Christian nation, the majority of voting age women wish to rescind (lose) all reproductive rights.

This is correct. The Republicans are on record for wiping out all abortion rights in the US. If you support abortion rights, why in the Hell are you voting Republican? Are you mad? So what we can tell by this election is that most Americans want to completely wipe out abortion rights in the US. Incredible.

The majority of voting age citizens wish to rescind (lose) the right to vote.

This is somewhat correct. What is true that the majority of Americans want to impose severe restrictions on the right to vote. They especially want to make it hard for Blacks and Hispanics to vote. So in other words, we do not live in a democracy. We live country that systematically restricts the right to vote and revokes voting rights for many Americans in a fascist-like manner. Americans also wish to destroy the Voting Rights Act, a hallmark Civil Rights law.

So apparently Americans are opposed to the civil rights movement that allowed Blacks to vote. Further, Americans wish to revert to Jim Crow type voting restrictions that make it very easy for Whites to vote but make it very hard for Blacks to vote. Apparently then American Whites are an incredibly racist people who do not believe that Black people should have the right to vote and wish to revoke the right to vote from many Blacks.

A plurality wishes to elevate billionaires into feudal (fascist) lords, while the rest of us live in squalor, while we toil for basic sustenance.

This is odd. The serfs believe that the feudal lords should get all the money while we serfs should wallow in misery. American serfs love their feudal masters and wish to perpetuate the system that makes them serfs. They support their feudal masters, who are actually their deadly enemies.

I don’t get it. What’s wrong with Americans? Are we masochists?

No matter how bad things are under a Democrat, all you will ever do is make everything worse by voting Republican. It makes no sense.

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Street Harassment Video Takes Nation by Storm

This video has just gone viral. Actress videotapes herself walking through New York City for 10 hours and all of the what she calls street harassment she has to endure. There are all sorts of other videos out there responding to it and also major papers have picked it up.

Here is one of the Red Pill videos responding to it.

I have some things to say about this, but I am too tired to write about them right now. If you have anything to say about this video and rebuttal or this phenomenon, go ahead.

The Women Holla Back site is also an excellent resource. I have mixed feelings about this site. In some ways, I am mad at them and think they are full of crap, but in other ways, a lot of these guys’ behaviors are just out of line and it makes the victims feel pretty bad.

I have had a lot of street harassment from gay men when I lived in LA, so I can sort of relate to what these women are experiencing. In fact I just filled out a Holla Back survey about street harassment.

However, due to stupid PC, no one can complain about gay men harassing straight guys because gay men are now everyone’s PC pets that can do no wrong.

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A Rating Scale for Sexual Orientation

Tobias writes:

I don’t like the way you scale homosexuality and heterosexuality, even though I know what you mean and it isn’t wrong, but I wouldn’t scale as a ratio of the two orientations, but rather an absolute ratio, which makes in my opinion more sense, since not everyone has the same sex drive.For example imagine a scale of 1 to 100, 1 for minimal sexual attraction and 100 for maximum sexual attraction. Someone could theoretically have a number of 90 for both females and males, while someone else has 20 for males and 80 for females. In your scale the first guy would have 50% for female and 50% for males, while the other one would have 20% male and 80% female and thus it could look like the second guy is more attracted to women, even though the first guy is actually more attracted to women.

First of all I would like to thank my good friend Tobias for his excellent comment. I use this scale a lot in therapy with my clients and everyone likes it a lot.

Here is the scale once again. I got the idea for it from a book on sexology by a sex therapist.

100-0: Maximum heterosexual, minimum homosexual
90-10: Maximum heterosexual, incidental homosexual
80-20: Maximum heterosexual, significant homosexual
70-30: Maximum heterosexual, strong homosexual
60-40: Maximum heterosexual, very strong strong homosexual
50-50: Maximum heterosexual, maximal homosexual
40-60: Maximum homosexual, very strong heterosexual
30-70: Maximum homosexual, strong heterosexual
20-80: Maximum homosexual, significant heterosexual
10-90: Maximum homosexual, incidental heterosexual
0-100: Maximum homosexual, minimal heterosexual

Maximum would mean maximum for that person.

First of all, I think we ought to accept that males who are:

50-50: Maximum heterosexual, maximal homosexual
40-60: Maximum homosexual, very strong heterosexual
30-70: Maximum homosexual, strong heterosexual
20-80: Maximum homosexual, significant heterosexual
10-90: Maximum homosexual, incidental heterosexual
0-100: Maximum homosexual, minimal heterosexual

have a biologically set drive, fixed by age 15, that is maximally homosexual. They are turned on more by males than by females, except for the 50-50′s. I think we should be kind to these men because I do not think they chose these orientations.

The data I have shows that 0-100′s seem to ~3% of the male population. However, if you include all men from 0-100 to 40-60, it seemed like that included up to ~7% of all males. I estimate these because it was a bar graph and you had to estimate values. So there may be more than a bit of truth to the 10% are gay chestnut.

When we test heterosexuals with gay and straight stimuli in the lab, they come out like this: maximum heterosexual, minimum homosexual.

For homosexuals, it is typically maximum homosexual, minimum heterosexual.

For a while, bisexual men were consistently testing maximum homosexual, minimum heterosexual, exactly the same as gay men, and there were debates in the sexology community about whether bisexual men even existed or whether they were all just gay men who were lying.

However, recently a number of men were found who claimed to be bisexual and scored something like maximum heterosexual, maximum homosexual, so the conclusion in the field now is that true male bisexuals do indeed exist.

Your scale is not bad. You are going on the basis that some folks have different sex drives. On my scale, keep in mind that each higher number including the 50-50′s, means maximum.

The thing about my scale is it does nothing for intensity. All it points out is the ratio of homosexual to heterosexual attraction in any given individual.

To tell the truth, all of those numbers in my scale are fixed by age 15. Sex therapists have tried to change males  from gay to straight, and not only can they not do so, but they can’t even move them around on the scale. They have also had some 90-10 and 80-20 straight guys come in who had a bit of homosexual attraction which bothered them and they wanted to be rid of it, but he was not able to move them on the scale either.

After a while he stopped taking new male patients who wanted to change their sexual orientation as he said he could not take their money in good conscience. He then patiently explained to them how he felt that these ratios were fixed early in life, possibly at birth, and could not be altered by any known therapeutic method.

He thought that the ratios must be biological and must have been fixed early in life somehow. He suspected since birth but I am not so sure. Whether those values are fixed before age 15 is not certain because in the study I read, the youngest male was age 15. In order to study younger males, we are now studying the sexuality of young male teenagers and pubertal boys, and it might be hard to get funding for that or legal problems may arise.

This same therapist also found that there was a correlation between his scale and masculinity and femininity in males. That is to say that on the scale, the stronger the homosexual attraction was in the man, the more feminine he was. And conversely, the stronger the heterosexual attraction was, the more masculine the man was.

Now that is not to say that there are not rather feminine heterosexual men and some very masculine homosexual men, but there does seem to be a trend whereby males act more masculine the stronger their heterosexual drive is and more feminine the stronger their homosexual drive is. The sexologist felt that masculinity-femininity ratios in men were set very early in life just like their sexual orientation and perhaps in tandem with it, and he had the feeling that their degree of masculinity or femininity was biological.

I am not sure if that is true, but it is interesting to think about.

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Why Women Complain about “Street Harassment”

John said:

My first year in LA I went to a Christmas party advertised on a gym flyer. My date was one of three girls, out of ~60 people. Soon after I went to watch my dance teacher perform at a club, a gay club it turned out. With all the attention I thought, “Is this what it’s like for pretty girls every day?” But for them interest is greater than zero in practically any guy, so I think it’s more bothersome and/or more awkward to be hit on by gays.

Yes I lived in and worked around Hollywood for years. LA is gayer than Frisco if you ask me, especially the Hollywood area, which is insanely gay.

I was a young man when I was living there in my mid-20′s. Apparently I was a handsome young man because people kept telling me that, and I kept getting offers to be a male model, but I did not want to do work in the biz so I kept turning them down. Anyway, for whatever reason, I was massive gay-bait at the time. I would be driving down the street and all these guys in their cars and on the street would be rubbernecking everywhere I went. So many guys in cars were rubbernecking me and not watching the road that I always thought there was going to be a car accident.

In parts of that town, if you walk into say a coffee shop or a restaurant, it might be 75% gay guys. So I would walk in there, and every one of them would stop whatever they were doing and look at me like I was dinner. And they would stare at me real bad the whole time I was in there. And the waiters would be way, way, way, way too friendly. It was rather unnerving and after a while, I didn’t even want to go to certain establishments that were overrun with gay men.

One time I was working at this editorial shop in Beverly Hills. The area is full of gays if you don’t know already. After I worked there a bit, I figured out that this really tough looking guy wearing a leather jacket was always standing next to a wall every time I got off work. Pretty soon I figured out that he showed up there about 4:50 PM I guess just to wait for me to get off work. I would look out the window to see if he was there and he would eye-lock me and I would think, “Oh  no! The fag’s there!”

I had to walk past to him to get to my car. He would start watching my work window at maybe 4:50 and then he would watch me every inch of the way down the street to my parking garage. It was like running a gauntlet.

It really scared the crap out of me and freaked me out bad. I was terrified to leave work and walk by that guy every day. The last ten minutes of work and then leaving the building and walking to my car I would be literally shaking the whole time. He did this for a couple of weeks, and I then guess realized I was hopeless and disappeared.

I used to hang out in Hollywood every weekend for years. Sometimes late at night I would go the ready teller and get some money. There was a nearby Bank of America on Santa Monica Boulevard. But on Friday and Saturday night that street turns into the most insane gay cruise scene you have ever seen in your life. I have no idea how many gay men are on that street on those nights, but you could swear it’s 100,000 or more.

So it would be midnight, and I would go to the ready teller on Santa Monica. I would park my car and walk down Santa Monica a bit before turning into the bank parking lot. Over the five minutes it took to walk to and from the bank, maybe five or ten carloads full of guys would catcall at me, “Woo hoo! Yeah! Oh baby! Hey sexy! Come to papa! Hey cutie! Hey stud!” and every other thing you could think of. Plus a lot of wolf whistles. I am not sure if I minded all that much as it was rather flattering, but it was also pretty unnerving.

I tell these stories to women and they usually respond by saying, “Now you know what we women have to go through every single day!”

I think I am empathize with them now.

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Guys Staring at Guys

Jason Y writes:

Being openly gay can cause problems in gyms, stuff like that, cause guys think “Are you looking at me?”. I think that’s also why so much opposition to gays in the military.

Guys staring at guys can be a problem, but I never really worry about it.I suppose a lot of men have stared at me in my life, but I really think only a few of them were staring at me because they were gay or bi. When a gay or bi man stares at you, it has this particular vibe about. After you have gotten it a number of times, it is pretty unmistakeable and cannot be confused with anything else.

In Man World, the standard hypermasculine line about male stares is that they mean one of three things:

1. You want to fight me. You are staring at me because you want to fight. Typical response: Screw you idiot. You’re nuts. I ain’t fighting you.

2. You’re a fag. You are staring at me because you’re a homo and you want to suck my dick. Typical response: Screw you fag! You’re in the wrong town, weirdo. Frisco’s that-away!

3. First two are wrong? Ok, then you’re crazy. You’re staring at me because you are weird/crazy, whatever. Typical response. Screw you, you nut. I ain’t dealing you. You’re crazy.

Bottom line is in Man World, staring at other guys is pretty much not ok. As you can see, it means three possible things, and none of them are good. So don’t do it. Don’t stare at guys.

There are other types of reasons for male stares.

Hey, I like this guy! One straight guy to another. Sometimes they seem like they really like you and admire you for some reason. But you can tell they are straight due to the vibe.

What’s with that guy anyway? This can be good or bad. Unfortunately a lot of times it is not that great. But it might not necessarily be so bad. If has a bad vibe, you can usually pick it up.

Jesus Christ you are fucking weird, man. Yes, unfortunately, I have gotten this one before. You can try to analyze why they think you are weird, but it is probably not productive. Who knows why they think you’re weird? You will probably never figure it out in a million years and even if you ask them, they will lie. Best response is to go into “normal guy mode,” don’t let the look go to your head, and try to act, think and feel as normally as possible.

Wow I admire you, you’re my hero. I don’t get this one too much, but I got a lot more of it when younger. Obviously it is pretty nice.

Do you have some sort of a question you want to ask me about me or something? Here, you are staring at them in a questioning way, and they are doing it back. Hopefully follow it up with a conversation to prove that the staring was because you wanted to know something about him, maybe something interesting. Usually works out well.

Quit staring at me, asshole. Yeah, you started this one. Quit staring at the guy! Take a hint.

You know what? You annoy the Hell out of me, and I really do not like you one bit, you dick. Yep. Hopefully you will not get this one too much. I would try not to talk to this guy in the future. Guess what! He doesn’t like you! Hint hint. Don’t even try to figure out why he dislikes you because it is typically impossible to figure out and if you ask him, he will never tell you.

I hate you. Yep, unmistakeable. Break the glance and quit looking at him. Or stare him back down. I often go super aggro when they do this to me, rear up my body like I am Tyrannosaurs, turn into Ted Bundy in my head and stare them down back real hard to force them down. Usually they get scared or freaked out and back down. The objective is “to force him down.” If you force him to stop staring, then you won the domination contest. Obviously this could lead to fights, but it almost never does with me for some reason. After you force him down, back off completely, ignore him utterly, and do not antagonize him anymore. You won. Don’t push your luck.

Let’s fight! Yeah, this is a very bad one. I get it in bars sometimes. This guy is known as Mr. Psycho. He wants to fight you, and he has never met you, has no idea what you are like and knows nothing about you. In other words, he’s nuts. Leave him alone and ignore him, and he will stop after a while. If you challenge him, the game will quickly turn into “Somebody’s Going to Get Hurt.” Who knows after that!

Quit looking at my girlfriend/wife, you asshole! Yeah. You got the message. Quit looking at her. I do not get this too often. Some young White men are like this now. We have a lot of traditional Mexican men in their 30′s and 40′s in this town, and I have gotten this look a couple of times from them.

Challenge/querying. Well you are at the bar going into your bad-ass “I am a really nice guy but if you fuck with me I will slit your throat in a New York minute” thing. It sounds scary, but it’s a redneck bar full of White guys and they are all doing the same thing. In fact, they could all easily be serial killers except that they are smiling too much. The challenge stare is sort of like, “WTF is your trip dude?”

Look over at him or them, go out of psycho mode into “Hey I am a regular normal harmless guy” mode and look at them with an open face with no particular expression. Often he will break into a smile which is his way of saying he thinks you are ok. Smile back and him and forget about it. Congratulations. You just made peace.

I am sending you a message with this stare. Often not such a good message either. In many cases, they are saying, “I am communicating this message to you to teach you a lesson and get you to change your behavior because you are screwing up.” This person is trying to tell you something without uttering even one single word. The message they are trying to give you can be all sorts of things.

Think about where you are, what you are doing or just did, especially what you just said. The message may well be related to that. Also if any conversation follows, the message may be well relayed through all sorts of weird vibes about the conversation.

You get the booby prize! You get to decode the message in the stare. Oh boy. Often you cannot figure out the message, but it is pretty common to make guesses.

Your guesses may well be wrong, but sometimes some extremely complicated nonverbal messages can be relayed without the person ever uttering a single word along those lines. Once a friend of mine and I got the exact same very complex message from this man. I told my friend about it and he freaked out and told me had gotten the same vibe off of him.

Harmless guesses are probably ok, but weirder or more dangerous/pathological guesses should be avoided, for instance, anything with paranoid overtones. Your paranoid interpretation may be true, but paranoid conclusions should only be adopted as a last resort after all other solutions have been negated.

I am gay/bi/biqueerious/whatever and I think you’re sexy, stud. Yeah this is the homosexual stare. Thing is really most guy to guy stares are not gay stares, but definitely a few are. I cannot put my finger on it, but the gay stare has a particular vibe about that I cannot describe except that it seems sexual in some intuitive Gestalt sort of way that cannot be described. Have you ever had a woman look at you like you are a slice of roast beef right out of the oven? It looks like that.

It looks just like the look a woman gives you when she is ogling you, checking you out, thinks you are hot, or is fantasizing about you. It is the exact same look, just from a guy.

Often there is a weird persistence and sort of unbreakable, somewhat disturbing and creepy aspect to this stare. That is because they often act as if they are hypnotized by you. But women will sometimes give you the hypnotized stare too. You need to jump on that right away because it means, “Fuck me right now.” I do not get the hypnotized look from women too much anymore, but I have in the past for sure.

This gay stare can also look like, “Ohhh boy! I like him! Woo hoo!” often with a sort of half-criminal smile added in. Once again, this is the same look that women give you from time to time. It doesn’t necessarily mean she actually wants to screw you, but she is fantasizing for sure.

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Gays and Gyms

Jason Y writes:

Being openly gay can cause problems in gyms, stuff like that, cause guys think “Are you looking at me?”. I think that’s also why so much opposition to gays in the military.

I have been to gyms, and let me tell you something, in the locker rooms at the gyms where guys are walking around naked in the showers and going into the saunas naked and whatnot, it sure seems like there are a Hell of a lot of queers just hanging around in those locker rooms not doing much of anything, just taking their times. And a lot of weird dudes hanging around naked in the saunas too. Not too many gays in the gym as a whole, but Hell yeah they seem congregate where the nude guys are. I got so many weird vibes on those locker rooms.

Some gyms also have “gay days.” At one gym it was like Tuesdays and Thursdays I think. I used to go there all the time I noticed that on Tuesdays and Thursdays there were not many guys at the gym. And I got a lot of weird vibes.

Then I went in the jacuzzi afterwards and it was nothing but guys of all ages (there are often women in the jacuzzi). I thought, “Ok, this is normal.” Then I sat in that jacuzzi for a while with all those guys, and they were all chatting and after a while I was like, “Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. WTH is going on in this jacuzziiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!? WTF!” Weird viiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiibes. What do they mean? My head was spinning. Slowly I start to put it together and, “Oh no, here we go again. All these guys must be queer. All of them?” You look around at each one. “Yep, all of them.”

If you have been around a lot of these guys like I have, making those judgements is pretty much as clear as air.

This happened a few times and then I figured it all out. Apparently Tuesdays and Thursdays were Gay Days at gym! Informally of course, not officially. The guys going to the gym had simply worked out an informal arrangement like this.

Probably the gays got together and decided to all go on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Probably it was normal for a while but a lot of the straight guys were picking up the strange vibes and started thinking, “Whoaaaaaa! Something weird happens to this gym on Tuesdays. The place gets all fagged out. Screw this. No more Tuesdays for me!”

Apparently that went on for a while until the straight regulars had all dropped out. Any newbies like me showing up figured out the game real quick and probably most were like me, “Damn, this place needs a Keep Out sign on Tuesdays! Fuck this gym!” Most probably figured out the game after a bit, and just started going on the regular days like I did.

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