Category Archives: Gender Studies

Street Harassment Video Takes Nation by Storm

This video has just gone viral. Actress videotapes herself walking through New York City for 10 hours and all of the what she calls street harassment she has to endure. There are all sorts of other videos out there responding to it and also major papers have picked it up.

Here is one of the Red Pill videos responding to it.

I have some things to say about this, but I am too tired to write about them right now. If you have anything to say about this video and rebuttal or this phenomenon, go ahead.

The Women Holla Back site is also an excellent resource. I have mixed feelings about this site. In some ways, I am mad at them and think they are full of crap, but in other ways, a lot of these guys’ behaviors are just out of line and it makes the victims feel pretty bad.

I have had a lot of street harassment from gay men when I lived in LA, so I can sort of relate to what these women are experiencing. In fact I just filled out a Holla Back survey about street harassment.

However, due to stupid PC, no one can complain about gay men harassing straight guys because gay men are now everyone’s PC pets that can do no wrong.


Filed under Feminism, Gender Studies, Heterosexuality, Homosexuality, Sane Pro-Woman, Sex

A Rating Scale for Sexual Orientation

Tobias writes:

I don’t like the way you scale homosexuality and heterosexuality, even though I know what you mean and it isn’t wrong, but I wouldn’t scale as a ratio of the two orientations, but rather an absolute ratio, which makes in my opinion more sense, since not everyone has the same sex drive.For example imagine a scale of 1 to 100, 1 for minimal sexual attraction and 100 for maximum sexual attraction. Someone could theoretically have a number of 90 for both females and males, while someone else has 20 for males and 80 for females. In your scale the first guy would have 50% for female and 50% for males, while the other one would have 20% male and 80% female and thus it could look like the second guy is more attracted to women, even though the first guy is actually more attracted to women.

First of all I would like to thank my good friend Tobias for his excellent comment. I use this scale a lot in therapy with my clients and everyone likes it a lot.

Here is the scale once again. I got the idea for it from a book on sexology by a sex therapist.

100-0: Maximum heterosexual, minimum homosexual
90-10: Maximum heterosexual, incidental homosexual
80-20: Maximum heterosexual, significant homosexual
70-30: Maximum heterosexual, strong homosexual
60-40: Maximum heterosexual, very strong strong homosexual
50-50: Maximum heterosexual, maximal homosexual
40-60: Maximum homosexual, very strong heterosexual
30-70: Maximum homosexual, strong heterosexual
20-80: Maximum homosexual, significant heterosexual
10-90: Maximum homosexual, incidental heterosexual
0-100: Maximum homosexual, minimal heterosexual

Maximum would mean maximum for that person.

First of all, I think we ought to accept that males who are:

50-50: Maximum heterosexual, maximal homosexual
40-60: Maximum homosexual, very strong heterosexual
30-70: Maximum homosexual, strong heterosexual
20-80: Maximum homosexual, significant heterosexual
10-90: Maximum homosexual, incidental heterosexual
0-100: Maximum homosexual, minimal heterosexual

have a biologically set drive, fixed by age 15, that is maximally homosexual. They are turned on more by males than by females, except for the 50-50’s. I think we should be kind to these men because I do not think they chose these orientations.

The data I have shows that 0-100’s seem to ~3% of the male population. However, if you include all men from 0-100 to 40-60, it seemed like that included up to ~7% of all males. I estimate these because it was a bar graph and you had to estimate values. So there may be more than a bit of truth to the 10% are gay chestnut.

When we test heterosexuals with gay and straight stimuli in the lab, they come out like this: maximum heterosexual, minimum homosexual.

For homosexuals, it is typically maximum homosexual, minimum heterosexual.

For a while, bisexual men were consistently testing maximum homosexual, minimum heterosexual, exactly the same as gay men, and there were debates in the sexology community about whether bisexual men even existed or whether they were all just gay men who were lying.

However, recently a number of men were found who claimed to be bisexual and scored something like maximum heterosexual, maximum homosexual, so the conclusion in the field now is that true male bisexuals do indeed exist.

Your scale is not bad. You are going on the basis that some folks have different sex drives. On my scale, keep in mind that each higher number including the 50-50’s, means maximum.

The thing about my scale is it does nothing for intensity. All it points out is the ratio of homosexual to heterosexual attraction in any given individual.

To tell the truth, all of those numbers in my scale are fixed by age 15. Sex therapists have tried to change males  from gay to straight, and not only can they not do so, but they can’t even move them around on the scale. They have also had some 90-10 and 80-20 straight guys come in who had a bit of homosexual attraction which bothered them and they wanted to be rid of it, but he was not able to move them on the scale either.

After a while he stopped taking new male patients who wanted to change their sexual orientation as he said he could not take their money in good conscience. He then patiently explained to them how he felt that these ratios were fixed early in life, possibly at birth, and could not be altered by any known therapeutic method.

He thought that the ratios must be biological and must have been fixed early in life somehow. He suspected since birth but I am not so sure. Whether those values are fixed before age 15 is not certain because in the study I read, the youngest male was age 15. In order to study younger males, we are now studying the sexuality of young male teenagers and pubertal boys, and it might be hard to get funding for that or legal problems may arise.

This same therapist also found that there was a correlation between his scale and masculinity and femininity in males. That is to say that on the scale, the stronger the homosexual attraction was in the man, the more feminine he was. And conversely, the stronger the heterosexual attraction was, the more masculine the man was.

Now that is not to say that there are not rather feminine heterosexual men and some very masculine homosexual men, but there does seem to be a trend whereby males act more masculine the stronger their heterosexual drive is and more feminine the stronger their homosexual drive is. The sexologist felt that masculinity-femininity ratios in men were set very early in life just like their sexual orientation and perhaps in tandem with it, and he had the feeling that their degree of masculinity or femininity was biological.

I am not sure if that is true, but it is interesting to think about.

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Why Women Complain about “Street Harassment”

John said:

My first year in LA I went to a Christmas party advertised on a gym flyer. My date was one of three girls, out of ~60 people. Soon after I went to watch my dance teacher perform at a club, a gay club it turned out. With all the attention I thought, “Is this what it’s like for pretty girls every day?” But for them interest is greater than zero in practically any guy, so I think it’s more bothersome and/or more awkward to be hit on by gays.

Yes I lived in and worked around Hollywood for years. LA is gayer than Frisco if you ask me, especially the Hollywood area, which is insanely gay.

I was a young man when I was living there in my mid-20’s. Apparently I was a handsome young man because people kept telling me that, and I kept getting offers to be a male model, but I did not want to do work in the biz so I kept turning them down. Anyway, for whatever reason, I was massive gay-bait at the time. I would be driving down the street and all these guys in their cars and on the street would be rubbernecking everywhere I went. So many guys in cars were rubbernecking me and not watching the road that I always thought there was going to be a car accident.

In parts of that town, if you walk into say a coffee shop or a restaurant, it might be 75% gay guys. So I would walk in there, and every one of them would stop whatever they were doing and look at me like I was dinner. And they would stare at me real bad the whole time I was in there. And the waiters would be way, way, way, way too friendly. It was rather unnerving and after a while, I didn’t even want to go to certain establishments that were overrun with gay men.

One time I was working at this editorial shop in Beverly Hills. The area is full of gays if you don’t know already. After I worked there a bit, I figured out that this really tough looking guy wearing a leather jacket was always standing next to a wall every time I got off work. Pretty soon I figured out that he showed up there about 4:50 PM I guess just to wait for me to get off work. I would look out the window to see if he was there and he would eye-lock me and I would think, “Oh  no! The fag’s there!”

I had to walk past to him to get to my car. He would start watching my work window at maybe 4:50 and then he would watch me every inch of the way down the street to my parking garage. It was like running a gauntlet.

It really scared the crap out of me and freaked me out bad. I was terrified to leave work and walk by that guy every day. The last ten minutes of work and then leaving the building and walking to my car I would be literally shaking the whole time. He did this for a couple of weeks, and I then guess realized I was hopeless and disappeared.

I used to hang out in Hollywood every weekend for years. Sometimes late at night I would go the ready teller and get some money. There was a nearby Bank of America on Santa Monica Boulevard. But on Friday and Saturday night that street turns into the most insane gay cruise scene you have ever seen in your life. I have no idea how many gay men are on that street on those nights, but you could swear it’s 100,000 or more.

So it would be midnight, and I would go to the ready teller on Santa Monica. I would park my car and walk down Santa Monica a bit before turning into the bank parking lot. Over the five minutes it took to walk to and from the bank, maybe five or ten carloads full of guys would catcall at me, “Woo hoo! Yeah! Oh baby! Hey sexy! Come to papa! Hey cutie! Hey stud!” and every other thing you could think of. Plus a lot of wolf whistles. I am not sure if I minded all that much as it was rather flattering, but it was also pretty unnerving.

I tell these stories to women and they usually respond by saying, “Now you know what we women have to go through every single day!”

I think I am empathize with them now.


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Guys Staring at Guys

Jason Y writes:

Being openly gay can cause problems in gyms, stuff like that, cause guys think “Are you looking at me?”. I think that’s also why so much opposition to gays in the military.

Guys staring at guys can be a problem, but I never really worry about it.I suppose a lot of men have stared at me in my life, but I really think only a few of them were staring at me because they were gay or bi. When a gay or bi man stares at you, it has this particular vibe about. After you have gotten it a number of times, it is pretty unmistakeable and cannot be confused with anything else.

In Man World, the standard hypermasculine line about male stares is that they mean one of three things:

1. You want to fight me. You are staring at me because you want to fight. Typical response: Screw you idiot. You’re nuts. I ain’t fighting you.

2. You’re a fag. You are staring at me because you’re a homo and you want to suck my dick. Typical response: Screw you fag! You’re in the wrong town, weirdo. Frisco’s that-away!

3. First two are wrong? Ok, then you’re crazy. You’re staring at me because you are weird/crazy, whatever. Typical response. Screw you, you nut. I ain’t dealing you. You’re crazy.

Bottom line is in Man World, staring at other guys is pretty much not ok. As you can see, it means three possible things, and none of them are good. So don’t do it. Don’t stare at guys.

There are other types of reasons for male stares.

Hey, I like this guy! One straight guy to another. Sometimes they seem like they really like you and admire you for some reason. But you can tell they are straight due to the vibe.

What’s with that guy anyway? This can be good or bad. Unfortunately a lot of times it is not that great. But it might not necessarily be so bad. If has a bad vibe, you can usually pick it up.

Jesus Christ you are fucking weird, man. Yes, unfortunately, I have gotten this one before. You can try to analyze why they think you are weird, but it is probably not productive. Who knows why they think you’re weird? You will probably never figure it out in a million years and even if you ask them, they will lie. Best response is to go into “normal guy mode,” don’t let the look go to your head, and try to act, think and feel as normally as possible.

Wow I admire you, you’re my hero. I don’t get this one too much, but I got a lot more of it when younger. Obviously it is pretty nice.

Do you have some sort of a question you want to ask me about me or something? Here, you are staring at them in a questioning way, and they are doing it back. Hopefully follow it up with a conversation to prove that the staring was because you wanted to know something about him, maybe something interesting. Usually works out well.

Quit staring at me, asshole. Yeah, you started this one. Quit staring at the guy! Take a hint.

You know what? You annoy the Hell out of me, and I really do not like you one bit, you dick. Yep. Hopefully you will not get this one too much. I would try not to talk to this guy in the future. Guess what! He doesn’t like you! Hint hint. Don’t even try to figure out why he dislikes you because it is typically impossible to figure out and if you ask him, he will never tell you.

I hate you. Yep, unmistakeable. Break the glance and quit looking at him. Or stare him back down. I often go super aggro when they do this to me, rear up my body like I am Tyrannosaurs, turn into Ted Bundy in my head and stare them down back real hard to force them down. Usually they get scared or freaked out and back down. The objective is “to force him down.” If you force him to stop staring, then you won the domination contest. Obviously this could lead to fights, but it almost never does with me for some reason. After you force him down, back off completely, ignore him utterly, and do not antagonize him anymore. You won. Don’t push your luck.

Let’s fight! Yeah, this is a very bad one. I get it in bars sometimes. This guy is known as Mr. Psycho. He wants to fight you, and he has never met you, has no idea what you are like and knows nothing about you. In other words, he’s nuts. Leave him alone and ignore him, and he will stop after a while. If you challenge him, the game will quickly turn into “Somebody’s Going to Get Hurt.” Who knows after that!

Quit looking at my girlfriend/wife, you asshole! Yeah. You got the message. Quit looking at her. I do not get this too often. Some young White men are like this now. We have a lot of traditional Mexican men in their 30’s and 40’s in this town, and I have gotten this look a couple of times from them.

Challenge/querying. Well you are at the bar going into your bad-ass “I am a really nice guy but if you fuck with me I will slit your throat in a New York minute” thing. It sounds scary, but it’s a redneck bar full of White guys and they are all doing the same thing. In fact, they could all easily be serial killers except that they are smiling too much. The challenge stare is sort of like, “WTF is your trip dude?”

Look over at him or them, go out of psycho mode into “Hey I am a regular normal harmless guy” mode and look at them with an open face with no particular expression. Often he will break into a smile which is his way of saying he thinks you are ok. Smile back and him and forget about it. Congratulations. You just made peace.

I am sending you a message with this stare. Often not such a good message either. In many cases, they are saying, “I am communicating this message to you to teach you a lesson and get you to change your behavior because you are screwing up.” This person is trying to tell you something without uttering even one single word. The message they are trying to give you can be all sorts of things.

Think about where you are, what you are doing or just did, especially what you just said. The message may well be related to that. Also if any conversation follows, the message may be well relayed through all sorts of weird vibes about the conversation.

You get the booby prize! You get to decode the message in the stare. Oh boy. Often you cannot figure out the message, but it is pretty common to make guesses.

Your guesses may well be wrong, but sometimes some extremely complicated nonverbal messages can be relayed without the person ever uttering a single word along those lines. Once a friend of mine and I got the exact same very complex message from this man. I told my friend about it and he freaked out and told me had gotten the same vibe off of him.

Harmless guesses are probably ok, but weirder or more dangerous/pathological guesses should be avoided, for instance, anything with paranoid overtones. Your paranoid interpretation may be true, but paranoid conclusions should only be adopted as a last resort after all other solutions have been negated.

I am gay/bi/biqueerious/whatever and I think you’re sexy, stud. Yeah this is the homosexual stare. Thing is really most guy to guy stares are not gay stares, but definitely a few are. I cannot put my finger on it, but the gay stare has a particular vibe about that I cannot describe except that it seems sexual in some intuitive Gestalt sort of way that cannot be described. Have you ever had a woman look at you like you are a slice of roast beef right out of the oven? It looks like that.

It looks just like the look a woman gives you when she is ogling you, checking you out, thinks you are hot, or is fantasizing about you. It is the exact same look, just from a guy.

Often there is a weird persistence and sort of unbreakable, somewhat disturbing and creepy aspect to this stare. That is because they often act as if they are hypnotized by you. But women will sometimes give you the hypnotized stare too. You need to jump on that right away because it means, “Fuck me right now.” I do not get the hypnotized look from women too much anymore, but I have in the past for sure.

This gay stare can also look like, “Ohhh boy! I like him! Woo hoo!” often with a sort of half-criminal smile added in. Once again, this is the same look that women give you from time to time. It doesn’t necessarily mean she actually wants to screw you, but she is fantasizing for sure.


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Gays and Gyms

Jason Y writes:

Being openly gay can cause problems in gyms, stuff like that, cause guys think “Are you looking at me?”. I think that’s also why so much opposition to gays in the military.

I have been to gyms, and let me tell you something, in the locker rooms at the gyms where guys are walking around naked in the showers and going into the saunas naked and whatnot, it sure seems like there are a Hell of a lot of queers just hanging around in those locker rooms not doing much of anything, just taking their times. And a lot of weird dudes hanging around naked in the saunas too. Not too many gays in the gym as a whole, but Hell yeah they seem congregate where the nude guys are. I got so many weird vibes on those locker rooms.

Some gyms also have “gay days.” At one gym it was like Tuesdays and Thursdays I think. I used to go there all the time I noticed that on Tuesdays and Thursdays there were not many guys at the gym. And I got a lot of weird vibes.

Then I went in the jacuzzi afterwards and it was nothing but guys of all ages (there are often women in the jacuzzi). I thought, “Ok, this is normal.” Then I sat in that jacuzzi for a while with all those guys, and they were all chatting and after a while I was like, “Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. WTH is going on in this jacuzziiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!? WTF!” Weird viiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiibes. What do they mean? My head was spinning. Slowly I start to put it together and, “Oh no, here we go again. All these guys must be queer. All of them?” You look around at each one. “Yep, all of them.”

If you have been around a lot of these guys like I have, making those judgements is pretty much as clear as air.

This happened a few times and then I figured it all out. Apparently Tuesdays and Thursdays were Gay Days at gym! Informally of course, not officially. The guys going to the gym had simply worked out an informal arrangement like this.

Probably the gays got together and decided to all go on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Probably it was normal for a while but a lot of the straight guys were picking up the strange vibes and started thinking, “Whoaaaaaa! Something weird happens to this gym on Tuesdays. The place gets all fagged out. Screw this. No more Tuesdays for me!”

Apparently that went on for a while until the straight regulars had all dropped out. Any newbies like me showing up figured out the game real quick and probably most were like me, “Damn, this place needs a Keep Out sign on Tuesdays! Fuck this gym!” Most probably figured out the game after a bit, and just started going on the regular days like I did.


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No, Guys, Your Best Male Guy Friend Is Not Secretly Gay

Matt wrote:

As you note, the likelihood that any of one’s lifelong, presumably straight, friends being gay is slim to none.

Exactly. Let me tell you something. I have known 100’s of guys, boys and men, who were my friends. We hung out together. I was over at their place. They were over at my place. We went out and did stuff together. We double-dated. We went on trips together, even overnighters. They would sleep in one bed, and I would sleep in another, or they could have the couch or the floor.

Pretty quickly would always I decide whether these new friends were gay or not because frankly I do not associate with gay guys. But honestly there is nothing to worry about because some secretly gay guy isn’t going to try to befriend you in the first place.

After a very brief period, I made a determination that all of these guys were straight and just left it at that and never thought about it again. Not even one of these guys ever turned out to be a “secret homosexual.” Not even one. Not ever.

Gay men simply do not befriend straight men and have typical straight guy type friendships, with some exceptions.* Also my friendships with males are all wrapped up in women. We would get together and go chase women or try to get some women. It was always, “Hey let’s you and me go the bar and get some chicks.” We spent a lot of time talking about women and sex. I would not say the whole friendship revolved around that, but that was a big aspect of it. No way is some secret gay guy going to be your friend and pretend to be a pussyhound. Forget it.

Your best friend is not a secret queer!

It is true that I have befriended some guys who turned out to be bisexuals. However, most of them made their gay trip known very quickly if they were already out and active. Fact is a guy like that is going to try to suck your dick almost immediately, and that is exactly what all of them more or less did. And even if he doesn’t actively proposition you, he is going to start acting very weird very fast with a lot of queery insinuation, especially in conversation. Unless you are an idiot, you catch onto the weird gay misdirection of the conversation real quick.

I had another friend who later got into bisexuality, but I knew him very well for years before and he was not into that stuff as we used to talk about that quite often.

I think he had some potential there but he just chose not to act on it which is very common and normal. I almost never even got gay vibes off him except once when we were going swimming in the pool, and we were all changing into our swimsuits and we were getting naked. He looked at me naked and yelled, “Woo woo! Look at Bob!” when I was naked. I thought, “What the fuck dude? Are you a fag or what? Shut up idiot.” Then I thought, “You know what? I didn’t hear that,” and I just brushed that off and figured he had some potential there in his head because actually a lot of straight guys make the occasional weird faggoty remark.

He moved up to Hollywood and drifted into bisexuality or rather was blackmailed and forced into it by some gay predator. But he got into it quite willingly. He still had an extremely strong drive towards women as he always had that, and by the time he started screwing guys, he had already fucked a battalion or so of females. Despite his weird bi trip, I must say the guy was one of the biggest studs I have ever known.

After he got into that lifestyle, he changed quite a bit, and at times, he gave off heavy duty gay vibes around me.

Once was over at this place in Hollywood where he was living with this queer. I had spent the night on the couch and woke up realizing that my best friend was apparently now into getting fucked in the ass, which is a pretty damn weird realization!

I lost a contact lens that morning after I woke up. They both made up this silly gay game called “Looking for the Lost Contact Lens” and used that as an excuse to put their hands all over my face and upper body. My attitude was, “Sigh. Ok boys, have your fun. Just don’t go too far.” He was totally into this game, first time I had ever seen him act that way towards me. I guess at that point, he had acted on his potential and more or less flipped on the light switch. Prior to that, apparently potential was there but a 100 watt bulb gives off no light at all until you switch it on.

*I did have one friend who later turned out to be gay, but he was not out at the time. This was a case of a gay man who surrounded himself with straight guys. However, this 19-20 year old guy had not come to terms with his sexual orientation yet, was still struggling, did not even know he was gay, and was not active.

His apartment downstairs from mine was a party house. There were a lot of women and drugs around back then. We were using a lot of cocaine and weed at his place and and he acted like the women were not there. We would give some chick the money, she would go get us the cocaine, and come back and deliver it to us, and we would be doing lines and one of us would say about the chick who got us the dope, “Damn what I would give to fuck that chick!” He got really offended at remarks like that and acted like it was a gross or horrible thing to say. I thought that was pretty weird. I didn’t get it at the time. I thought he was just an altar boy.

Also a high school friend of mine was later found to be gay. He moved to Hollywood, got AIDS and died very fast.

At the time we knew him, I really do not think he was out at all because we got no gay vibes from him. He was just a stoner friend, and we used his room at his parents’ house as a sort of a hashish den. Now that I think back, he didn’t have a girlfriend, but most of us didn’t. But he also never talked about chicks, and that was weird.

Note that neither of these guys were out, presumably neither one had actually come to terms with his sexuality yet and neither one was actively gay, so calling them gay is a bit of a misnomer.

Bottom line is worrying that your best guy friend is a “secret queer” is about the stupidest thing that any man could ever worry about. Getting hit by lightning is probably more likely.


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The Liberation Dilemma

Daniel writes:

Mister Lindsay. You talk about the sorry state of western women a lot.

And you also seem to think that this is more of a recent trend, or that may simply be my impression. Typing this out quickly so it may be a bit hard to read.

Do you think their liberation has anything to do with it?

After all, Asian women (from asia, that culture) don’t tend to have these issues. There is the higher IQ (3-5 points), and while substantial over a population, I doubt it would account for this discrepancy.

Especially when western women used to be raised in a similar patriarchal environment prior to the 1960s and the later rise of gender neutral parenting.

Being candid about racial differences in IQ, the most taboo topic today, I can’t imagine you find the premise than men and women are identical mentally and all behavioral differences are cultural which supports feminism to be convincing.

I write about this a lot. Women and men inhabit different universes and the reason for that is biological.

Of course I supported women’s liberation as a child of the 60’s. But it opened a Pandora’s Box and most feminists now are just lunatics. It’s not a sane movement if it ever was.

Intelligence has nothing to do with it. Jewish women are way smarter than Asian chicks but Jewesses were raised under feminism and I understand that they are typical Western hellions.

Before women were like animals in the zoo. Sure, you can make modern zoos as humane as possible, but the animals are still in the zoo. They are not free. Prison is comforting, but at the end of the day, you are in jail and you are not a free man or animal. It wasn’t right to lock women or Blacks or gays in zoos or metaphorical prisons as we did.

Women, gays and Blacks were at best anthropological curiosities. You know, maybe it is fun to feed them and watch them in their cages, but you don’t exactly what them roaming free and really we straight White males are humans and those others are just zoo animals, so they are inferior.

The Liberation Movements of the 1960’s opened up the zoos in which we kept half the population, the queers, the Blacks and the rest. But now really we have the equivalent of lions and tigers running loose in our streets and you can’t call anyone to come capture these dangerous animals because it’s against PC.

Women nowadays are unleashed. They are untamed and feral. Feral women is not a pretty picture. It’s great for some guys and it’s crap for most. They revert to Cavewomen and practice hypergamy and other natural things that civilization was set up to keep in check in order to create a livable society. Women’s Liberation has led to Roissy, PUA’s, the Men’s Movement, Game Theory, the rise of the Republican Party and lots of other strange things. Women hate most of these things, but the truth is that they are children that women birthed.


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Live Dangerously, Get Women

About five years ago, a girlfriend broke up with me. She dumped me hard and told me what a loser I was and how much better the new guy was. She rubbed it in really mean and hard, saying he was even better in bed, etc. In other words, she was trying to get murdered. Instead of murdering her like I should have, I just let her dump me so I could stay out of prison. Six weeks later, she starts calling me and saying, “Whoops wrong number sorry. Oh it’s you. Call me later honey.”

I’m like huh? So we start talking again and I asked her, “So where’s Mr. Wonderful who you replaced me with?” She says, “Oh he’s boring. He’s just a boring old man. Boring, boring, boring. He makes me fall asleep.”

“So I’m better?”

Well, you’re scary. You’re scary as Hell. But scary’s hot. Scary’s sexy.”

Live dangerously, get women.

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How To Tell If a Woman Is a Lesbian

Scooby Doo writes:

Hey Robert, can you elaborate on identifying lesbians? Perhaps the vibe? I dated one for a month and something felt off then it hit me like a truck. She wasn’t open about it but it was small clues like her being called Steph instead of Stephanie. She was also a big tease to guys but had a really close female friend. I was still surprised how long it took me to catch on

I went to a liberal arts college that was known for lesbians, and many of them were downright mean. With the exception of one girl, I’ve yet to meet a lesbian who didn’t have an attitude for no apparent reason.

Why is a lez a cocktease? Makes no sense. One thing lesbians are not is cockteases.

Why in God’s name did this lesbian date you? She is a lez, why is she dating a man?

The attitude is because they figure out that you are straight and they hate straight men. That’s all it is. If they thought you were queer, they might like you. I doubt if they are mean human beings, but they don’t like straight men, that’s for damn sure.

Lesbians can often but not always be identified. The stereotypical lesbian is not necessarily a cold or hard woman, but when dealing with a straight man face to face, she often gives off a vibe like a sheer rock or brick wall of hate, ice or coldness. It’s a wall. You are talking to a wall of frozen ice and hate. Even if they are friendly, there is still that wall of icy frozenness that says, “I don’t like you that way.”

I met a somewhat famous lesbian recently at a talk she gave at my church. She wrote a book about her life and of course, like so many lezzes, she started out loving dick, screwing men and being a stripper and a whore before she saw the light and became a dyke. I think her lesbianism was a political statement, as it is with so many lezzes. She is also active in the Women’s Studies Department at the local universities. Most Women’s Studies Departments are out and out dykefests.

I went up to talk to her after the show, and she was there with her lez girlfriend. There was a gay man who I am friends with there, and of course he and the lezzes were getting on famously just like they always do. I walked into this midst, and it was like someone dropped a concrete block on the party. Her face went stony, and she didn’t want to talk. I got the message and took off.

It’s not that they don’t like men. They don’t like straight men. Gay men are just fine. Why do they hate straight men? Because we want to fuck them. Why do they like gay men? Because those guys don’t want to fuck them. This stuff is not that complicated.

Lesbians can be extremely friendly to gay men. In fact, I think it is a horrible omen when a lesbian gushes all over me. I went to work at this editorial office in Beverly Hills once that was full of gay and bi men. There was one woman there who was apparently a lez. I started questioning her real fast and caught onto her in no time.

She gushed all over me when she first met me and treated me like her pet poodle. I was like, “Oh no, she has the wrong idea. Here we go again.” I set about trying to put out the “Look you lez, I am straight dammit,” vibe and after a while she turned really cold, weird, and puzzled, and her attitude was, “Fuck off pig scum.” I thought, “Good, I am doing something right. The dyke hates me.”

A lesbian with a business often has her girlfriend working in the same place with her. If she is an older woman, she might have a young woman girl-toy in there with her. Or it might be an older lez like her. You pick up the vibe real quick. Ok, we have two dykes here running the store together girlfriend and girlfriend, probably live together, I get it. Both of them will adopt a rather coldish abruptness with hard, stony faces when they are around you.

I have met a few lesbians who did not come off like this, and they came off as friendly.

Some of the lezzes who seem friendly towards straight guys may not be all that lez. One I knew told me she was lez and was in a relationship with a woman, but she had moved to town recently, and I met her as soon as she moved there. One day at the coffee shop, she was talking really dirty to my friend. She was giggling and saying things like, “So, do you like shaved cats?” In other words, she was saying fuck me. A year or two later, she’s in a committed lesbian relationship, and she’s telling me she was born lez. Somehow I doubt that. If she’s born lez, why was she trolling for dick a couple of years ago?

Lesbians are repulsed by men. A lot of them hate our guts, and that is frankly the whole reason why they a lot of them are lez – bad experiences towards men. A lot of others got into radical feminism and are for all intents and purposes “political lesbians” as their lez thing is all about radical feminism.

Many lesbians find male bodies physically repulsive. If you mention cock, they act like they want to vomit. The thought of a man’s hairy balls is literally sickening. As with gay men who are disgusted by eating pussy, lesbians often finding the idea of sucking a cock to be the most repulsive thing of all. Somehow oral sex really brings out the repulsion for both genders of homosexual.

A typical lesbian’s attitude about dick is, “Ewwwwwww dick. Gross! Stay away from that, it’s disgusting!”

I know they think this way because I have talked to some lesbians, and they told me exactly this. I have seen online comments by lesbians and videos by them where they make these statements.

Not coincidentally, it is quite common for gay men to find women’s bodies physically disgusting, especially their breasts and genitals.


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Masculinity Studies


It’s a new field in academia. As you might have guessed, it’s been taken over by a bunch of queers! Gay men and lesbians apparently, emphasis on gay men. What exactly do gay men know about masculinity, except that they hate it? Granted lesbians know something about it, but they do not seem active in this field probably because they hate dick too much.

This is so stupid. Sure, it’s a great field for research. Of course it is. I really feel that masculinity is of profound importance in society. Nevertheless, it is a banned subject. If you bring it up, everyone gets weird and uncomfortable and they start asking you if you have issues with the subject. Straight men ask you to change the subject. Women look puzzled and ask why do you guys have such issues with this stuff anyway.

But none of this makes sense. Because although straight men consider this a banned subject, it’s not at all banned in their heads or even in their lives. It is just not up for discussion probably because thinking about it makes them too uncomfortable. It is one of those “do it, don’t talk about it,” subject. In my opinion, much of straight men’s lives are structured around masculinity.

With men who are heavily invested in this stuff, masculinity is informing their behavior and even thinking every minute of every day. How they move, walk, talk, hold a can of beer or a cigarette, stand, sit, make mannerisms, every body action they do is all wrapped up in this stuff. And I believe it effects how they think too. Certainly it effects how they feel.

It is not so much that masculinity is guiding all of this stuff but that these men have set up a framework of masculinity some time ago, maybe in childhood and probably in adolescence. This serves as a framework or structure through which all of their motor behaviors and even most thoughts and feelings are run through before they are engaged. After a while, this process becomes more or less unconscious, which is perhaps why straight men refuse to talk about it.

Nevertheless, punishments are quite serious for men who do not toe the line in this regard. It is extremely bad at junior high and high school level, and after that, it declines but it never goes away. Unmasculine behaviors are regarded with annoyance and puzzlement and males displaying those behaviors make masculine men uncomfortable, nervous and paranoid. Men not toeing the line are probably ostracized on some level or another.

Certainly masculine men do not really want to associate with them or want them as friends. A lot of their behaviors are viewed by masculine men as suspicious and possible indicators of hidden homosexuality. A lot of noncomforming men fall into a sort of wall of suspicion that never quite clears up.

Probably more important is that masculinity seems to be so much of the glue that sticks a straight man’s life all together. Why does he vote Republican? Masculinity? Why does he never go to the doctor? Masculinity? Why won’t he pick his underwear off the floor? Same thing. Why won’t he help around the house? Why does he abuse his wife verbally? Why does he beat her up? All that stuff is all wrapped up in masculinity. Even a lot of homicides committed by males are all wrapped up in masculinity stuff. You would think that a concept that may drive much male homicidal behavior is up for discussion but no it isn’t.

There is an old saw that if you are confident about your masculinity, you can handle all sort of stuff. You can wear pink. You can take insults to your masculinity, even from women. This is a great big lie. The more a male is invested in masculinity, the more likely he is freaked out to wear pink. The more offended he gets from attacks to his manhood, especially by women. The men who can wear pink and shrug off manhood assaults usually do not have a lot invested in masculinity. Often they are not particularly masculine guys.

So the more masculine you are, the more of an insult it is to say you’re not a man, or call you a pussy or a fag. In many machista societies, those are fighting words. Not only fighting words but killing words. South of border, an attack on a man’s masculinity is seen as proper grounds for a homicidal assault to protect honor.

Women are unbelievably wrapped up in masculinity too even though they never admit it and act puzzled when it’s brought up. Truth is that a lot of women’s relationships with men are all wrapped up in masculinity but women are too much into solipsism and denial and Fantasyland stuff to figure this out. If you want to be successful with women, you really need to figure out that masculinity is a huge part of their relationships with men, if you get involved with this chick, your masculinity is going to be a pretty big deal in your involvement with her. Straight men blow this off at their peril.

Let me give you an example of the all-compassing nature of masculinity. You know that Alpha -Beta – Omega, etc. Game stuff? Guess what? It’s all about masculinity. Duh.

Alpha – the most masculine men of all. Duh.

Beta – Most men. Not really unmasculine but not measuring up to Alphas so seen as unmasculine by women and mercilessly punished by women for that failure.

Omega – Utter zeroes in terms of masculinity. At any rate, women see them as zeroes on the masculinity scale. Not coincidentally, Omegas get no pussy whatsoever.

I could go on here but you get the point.


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