Harm OCD Versus Other Conditions: Differential Diagnosis

A very frequent complaint in OCD patients is thoughts of harm, either harming oneself or others. The general rule is that the person never acts on the thoughts, although this is somewhat controversial. Some say there have been a few cases of OCD’ers acting on their harm obsessions. It’s just that I have personally never heard of a case. In addition, as a peer counselor, I have worked with many people who have this particular theme as they come to me for help. I haven’t met one person yet who acted on the thoughts, and I have known people who have had this theme for 25 years or more.

In one case, a man had an obsession about turning his bicycle either in parked cars or into pedestrians (I forget which). He did say that sometimes he would just start to act on the obsession and turn his bicycle, but every time he did this, he simply crashed his bike. No one was hurt other than himself.

Generally, people read my articles and simply self-diagnose as OCD with whatever theme they have going. 100% of the people coming to me self-diagnosing as harm theme were in fact suffering from that very condition.

What to look for:

Resistance: I would look first and foremost for resistance. Look at how hard the person fights the thought. The harder the person fights the thought, the more likely it is to be an obsession. In fact, I would say that thoughts that are ferociously resisted are always or almost always obsessions. Resistance to thoughts is not commonly seen in other conditions. In asking around informally, I found that most persons without OCD simply do not ever try to stop or fight off their thoughts. They tell me things like, “I only think things I want to think,” and “I don’t have unwanted thoughts.” So resistance to thoughts in non-OCD’ers is probably not common.

Although it is often said that resistance is a bad sign in OCD as it makes OCD worse, I don’t really mind seeing resistance. The reason is that if a person is ferociously resisting and doing so successfully, then the OCD is simply not that bad yet. As OCD gets worse and worse, resistance gets harder and harder. I have talked to a number of people where the thoughts have simply taken over the person’s mind and are going all the time. They can’t resist them anymore, if they ever could. Inability to resist thoughts or thoughts that have completely taken over is what I regard as a more serious case.

Ego-dystonic: The person hates the thoughts, or at least it seems as if a large part of the person hates the thoughts. The new theory is that the entire self hates the thoughts and that no part of a person wants an obsession, but this is a bit controversial. Nevertheless, this is what I believe. I have had people tell me things like, “I hate this with every fiber of my being.” That’s a good sign when they can think like that. As the condition worsens, the person gets more and more confused about whether they like the thoughts or not or want to get rid of them or not.

In an advanced case of Harm OCD, the person will feel evil and it will seem as if they like the thoughts and do not want to get rid of them. Nevertheless, feeling evil, feeling like they like the thoughts and feeling like they don’t want them to go away will cause alarm and profound anxiety in the person as they feel that they are turning evil.

Ego-alien: The person is often confused as to why they are even thinking these thoughts. They tell me, “I have thought one million times, why the Hell would I even think of this stuff even one time, ever?” “I love my mother/father/husband/wife, etc. so why am I thinking about killing them?” I ask them if they feel angry and they often say that they don’t. The person is often frankly mystified why they are even having these feelings in the first place.

Thoughts go against the person’s morals: This is the reason for all of the distress, the resistance, the anxiety and the alarm. The thought of hurting or killing others seems profoundly wrong on at least some level. This moral feeling is what engenders the strong resistance, discomfort, anxiety, worry, alarm and whatnot.

Differential diagnosis: There are apparently quite a few people with ego-syntonic fantasies of hurting and killing other people. Sometimes it is someone they hate and sometimes it is just anyone in general, women in general, or whatever. The whole problem with this sort of thinking is that the people who are never going to do it are the only ones who show up clinically – that is, only the OCD’ers are ever going to show up. The people who are really going to hurt or kill other people or who like to think about it and area not bothered by it simply do not show up seeking help.

They go through life either choosing to think these violent thoughts, or at some point they give them up. In some cases, they act on them, but in many other cases, they do not. But this is a real problem: truly violent people generally simply do not show up clinically asking for help to try to stop acting on their violent urges. It would be nice if they did, but they just do not.

Sociopathy: This is not OCD. Sociopathy develops in childhood and adolescence and is generally a long standing problem. A non-sociopathic person simply cannot turn into a sociopath in adulthood de novo; it’s not possible. If you’re not a sociopath by age 18, you will never be one.

A casual survey by a friend of mine of sociopaths on an Internet board revealed that most to all sociopaths agreed with the following: “Thinking about hurting or killing people is one of the few things that I actually enjoy thinking about.” So we see that most sociopaths take great pleasure in thinking about hurting or killing people. They think about it whenever they want to. If they want to think about it, they do, if they don’t want to think about it, they don’t. It’s ego-syntonic. They don’t feel bad about having these sorts of thoughts. Thinking about this stuff is simply their idea of a good time.

Unfortunately, most sociopaths never show up in a clinician’s office. However, there is a team currently following 5 teenage sociopaths with clinically significant fantasies of being serial killers. They love to think these thoughts. They are ego-syntonic. They enjoy them. Just thinking about something is fortunately not grounds yet for hospitalizing someone. Anyone can fantasize about being any kind of criminal that they want to be. As long at they don’t do anything, there’s nothing that the law or psychiatry can do. In the case of the five young men above, the team is doing an intervention to try to prevent these kids from acting on these fantasies of theirs.

It is certainly possible to have feelings like this for years, even decades, without ever acting on them. One theory is that for every one person running around being a serial killer, say, there are maybe 100-1000 (or some unknown number) who dream of such things but due to various controls or fears or whatnot, they are unwilling to act on their fantasies. Nobody has to do anything.

Lack of guilt: You will sometimes run across people who have violent fantasies about people they hate. This is not OCD. They will often tell you that they are not going to act on the thoughts, but it sounds like a good idea since they hate the person so much. They do not feel guilty about these thoughts; instead they enjoy them. The thoughts are not resisted. A famous psychiatrist said, “A homicidal fantasy a day keeps the psychiatrist away.”

In some more florid conditions such as Borderline Personality Disorder or Bipolar Disorder, the person is making overt threats and seems to be capable of carrying them out. In my experience, they generally still don’t act on the threat, at least not homicidally. Obviously in some cases they do though. But I have observed that the overwhelming majority of homicidal threats are simply empty threats.

Nevertheless, this is cause for alarm, and under the Tarsakoff Rule, they can be hospitalized for making specific threats towards a specific person. In other words, if a person says, “I feel like killing people,” there is nothing we can do. There’s nothing to act on. But if a person is making a specific threat towards a certain known individual that seems to be a credible threat, clinicians have to notify the person being threatened and the person making the threats may be hospitalized, although in many cases, they are not committed,or if they are, it is only for the 1-3 day minimum. It is very hard, if not impossible, to determine in a clinical setting exactly who is dangerous and who is not.

Potential serial killer stopped: I read a case online that was very interesting. A man had Bipolar Disorder. At some point in the disorder, he developed elaborate fantasies of being a serial killer. He had assembled a very fancy murder kit including all the implements and whatnot that he might need. He also had a list of about 20 people he was going to kill. He had been following them and observing them for some time and had taken precise notes on many aspects of their location, travels, and behavior. He had notebooks with elaborate plans on how he planned to kill these people.

It’s not known how or why he revealed this in therapy, but he did. The threat was considered credible enough to be actionable. He was hospitalized for 1.5 years in an institution in which he underwent intensive therapy and was given medication. At the end of the period, his fantasies and desires to be a serial killer had been completely eliminated. He no longer wanted to do these things. The team said this was a very unusual case of intervention.

They noted that he was not a sociopath, and this was probably the only reason that he volunteered his plans in therapy and was able to renounce his desires, be alleviated of his desires and return to society as a healthy member. The man had apparently had some ambivalence about his plans, and this was due to his not being a sociopath. This was not a case of OCD. He enjoyed his elaborate plans, had been planning them for some time, had assembled kits and stalked potential victims and had elaborate, pleasurable, long standing and ego-syntonic fantasies about homicide which were not resisted.

A person with Harm OCD will never assemble a murder kit, write down elaborate plans for how they are going to kill people, stalk potential victims or even carry weapons. The overwhelming emotion here is fear, and the tremendous fear will prevent them from doing any of those things.

In fact, I have talked to a number of Harm OCD people who had “disarm” themselves before they went to see another person. They would have to remove all potential weapons from their person so they could not use them to attack the person they were with. I had others who would “disarm their vehicle” when another person was getting into it. They would take all potential weapons and hide them under the seat of the car so they would not use them to attack the person.

Sexual sadism: Sexual sadism is a paraphilia that almost always develops in its strong form in childhood or adolescence. The person’s preferred means of arousal involves hurting, inflicting pain on, humiliating, degrading, insulting and abusing an other person. These are people who like to hurt other people. They get off on it sexually.

Unfortunately, a very large number of serial killers are sexual sadists. They kill in order to get off sexually. Their masturbatory fantasies, since childhood or adolescence, have typically involved sadism, torture or even homicide. It is very common for serial killers to have a history of kinky sex with their wives or lovers. The kinky sex usually involved bondage, discipline and sadism and masochism. In addition, many have an erotic arousal going with images of dead bodies. They collect photos of dead bodies or women who appear to be dead. They apparently get off to images of this sort of thing. This sort of “death pornography” is available on the Internet, and it is quite dangerous. It may be legitimate to ban it.

I would also like to point out that the BD/SM scene is not a harmless scene. You are far more likely to run into a highly dangerous person in the BD/SM than outside of it. In a recent case in Fallbrook, California, a Marine wife was murdered by a BD/SM threesome in part to realize a sadistic sexual fantasy of theirs. And that is not the only such case where BD/SM sex scenes escalated out of control to homicide or serial homicide.

In a recent article by a young woman who joined the Yale University BD/SM club, she said she met a man there who pulled a knife on her and raped her, then said it was a BD/SM act. These acts escalated over time. At one point, he suggested to her that he was a serial killer. It is actually not uncommon to run into such folks in the BD/SM scene as sociopaths and sadists who are interested in hurting people will be attracted to this sort of sex.

Unfortunately, in many cases, sexual sadism tends to escalate over time. There have been cases of serial killers or murderers who could only orgasm if they were pretending to strangle their wives. A rather typical case might involve a gay man who is a sadist (sadism is extremely common in the gay community). His sadistic activities escalate over time. The last time he had sex, he burned a man with cigarettes. He got so excited that he wanted to kill the man, and he had to restrain himself from doing that. He presented to therapy thinking he was out of control. He was afraid he would kill the next man he had sex with.

This is not OCD. Fantasies in paraphilias such as sexual sadism are typically very pleasurable. The thoughts, images, feelings and urges are either seldom or never resisted. So what we look for her is an ego-syntonic syndrome with a lack of resistance. In addition, we are looking for strong sadistic sexual fantasies, typically dating from an early age, that are powerfully arousing. Such fantasies will be absent in Harm OCD.

However, in some very bad cases of Harm OCD, violent and sadistic thoughts about torture, murder, cannibalism etc. intrude quite often during masturbation or possibly sex. This is not sexual sadism; it is OCD. I have talked to a couple of OCD’ers who have this sort of thing intruding while they masturbate, and it was extremely unpleasant for them. The difference here is due to the intrusive nature of the thoughts which are generally not present in sexual sadism, where instead of being intrusive the thoughts are pleasant.

On occasion, a sociopath or potential serial killer will present to someone or other, more often law enforcement than a clinician. Usually they present only once and then go away. Possibly years later, they may begin killing. In one case, one of the prime suspects for the possible Smiley Face Killer Gang presented to a police station about powerful urges to drown young men. He was afraid he was out of control, and he was going to act on them. The police could do nothing to retain him. This is not a case of OCD. This is a sociopathic person who simply feels out of control.

In a case in the UK, a serial killer gave a warning years before killing that he felt he was out of control, and he was afraid he was going to kill someone. Once again, this is not OCD. It’s another sociopath who fears they are losing control. This person will be having strong, ego-syntonic fantasies of homicide for a long time which are not resisted. They are pleasurable to the person, but he doesn’t want to act on them at the time, probably due to fear of going to prison. Over time, homicidal fantasies may become stronger so that the capacity to resist putting them into action becomes more difficult.

In short, a diagnosis of Harm OCD is relatively straightforward and should prevent few problems.

What we are looking at here is the difference between problems of fear and problems of desire. OCD is a problem of fear. These other problems are problems of desire.

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5 responses to “Harm OCD Versus Other Conditions: Differential Diagnosis

  1. Brengunn

    Robert, do you get people who have harm ocd that is specifically connected to a body part, like it’s not just a thought but almost a physical sensation? Say, a person wanting to hurt their hand, would get the picture in their mind but also a feeling like the thought is tethered to the hand. That both are connected, getting rid of the hand will get rid of the thoughts.

    At different points in my life I’ve had thoughts like this about different parts of my body. Is that common?

    Also, you talk about resistance to the thought. Would you say these thoughts are qualitatively different from other fantasies. e.g like you mention above, I’ve willingly indulged in violent fantasies, kidnap, torture, murder but these thoughts are happily indulged and are more about taking power back or winning the girl etc. than the violence. The harm thoughts are more like feeling pictures that pop into my head without warning and have no personal gain attached, only emotional pain.

    • It is extremely controversial, but apparently obsessions are not fantasies at all!

      I am not sure about your first paragraph. Apparently most folks have the obsessive thoughts that you describe in that paragraph. Surveys show that 80% of the population has obsessive thoughts at times. It’s only OCD if it’s taking over your life and screwing up your life.

      The fantasies you describe are simply fantasies. You enjoy them. I am starting to think that many folks have these kinds of fantasies, even including kidnapping, torture and murder. I have an article in mind called One Man Kills While 100 Men Dream. That is for every guy running around doing antisocial shit, there 1000 or so that like to think about it but have enough controls that they know they are never going to do it.

      I still like you a lot even though you have these fantasies. It’s quite alright if you wish to think that way.

      Do you have a firm mind though that these are only fantasies, and that you don’t think you would ever actually carry them out? That would be the thing that I would be looking for. If you know you would never do it, you can think of anything you like. There’s a difference between thoughts and behavior anyway, and these are only thoughts.

      Yes fantasies are very much different from obsessions.

      The harm thoughts are more like feeling pictures that pop into my head without warning and have no personal gain attached, only emotional pain.

      That’s an exact description of an obsessive thought!

      How often do you have these thoughts? Are they under control, or do you feel they are out of control and ruining your life? That’s what we look at.

      • Brengunn

        Are they under control, or do you feel they are out of control and ruining your life?

        Na, I more or less grew out of them. They still occasionally come back but are brief and manageable. I had a period of years spanning my late teens early twenties where I was suicidal and felt myself to be deviant. That I was wired up wrong. I still feel a bit haunted by them though, as it was so intense.

        The violent fantasies are just that, fantasies. Sort of Walter Mitty type imaginings except with violence. I’m an extremely non-violent person, I hate confrontation of any kind. These thoughts are merely to sooth my ego as at the end I end up the hero(moral vanity), or execute the perfect murder(intellectual vanity) or sleep with a beautiful woman(sexual vanity). They are a way to deal with a harsh reality. I chide myself for indulging in them, thinking ‘you’d never do something like that, so why even think it’. It’s some sort of emotional crutch.

        You know that’s one of the reasons why I found the East Area Rapist public meeting rape so terrifying. I can imagine myself filled with bombast standing up and saying ‘I’d never let my wife be raped’ never knowing that someone would test my resolve. Jesus, I don’t like to think about it.

  2. Jack

    Robert… I suffer from a lot of the harm ocd symptoms you cover… I’ve never been a violent person I’m 19 turning 20 like the kid in one of the stories you mentioned. I don’t get to worked up about the thoughts anymore T first I was freaking out now it’s replaced with anger and it’s sort of like I go along with it n almost pretend to be how my thoughts make me out to be… But always come back n say no no that’s not right, what do you suggest is the best treatment? I’ve started meditating I just hope I haven’t developed some other personality as a result, I’m just sick of this shit it’s bullshit.

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