This subject creates so much nuttiness in both males and females alike that it’s actually pretty surprising. Truth is that this is one more thing that’s been ruined by feminism. We know this by looking at the attitudes of people from societies that haven’t been feminist-wrecked yet.
I asked my Mom and some female friends from other countries whether they thought it was weird or sick for older men to go for younger women.
My Mom: “LOL of course not. This sort of thing has been going on for as long as there is civilization. As the Roman’s say, a man can still have a child when there is snow on the roof, but a woman’s time is short. Older men seem to like younger women, and the truth is, it works the other way too. Older women hate it, but that’s just the way men are. You can’t do anything about it.”
Pakistani in Kuwait: “Of course not! Why is it weird? It’s completely normal. Here in Kuwait, I would say that the older men look at women more than the younger men do.”
Filipina in Philippines: “Huh? What do you mean weird? That’s just normal. All men like to look at women, older men, younger men. Why would anyone think that’s sick or weird?”
Thai woman (age 60) in the US: “LOL! Every man wants a younger woman! I want a younger man! Where do I get one? Get me one, Bob.”
As you can see, this desire is absolutely normal, 100%. On the other hand, reasonable men know that as we age, our chances of getting these hotties diminishes with each passing year. So I am philosophical. Young women and even mature teenage girls are pretty nice to look at, but it would be a miracle if I could get one at this late date. And I’ve already been there and done that scores of times anyway, so I’m not missing anything.
Most of the outrage comes from women, generally older women. The notion that we are leaving them for young hotties sends them into conniption fits.
A lot of young women are also offended, but more from modern US culture and less from those of traditional cultures.
There is also a lot of outrage coming from young men, who generally think we are poaching from their females herds which they jealously shepherd.
Once men start having some kids, especially female kids, a whole new set of crazy comes up, called policing teenage daughter’s sexuality. The only person who gets anything out of this game is Dad. The daughter hates it and so does Mom, who works with daughter to undermine Dad’s project.
At my age, you have to be pretty careful how you look at young women and especially how you talk to them. I practically keep scorecards in my head to see where I am at with this or that young woman so I can figure out how I can act around her and what I can say without getting into problems. Nevertheless, these problems are generally easy to deal with via controlling yourself to some extent. A little paranoia helps too.
Part of the problem seems to lie in the insane idea many women have that an older guy can just go grab any young hottie that comes along with the greatest of ease. This is why they are so furious about this sort of thing. But like so many female notions, it’s all emotional weather and no logical highway.
I know a lot of guys my age. The number of them who have been able to get any young woman at all is very small. Even in the few that did, the relationships didn’t last very long. I figure for me to get a young hottie it would practically take a miracle of God. So this female blustering doesn’t take into account the logical notion that the vast majority young women, especially the hotties, don’t have the slightest bit of interest in us!
One reason an older man likes a younger woman is flattery. As we get older, with each passing year, it gets harder and harder to attract younger and younger women. They just aren’t interested in us! Quit worrying, ladies!
For those of us who are narcissistic and bet on the losing horse known as the body, aging is particularly painful. This is especially true if you were handsome as young man, as I’m told I was. It’s tough to go from walking into a nightclub and every woman in the club turns around and stares dagger eyes right at you (yes this used to happen) to being a virtual cipher. Being ignored is painful, especially when one was raised on being adored.
So it is that at my age, when I go out in public, I often don’t attract many women. Sure, I attract some, but not that many. This is painful for those with enough self-love to crave attention. Sure, women my age look at me sometimes, but that doesn’t really feel very good. Like a dark cloud went by, it’s hardly even flattering.
If a woman in her 40′s looks at me, well, that’s better. 30′s, much, much better. 20′s, and now you are really striking gold. Hard to attract a woman in her 20′s at my age. A teenage girl? My God! If I could attract a teenage girl at my age, God truly shone his light on me that day.
As you can see, as you age, the younger and younger of a woman you can attract, the more flattering it is. What? I’m 54, and I can still attract a 16 year old? I can die happy now!
I was driving around town the other day and drove by the high school. What the Hell, this town is ugly as sin, and that’s about the only decent scenery in the place. As long as you’re discreet, Olive Avenue’s pretty much a scenic highway at midafternoon. There was a young 16-17 year old girl standing by the gate. I glanced over. She immediately snaked her body in slithering move that spelled sex sex sex sex while looking laser eyes right at me. Damn that felt good. I went home and felt great for the rest of the day.
It’s not about perversion or anything like that. It’s about validation, affirmation and attention. People, even aging men, like to feel attractive. And why not?