A female friend of mine is surprised that there are young, intelligent, single guys who aren’t getting any. But this is the typical line of women. They always assume that guys can get laid anytime they want to, and they are amazed that there are any guys who aren’t getting any, or who haven’t gotten any in some time.
This is because a single, attractive woman has guys after her all the time. She can get laid anytime she wants to. I have been told that even homely and heavy women can more or less get laid anytime they want to, if they want to lower their standards enough. This is because guys always want to fuck, and a lot of guys will just fuck anything. My neighborhood is full of heavy and homely women, some very homely and very heavy, sometimes both. They’ve more or less all got men, and the ones that don’t seem to be doing without by choice.
Lots of guys can’t get women, or can hardly get a woman. Of all ages. It’s more or less normal for single guys in general. This whole idea that any single guy can get laid any time he wants to is just insane if you ask me.
I know a lot of guys who have gone years without so much as having a date. Good looking, intelligent guys with good jobs of all ages ranging from 23-50. And a lot of single guys go on long dry spells. I know a 52 year old virgin. In my old town, it was well known that there were some guys, not gay, who had never been seen with a woman.
Now some of these guys are kind of weird, some are angry, some are shy, but some of are none of the above.
I’m not surprised that some commenters on this site are having a hard time getting women. That’s just normal to me.
Women don’t give it up that easily, and they usually want something in return. The ~15% alphas get ~85% of best women, and a lot of the rest of guys are left holding the bag.
Even in this poor town, I don’t have many women after me these days. I’m not young anymore, but a few women have said I look great for my age, better than most guys my age. I’m not pathologically shy, and I can have a pretty slick personality. I dated hundreds of women, I know women very well, I know how to act around them and how to play the game.
Nevertheless, I go around town, and honestly, most women don’t even give me a second look most of the time. Young women almost universally ignore me, apparently due to age. I can barely even look at them or even try to talk to them, even if they are at the counter while I’m buying something.
They typically assume that I’m trying to pick up on them, but I’m usually just trying to talk . They tend to shut down the conversations really quickly. When I talk to them again, I say almost nothing, because conversation is closed off.
I even have a reputation in a few places as being an aging lecher, and I never even asked any of them out. All I made the mistake of doing was looking at them and trying to engage them in conversation. There are a few I still talk to, but I am totally paranoid the whole time I am talking to them to make sure I’m cool and don’t say anything weird or especially anything that is remotely sexual in any way.
The weird thing is I think now I have a reputation for trying to pick up on young chicks, or younger women period. It’s nonsense. The only reputation I deserve is trying to have a conversation. If I’m trying to pick up on you, you’re going to know. At the very least, I am going to be flirting with you very heavily and openly, and if I’m serious, I’m going to ask you for your phone number. If I’m not asking for your number, I’m not trying to pick you up, real simple. How women think you’re trying to fuck them when you ask about the weather is beyond me.
Honestly, I don’t think even women my age look at me all that much. Most of them aren’t much to look at anymore anyway, and most of them seem like they aren’t horny anymore either. A lot of them are pretty unhappy too. They look bad; they feel bad. Great. I look at them and think, “Yuck.”
I think I am at the age where I’m not seen as attractive by women in general. I’m grandpa to the young uns, and the older ones are burned out and out of the game.
I have good social skills, probably still have good looks, am funny, very smart, have lot of experience with women and know how to talk and act around them. If I have this many problems, I could imagine what other guys are going through, especially those without much experience or don’t know very well how to talk or act around women.What about guys who are shy, nervous, weird, lack social skills? I can’t see it.
The fact that guys just can’t get it any old time in general like women can is why guys just say fuck it and get married. Men claim they marry for love, but really they marry for sex. Steady, reliable, no hassle, regular sex. You don’t have to worry about it anymore. It’s right there in your bed every night, and all you have to do is ask.
Robert, you may want to consider taking this post down lest Dano sees it . . . he’ll want to introduce you to his enormous, hairy girlfriends. Cheers!
This is why homosexuals will always be more prone to contracting STDs. Gay men are gay but they’re still men – they’ll take sex just about whenever they can get it. There’s no gatekeeper.
“[A]ll you have to do is ask” – or so the theory goes, anyway.
You’re very defensive about these young girls thinking you’re hitting on them. Young girls are notorious bi**hes, the excessive Hollywood / Reality Bimbo escapades on TV daily fuels their behavior. Women in their 30′s are either settled w/kids or diligently looking for that, and women in their 40′s are either tired and not interested, husband or not, or lucky enough take advantage of the pre-menopause hormonal rush, like a 17 yr. old boy. How you guys go thru your lives with sex on your minds 24/7 and get anything else done is amazing.
Surprisingly, I’m in a similar situation as you as far as sex goes. Currently seeing a guy, late-40′s, who likes the same outdoor activities, have fun together, good conversation, everything… but he doesn’t seem to desire sex often at all. I’m considered pretty to very pretty – not beautiful – tall, thin, professional, son in the army, never married, no baggage, no drama, whatever. Not ALL Men ‘want sex all the time’. I know several girls, single and married, in similar situations.
In general, I think women (who aren’t whores) will choose to be with someone they think they can trust – over anything else in particular. Even if horny, you have to pass the ‘instinct test.’ I guess because we never think of sex as a one-night stand. We’re ultimately looking for some regular action too. Will I want to sleep with him again? Is he a decent guy? As far as you’re concerned Robert, those young girls, they don’t think so… but what do they know.
1) I don’t think this is the case for women over a certain age. Certainly most woman over 50 are pretty much invisible, sexually. Lots of women in their forties as well, depending on health and genetics. I’m 43 (and in good shape) and the only guys who check me out anymore seem to be 50 and up.
2) Getting married isn’t a guarantee of regular sex, for men or women. Women and men both are both at risk of losing interest as they get older. Men are at risk of losing the ability as well–the pills don’t work for everyone. If the spouse who’s still able and still interested is committed to the marriage he/she is pretty much guaranteed never to have sex for the rest of your life. Talk about bleak. Not sure who has it worse–the committed spouse in a sexless marriage or the perpetual virgin….
So? You yourself seem to dislike the fact that only 50+ men check you out. So if you’re not attracted to older men why should younger men (some of which are actually attractive contrary perhaps to the older demographics) be attracted to you?
It was intended as an observation, not a complaint. In my case it’s irrelevant since I’m married (to a fifty-something guy for what it’s worth).
My point was that it’s not necessarily true that all “women can get sex anytime they want.” Over a certain age, it’s much harder for women to attract anyone who is still willing and able.
If you don’t mind me asking … how old are you?
53.
Then your thing must have shrunk and lost its sheen…
Why dont u just shut up and eat popcorn and worship in your church you horsedick!!! Leave things that you cant do to us !!!
Well, gee, looks like you got yourself banned, curry breath. Head off back to Bharat now.
Sigh.
It’s true women can get laid anytime. Lol!
You’re a middle -aged complaining about how younger women don’t find you attractive, while insisting you don’t find middle-aged women attractive. Newsflash, young women feel the same way about you that you feel about women your own age: yuck!
Robert, I think you’ve mentioned that you live in a small town in the San Joaquin Valley. Maybe you aren’t exactly in prime territory to meet single women. I think of places like that as being more geared towards families, not singles. For starters you should consider getting out of Dodge and going somewhere more suitable for single men.
Sometimes I resent the fact that women can get sex anytime they want whereas men can’t. But I guess when you really think about it, it’s probably best that nature designed things that way. If women wanted sex as much and as indiscriminately as men do, people would be fucking all day non-stop. Nothing would ever get done. You’d probably hear people fucking in public restrooms every time you went in. Also, even though women can get sex anytime they want, it will not necessarily be from a man they want, nor would it be from a man that actually will answer the phone when they call the next day. It’s not in women’s nature to pump and dump. So sure, she can get a dick in her pretty much anytime, but most want a guy that actually cares about them. So women may have just as hard a time getting what they want as men do. I think a woman who gets sex all the time but can’t find a man that wants to marry her is analogous to a man that’s a 40 year old incel.
And wow! A 52 year old virgin?!?! Can’t imagine why anyone that age wouldn’t have just gone to a prostitute even once just to know what it’s like. I’ve heard that once a virginal guy hits 40 or so, he’s pretty much incurable at that point.
You heard that huh? From who?
Women are as sexually active as men but they are more selective than men. As Robert said all women want that alpha male and so we have situation in America that is similar to polygamous societies where so called alpha males are monopolizing much of the sex.
The truth is is that the sexual situation between men and women is just a matter of men getting played by females hard. Men are the biggest losers when it comes to the sex game.
When a woman gives a man sex she feels she is giving him something. When a man gives a woman sex she feels she is giving him something. Women do not acknowledge men as giving them anything when they have sex unless the man is black.
So basically the male genitalia is worth less than nothing and female genitalia is worth everything. Men are treated as expendable when it comes to sexual matters. But this is because men collectively refuse to be selective. Some men are selective but collectively men are not selective. If collectively men were selective about who they slept with then women wouldn’t rule the sex game anymore. There would be shared power.
Men: rise up. Stop being played by women, women are getting too good a deal when it comes to the sex game. They do not deserve it. They deserve an equal partnership with men.
Once you go hirsute, you give the rest the boot.
Fat ugly women (same thing really) can get laid at will but will have trouble keeping a guy who is in high demand. I agree with your post though. Lots of good-looking, intelligent, personable, and sometimes monied guys can’t get laid.
High-quality free internet pornography combined with masturbation is oftentimes much better than sex, especially with below-average looking girls. So if a guy cannot get above a 6, for example, instead of dating down he may go to Porn Hub a lot, for example.
All women are prostitutes.
Go to this post and look at my comments under my other pseudonym, “sam h:”
http://infoproc.blogspot.com/2011/06/big-pimpin.html
Suggestion, Bob. carry around print-outs of your work. Tell the gals you’re a writer. Ask questions that subtly hint if they’d like dating a creative , widely published guy, but don’t imply the publication has resulted in riches. Just that they exemplify an interesting, inquisitive personality. And keep a thick skin.
You’ll get takers when you ask them out, or their phone numbers, etc.
Might not be good matches but this is best technique available imo.
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Robert, your website makes me horny. *left holding the bag* that was a good one.
You are always trying to figure out women like they are a different sort of being. I don’t particularly like them, but that’s cuz they don’t make me horny. I love being around men because they usually make me laugh and that makes me horny. If you aren’t having fun with women for whatever reason, you’re going to feel weird around them. I think you would feel so much better if you just don’t worry about what they’re thinking, cuz in general most people are assholes and it doesn’t matter what they’re thinking, if in fact they are thinking.
Energy trumps age and appearance. People who don’t have sex might just be confused about what sex is for.
oops. *People who don’t have sex might just be confused about what sex is for.* I was thinking about certain people I know who complain about not being able to get certain other people to have sex with them, and then they themselves rudely turn down certain other people for sex. To me, if you just want to have sex, that’s pretty simple. If you are trying to connect in an intimate way with another human being, starting out by evaluating their weight, looks, income, etc., seems not the right place to start. Start with their energy, also known as the heart.
Link below…Benjamin Franklin’s advice to a friend detailing why, in his opinion, older mistresses were preferable to younger ones. For one thing, “they are so grateful!”
http://grammar.about.com/od/classicessays/a/franklinmis.htm
LOL.
If you want gratitude for sex, yes, go with someone you think is desperate.
Eh, given that men are the ones who are “supposed” to be grateful, seems a nice change of pace to be with a woman who’s grateful to you instead of thinking she’s doing you a favor.
On this subject, here’s something from a story by Isak Dinesen:
You know what’s weird? I’ve had some women thank me for having sex with them. This one time, I spent like 45 minutes or so eating this woman’s pussy, and when we were done, she leaned back and said, “Thank you.”
This one time, I spent like 45 minutes or so eating this woman’s pussy, and when we were done, she leaned back and said, “Thank you.”
Sounds American.
Catfight! Sweet. Amy, I don’t think either one is supposed to be grateful. I have had a lot of sex with a lot of different men, and I don’t go for that. When I was doing it for fun, it was fun, I would be creeped out doing that with someone as a favor. When I was doing it for love, if I wasn’t totally in the mood, I still didn’t want gratitude. Same thing as wanting gratitude for a kiss or a hug, isn’t it?
Hah! I meant my response to be more tongue-in cheek, really. Should have added one of these: :-p
I agree that a very grateful partner can be kind of creepy. As can a partner with a sense of entitlement.
nice. i’m satisfied. and i mean that sexually.
Hmm…for me, the response to “Mohammad” was actually the most telling thing in this whole thread.
Ohhh boy — ok, I read a few more of the comments and realized that I have somehow found myself reading and commenting in the wrong blog. Neeeeverrrrr mind. *backing away slowly* Not for me. Shoulda kept my mouth shut. Feel free to remove my previous comment and I promise never to come back here. Ok, then. Buh-byeeee!
You will not be missed!
You said women can get laid anytime they want ” if they lower their standards”.. Robert, believe it or not, there are plenty of women ugly enough to fuck even you. Right or wrong, most women aren’t impressed with a wannabe anarchist whose claim to fame is Bigfoot blogging, but then again, maybe you should move here to the Ozarks where there’s plenty of gummed up meth whores most of whom have been sleeping with Bigfoot’s cousin all their lives. Now. Ban me. Please?
I think you put your finger on it (lol). It’s a high class problem, when you have standards for who you are willing to fuck.
Done.
I think any guy who is willing to drop his standards can also get laid. I had periods in my life where I didnt get laid – some very long dry spells – and it was always because I wasnt willing to put in the social effort (was going through anti-social or shy phases) and wasnt willing to drop my standards. Even during these times I could have gotten laid had I dropped my standards.
Nearly any guy if he is willing to be social and willing to drop his standards enough can get laid, I dont buy into this whole guys cant get laid business. Of all my friends right now who are not getting laid, ALL of them are anti-social cant act normal around women – its entirely a self-imposed social issue for them.
Plus, I know lots of girls who cant get the man they want – in fact, cant get a man on their level, in other words they are in the same situation as guys, they can only get some if they drop their standards.
I have heard this meme before but nothing in my experience has confirmed it.
I think that’s absolutely ridiculous. And a lot of guys can’t act normal enough to get women no matter how hard they try anyway.
There’s a pussy shortage. There’s always a pussy shortage. Civilization works off the principle of a pussy shortage for single men.
You are right on the money, Kassel. I live in a place where dating is complicated and long winded, as the culture is very puritan and discourages gender mixing. However, I had those times where I could have got laid more often, with only my standards holding me back. The women who were willing were either unattractive to me or had a personality flaw that I am not willing to deal with.
If a guy sees every pussy as a fair game, regardless of the woman’s level of attractiveness, he would have no problems getting woman. The idea that women are somehow the gatekeepers of the sexual market is a popular myth.
Well, In most non-Western hookers are on call for every male, so almost all men get regular sex of a kind roughly analogous to the one night stand so beloved of Western lotharios, so I dont know if civilization is built on a pussy shortage. Certainly not in Asia.
I dont deny that there are lots of men in the modern West who dont get laid, but I deny they cant get laid. In reality, they can, if they are just willing to be social. Every dry spell I had was because I went into social deep freeze, and every guy I know who isnt getting any is simply terrified of being social with women. If youre a guy, and you are willing to be social, not even *good* at being social, just being social, you WILL get laid. Maybe not with the girl of your dreams and it may take some number of approaches, but it will happen, with regularity.
The problem is that we have lots of guys who are scared off being social with women, and the notion that we have to *try* to do or be something special to get with women, which creates massive and paralyzing performance anxiety. Get rid of the idea that you have to do anything special around women and just be social, you WILL get laid. May not be the hottest girl around, but it will happen. Its a really hard message for most guys to believe because we are bombarded with messages that a guy has to be some kind of God to get laid, but ironically, its *precisely* that notion is that is preventing guys from getting laid by creating crippling performance anxiety. Truth is you dont have to do much to get laid provided you are approaching at your level.
As for women, sure, since its the guys role to approach they will be offered sex, but can they get the cool hot guy their slavering over? Probably not. So girls have to settle, too, if they want to get laid.
I simply do not believe this at all. And I am a sexual revolutionary. My attitude is do it in the streets. I have to admit that the revolution failed. It’s obvious.
Fair enough, and I suppose we can only argue our respective experiences.
However, I will say one thing; I think what is holding a lot of guys back from getting girls is this notion that they cant just *be themselves*. Part of being self-confident is not changing yourself to suit others, and any approach which advises men to change themselves to suit women, whether by being *nice* or being an *alpha*, will make men less attractive to women.
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One word: expat. If you are reluctant to leave your beloved America, go travel to Latin America for several weeks (but not meet with other expats but with local people). All your mating problems will disappear.
If a guy used to get all the poontang he wanted and can’t get it any more, there are a few obvious possibilities.
1. Word got around that he’s not worth the bother, even though he might be a voracious pussy eater. You can train a dog to do that.
2. He got older but he was only ever appealing to clueless girls and women. Women his own age aren’t falling for his shit any more, and he is now too fat or ugly to attract stupid good looking younger women. He is unwilling to pay because he wants to be desired for himself, but there’s nothing there worthwhile.
Any man of any age who is worth fucking with will be fucked with. Even in America.
Get off the blog woman. I’ve had it with your insults. Take off and don’t come back.
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I agree with Roberts post. I lived in San Francisco during the dot.com era and beyond (1998-2009). Most neighborhoods (even the Castro) had more single women than single men and I could never get a date, a phone number, or even a coy glance. Even the very “shy” type of gal was hit on, and she could get sex if she wanted to. Men, having to be the “pursuer” and gushing confidence (usually it was arrogance, not confidence. Women have confused arrogance to mean confidence) and desperation to get a girl. I just got tired after 500 or so rejections or shutdowns.
San Francisco 1998, bar in the SOMA. Just after work.
Me: (to cute gal whose glance met mine for longer than a few seconds) “Hello! Decompressing from the day?”
Her: (snarly upper lip and the classic smelling onions look) “Umm yeah, I have a boyfriend.”
Multiply that by 500 and you get the picture.
Not angry or mad, or even jealous at this point. Just stating fact.
Great page by the way…..
@ Kassel..
I somehow question your knowledge of women..
Even ugly, beastly women have standards, perhaps not standards regarding their potential partner’s physical attractiveness, but standards none-the-less. If you are a socially awkward guy, it will repulse them and you’d have to rape the beast to sleep with it.
P.S. Robert has banned me before for commenting on his totally ignorant, laughable assessment of Chinese dialects. He may choose to do so again. I really don’t care.
Thx for reminding me! I did my good turn for the day…
The way to win this game is to be celibate and concerned with more important things in life. Then you really rule the women around you.
http://www.rooshv.com/you-cant-get-laid-in-the-united-states
What I think it really comes down to is peer pressure. Men are under peer pressure to have sex and females are considered upstanding and moral if they wait until marriage. It’s a bullshit double standard.
That said, if I wanted to spend my life screwing around, I’m sure I could.
max-logic.com/2011/01/12/the-drought-is-so-real/
There is also another issue of supply-demand. If you find that you have it difficult in the dating market, maybe a change of scene would increase your chances. This applies especially to men in Robert’s situation, who is probably discriminated against because the women are either spoilt for choice and have some biases against older men trying to pick up young women.
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Im 47 and recently. Divorced just want to make out, forplay, makelove and curse all night long.
I want to fall inlove again. I know it doesn’t sound masculine but, a woman is Gods greatest creations and I want one to love in me Too. My love language. Is touch.
Robert
From my experience in the US, one of the most unfortunate things that I have noticed is that geeks in engineering and sciences find it the hardest to get laid. First, males are over represented in these fields. Then, they have to work all kinds of hours just to get decent grades and that leaves them with barely enough time to rest and also, develop their personalities by constantly being in the game. The only ones I knew who did get laid frequently were in boring, long term relationships with somebody they knew back from their high school. I’m talking about Americans here. Chances of Indian geeks getting laid are close to zero though I know of some startling exceptions (one of them a guy barely 5’6″ tall that I thought would never laid. Period).
We experienced a similar scenario back in India at IIT Madras. The male to female ratio was 6:1 and the few chicks that made through were fugly (with rare exceptions of course). Fortunately, there was a fashion institute nearby and there were some nice chicks for the taking over there: especially for guys with motorbikes. It all had to be done under the auspices of a sham “relationship” though replete with gifts and coddling that goes with it. Indians are covert fuckers.
Here in the US, surprisingly, I have found music majors or musicians to be the hidden jewels and surprisingly active. I dated an older flute playing woman once for a few months a couple of years back. She was hyperactive and played my flute to perfect resonance. The experience was out of the world. Even fake orgasms did not bother me and I appreciated the intent behind them. She made me a better man.
I am glad to hear of your experiences my friend!
The problem with most Indian geeks is that they are too hung up on the technicalities when it comes to the dating game. One don’t need hours to develop a personality like Jim Morrison to attract women. Just a good personal hygiene, a good dress sense, an open mind and basic social skills would do. They take no more time and effort than the average geek wastes in video games. I’d probably write a blog post on this topic, when I have the time.
If all you want is sex, then frankly, you don’t deserve women. Heh, poetic justice…
But seriously, I disagree for two reasons…
First, I am an fairly attractive woman, and I am not getting laid. You do not factor in the shy, wallflower women that are overshadowed by the flamboyant, often hypersexual women. Men go for them, they don’t pay attention to us. It is not easy for us to get sexed up at all. It may seem proposeterous to you, but I’m a woman, I should know. If you ain’t sluttin it up, you get ignored.
Second, men have it easier because you don’t even have to care about the person you lay with. Many women, including myself, need a connection of some sort before we hit that. Well, I suppose no one needs it, but want it anyway. Men can slam it and walk away. You’re the lucky ones, you don’t have to cultivate a connection beforehand.
Anyway, that’s why it pisses me off when men say we can get laid easier. No, shy women don’t have that much of a chance either. Sure, maybe if I went up to a guys and asked if he wanted to f**k it may work, but if I asked for a relationship along with it I’d be screwed. Yeah, I want something in return. I’m human aren’t I?
Anyway, there is no p***y shortage. Women outnumber men in this world. If you just want pussy, stop complaining and get a hooker. You know, those women that walk the streets at night? Well, you can pay them to do whatever you want with you!! OMG!!
Banned. Hostile tone. Back to your apartment now.
A lot of guys are shy too you know. What about them?
I’m in a similar mode.
I’m 45 years old now. And getting women is no longer like shooting ducks in a barrel… In fact it changed so dramatically after I turned 40,
It seems that my ”career” is now over!
I swear, all through my 20′s and 30′s I always had plenty of women.
I’ve slept with well over a hundred women… Without paying, or going to Thailand!
(although I went to Thailand 2 years ago and it was great… but that’s another story)
When I turned 40, my 27 year old girlfriend of 4+ years, threw me a surprise birthday party…. Then later that night, she dumped me.
So I went out to the same places that I did great at in my mid 30′s…
But suddenly, I couldn’t get laid in a 50 cent whore house, with a fist full of fifties!!!
Anyways, I wrote a whole record about this shit!
It’s called ”Beware the Weapon” by LAMMY aka Mr. True …
It’s FREE on the internet.
(and yes, why it is free is another story too)
You have described my life to a tee. Late 30s, good looking still, fit with a good body, very intelligent but I’m a ghost to women. They cut me dead when I speak and never look at me anymore. The game has changed and I’m an observer now not a participant .. even women 5-10 years older avoid me and I cannot fathom it. On paper they should be stalking me?
It’s a bit depressing really…
Truly, all a woman needs to do, in order to attract as many handsome, intelligent, charming and freindly men, is get her body in half decent shape. If a man can see an attractive shape he’ll take genuine notice. He’ll look again and again.
A man will gather information, analyze the situation and find his comfort zone then he’ll approach. It may not be for sex, but merely approval of some sort. This is where most men go down in flames and begin that trip toward sexual isolation that lasts men from middle age, to the end of their lonely lives..
A man, even with a great body must also be able to display the proper amount of swagger in all situations. One slight moment of confusion or lack of confidence, his prospective mate witnesses, brings him back to square one and he may not get another chance. A man must be champion all the way to the bed and then he must be impressive in bed as well. Women need only look the part and not emit horrible odors. Women don’t need to be witty or wealthy or confident or have dynamic levels of phermones to land a man who shows interest. Because as many women here still deny, once a man shows interest he’s as good as gotten for her needs or wants. She has only to play a game to see if there is anything she would be passing up. The total advantage is for women and men “shot down in flames” get battle worn. Soon, they isolate themselves, avoid any contact (even meaningless social chit chat) and live quietly in desperation hoping one day to just get lucky. And we men cling to hope because that is truly all we have. Whereas women have options.
All men are bit shy when talking to women for the first time. but I don’t want to talk behalf other men. From my experience , I had never known a man who had an easy time when it comes to attracting women. My friends (many of them very well looking guys, intelligent …)are still virgings. All what they want is experience what is sex like, without paying for it. I had been many times with those friends in bars and clubs trying to meet women and all we achieved were humiliating , awkward and embarrassing rejections. Week after week. Year after year. Each and every .
When I find myself being single for 17 years straight, I have decided to settle for an ugly girl. I did and it worked out. I am still with her today. She loves me…I haven’t told her that the only reason I’ve approached her was the fact that she was ugly enough to not reject me. I am unhappy man who has regular sex with someone I don’t love.
I moved to the UK with the hope , that if i won’t use my native language when talking to girls I might get luckier. But I was wrong, Is it actually worse since I’m not still fluent enough…
I am searching articles on the Internet trying to understand why men have it so much harder when it comes to attracting the opposite sex , and this s how I got here…
This is a great thread Robert and I am in full agreement with you.
I am a 26 year old englishman who is well educated, good looking, in exceptional shape and very confident.
One statement will sum the whole thread up:
WOMEN CHARGE AND MEN PAY
That is why women will always hold the upper hand unfortunately.
Any women can get sex when she likes and that is how it will always be.
You only have to use this example:
If for example Megan Fox walked up to 10 blokes who she had never met in her life and said: Hi your hot. fancy coming back to mine for a F***, I am sure at least 9 would say yes if not the full ten, even those in a relationship/marriage.
Roles reversed, If a young Brad Pitt does the same to 10 women he has never met, some would say yes, some would say no, some would slap him,some would say you are not my type, some would say I have to get to know you better and the list goes on and on and on.
The reason nobody wants to fuck you is that you’re an inebriate communist loser.
Banned.