Women Can Get Sex Anytime They Want, Men Can’t

A female friend of mine is surprised that there are young, intelligent, single guys who aren’t getting any. But this is the typical line of women. They always assume that guys can get laid anytime they want to, and they are amazed that there are any guys who aren’t getting any, or who haven’t gotten any in some time.

This is because a single, attractive woman has guys after her all the time. She can get laid anytime she wants to. I have been told that even homely and heavy women can more or less get laid anytime they want to, if they want to lower their standards enough. This is because guys always want to fuck, and a lot of guys will just fuck anything. My neighborhood is full of heavy and homely women, some very homely and very heavy, sometimes both. They’ve more or less all got men, and the ones that don’t seem to be doing without by choice.

Lots of guys can’t get women, or can hardly get a woman. Of all ages. It’s more or less normal for single guys in general. This whole idea that any single guy can get laid any time he wants to is just insane if you ask me.

I know a lot of guys who have gone years without so much as having a date. Good looking, intelligent guys with good jobs of all ages ranging from 23-50. And a lot of single guys go on long dry spells. I know a 52 year old virgin. In my old town, it was well known that there were some guys, not gay, who had never been seen with a woman.

Now some of these guys are kind of weird, some are angry, some are shy, but some of are none of the above.

I’m not surprised that some commenters on this site are having a hard time getting women. That’s just normal to me.

Women don’t give it up that easily, and they usually want something in return. The ~15% alphas get ~85% of best women, and a lot of the rest of guys are left holding the bag.

Even in this poor town, I don’t have many women after me these days. I’m not young anymore, but a few women have said I look great for my age, better than most guys my age. I’m not pathologically shy, and I can have a pretty slick personality. I dated hundreds of women, I know women very well, I know how to act around them and how to play the game.

Nevertheless, I go around town, and honestly, most women don’t even give me a second look most of the time. Young women almost universally ignore me, apparently due to age. I can barely even look at them or even try to talk to them, even if they are at the counter while I’m buying something.

They typically assume that I’m trying to pick up on them, but I’m usually just trying to talk . They tend to shut down the conversations really quickly. When I talk to them again, I say almost nothing, because conversation is closed off.

I even have a reputation in a few places as being an aging lecher, and I never even asked any of them out. All I made the mistake of doing was looking at them and trying to engage them in conversation. There are a few I still talk to, but I am totally paranoid the whole time I am talking to them to make sure I’m cool and don’t say anything weird or especially anything that is remotely sexual in any way.

The weird thing is I think now I have a reputation for trying to pick up on young chicks, or younger women period. It’s nonsense. The only reputation I deserve is trying to have a conversation. If  I’m trying to pick up on you, you’re going to know. At the very least, I am going to be flirting with you very heavily and openly, and if I’m serious, I’m going to ask you for your phone number. If I’m not asking for your number, I’m not trying to pick you up, real simple. How women think you’re trying to fuck them when you ask about the weather is beyond me.

Honestly, I don’t think even women my age look at me all that much. Most of them aren’t much to look at anymore anyway, and most of them  seem like they aren’t horny anymore either. A lot of them are pretty unhappy too. They look bad; they feel bad. Great. I look at them and think, “Yuck.”

I think I am at the age where I’m not seen as attractive by women in general. I’m grandpa to the young uns, and the older ones are burned out and out of the game.

I have good social skills, probably still have good looks, am funny, very smart, have lot of experience with women and know how to talk and act around them. If I have this many problems, I could imagine what other guys are going through, especially those without much experience or don’t know very well how to talk or act around women.What about guys who are shy, nervous, weird, lack social skills? I can’t see it.

The fact that guys just can’t get it any old time in general like women can is why guys just say fuck it and get married. Men claim they marry for love, but really they marry for sex. Steady, reliable, no hassle, regular sex. You don’t have to worry about it anymore. It’s right there in your bed every night, and all you have to do is ask.

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211 responses to “Women Can Get Sex Anytime They Want, Men Can’t

  1. Maurice Cloud

    Robert, you may want to consider taking this post down lest Dano sees it . . . he’ll want to introduce you to his enormous, hairy girlfriends. Cheers!

    • Not Surprised

      there’s a reason men like the author can’t seem to attract any women; he’s going after 9-10′s while he himself is maybe – MAYBE – a 6.

      honestly, guys that write about this kind of shit whine that no women like them, but they’re only interested in women that are waaaay out of their league.

      • All right scumfuck, you are banned.

        It is certainly not true that I cannot attract women or girls. If you review the history of my life, the truth is the direct opposite.

        It is certainly not true that no women like me. It’s not the same as it used to be, but that is because I am 55 years old and you attract fewer women as you age.

        Not sure about the rest. I have had more 9′s and 10′s than most of you will in about 20 lifetimes…

        Anyway, a lot of girls and women have told me that I am 10 myself.

      • Women don’t care how ugly a man is as long as he has lots of money.The author of this article is probably like me has has no money and is ugly so he can forget about women for the rest of he’s life.I am a 46 year old virgin and women of all ages call me ugly and weird,but of course if I won the lottery jackpot they’d change their minds because women value money above all else.

        • Hi there, why do you think they call you weird?

          Why don’t you stick around here. This site is very friendly towards incels and virgin incels of all ages.

          It is true that I have no money, but women say I am not ugly at all. According to them, I am very handsome. And I typically have so many women in my life that it’s driving me crazy. But I myself was an incel for various periods in adulthood, including one period that lasted at least a year or more (no more details than that please).

        • Do you think that you are homely or unattractive? Well not everyone can be beautiful or handsome you know? It takes all kinds to fill the freeways. There are plenty of homely women out, especially at your age. And believe me, with each passing year, a greater percentage of the females your age will be turning homely. It’s called aging! Time is cruel.

  2. PS

    This is why homosexuals will always be more prone to contracting STDs. Gay men are gay but they’re still men – they’ll take sex just about whenever they can get it. There’s no gatekeeper.

  3. “[A]ll you have to do is ask” – or so the theory goes, anyway.

  4. tmi0920

    You’re very defensive about these young girls thinking you’re hitting on them. Young girls are notorious bi**hes, the excessive Hollywood / Reality Bimbo escapades on TV daily fuels their behavior. Women in their 30′s are either settled w/kids or diligently looking for that, and women in their 40′s are either tired and not interested, husband or not, or lucky enough take advantage of the pre-menopause hormonal rush, like a 17 yr. old boy. How you guys go thru your lives with sex on your minds 24/7 and get anything else done is amazing.

    Surprisingly, I’m in a similar situation as you as far as sex goes. Currently seeing a guy, late-40′s, who likes the same outdoor activities, have fun together, good conversation, everything… but he doesn’t seem to desire sex often at all. I’m considered pretty to very pretty – not beautiful – tall, thin, professional, son in the army, never married, no baggage, no drama, whatever. Not ALL Men ‘want sex all the time’. I know several girls, single and married, in similar situations.

    In general, I think women (who aren’t whores) will choose to be with someone they think they can trust – over anything else in particular. Even if horny, you have to pass the ‘instinct test.’ I guess because we never think of sex as a one-night stand. We’re ultimately looking for some regular action too. Will I want to sleep with him again? Is he a decent guy? As far as you’re concerned Robert, those young girls, they don’t think so… but what do they know.

  5. Amy

    1) I don’t think this is the case for women over a certain age. Certainly most woman over 50 are pretty much invisible, sexually. Lots of women in their forties as well, depending on health and genetics. I’m 43 (and in good shape) and the only guys who check me out anymore seem to be 50 and up.

    2) Getting married isn’t a guarantee of regular sex, for men or women. Women and men both are both at risk of losing interest as they get older. Men are at risk of losing the ability as well–the pills don’t work for everyone. If the spouse who’s still able and still interested is committed to the marriage he/she is pretty much guaranteed never to have sex for the rest of your life. Talk about bleak. Not sure who has it worse–the committed spouse in a sexless marriage or the perpetual virgin….

    • Julia

      So? You yourself seem to dislike the fact that only 50+ men check you out. So if you’re not attracted to older men why should younger men (some of which are actually attractive contrary perhaps to the older demographics) be attracted to you?

      • Amy

        It was intended as an observation, not a complaint. In my case it’s irrelevant since I’m married (to a fifty-something guy for what it’s worth).

        My point was that it’s not necessarily true that all “women can get sex anytime they want.” Over a certain age, it’s much harder for women to attract anyone who is still willing and able.

    • robin

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      • Amy

        Thank you kindly, but I am married.
        Nonetheless, due to vanity, ego, whatever, I still like to be “noticed.” So does the spouse. So if someone checks us out we tell each other later on, in a “yay, I’ve still got it” sort of way. Because at our ages we both appreciate the compliment!

  6. anonymous

    If you don’t mind me asking … how old are you?

      • Mohammad

        Then your thing must have shrunk and lost its sheen…
        Why dont u just shut up and eat popcorn and worship in your church you horsedick!!! Leave things that you cant do to us !!!

      • He told me’s 55 (these days, I mean). Or maybe I misheard him and he’s15. You know, Robert,honestly, in my opinion you really are a beautiful-looking guy (if that really is a photo of you), but you’re also sort of a mean, bitter,disagreeable sort. When I think about my current stable of men and I look at you, I see that on the one hand, we have this beautiful,sexy-looking guy named Robert, who is not all that nice so much of the time, and on the other I have my Daniel, Danny (two different guys)Dave, David (also not the same guy), Robert (yeah, a different Robert)Jeff, Ross, Von, and Ian St. Pe, wow, is my dance card full asnymore. I never realized it until I just listed them.By the way, you’re still beautiful, just a loveable old crank.

        • You bitch, now you’re hurting my feelings.

        • You’re amusing, Robert. I’ve fully admitted you’re delicious to look at, and it’s not my fault you’re just not really that nice. I’m just used to nice men, and I always have been. That I’m used to really good guys was my point.You’re very handsome, that’s all you’re getting from me at this point. What am I supposed to do, toss your salad online? Oh, and yes, I’m so very sure that it is possible to hurt the feelings of a person who is devoid of feelings.;) By the way, reading your blog over time has done something big in the way of almost fucking up my sex life tonight after the show. No way am I posting many details here.It’s really not the place. I suppose I’ll just write about it and mail it to you or something, or I’ll call you, though I dread that. What happened to me is exactly the sort of thing sure to amuse a twisted guy like you. It’s sort of funny, but thank God I caught myself and was “mumbly” enough from being squashed face-down into the pillow that he didn’t even hear it. I had to think very quickly to come out with a great save to make it sound as if I had been about to say something about rastafarians. “Rastafarians, you know, are nothing like what is portrayed in any medium I’ve ever seen.” Yep, SAVE! Damn, I’m smart. After that, I made a point of calling him by his given name. It was, “Daniel, may I get you another orange-water? Save!

  7. Sigh.

    It’s true women can get laid anytime. Lol!

    You’re a middle -aged complaining about how younger women don’t find you attractive, while insisting you don’t find middle-aged women attractive. Newsflash, young women feel the same way about you that you feel about women your own age: yuck!

    • Xelent

      I am an older woman, and I do not find men my age or in their 50′s attractive. I find the younger men more attractive and gag when I see the older men. I’d rather kill myself then give up an take an older man.

      • Xelent,
        You’d really rather “kill yourself” than take up with an older man? Wow. Just wow. Well, that IS recycling taken to its logical extreme, I suppose. Not I, I only want guys who are at least 50 years old, preferably older than just flat-out 50. Besides, I’m not looking. I don’t have to “look” for anything, I’ve done the whole married thing twice and found out the hard way what a loathesome deal it really is.I’ve had guys marry me for monetary gain, the whole hideous deal. Fuckers. I don’t want to roll around with a guy younger than 50 (I’ll save the younguns for you). If a guy isn’t 50-60, I don’t think of him as anything much but a fetus.I’m glad I feel that way. Not there is anything wrong with being a totally blatant cougar on the prowl, it’s just that I’ve found that men “of a certain age” are so much better in bed than the under-50s.I have no interest in getting after it with some kid in his 30s or early40s. I’ve had those offers, but I politely decline, because what else is one to do?Besides send the horny little lad your way, I mean. Oh, I have a good one for you: The extra-cute neighbor guy across the street is always trying to kiss me when he appears on my front porch, leaning on the doorbell at odd hours of the night, and yes, he does that often. he shows up out of a clear blue sky and wants me to kiss him (!). Perhaps I will send him your way. I’ve already discovered I’m going to have to teach him how to really and truly kiss if he’s going to get a crack at kissing me again. See, that’s an effort, and it sounds like a lot of fun to me, too,but come on, he’s 24! He’s very beauitiful, but gaaah, no! He’s a toddler! 24,uuumm, nooo, I’d feel too guilty seducing what seems to me to be a mere child. If only he were 54, I’d be just great with that. Hell, I’d have him here now! Right now.Let’s see. Is 24 too young of an age for him to be in order for me to seduce him when it’s clearly already on his mind in the first place? Yeah, I think so too. Maybe, but maybe I will do it anyway for fun..Damn. if only he had 30 more years on him, I’d hold him hostage in my bedroom.

    • All right, jerk, you’re banned.

    • Huh, you aren’t talking about Robert, are you?!Robert’s very attractive, in my opinion. I see and date attractive men all the time here in Atlanta, and believe me, he’s very attractive, as are my men here. I don’t exactly have to settle for less-than-attractive. I never have had to.Robert’s Facebook page says it all. Great eyes and hair. What’s not to like? What more do you want? By the way, I would have gone for him even when I was in my 20s. You’re just mean. Look at him, he’s sexy.

  8. tulio

    Robert, I think you’ve mentioned that you live in a small town in the San Joaquin Valley. Maybe you aren’t exactly in prime territory to meet single women. I think of places like that as being more geared towards families, not singles. For starters you should consider getting out of Dodge and going somewhere more suitable for single men.

    Sometimes I resent the fact that women can get sex anytime they want whereas men can’t. But I guess when you really think about it, it’s probably best that nature designed things that way. If women wanted sex as much and as indiscriminately as men do, people would be fucking all day non-stop. Nothing would ever get done. You’d probably hear people fucking in public restrooms every time you went in. Also, even though women can get sex anytime they want, it will not necessarily be from a man they want, nor would it be from a man that actually will answer the phone when they call the next day. It’s not in women’s nature to pump and dump. So sure, she can get a dick in her pretty much anytime, but most want a guy that actually cares about them. So women may have just as hard a time getting what they want as men do. I think a woman who gets sex all the time but can’t find a man that wants to marry her is analogous to a man that’s a 40 year old incel.

    And wow! A 52 year old virgin?!?! Can’t imagine why anyone that age wouldn’t have just gone to a prostitute even once just to know what it’s like. I’ve heard that once a virginal guy hits 40 or so, he’s pretty much incurable at that point.

    • Jason

      You heard that huh? From who? :-)

    • Ali

      If women wanted sex as much and as indiscriminately as men do, people would be fucking all day non-stop. Nothing would ever get done. You’d probably hear people fucking in public restrooms every time you went in.

      Haha, this was my life, including the fucking in restroom stalls (threesomes on occasion, FMF – the best kind!) when I was in my late teens. In my 30s it seems to be happening again. Our taxes are even late because of it. I have shit for brains and I get nothing done anymore, ever. Period. My husband and I have been going at it like rabbits lately. It’s our wedding anniversary weekend and we used it as an excuse to sit around the house and fuck all day and night. And do drugs, and snack on cake, and listen to music: The New York Dolls, Jane’s Addiction, Social D, Depeche Mode, Coil, Bauhaus, Bowie, The Velvets, and too many more to name. “It’s such a perfect day/I’m glad I spent it with you,” that kind of thing.

      His boss won’t let him have Memorial Day off because “the economy, blah blah no time for vacation, ‘in this economy,’ excuse, excuse.” Yeah, well. You know, he has no rights and we’re all dog food anyway, so we took Friday and got our jollies out then. That’s when I found this blog: I was trying to figure out why I have the sex drive of a 16-year-old boy. Turns out it has something to do with my hormones saying I need a baby. Well, bwahahaha. If there’s one thing I am aces at screwing up, it’s childcare. Hubby wants to get snipped. It’s his choice – I just hope he picks a DAMN GOOD SURGEON. I’d have done it myself years ago except all the doctors are worried about malpractice lawsuits (“Women, amirite?” *snicker* “They ALL want kids eventually…”) and then there’s the whole thing about a 40% chance of early menopause if ladies get snipped before 40.

      I like you people. You’re my people. I’ll be back for sure.

  9. seedofjapheth

    Women are as sexually active as men but they are more selective than men. As Robert said all women want that alpha male and so we have situation in America that is similar to polygamous societies where so called alpha males are monopolizing much of the sex.

    The truth is is that the sexual situation between men and women is just a matter of men getting played by females hard. Men are the biggest losers when it comes to the sex game.

    When a woman gives a man sex she feels she is giving him something. When a man gives a woman sex she feels she is giving him something. Women do not acknowledge men as giving them anything when they have sex unless the man is black.

    So basically the male genitalia is worth less than nothing and female genitalia is worth everything. Men are treated as expendable when it comes to sexual matters. But this is because men collectively refuse to be selective. Some men are selective but collectively men are not selective. If collectively men were selective about who they slept with then women wouldn’t rule the sex game anymore. There would be shared power.

    Men: rise up. Stop being played by women, women are getting too good a deal when it comes to the sex game. They do not deserve it. They deserve an equal partnership with men.

    • ella

      Most men can’t afford to be selective. Their sex drive is too strong and unless he is alpha – really rich, handsome as hell, etc., he will have to take what he can reasonably get. Women can afford to be selective because we don’t have testosterone driving us to want to fuck everything in sight.

  10. Dano

    Once you go hirsute, you give the rest the boot.

  11. Shawn

    Fat ugly women (same thing really) can get laid at will but will have trouble keeping a guy who is in high demand. I agree with your post though. Lots of good-looking, intelligent, personable, and sometimes monied guys can’t get laid.

    High-quality free internet pornography combined with masturbation is oftentimes much better than sex, especially with below-average looking girls. So if a guy cannot get above a 6, for example, instead of dating down he may go to Porn Hub a lot, for example.

    All women are prostitutes.

    Go to this post and look at my comments under my other pseudonym, “sam h:”

    http://infoproc.blogspot.com/2011/06/big-pimpin.html

  12. Ken Hoop

    Suggestion, Bob. carry around print-outs of your work. Tell the gals you’re a writer. Ask questions that subtly hint if they’d like dating a creative , widely published guy, but don’t imply the publication has resulted in riches. Just that they exemplify an interesting, inquisitive personality. And keep a thick skin.
    You’ll get takers when you ask them out, or their phone numbers, etc.

    Might not be good matches but this is best technique available imo.

    • Right. Good luck with that one. I can pretty much guarantee that any guy who is seen carrying around prints of his work in social situations is going to be laughed at (hopefully only behind his back, if he’s lucky)and avoided like cancer.Yeah, no offense, but that isn’t good advice at all,unless a guy is hoping to be pegged as a pathetic zoom-dweebie.Please tell me you haven’t done that yourself. If not, don’t. You’ll be glad you didn’t. I’m sorry, but I speak the truth, and I am nothing if not honest.

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  14. mud

    Robert, your website makes me horny. *left holding the bag* that was a good one.

    You are always trying to figure out women like they are a different sort of being. I don’t particularly like them, but that’s cuz they don’t make me horny. I love being around men because they usually make me laugh and that makes me horny. If you aren’t having fun with women for whatever reason, you’re going to feel weird around them. I think you would feel so much better if you just don’t worry about what they’re thinking, cuz in general most people are assholes and it doesn’t matter what they’re thinking, if in fact they are thinking.

    Energy trumps age and appearance. People who don’t have sex might just be confused about what sex is for.

    • You too? His blog makes me horny, too! What is that? I think the man may be some sort of warlock or something. He and his moan-making blog even inadvertently almost fucked up my sex tonight. it’s a long story, but let’s just say it’s a good thing my face was pressed down into my pillow so my man couldn’t hear what I accidentally mumbled. I’ve been with him for four years, so yes, I do know his name! It was an accident, for the love of God. Thank God he missed it. He’s such a great man, and I’d feel awful if he stormed off over what in reality amounts to so little.

  15. mud

    oops. *People who don’t have sex might just be confused about what sex is for.* I was thinking about certain people I know who complain about not being able to get certain other people to have sex with them, and then they themselves rudely turn down certain other people for sex. To me, if you just want to have sex, that’s pretty simple. If you are trying to connect in an intimate way with another human being, starting out by evaluating their weight, looks, income, etc., seems not the right place to start. Start with their energy, also known as the heart.

  16. Amy

    Link below…Benjamin Franklin’s advice to a friend detailing why, in his opinion, older mistresses were preferable to younger ones. For one thing, “they are so grateful!”

    http://grammar.about.com/od/classicessays/a/franklinmis.htm

  17. mud

    If you want gratitude for sex, yes, go with someone you think is desperate.

    • Amy

      Eh, given that men are the ones who are “supposed” to be grateful, seems a nice change of pace to be with a woman who’s grateful to you instead of thinking she’s doing you a favor.

      • Aaron

        On this subject, here’s something from a story by Isak Dinesen:

        The girl thought for a time of what he had said. “I suppose,” she then said, “that even in your country you have parties, balls, conversazioni?”

        “Yes,” he said, “we have those.”

        “Then you will know,” she went on slowly, “that the part of a guest is different from that of a host or hostess, and that people do not want or expect the same things in the two different capacities?”

        “I think you are right,” said Augustus.

        “Now God,” she said, “when he created Adam and Eve” – she also looked at them across the room – “arranged it so that man takes, in these matters, the part of a guest, and woman that of a hostess. Therefore man takes love lightly, for the honour and dignity of his house is not involved therein. And you can also, surely, be a guest to many people to whom you would never want to be a host. Now, tell me, Count, what does a guest want?”

        “I believe,” said Augustus when he had thought for a moment, “that if we do, as I think we ought to here, leave out the crude guest, who comes to be regaled, takes what he can get, and goes away, a guest wants first of all to be diverted, to get out of his daily monotony or worry. Secondly the decent guest wants to shine, to expand himself and impress his own personality upon his surroundings. And thirdly, perhaps, he wants to find some justification for his existence altogether. But since you put it so charmingly, Signora, please tell me now: What does a hostess want?”

        “A hostess,” said the young lady, “wants to be thanked.”

        • You know what’s weird? I’ve had some women thank me for having sex with them. This one time, I spent like 45 minutes or so eating this woman’s pussy, and when we were done, she leaned back and said, “Thank you.”

        • Aaron

          This one time, I spent like 45 minutes or so eating this woman’s pussy, and when we were done, she leaned back and said, “Thank you.”

          Sounds American.

        • Ali

          I always thank my husband for his generous services. I just thanked him profusely at 5 AM. Ha!

        • Silver Surfer

          Wasn’t she already “leaned back”? Or were you eating her out in a doggy style position?

  18. mud

    Catfight! Sweet. Amy, I don’t think either one is supposed to be grateful. I have had a lot of sex with a lot of different men, and I don’t go for that. When I was doing it for fun, it was fun, I would be creeped out doing that with someone as a favor. When I was doing it for love, if I wasn’t totally in the mood, I still didn’t want gratitude. Same thing as wanting gratitude for a kiss or a hug, isn’t it?

    • Amy

      Hah! I meant my response to be more tongue-in cheek, really. Should have added one of these: :-p

      I agree that a very grateful partner can be kind of creepy. As can a partner with a sense of entitlement.

  19. Hmm…for me, the response to “Mohammad” was actually the most telling thing in this whole thread.

  20. Ohhh boy — ok, I read a few more of the comments and realized that I have somehow found myself reading and commenting in the wrong blog. Neeeeverrrrr mind. *backing away slowly* Not for me. Shoulda kept my mouth shut. Feel free to remove my previous comment and I promise never to come back here. Ok, then. Buh-byeeee! :)

  21. James

    You said women can get laid anytime they want ” if they lower their standards”.. Robert, believe it or not, there are plenty of women ugly enough to fuck even you. Right or wrong, most women aren’t impressed with a wannabe anarchist whose claim to fame is Bigfoot blogging, but then again, maybe you should move here to the Ozarks where there’s plenty of gummed up meth whores most of whom have been sleeping with Bigfoot’s cousin all their lives. Now. Ban me. Please?

  22. Kassel

    I think any guy who is willing to drop his standards can also get laid. I had periods in my life where I didnt get laid – some very long dry spells – and it was always because I wasnt willing to put in the social effort (was going through anti-social or shy phases) and wasnt willing to drop my standards. Even during these times I could have gotten laid had I dropped my standards.

    Nearly any guy if he is willing to be social and willing to drop his standards enough can get laid, I dont buy into this whole guys cant get laid business. Of all my friends right now who are not getting laid, ALL of them are anti-social cant act normal around women – its entirely a self-imposed social issue for them.

    Plus, I know lots of girls who cant get the man they want – in fact, cant get a man on their level, in other words they are in the same situation as guys, they can only get some if they drop their standards.

    I have heard this meme before but nothing in my experience has confirmed it.

    • I think that’s absolutely ridiculous. And a lot of guys can’t act normal enough to get women no matter how hard they try anyway.

      There’s a pussy shortage. There’s always a pussy shortage. Civilization works off the principle of a pussy shortage for single men.

      • Wellwellwell

        Robert,
        For some reason I can’t put my email on the bottom of this blog,so I’ll start here. I know what you’re talking about. I’m forty six and the chances of scoring seem to get less and less. I feel the same way as you do regarding young girls. They just don’t want to know. I get a really weird vibe from them. I’m in very good shape, but a lot of women my age have given up on taking care of themselves. The guy above is right, too. You have to lower your standards, and that’s hard, especially if she wants a long term commitment. I don’t want to be with someone I’m just not really into. And you have to spend a considerable amount of time socializing and or going out to find a girl. I find that women my age want a total commitment. I hate lying to them. Having unattached fun is very rare at this age. It’s frustrating with so much porn on the net as well. The U.S. seems to have a very dire dating pool.

    • You are right on the money, Kassel. I live in a place where dating is complicated and long winded, as the culture is very puritan and discourages gender mixing. However, I had those times where I could have got laid more often, with only my standards holding me back. The women who were willing were either unattractive to me or had a personality flaw that I am not willing to deal with.
       
      If a guy sees every pussy as a fair game, regardless of the woman’s level of attractiveness, he would have no problems getting woman. The idea that women are somehow the gatekeepers of the sexual market is a popular myth.

  23. Kassel

    Well, In most non-Western hookers are on call for every male, so almost all men get regular sex of a kind roughly analogous to the one night stand so beloved of Western lotharios, so I dont know if civilization is built on a pussy shortage. Certainly not in Asia.

    I dont deny that there are lots of men in the modern West who dont get laid, but I deny they cant get laid. In reality, they can, if they are just willing to be social. Every dry spell I had was because I went into social deep freeze, and every guy I know who isnt getting any is simply terrified of being social with women. If youre a guy, and you are willing to be social, not even *good* at being social, just being social, you WILL get laid. Maybe not with the girl of your dreams and it may take some number of approaches, but it will happen, with regularity.

    The problem is that we have lots of guys who are scared off being social with women, and the notion that we have to *try* to do or be something special to get with women, which creates massive and paralyzing performance anxiety. Get rid of the idea that you have to do anything special around women and just be social, you WILL get laid. May not be the hottest girl around, but it will happen. Its a really hard message for most guys to believe because we are bombarded with messages that a guy has to be some kind of God to get laid, but ironically, its *precisely* that notion is that is preventing guys from getting laid by creating crippling performance anxiety. Truth is you dont have to do much to get laid provided you are approaching at your level.

    As for women, sure, since its the guys role to approach they will be offered sex, but can they get the cool hot guy their slavering over? Probably not. So girls have to settle, too, if they want to get laid.

  24. Kassel

    Fair enough, and I suppose we can only argue our respective experiences.

    However, I will say one thing; I think what is holding a lot of guys back from getting girls is this notion that they cant just *be themselves*. Part of being self-confident is not changing yourself to suit others, and any approach which advises men to change themselves to suit women, whether by being *nice* or being an *alpha*, will make men less attractive to women.

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  26. imnobody

    One word: expat. If you are reluctant to leave your beloved America, go travel to Latin America for several weeks (but not meet with other expats but with local people). All your mating problems will disappear.

  27. mud

    If a guy used to get all the poontang he wanted and can’t get it any more, there are a few obvious possibilities.
    1. Word got around that he’s not worth the bother, even though he might be a voracious pussy eater. You can train a dog to do that.
    2. He got older but he was only ever appealing to clueless girls and women. Women his own age aren’t falling for his shit any more, and he is now too fat or ugly to attract stupid good looking younger women. He is unwilling to pay because he wants to be desired for himself, but there’s nothing there worthwhile.

    Any man of any age who is worth fucking with will be fucked with. Even in America.

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  29. Jason

    I agree with Roberts post. I lived in San Francisco during the dot.com era and beyond (1998-2009). Most neighborhoods (even the Castro) had more single women than single men and I could never get a date, a phone number, or even a coy glance. Even the very “shy” type of gal was hit on, and she could get sex if she wanted to. Men, having to be the “pursuer” and gushing confidence (usually it was arrogance, not confidence. Women have confused arrogance to mean confidence) and desperation to get a girl. I just got tired after 500 or so rejections or shutdowns.

    San Francisco 1998, bar in the SOMA. Just after work.

    Me: (to cute gal whose glance met mine for longer than a few seconds) “Hello! Decompressing from the day?”

    Her: (snarly upper lip and the classic smelling onions look) “Umm yeah, I have a boyfriend.”

    Multiply that by 500 and you get the picture.
    Not angry or mad, or even jealous at this point. Just stating fact.
    Great page by the way…..

  30. ren

    @ Kassel..
    I somehow question your knowledge of women..
    Even ugly, beastly women have standards, perhaps not standards regarding their potential partner’s physical attractiveness, but standards none-the-less. If you are a socially awkward guy, it will repulse them and you’d have to rape the beast to sleep with it.

  31. ren

    P.S. Robert has banned me before for commenting on his totally ignorant, laughable assessment of Chinese dialects. He may choose to do so again. I really don’t care.

  32. The way to win this game is to be celibate and concerned with more important things in life. Then you really rule the women around you.

    • ella

      I say lower your standards and/or buy it and shut the hell up. If you’re only interested in women as “pussy” well, that’s part of the problem.

      • Joe

        You seem to operate under the illusion that women have more on offer than their anatomical configuration. Since time, men have tolerated – not celebrated – the ‘rest’ of the package. In our time, that’s increasingly less the case as women become more outspoken and entitled, magnifying their already-bothersome behavioral traits into an unpalatable admixture that’s seen the number of men turning to other men for sexual satisfaction skyrocket compared to earlier times. Why put up with the bullshit, expense, disappointment, and dishonesty inherent in dating women when you can get some guy off craigslist to polish your tool for free and go your separate ways afterward? Women used to use sex as a tool to control men, and it worked well. Now, that tool’s worn down and doesn’t work half the time anymore. We’re starting to learn we deserve better treatment, that we aren’t walking cash dispensaries (in this economy no less) for their personal use when they ‘feel’ like it; and that in th age of 50% divorce rates (where we lose not just half our property, but custody of our children, too – not to mention alimony if we make a little more than average through OUR own hard work) we’ve learned not to put a ring on every broad that promises us the world for a week, then packs up and heads straight to a lawyer’s office (while we’re at work) when the ink on the license is dry. Just look at Tom Cruise’s marriage to Katy Holmes: marriage, elation, kids, then…yep, you guessed it. She runs off to a lawyer while he’s shooting a film in Iceland and files for divorce and custody of their daughter. So even a fucking mansion, all the money for shopping, and never working for a living aren’t enough to keep a woman happy. Look at Paul McCartney, Jack Welch, Eminem. This ain’t a joke, you can’t trust or love women.

  33. What I think it really comes down to is peer pressure. Men are under peer pressure to have sex and females are considered upstanding and moral if they wait until marriage. It’s a bullshit double standard.

    That said, if I wanted to spend my life screwing around, I’m sure I could.

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  35. There is also another issue of supply-demand. If you find that you have it difficult in the dating market, maybe a change of scene would increase your chances. This applies especially to men in Robert’s situation, who is probably discriminated against because the women are either spoilt for choice and have some biases against older men trying to pick up young women.

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  37. doug

    Im 47 and recently. Divorced just want to make out, forplay, makelove and curse all night long.
    I want to fall inlove again. I know it doesn’t sound masculine but, a woman is Gods greatest creations and I want one to love in me Too. My love language. Is touch.

  38. Prasad

    Robert

    From my experience in the US, one of the most unfortunate things that I have noticed is that geeks in engineering and sciences find it the hardest to get laid. First, males are over represented in these fields. Then, they have to work all kinds of hours just to get decent grades and that leaves them with barely enough time to rest and also, develop their personalities by constantly being in the game. The only ones I knew who did get laid frequently were in boring, long term relationships with somebody they knew back from their high school. I’m talking about Americans here. Chances of Indian geeks getting laid are close to zero though I know of some startling exceptions (one of them a guy barely 5’6″ tall that I thought would never laid. Period).

    We experienced a similar scenario back in India at IIT Madras. The male to female ratio was 6:1 and the few chicks that made through were fugly (with rare exceptions of course). Fortunately, there was a fashion institute nearby and there were some nice chicks for the taking over there: especially for guys with motorbikes. It all had to be done under the auspices of a sham “relationship” though replete with gifts and coddling that goes with it. Indians are covert fuckers.

    Here in the US, surprisingly, I have found music majors or musicians to be the hidden jewels and surprisingly active. I dated an older flute playing woman once for a few months a couple of years back. She was hyperactive and played my flute to perfect resonance. The experience was out of the world. Even fake orgasms did not bother me and I appreciated the intent behind them. She made me a better man.

    • I am glad to hear of your experiences my friend!

    • The problem with most Indian geeks is that they are too hung up on the technicalities when it comes to the dating game. One don’t need hours to develop a personality like Jim Morrison to attract women. Just a good personal hygiene, a good dress sense, an open mind and basic social skills would do. They take no more time and effort than the average geek wastes in video games. I’d probably write a blog post on this topic, when I have the time.

  39. La La

    If all you want is sex, then frankly, you don’t deserve women. Heh, poetic justice…
    But seriously, I disagree for two reasons…
    First, I am an fairly attractive woman, and I am not getting laid. You do not factor in the shy, wallflower women that are overshadowed by the flamboyant, often hypersexual women. Men go for them, they don’t pay attention to us. It is not easy for us to get sexed up at all. It may seem proposeterous to you, but I’m a woman, I should know. If you ain’t sluttin it up, you get ignored.
    Second, men have it easier because you don’t even have to care about the person you lay with. Many women, including myself, need a connection of some sort before we hit that. Well, I suppose no one needs it, but want it anyway. Men can slam it and walk away. You’re the lucky ones, you don’t have to cultivate a connection beforehand.
    Anyway, that’s why it pisses me off when men say we can get laid easier. No, shy women don’t have that much of a chance either. Sure, maybe if I went up to a guys and asked if he wanted to f**k it may work, but if I asked for a relationship along with it I’d be screwed. Yeah, I want something in return. I’m human aren’t I?
    Anyway, there is no p***y shortage. Women outnumber men in this world. If you just want pussy, stop complaining and get a hooker. You know, those women that walk the streets at night? Well, you can pay them to do whatever you want with you!! OMG!!

  40. I’m in a similar mode.
    I’m 45 years old now. And getting women is no longer like shooting ducks in a barrel… In fact it changed so dramatically after I turned 40,
    It seems that my ”career” is now over!
    I swear, all through my 20′s and 30′s I always had plenty of women.
    I’ve slept with well over a hundred women… Without paying, or going to Thailand!
    (although I went to Thailand 2 years ago and it was great… but that’s another story)
    When I turned 40, my 27 year old girlfriend of 4+ years, threw me a surprise birthday party…. Then later that night, she dumped me.
    So I went out to the same places that I did great at in my mid 30′s…
    But suddenly, I couldn’t get laid in a 50 cent whore house, with a fist full of fifties!!!
    Anyways, I wrote a whole record about this shit!

    It’s called ”Beware the Weapon” by LAMMY aka Mr. True …
    It’s FREE on the internet.
    (and yes, why it is free is another story too)

  41. patrickbateman

    You have described my life to a tee. Late 30s, good looking still, fit with a good body, very intelligent but I’m a ghost to women. They cut me dead when I speak and never look at me anymore. The game has changed and I’m an observer now not a participant .. even women 5-10 years older avoid me and I cannot fathom it. On paper they should be stalking me?
    It’s a bit depressing really…

  42. Robert Banks

    Truly, all a woman needs to do, in order to attract as many handsome, intelligent, charming and freindly men, is get her body in half decent shape. If a man can see an attractive shape he’ll take genuine notice. He’ll look again and again.
    A man will gather information, analyze the situation and find his comfort zone then he’ll approach. It may not be for sex, but merely approval of some sort. This is where most men go down in flames and begin that trip toward sexual isolation that lasts men from middle age, to the end of their lonely lives..
    A man, even with a great body must also be able to display the proper amount of swagger in all situations. One slight moment of confusion or lack of confidence, his prospective mate witnesses, brings him back to square one and he may not get another chance. A man must be champion all the way to the bed and then he must be impressive in bed as well. Women need only look the part and not emit horrible odors. Women don’t need to be witty or wealthy or confident or have dynamic levels of phermones to land a man who shows interest. Because as many women here still deny, once a man shows interest he’s as good as gotten for her needs or wants. She has only to play a game to see if there is anything she would be passing up. The total advantage is for women and men “shot down in flames” get battle worn. Soon, they isolate themselves, avoid any contact (even meaningless social chit chat) and live quietly in desperation hoping one day to just get lucky. And we men cling to hope because that is truly all we have. Whereas women have options.

  43. Pawel

    All men are bit shy when talking to women for the first time. but I don’t want to talk behalf other men. From my experience , I had never known a man who had an easy time when it comes to attracting women. My friends (many of them very well looking guys, intelligent …)are still virgings. All what they want is experience what is sex like, without paying for it. I had been many times with those friends in bars and clubs trying to meet women and all we achieved were humiliating , awkward and embarrassing rejections. Week after week. Year after year. Each and every .
    When I find myself being single for 17 years straight, I have decided to settle for an ugly girl. I did and it worked out. I am still with her today. She loves me…I haven’t told her that the only reason I’ve approached her was the fact that she was ugly enough to not reject me. I am unhappy man who has regular sex with someone I don’t love.

    I moved to the UK with the hope , that if i won’t use my native language when talking to girls I might get luckier. But I was wrong, Is it actually worse since I’m not still fluent enough…
    I am searching articles on the Internet trying to understand why men have it so much harder when it comes to attracting the opposite sex , and this s how I got here…

  44. Dayvo

    This is a great thread Robert and I am in full agreement with you.

    I am a 26 year old englishman who is well educated, good looking, in exceptional shape and very confident.

    One statement will sum the whole thread up:
    WOMEN CHARGE AND MEN PAY

    • Dayvo

      That is why women will always hold the upper hand unfortunately.

      Any women can get sex when she likes and that is how it will always be.

      You only have to use this example:

      If for example Megan Fox walked up to 10 blokes who she had never met in her life and said: Hi your hot. fancy coming back to mine for a F***, I am sure at least 9 would say yes if not the full ten, even those in a relationship/marriage.

      Roles reversed, If a young Brad Pitt does the same to 10 women he has never met, some would say yes, some would say no, some would slap him,some would say you are not my type, some would say I have to get to know you better and the list goes on and on and on.

  45. that's life

    The reason nobody wants to fuck you is that you’re an inebriate communist loser.

    • No, he is not a communist! what kind of communist he is who always banns opinions from others. You see you are banned. BTW he does not seem to be a loser he is enjoying company from both the sexes!! LOL!!

    • You obviously don’t know the first thing about Robert. Everybody wants to fuck Robert! He’s like Mick Jagger that way: He’s the one everybody wants to fuck. I can tell that you really want to fuck him yourself. Who doesn’t?The trees want to fuck him, the sun, flowers, sky,grass, sidewalks, streets, traffic signals, spiders, and insects want to fuck him, women, especially me,want to fuck him, men want to fuck him but will be disappointed to learn that Robert is a real man and he is not gay, and as a result, he is not going to fuck dudes.Hell, he’d surely fuck me before he’d fuck a dude. So step off, guy. Robert is not going to fuck you, especially because you called him an inebriate commie loser. I’m a socialist and I hear “commie” myself sometimes by ill-informed jackholes. There is not just one variety of socialism, world. There are several models of socialism. And yeah, I’m a communist myself. So report me to the principal. Now go shave your back and leave my Robert alone, Skankenstein. Oh, by the way, see where he posted the word “Banned”? He wrote that to you, long before I ever wrote this. My Robert just gave you his infamous HAND. How’d it feel? You like that? No, I didn’t think so. I wouldn’t like it either. it would hurt my feelings, and if there is anything Robert knows how to do, it’s hurt my feelings. Badly. He’s made an art form of it, I’m sorry to say. I just doesn’t really pay to love myself some Robert sometimes:( But I just keep on doing it.Golddamn is that ever ridiculous.

  46. Eric

    Robert thanks your comment about emotional and sexual loneliness resonated in me. I think you have something explaining why men marry, that they do so to gain the sure opportunity of regular sex, I have actually come myself independently to that conclusion, I am happy that you have too!

    I know that I am relatively attractive, yet I DON’T FUCKIN GET ANY.

    That’s why I have become a dedicated whorefucker.

    I first went to see my first couple of whores about six or seven years ago, in a total state of alcohol-fused inebriation.

    I believe that prostitution, regular, adult, consensual prostitution, is the ultimate form of democracy. Imagine, a world in which women are all desperate, and begging you, for sex!

    A world of TOTAL sexual equality!

    A world in which it is women who are asking men for sex, and men, refusing!

    A world in which men get sex as much as women!

    A world in which you don’t have to take a girl out on 5 dates hoping for an uncertain return of sex!

    Yes for sure, I would prefer a long, meaningful relationship. And lots of sex.

    But hey, if you just don’t get any, then where is the fairness?

    Morality is about opportunity. It is as hard for a beautiful person not to have sex as it is for an ugly person to have sex.

    • Aakash

      “A world of TOTAL sexual equality!”

      Which means you’re ok with some random homo fucking you in the ass even if you don’t want him to? You want to beg to get it in the butt? LoL lets face it, GLBTs are not going anywhere so what if they start demanding from you what you’ve been demanding from females?

      Whats the matter with you? I worked hard on a girl recently and finally got the southern punani taco I’d been craving for the past few years. You on the other hand just throw money and fuck prostitutes. The impression I get from your post is that you are having a banging good time but still are whining.

      Having said that, if its possible somehow from now on, I’m all for reverse gender selection. Keep the sex ratio around 2 females to 1 male. Then the bitches will be begging you to fuck them for free. Yes EVEN a loser like you. Imagine a world where all the men work hard every day together and come home to get pussy guaranteed. No competition either. Shit can get done so much more efficiently.

      • Francesco

        Most women would rather masturbate or abstain or go lesbian than have sex with uninteresting betas.

        • mark

          yeah, seems so, or they’re frigid and sexually dysfunctional. A lot of men would rather jack off than deal with sexually manipulative women who just want money, power, and a ring on their finger too. The mental/sexual health of our culture is very poor I’m afraid.

  47. mott 69

    Is this the “echo chamber”? (vague general agreement!)

  48. Even fatties reject me

    this is a money post, mr. lindsay. the best way to demonstrate this is through online dating profiles. i’ve done a number of these so far, on okcupid and plenty of fish. once, i posted a profile of a morbidly obese female of about 500 lbs or so on pof. and guess what? she received about 65 responses from 65 different males in the space of a 24 hour period. a significant percentage of respondents (about 30-40%) appeared to be black. i’m doing another profile on both okc and pof, this time of another relatively obese female in her late thirties and the reponses are quite impressive. over a two day period, she has received 45 reponses (45 different males on okc and pof) and many of these respondents appear to be in their early to late twenties. can you imagine what the responses would have been like if these women were attractive? its pretty obvious that just about any woman can attract any large number of men within a 24 hour period.

    as a comparison, if i were to do a profile of myself, no woman would ever respond to it, not even if they were fat and ugly. i’ve even done fake profiles of average males who weren’t the best-looking guys in the world, but certainly not fat or ugly. and guess what? no responses. not even after a couple months. dating is a truly gender assymetrical enterprise, which is why i’m 99.99% certain i’ll die a virgin at my advanced age of 30 or so. if some fat bitch who weighs in at 500 lbs can attract hundreds of men in the space of a month, many of whom are average-looking in appearance, why even bother? the cards in the deck are already stacked against me; it’s time to tune in and drop out.

    • Bay Area Guy

      I wouldn’t drop out. I mean, push comes to shove, there’s always a hooker out there. And I’m not saying this as an insult. Like Tulio, I too believe that prostitution should be decriminalized and de-stigmatized, and that many men simply need it.

      It’s a simple fact that guys have to do EVERYTHING when it comes to initiating romance, whereas almost all girls, even fat ones, can just sit back and find love whenever they want.

      It sucks, but there’s not much we can do about it, unfortunately.

    • Tulio

      God damned, this is one of the most depressing things I’ve ever read. I’ve heard stuff like this before, about ugly girls still attracting tons of attention online but I had hoped it was just an exaggeration.

  49. ”Now some of these guys are kind of weird, some are angry, some are shy, but some of are none of the above.” I’m all of the above, I’m also not even a Beta, I’m the lowest of the Omega-Males, whenever I enter a room, women will automatically leave in fear of catching my ”Anti-female hormones”. I can’t get a job, I have NO social-skills, I’m morbidly obese, I have no friends, every-one who sees me automatically hates me, I’m hideously ugly, I have a beard, I walk ”effeminate”, I’m EXTREMELY talkative, prostitutes, beggars, and the most desperate women do not wish to even look at me, I scream all the time, I have low self-esteem, and hate EVERYONE, I’m the village-idiot (literally), and every-body who sees me laughs at me the moment they see me, I also dress weird, and have green hair, and NO MONEY, I dress like a small child. I have been rejected by over 3000 women in the real world, this is excluding the internet.

    ¿Have I told yet? I have a girl-friend, and she’s social, and attractive.

    Sometimes it’s just luck, and you need to know when a woman needs an Alpha, Beta, Gamma, or even one of us Omegas, who make up 1% of the population, and are eternal virgins, not me though :) Women tend to look for certain liabilities, and a man like myself would never leave ANY woman, and would accept ANYTHING she does.

    Try to explain this, it’s a true story. Good fortune comes to optimists.
    IF I CAN GET A GIRL-FRIEND, ANY-ONE CAN.

  50. Nature Dude

    I think the problem here is genetics and hormones. Testosterone is found in both females and males. It is responsible for sex drive. Men have a lot more so they need and want sex more often. In fact, sex is very important to a male human being. Sex releases natural chemicals in the blood stream that are vital to men’s mental and physical health. A guy who is not getting any, is more likely to be depressed or get sick. He may even have a hard time controlling his weight or maintaining muscle definition. Mentally his ego is being crush because he believes he is not worth much if women do not find him sexually attractive and want to have sex with him. Masturbation works well when a male is young, but once he has had a women it is very difficult to want anything less. Her sexual response becomes a necessary part of his sexual satisfaction. Another problem is that sex is way better for women than for men as far as satisfaction is concerned. Women have summation orgasms that can last for hours and can repeat over and over again. Men have mechanical orgasms that are over quickly. Also, few men can have more than one ejaculation at a time or last very long before ejaculating. Often the pleasure is intense enough to want more, but never completely satisfying. Couple that with a man’s three day cycle, and you can see why men need sex more often. Women have much longer cycles and often have problems associated with those cycles. Women often experience pain or problems that can turn them off for weeks. Older women often lose interest after menopause because their need for sex is no longer relevant to them genetically. By then, their child bearing years are over which is the primordial instinct that drives them to couple in the first place. Unfortunately, it is true that more dominate males get more females to have sex with them. This is because in a male dominated primate society women often gain social status via who they have public sex with or are sexually associated with. Who they are sleeping with is often important for their place in female society or the female pecking order. Males publicly announce sex only to show they have worth and to impress lesser males who are not as dominate. Male’s often use violence to determine who is dominate, physical aggression or prowess, or power gain through wealth or other forms of ranking. This also determines which females they can have sex with although the female ultimately always chooses.

    Now monogamy is not a normal primate behavior and it often creates problems for males. Males are genetically programmed to mate with all females in their territory other than those that are at a higher social dominate status unless he is the alpha male. Often in the past when humans where not dominated by religious ideology, the dominate male would mate with all the females in the group, but only have heirs to the throne through the dominate female of the group. Dominate female primates in a male dominate society will toss the children of other lesser females to their deaths without repercussions if those children are sired by the dominate male. Less dominate females often have to cradle their offspring to protect them and this makes them less social and less dominate among the future generations of primates. Thus you can see why monogamy came about.

    In a female dominated primate society things are much better for everyone involved. Dominance is less important and gives way to cooperation and social bonding. Sex becomes an important way to form bonds among both males and female on both sides. In other words, females and males engage in bi-sexual behavior. Although more so with females than with the males. Often males are able to gain bonding through social grooming as opposed to sex with each other. Females, on the other hand, are often fully engaged in sexual activity of both male and female partners.

    Since humans are genetically programmed with both society types, it is often a matter of preference or control. Males raised by single moms are often less dominate because they are expecting a female dominate society, but find themselves ill prepared for the male dominated reality.

    If women want more control over society in general and more equality, then it is up to them to decide what type of society they want to live in. If they like the male dominated society then they should not try to change it, but expect their to be more males with sexual problems. If they want the female dominated society, then they have to spread their legs a bit more often and become more like men when it comes to sex. This is the only way to push society out of a male dominated society into one ruled by females.

  51. Dianne

    It’s not true that girls can get sex any time they want.

    I am a single, 48yr old white female and I’m in pretty good shape. Problem is, I am butt ugly and my assets aren’t as ‘firm’ as they once were.

    Yes, men will fuck anything, but in my case, they would rather fuck their hand than me.

    I have not had sex for 8 years now and not for want of trying, dating, lowering my standards to fuck anything with a cock…but nope.

    Men do have their limits and I am living proof as to where those limits are.

    If I want sex, I have to pay for it, just like any desperate guy does.

    • I am so sorry about that honey.

      • aaawwwww, you’re so sweet in that reply, Robert. That was just very sweet of you, I didn’t even know you had it in you, but now that I saw it, I think you should know it’s very appealing, so much so that even if you were some physically repulsive trog, you’d come off as very beautiful. You’re even better to look at now that I read that reply. It makes me want to hug you,baby, but don’t worry, you’re safe. I’m on the opposite coast, so I’ll just telepathically send you the hug, if that’s okay.I give big hugs, so you may even feel it. Muah, kisses. That was the nicest, gentlest thing I’ve ever read that you’ve written. Or close to it. I’m very impressed by that.

        • Thank you. That’s the real me, of course. :)

        • Robert’s sweet once in a blue moon. Did you see his kindresponse to the woman who claims to be so ugly she has to pay for sex? I’m not saying I necessarilybelieve her, I’m just bowled over by the sweet side of Robert. Who knew he had that in him? I sure didn’t know it, but I like it. I wonder if he’s ever really like that in his actual, non-blog life.I’ve heard him be nice once before. It was charming.I mean as in Mr. Perfect Gentleman charming. it’s disarming until the black storm clouds gather and open up, then it’s a lit match thrown on gasoline, and it’s ugly, so you run for cover and it sucks so much.I mean, run like hell. Here comes the big burn!

    • ella

      If you don’t have money to keep up your looks I imagine the 40s can be rough for those women who don’t age well. But even if you’re a young woman, you still may have to put up with a guy and a porn addiction or a swiveling head for other women in public. Even if a guy has a woman, he will never even stop wanting another one, particularly the hot dream woman. You could also be married to a guy for many years and he up and leaves you for a younger model. My brother left his wife for a girl who looks like Rhianna with Nicki Manaj’s ass. His wife was very beautiful. So at least you’re not putting up with that shit.

    • Tulio

      I’ve never heard a woman say anything like this. It’s still a bit hard to believe. There are tons of unattached dudes out there that’ll literally fuck anything with a pulse(and sometimes even that’s not required).

  52. Dianne

    That’s okay, Robert. I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that once a woman hits about 40, she’s ‘out of the game’ anyway.

    You think women our age aren’t horny? I have news for you ‘unless I am going through that peri-menopausal hormonal rush mentioned earlier.

    Women get just as horny as men do (if not moreso) and this doesn’t decrease with age. Just because we reach 40, it’s not like a biological switch switches ‘off’ somewhere. I still enjoy and get off to porn, even now.

    Thing is that at 40, a woman is kinda ‘redundant. Younger guys want girls their own age and older guys want 30-35yr olds. I may get the occasional ‘look over’ by a 70yr old…or a 17yr old boy with an oedipus complex saying he’d be honored if I’d be his ‘first’…..but that’s as far as it goes.

    So it’s not that most women my age aren’t ‘horny’. It’s just that we’ve given up trying to compete with the 20somethings with tight asses and pussies etc…you know how it is.

    • Tulio

      “Thing is that at 40, a woman is kinda ‘redundant.”

      Thank you for your honesty. This is exactly what women in their 20s need to hear. Rather than spending their entire 20s casually dating and alpha-chasing, they should be putting more effort into landing a good husband while they are at their peak market value. Women hit the wall at about 30-35. And by 40, their only source of companionship will come from cats.

      We can thank feminism and women’s liberation for pushing back the age of marriage. Women were designed to have kids in their teens and early 20s. Now I see women in the 40s rushing to have a kid with the aid of doctors. And other women talking of freezing their eggs. Women want it all, career and family. These goals are in mutual conflict.

      • How is it possible that you are so dumb? What makes you think that a woman should put effort into “landing a good huband”? Maybe not every woman out there is interested in getting married and spending the rest of her life acting as as brood mare. The idea that by 40, a woman’s sole source of companionship will come from cats is as far as anyone needs to read into your post to realize that the rest is not worth bothering with, and that you jus
        t don’t know what you’re talking about at all.. I’m 48 and I still have men lined up wanting to go out with me, and they’re all great. Some of us can pick and choose.

        • Joe

          Of course they do. Older men may have less endurance than younger men, but they crave coitus and female attention to an identical extent. I can also affirm from experience that a 48-year-old vagina feels as sterling wrapped around a stiff phallus as a 24-year-old one. Perhaps better, knowing it’ll soon be flooded by a tablespoon-sized infusion of viscous population paste than won’t go very far inside her defunct fallopian labyrinth. Older women are an internal ejaculator’s wet dream. Trouble is, they’ve become self-aware of their new market value thanks to the horny 20 something runts pestering them for sex on every website and bar, which has made it harder to fuck them in general. Older women used to be our secret pleasure. Now they’re as demanding and mouthy as their daughters’ college-age, Sephora-dwelling friends.

    • John

      I’m 22 years old, and believe me, lots of younger guys actually seeks older women for sex. Thats why there are terms like cougar and MILF. I’m good looking, young,and smart, but sometimes, having sex with women my age not worth the chase. Most of them are timid and dont know what feels good for them. Many of them cant have orgasm to save their lives, and most of them want always to be leaded and dominated in bed. Heck most of them think sex is gross. Older women are, sorry to generalize, more horny and want to lead in bed. They have experiences. And they are mature, not whinny and nagging like young girls. If your’e 40 years old woman actually you can pick any hot guy from college and fuck them. Trust me. Its pretty much all of our college guys fantasy to fuck older women, twice our age.

  53. iam umesh contats with me only for girl and women

  54. I can releate to what you say completely, although I am one of those weird, shy, angry middle-aged guys who has not been in a reletionship with a woman for over a decade. To say I have given up is an understatement. I just do not give a rat’s ass. There are other things that deserve one’s attention, life is too short.

  55. Mark

    I take it you’ve never been married.

    I had dry spells when I was single. But married……

    She’s got you legally, finacially, and emotionally (if you have children). She doesn’t need to put out any more. And she won’t.

  56. Julio

    Robert Lindsay, you’re a fucking piece of shit chump who can’t get pussy for shit. you old fucking creep ass piece of dog shit why are you creeping in on young woman trying to bang them with the excuse of asking them about the weather, you insane sadistic moron, get lost, and wake and smell the pussy, oh i forgot you can’t wake up to the smell of pussy because you cant get none you bovine bafoon sadistic motherfucking piece of dog shit saliva

  57. dav

    I was on the same page as you until I clicked shar5e on facebook and it showed me your picture. I then realized your description of being good looking was not accurate/ If that was not accurate your other positive qualities may be imaginary as well.

  58. Harvey

    In my opinion, women are like jobs. You may have a load of the qualities needed or desired and perhaps even more but even if there is someone of lesser quality and they are more suited to the job (or just have some shitty characteristic that the employer/woman is looking for) it’s them that’s going to get picked. It’s an unbalanced world we live in. No wonder there are so many mediocre assholes in the world.

    • Brengunn

      No wonder there are so many mediocre assholes in the world.

      Mediocrity is a law of nature, it’s the law of averages. In a world of supermen, Clark Kent would be a mediocre asshole.

      • Harvey

        I’m not completely familiar with this theory but I think I understand your point. Actually I think it’s pretty self explanatory “if an item is drawn at random from one of several sets or categories, it’s likelier to come from the most numerous category than from any one of the less numerous categories” (Kukla 2009)
        http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mediocrity_principle. However Clark Kent is an alter ego of superman. It is based on his perception of the human race as being weak and insecure.

        • Brengunn

          if an item is drawn at random from one of several sets or categories, it’s likelier to come from the most numerous category than from any one of the less numerous categories

          That’s basically it, the most numerous category is always the average (or mediocre), so no matter what you do or say, you will always be confronted with mediocrity. There is no getting away from it.

  59. Harvey

    Brengunn you may like this Monty Python link.

  60. Alex001

    The burden is placed on men to initiate communication and pass all the tests, but at the end of the day, she chooses the man.

    Women have realized they dont need men for anything other than an occasional one-night-stand. As a man, i honestly feel like i have nothing to offer an woman. Maybe im just a loser whos been emasculated by his own inability to get laid.

    • Harvey

      That’s part of the problem. It can put you into a state of apathy and you can count your own masculinity by your ability (or lack of) to get laid and when this doesn’t happen for a while it puts you into a state of learned helplessness and you may be missing opportunities. The thing is you need to get out of that mindset (which can be difficult) but even that won’t guarantee getting laid (or whatever kind of relationship), only increase your chances. The only way of dealing with it is not bothering or just going for it and taking all rejections on the chin. You could also seriously lower your standards but that would just lead to regrettable sexual experiences. At the end of the day it is the woman that makes the choice and even if you’re the most desirable man in the world they still might not sleep with you because they may have already got the attention they wanted from you and move on (or you may have not moved quickly enough).

      Another factor that makes getting laid or getting into a relationship with a high quality female or any decent looking or decent female even more difficult, is the problem of cockblocking. Some people really are just complete tossers aren’t they? The thing is you might have done really well in advancing with a girl and she may really like you but there is some viscious jealous low life trying to destroy it all for you. You may not even know it’s happening unless someone tells you or you catch them in the act. You may just end up in a state of confusion thinking “What the fuck happened?”. It may also just be her friends saying that she’s not right for you and therefore not digging on you because of that. I don’t pretend to know everything about women but I think they are looking overall for reasons to not have sex with you.

  61. Ace

    Robert,

    This article is insane. Women are simply not that hard to sleep with. They need to trust you and a hint that you’ll commit and you are in. Stay in shape, keep your facial/hair looking trim, maintain a positive mental attitude and go get it. I have had a healthy sex life and believe that you can too. The biggest thing is compatibility. If you yourself are a 6, don’t try and sleep with the 9. Do an honest assessment of yourself. They want someone who complements them. And I know for a fact that there are plenty of women that you can sleep with. I see them everyday of my life.

  62. Joey

    Super late on here and stumbled onto it while Googling something unrelated. That said, posting long after everyone of both genders did has the salutary effect of permitting the latecomer the option of evaluating all the posted material with a detachment not available to the rabble mashing their collective keyboards when a new blog entry is hot off the Internet presses. To summarize, the male consensus is: women are weak, materialistic, and naturally inclined to use sex as lever to further their agenda with men who closely match their wildly idealistic image of the ideal suitor. The female view, as related by the sparse few claiming to belong to that gender, can be whittled down to a somewhat defensive protestation that a (statistically insignificant) sample of their peers suffer from the same deprivations as the hoardes in the male camp (conveniently failing to address the fact that attractive, successful men getting little or no sex was a major point in the original post, in contrast to those few sexless women who pointedly self-identified as ugly or weatherbeaten by age, and thus being justifiably unwanted), and that men are responsible for their misery anyway because they arrogantly choose go listen to their instincts rather than be selective, too, and thereby implicitly better their odds of finding quality women.

    It takes little insight to decide which side’s argument is supported by all real life metrics available, and which is a self-pitying and entirely unrepresentative argument wholly devoid of merit. Men have it harder than ever. More so than our fathers and grandfathers, whose generations clearly did not undergo anything like the travails and struggles ours does in pursuit of what is, after all, a naturally necessary process of mating intended for the furtherance of the species in any biological organism. Simply reproducing is no longer a guarantee, even a record world population and an age of sexual permissiveness unimaginable just 35 years ago. Guys can’t get laid anymore. In the same era, perhaps not surprisingly, we have borne witness to some of the most violent paroxysms of male-engineered rage in our schools, malls, and others places targeted by (exclusively) males in the 18-45 age bracket. I.e., the group most in need of physical attention from women but most deprived of it. Whose fault is that, really?

    Ps. The 40+ woman who said women that age can’t get any needs to leave her shared craigslist apartment and go outside. Women in her age group are so in demand with younger men that they, too, have tightened the rules after realizing their new potential worth in the dating market, and are now, for all practical purposes, just as hard to lay as their less wrinkled daughters’ friends.

    • Rob

      Agree with your overall here, but having the exact opposite problem.

      I now work in a location with a disproportionate amount of women to men. Every morning I’m hit with dozens of Instant Messages, all women and all idle chit chat flirty nonsense. It is really cutting into productivity.

      What is happening can be attributed to technology and the cover it offers people to engage in sexual flirtations, without having to have close contact.

      The women, some married, engaged or with boyfriends can “test the waters” and remain super unknown.

      I kept that G rated for the sake of the forum, but use your imagination.

  63. thomas

    im a man and hate sex but love female feet

  64. Rediculous

    Thank you, finally someone speaks the truth!! It’s incredible how women won’t even converse with men unless there is something they want from you. Shit really needs to change. I’m one of those people who can’t get a girlfriend because women won’t go any further than “hello or how are you or small talk about the weather” and that’s if we’re lucky…

  65. nonamescrewthatmyidentiystolen

    you have to be racist I mean come on man it’s not that hard to go to some primitive tribe and get laid..

  66. g. What I am about to say is not to get attention or for an ego boost. I am just an older guy intregued by the dating problems men and women share in this era. In the 80′s I was in my 20′s and had some success that gave me some money and I guess I matured from a wimpy high school kid to some good looks. I first had sex at 16 and then a few times with underage girls when I was 19. But when I was making money and had my own place, a little business and a nice car I was able to parlay that into dating some very attractive women. In just the period from 1982 to 1985 I was able to bed 200 women. I picked them up at bars and discos. I had probably 6 steady “girlfriends” simultaneously for 3 to 5 years. They liked cocaine and champange, and I had it. I had booty calls before they coined the phrase booty call. All I had to do was pick up the phone and ask one to comer over, even calling after midnight. —The seriously interesting thing was that I NEVER used condoms. This shit was all bareback. I only got a couple of women pregnant and they choose abortions. I only caught crabs and clamidia once. It also amazes me today that sex is only (usually) with condoms. I hated condoms and we usually were happy with some kind of birth control.

    I still get laid and I am in my early 50′s. But I am much more choosey and I don’t pay for everything. I make the women invest in the dates after the first few.

    I am also not a player like I was then. But I will end my story with two observations. Most hot women are looking for money, even if they don’t know it. Women want security, and money is what they seek. The second thing is women do use their vaginas as currency. The one thing men have to realize is that women want (and need) sex just as much as you do. So don’t fall for their games. Walk away from women who don’t want to share the expense of dating, the women who won’t give head, and the women who are not affectionate. The rest are leeches. They are the ones who want men to pay for everything, even though they also have a job. They want you to chase them. When you should be chaser better ass. If they don’t pursue you too, dump them. No room for princesses or prima donnas. Trust me, after tasting 300 pussies, they are pretty much the same.

  67. I forgot to add they were hot looking women. I didn’t “settle.” Several married, divorced, or are still married and we wtill stay in touch. At least 15 I slept with in the 80′s were married. And about 10 I slept with 10 or 15 years later after we reconnected. Some of them were still married. And of the many I had bedded, I stay in touch with several of them to this day, 25 years later. Some on Facebook. Another thing I wanted to mention is there were very few “one night stands.” Maybe 5 out of the 200. Most of the women I had sex with, I continued to have sex with for months or years.

    And I am not gods gift to women. I was decent to good looking, but not killer handsome or buff. I hardly exercised. But I was (still am) 6’0″ and about 180 lbs. Good teeth, average intelligence. Opened doors for women and other nice gentlemen things. So I am really amused that there is a problem with getting laid these days. Oh, I forgot, those 200+ women slept with me on the first date. In fact, if a women did not sleep with me on the first date I was usually on to someone else. “Next!” Unless she was hot. Then I’d give her another date or two.

    So, I don’t know what the problem is out there. It’s sound’s really depressing. I know I had a good set-up, but what I am readin here is really making me wonder what changed. By the way, I have journals and even friends who will back up my claims. I am not here to BS, I am here to share. I know AIDS really changed the game, but WTF, dudes not getting laid for a year? I don’t get it.

  68. One final note. If there were cell phones in the 80′s, I don’t think I would have succeeded in my game. Though I was candid with women, if they asked, about my sexual commitments, cell phones them would have messed up the game. We had answering machines then. Few women ever got in their cars and drove by my home. But with cell phones, many women and men put each other on leashes. Call at odd hours, ask why you did’t answer.

    I can pretty much sum up for the current generation that if you want to blame one technology for fucking up your sex life, it’s the cell phone. And internet dating sites. Where women can now choose from an unlimited supply of men in a sea of poorly drafted profiles and deceptive profiles.

    If you’re using the internet dating sites and not having luck. Leave leave and find another game. The women on the internet dating sites are looking for Mr. Right (successful, educated, high income, home owner, turn key boyfriend who will pay their way to ski trips and other fantasies). So avoid internet dating sites. You’ll never win, even if you are honest. Join an athletic club or other face to face group where you can connect to a real person. Not a narcississt.

    • Oneness

      I can’t beleive you kept track of all those partners. I know some people who just don’t like condoms. They get tested regularly because they know they like sex.What bothers me is that if it were a woman on this page saying she opened up to 200 men, what would some of us say. The double standard rule just keep men and women at odds. It does nothing to better society. Women stay pissed off and men take us for a joke.

  69. Oneness

    I can’t believe this conversation but I think it’s great. I’m a woman age 35 and I see a shift in my dating. I hate being single but I want settle for someone I just don’t want.I get mostly guys in their 20s and I don’t want them. I tried that. They are not experienced in the bedroom and I don’t have time to teach them. I believe it is hard for you. Womeon and men, especially during this century have become so arrogant and self-centered that they forget to just enjoy sex. WTF! I am average looking as most say, colleged educated but its hard to get laid sometimes. Why. The younger guy I had stayed on the go (probably with other women and with the boys) that I hardly saw him. When I tried with a guy my own age, he wanted me and another woman but didn’t want us to have other men.WTF! I could share if he could. I’ve tried men much older and to me, they were a lot easier to get along with but my sex drive caused problems. I am considering going back with one of them since I’ll be slowing down in a few years.That’s not what I want but I will settle. I don’t know anybody of any age, man or woman who is with the person they are with because they really like everything about that person. Everybody compromise some of the attributes they want in a person to settle and not be lonely. Note: I’ve many of the local guys to be DL brothers too. I’d rather be by myself than with a lying, sneaking, nasty, fake man.

  70. naveed

    well this is the kind of article you expect from loosers. i think sex is easy and accessible to everyone. men want it and women want it. on the contrary women like it more. the problem is that men are only interested in the top notch women(8′s 9′s and 10′s) and women over thirty are not at all worth considering. regarding standards well women and men both have standards and yes men are more visual. how many times have you seen a hot guy with an ugly chick (very rare) and how many times have you seen a hot chick with an ugly guy(quite common). the problem is that you are not a man but a middle aged boy. who the hell told you to approach a woman without her showing interest to you. take it slowly there is no need to hurry women come and go and so do men. whenever you talk to a woman keep sex off the table (you will be able to negotiate better) and always refuse casual sex(nothing comes out of it i prefer my hand over a one night stand) (and yes i have rejected more women than i can count). remember women and men are different. the reason women dont approach men is not that they dont have to but because they dont have the balls (and usually they regret not being able to approach the guy they liked), men have them . but with the balls you have a brain as well. use it. and with that brain you have dignity and honor. as far as women getting sex whenever they want is an extremely stupid idea. women get pregnant have more chance to get an std , can be physically abused if they get with the wrong guy. and what do men have to do just put that weeney where they like, have fun and go away. further more there are more women than men on this planet which makes it quite easy for men to choose a woman while it makes it extremely hard for women to choose. offcourse the sexiest women have a choice but so do hot or rich men. actually i like it if the woman wants to take her time and figure things out i do so too. i date alot of women and i reject them after the first date as well. i am a 8.5- 9 guy. i have dated all sorts of women from 7-10. and i have never been rejected by a woman in my life why, because i never approach women if i dont know they are interested or not when i do approach them it is not my intention to impress them but i am more interested in measuring them if she doesnt match my standards i leave before she even has a chance to spit out a word. come on you are a man you offer far more in a relationship than a woman how the hell do you let a woman steam roll you and the first date should never be about having sex. it should be about seeing if you like the woman or not. how else are we supposed to know if she is good for us. but if you are interested in one night stands i would recommend you go to prostitutes they are trained professionals at selling meaningless sex to stupid men like you

  71. naveed

    man it is because of men like you that all the men get that bad reputation that men will fuck anything that moves. anyone will fuck anything that moves man or a woman provided they are desperate enough to do so. it is still not too late for you to learn how to read body language no matter what a woman says from her mouth if her body say she is into you she is into you. approaching women is easy and dating is a game relax and enjoy life

  72. naveed

    one more thing women and men are not equal. men are physically stronger and more agressive in what they want. weak are physically weak and mentally submissive and passive. and yes women have nothing else but to offer loyalty obedience and respect in return for what they get from men ie finances(in most cases) protection and status(again in most cases). i do not accept a woman for anythingif she refuses anyone of these things. understand what you need . do the maths and then date or approach women things will get better

    • Joey

      Nobody dates you with that attitude, curry breath. Fuck off out of here.

      • Good job Joey, smack that Indian dog.

        • vishesh

          Robert

          Naveed is not hindu. .. see here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Navid
          you should consider not bringing religion into the discussion…
          Naveed is not an indian name. I am an Indian and indians can tell you merely by name , the state (in india) of an indian’s origin…
          you could have simply said ” shut the fuck up you asshole naveed..” instead of “curry breath, hindu worm, indian dog ” ..
          Naveed is a persian name and its an iranian name..

          but idiocy of Naveed has got nothing to do with moslem religion or Iran as a nation and in the same vein your disrespect towards any nation and religion has got nothing to do with christianity( I am assuming you are a christian) and US ( i am assuming you are an american ) .. an individual is not a nation or a religion.. if nothing else, what does your education tell you?

        • Bill Bottle

          Oh Vishesh, dude, you are so banned for calling out this idiot for being an idiot.

        • All right jerk, you are banned.

  73. i am 26years old young boy i like 30 to 50ages woman…u can contect me anytime in my email id sudansubba111@yahoo.com i always like to have sexual relation with older woman. Thanks

  74. Elnur

    An article which reflects reality!!! True about Germany!

  75. alex

    Guys this guy is talking about something serious here. Why being mean to him? I’m sick of people judging…

  76. Jesse

    Hey Rob. I understand what you mean. I’m actually a 21 year old guy, and I have similar problems believe it or not. I’m no Brad Pitt or anything, but I’m not bad looking, I have a nice facial structure, I go to the gym every day, eat healthy, dress well. 5’7 so not tall but not freakishly short. I’m even in college which is supposed to be the easiest place to find relationships and sex in the world. last semester, I did end up having a girlfriend, but she was way below my standards in a lot of ways. I’ll get occasional eye contact and smiles while walking to classes, but never anything more. I tried talking to this one girl, Brittany, in my class, but she ended up being a total bitch. You know, too tan, too blonde, pink plastic diamond case for her cellphone. We’re on “rolls eyes at me when I say hello” terms. Anyway I just thought I’d say, it’s going around all over the place. A lot of girls are bitches, if they didn’t look the way they do I’m sure they would be lonely, because what else do they have to offer other than sex when they act that way? The only cool girls you will ever find in the world will want to be your friend.

  77. GoldFish

    In the war of the sexes, who struck first?
    Women.

  78. 1990

    You’re delusional and heinous. No wonder young babes like myself can’t bear to look at you. And I usually enjoy an older man. Ugh!

    • Oh shut up bitch.

      Women love me. Maybe not young women anymore, but they sure did when I was young. Nowadays the women who go crazy over me tend to be my age, but that is to be expected. And there have been a few younger ones in recent years – usually around 27-29 years old.

  79. random_finn

    Damn women rights and so on… this sucks. Every male should have only 1 woman and every woman should have only man who they marry at young age. Now top 20-30% of men gets like 70% of all women in cities. There is so many men these days who have hard time getting laid mostly because they are introverted.

  80. Ian

    Totally agree with this post. I’m good looking, so I have been told by past girlfriends and their friends describing me as fit, but have always found it hard.

    I’m quite shy, and now I’m 31, not as shy as I used to be but it’s still a problem. People always think I’m around 22 which is a bonus I suppose, must be doing something right.

    I’ve always had to go for heavier girls, pretty in the face but I know if they had a bit less weight, or weighed the same as me I’d have no chance. Seems to be a circle for me, go out with them, find them attractive for a while, they eventually want marriage (why does every girl want to marry me!) then in the end I get bored and move on, rinse, repeat.
    I long for the day for a woman of equal attractiveness, or even slightly less with similar interests! Doubt it will ever happen though.
    I’ve picked up the odd stunner when drunk in night clubs but have never secured a date , and always got the impression they had other guys after them.
    Past girlfriends would repulse at the thought of dating a heavier guy, or even a guy of similar build as them, so if I were a fatty they wouldn’t want to know. How is that fair!?
    I’m about to give and just get married to anyone will have me.

  81. CoolGuy

    Ill pitch in here. I am 31. Good looking guy ( a lot of women tell me I am cute and talk to me) But it’s hard for some reason to get them to have sex. Usually once they find out that the only thing I can offer is sex they lose interest. They want someone who drives a good car, has money to spend on them etc. I have been in many situations in bars for example where a girl would pick some fat ugly guy over me because he owned his own business and had money. They want someone to take care of them even if they know that the guy with money probably will not marry them, they will still have sex with him just in case. It sucks to be honest. To me it seems that the only way is to get rich and then look for sex partner or die trying getting rich. But I have a few friends that dont have money but are good liars and feed women bullshit stories that are not even true about their financial situations and surpsingly they get laid lol

  82. a realist guy

    That’s because men are frigid and don’t really want sex. And when they stare at women, it’s because men are frigid and undersexed.

  83. paul bourgeois

    women do not need men anymore…if you try to buy them a gift they get angry and they thank you assume they have no money…the average white male is no longer needed because the woman has her own money and a vibrator and she’s just not interested in all the drama and soul a whole bunch of us are out here decent looking guys who are fun and I are just dumb jerk off nice guys but have some game and are still just alone and are going to continue to be alone until we die because women have really stop needing us or they’ve gone to the blackmail and we all know what that’s about blackmail are getting women in the bed in record numbers it’s just the way the world is what a great fucking time to be a white male

  84. hi i m sohandev from india, i m married and have a child of two year old, i m cool and fun loving person, i want more sex and money from any women who interested in sex meeting , casual encounter, and real fun, i m searching at internet but i m no success , please any body tell me any women site or group who need sex with a men and who pay for it because i want more fun and money for me and i want meet other beautiful mature married women who interested men for sex please help me , and email me

  85. Andrew

    While I agree women can get sex pretty much any time, I can’t help but note that the picture to the right (which I assume is you) really doesn’t match your apparent self image which in turn casts a somewhat bitter light on this article.

  86. Armin

    The R E A L tragedy in life is that single men do not know how lucky they really are … being able to progress in life … doing what’s important to them, not having to worry about the priorities of a woman who often is completely clueless about even what she wants and needs to be happy. I have been married 3 times in my life and lived with several women. I also have been single for years … and guess what … my single years have been the most stress free and relaxed and prosperous ones. – As fas as women are concerned … it’s a pure numbers game. Even if you are a 5 or 6, you will be able to attract a 9 or 10 woman, if you are willing to fix yourself up some, dress for success, wear some more interesting looking glasses, get some help with the way you approach women and talk to then. But the big question is: Do you really WANT AND NEED that? Are you really willing to put up with their BS, their endless mind games, their bait and switch strategies, their inability or unwillingness to have an intelligent conversation about something? I have a lot of male buddys who are incredibly envious of my freedom and would love to switch places with me anytime. What they say is: “You can live with a woman, even be married to her, but still be lonely and depressed, even desperate. They complain around the clock, they won’t even give you a hug or a kind word, no matter how hard you try.

    ~60% of marriages are divorced. Of the remaining 40%, partners stay together only because of the children. The University of Chicago said after a study that only ~11% of women over 50 are still genuinely interested in a man … no matter it it is their own husband, boyfriend. or ANY man.

    So, Robert … it’s YOUR decision! Before you team up with a woman … ask yourself the question if you REALLY, REALLY want one. My lif experience is: The overwhelming majority is noth worth the effort.

    When a boy gets the girl … there is plenty of statistical proof that this is not the beginning of a happier life. Quite the opposite. Only a tiny minority of men are going to be happy in a partnership.

    • Wellwellwell

      You make some interesting points. I’m at that point in my life where I’m asking myself if I really want a women. I’ve never been married. Years ago I thought one day I’d do that , but now I really can’t imagine it. It seems like too much work, and I just want to relax on my time off. The opposite sex is harder to impresss these days. Too be fair, I try to look at the female perspective on dating. Currently, women make just as much or even more money than men. Women drive their own cars and have their own places to live. They receive companionship from their friends. They have pets so they won’t get lonely. They really don’t need a man if they’re not having kids. Right or wrong, many of them raise their own children without somebody around to help. P.C. media and television stations don’t help a man’s plight either. So, I’m finding that women are very selective now in finding a mate. I’ve been dating in my forties, and message I get is
      that I really have to shine above the other males to attract a girl I like. I had a date the other day. She was fine looking and nice , but I got the feeling that I’ll either have to take a number or get in line for her attention. Will I call her for a second date? Probably not. If she want’s to talk with me, she know’s where to find me. I’ve been in this scenario a thousand times. Like you said, “Do I really need her?” probably not.

  87. sharuk

    I want to do sex with u

    • Jaguar900

      It is really a numbers game, I think. Just like we guys are different … women are different as well. I believe that anyone who doesn’t live under a rock can find a match, even today. Just join one of the better dating sites, be funny and outgoing and be honest about who you are and what you want. There is no way, if you spend time with it, that you will not find candidates. The difficult thing is the tremendous hurt you can maneuver yourself into if you find a woman, fall in love with her and get discarded for some strange reason. It can even happen to you if you are wealthy and do your best to be nice and wonderful to her, and some a-hole appears on the scene, treats her horribly and gets all the love and attention and sex and finally drops her … but she will never come back to you.

      Love is a drug … often worse than Heroin. And even worse than all of this: You can be married, have a wife who never cheats on you, but you feel lonely as hell, even if she is very close to you.

      The one and only thing that will help: Find someone who shares your interests and is nice and intelligent and fun to be with.

  88. Largely true article. The dynamic he describes is a symptom of a dysfunctional society. I do sense a bit of bitter that probably makes the situation for the author worse. My advice…. Move to Asia. This problem will totally disappear. Put simply, an American male is in that top 15% the moment he steps off the plane.

    • Oh no. There is no bitterness for the author, who is me. Trust me when I tell you that my life is very, very, very, very, very good.

      I am one of those lucky fellows who cleans up under Cavewoman Rule. Unfortunately, 85% of my brothers get more or less screwed in a variety of ways, and I feel for my brothers, as I have lived the lives that they live now.

  89. maritime

    Out of curiousity, what traits do you have that cause women to go crazy over you?

    • Who says they go crazy over me?

      I guess it is mostly attitude. I walk around like I am King of the World and I think I am the Biggest Stud on Earth. For some reason when you walk around with attitudes like that, you attract women like crazy. I am not sure if I still walk around that way, but my current girlfriend says I “walk like a rock star.” I have a slinky way of walking. I have also had girlfriends say that I “exude sex with every move and walk and every time I open up my mouth.” I also have always acted like a “bad boy” and I guess I still do.

      Plus I really really really love women. I have always spent most of my time around women, and most of my friends have been women. When I was young, it was said that I was very good looking. As I had more and more success with women and girls, my confidence in that realm expanded with each new one. I can also act pretty childlike and playful at times. I also have a genius IQ (not sure if that is relevant), am said to be a very nice guy, have a wide range of interests, and I am rather androgynous. My androgyny means that I relate to females very well and can understand what their universe is like. Unfotunately, the androgyny leads a lot of people to think I am gay. I am also told that I am pretty damn funny and I don’t take life very seriously.

      The main thing, I hate to say it, is females see a guy who has a lot of females around, and they basically decide that they want in on the action too. The more women you have, the more you get really.

      I really do not believe that nice guys always lose or that assholes get all the women. Most of most notorious womanizers I have known really really really loved women. Most of their friends were women, and they hung around with women most of the time. They don’t necessarily treat women very well, but they definitely really like them a lot. Most guys would probably rather hang around the guys and do guy stuff than hang around a bunch of chicks. And a lot of them were quite androgynous, so they plug into that weird female universe pretty well.

      I really do not know what to say to guys who don’t do well. If you don’t get good success with women early in life, it’s hard to develop that sort of confidence later on. Early life experiences like late adolescence and early adulthood really are crucial.

      It feels very nice to be at the very least liked by women if not loved by them. That’s the best of all possible worlds for me.

      Thank you for the question.

  90. Silver Surfer

    Wow- I read the entire thread in one sitting. I need to recharge now- but when I do, I discuss some of my doings in Thailand.

  91. Dave

    I just read the entire thread as well. I’m 39 and have never had sex. And never had a real relationship. I’m an extremely nice guy. I don’t think I’m bad looking either. But I am socially awkward in some respects. But I also reach out to people warmly. Most women are repulsed by me. A couple have like me back but it didn’t work out. At this point I don’t want to have intercourse. I’d be happy just rubbing my dingdong on some chick’s butt. She wouldn’t even have to be naked, just wear a thong. What’s really sad is that ONE time I had a woman willing to do this, and I couldn’t get it up. I wanted to die. And no, I don’t look at women as sex objects. I actually love, respect, and care for women greatly- it’s gotten me no place fast. In any event, I think it’s better, if you can, to be alone. I always believed in love, commitment, no sex till marriage even… (I’m religious)… but in this day and time, just being a normal person (not saying I am one) and wanting to get laid – even that seems impossible. People are crazy, the world is crazy. Better to be alone.

    • Hi Dave, I would like to welcome you to this site. One of the purposes of this site is to provide a happy home to all sorts of men. I would particularly like to encourage Incels, Gammas, Omegas or any guys having problems attracting or getting women. If you are having a hard time getting chicks, this is the place to be!

      I write a lot about Game and PUA, so this is sort of a self-help site for men the purpose of which is to help guys get girls. You can post here about your problems and we will try to help you out, offer ways to ameliorate your condition, etc.

    • JackofNone

      I’ve learned to be myself as the cliche goes, but it’s very true. Never try to be someone else because anybody will eventually discover who you are somewhere down the road. You can be a nice guy and get laid or find romance. I’ve learned that I have to be a little more assertive, though I’m still somewhat shy. There are girls who are looking for men like you. If I go out with a woman, and she does not appreciate the fact that I’m a nice guy, then she can split. I don’t want to be around a person who likes to be treated like garbage, has no self esteem, and who has hang ups. Who needs their drama.

      If they’re materialistic, I’m out as well. But that’s okay because, again it’s who I am. And, nobody should tolerate getting walked on by anybody. So acting nice is different than being a pussy. You are right about a few things. One is that you’re correct that the world is somewhat crazy. It doesn’t always make much sense, and there is very little order. You have to create order for your life. To some degree, having success with girls is a numbers game. I learned that I have to ask out many of them.

      I used to generalize about females, but the truth is that they’re all different. People are different. I don’t know you, but I am guessing that you’re a decent person. You’re entitled to have sex with a female while being a nice person. Likewise, you’re entitled to finding a nice female. Believe me, they’re out there, and I know. That’s not asking too much.

      • Dave

        Thanks JackofNone for your insights. I have only found 2 nice girls… they were cool, laidback, nice, and liked me… both of them would’ve been perfect for me. Unfortunately, one was taken at the time I was friends with her. The other was available at the time. But, both of these girls were (1) alcoholics (2) suffered from bipolar disorder and/or other mental illnesses. One ended up committing suicide. The other was really nice, except when she’d drink – then she’d get really mean and insulting. It seems that the only nice girls left have serious issues, issues I couldn’t live with.

        • JackofNone

          Dave,
          As you know,many women are not easy to live with. In fact, nobody is easy to live with. But that’s further down the line anyway. In general if I want to get laid, I usually have to lower my standards a little. That is, if I want to have sex in the immediate future, well I might not be as picky. Usually, the better looking a girl is, the higher maintenance she is. I’m not saying you have to lower your standards, but for me this works. That alcoholic chick you were talking about doesn’t sound very nice. She seems to act like an ugly drunk,a Jeckle and Hyde to say the least. I read that you’re religious. I’m sure there’s girls at churches. Anyway, there are women who will like you back because you like women. But remember, whatever waste we leave in our toilets, all chicks are doing the same thing! Yep, even the prettiest ones…models, too. This brings them all down a notch for me. Men can be like animals,but some women smell bad. Some wear awful perfume,and it reeks. Also, living alone is very underrated. When you’re attached, there’s so much shit you have to deal with. Hey, I’ve had a decent amount of dates online. Have you ever tried that?

  92. Dave

    Thank you Robert. It’s good to feel welcomed here.

  93. Dave

    Once again, thanks JackofNone for the perspective. I find that while I enjoy my friends, sometimes it’s easier to go, let’s say, to a concert, alone and by myself. I can do what I want, when I want, how I want, with no one to answer to, I can leave when I want. I actually like being alone. Like you said, living alone is underrated. And you are right about the models and the waste lol. A lot of times I find that what I’m attracted to is the conjured up phony artificial cosmetics. Sometimes I think I’m more attracted to the makeup, the hair styling/coloring, and the clothing more than I am to the actual woman. Anyway, thanks for the words of wisdom.

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