Kids Lie About Child Molestation

Repost from the old blog. I pretty much wrote this one just to make people mad too. This should be seen as a companion to my All The Young Girls Loved Teacher post, and together, they make quite a diabolical pair of nasty posts.

I mean, what kind of a maniac would actually title a post Kids Lie About Child Molesting? Except that they do, and I am now convinced that they do it all the time. I now know two guys who got accused of this, obviously falsely, both schoolteachers, both times by 10-13 yr old girl-brats.

They are also tons of molesters out there too, so the whole situation is a gigantic mess and it’s really hard to figure out what happened in any given case. Which would not be such a problem if we did not have whole armies of little lying brats (especially little girls) out there lying about adult men just to get back at them for this or that.

Like so many lousy things, I blame Radical Western Feminism for this by demonizing men as a bunch of barely controlled potential child molesters and rapists and for handing a bunch of a little brats one of the deadliest weapons one could think of to use as they please. The result, as I see it, has been an avalanche of false charges against poor innocent guys.

Way to go feminists.

Due to the Child Molester Hysteria that has taken over our society in the past 10-15 years, an awful lot of lies are flying around about child molestation. This hysteria has arguably not helped kids one bit, has turned an entire nation into an hysterical, witch-hunting bunch of crazies, and has possibly thrown a bunch of innocent men in jail or at least under suspicion on false charges of child abuse.

Malicious females now regularly make up child porn and child molesting charges against husbands they are divorcing. An older man who admits to being interested in teenage girls – science has shown us that this is an absolutely normal desire – is now accused of being a child molester or a pedophile.

First of all, it is quite impossible for a girl aged 15-17 to be “sexually abused” or “molested.” She can have sex. If the man is a certain number of years older, this is a crime on his part called statutory. I am confident that in the overwhelming majority of cases, girls aged 15-17 who have sex with older men do so quite willingly and suffer absolutely no harm whatsoever from these encounters.

Second, it is said that kids almost never make up sex abuse allegations – the number of false allegations is said to be on the order of 2% or less. This is one of the most pernicious lies that feminists are peddling these days, and probably many completely innocent men have gone down on child molestation charges as a result of some kid’s lies.

I know a 78-year-old male teacher who was accused of molesting a 13-yr-old Black girl (In the middle of class?!) when he tried to break up a fight between her and another girl. Yeah, he had to pull ‘em apart. Nowadays, that’s called “molesting”.

A good friend, a teacher, was accused by an entire classroom full of 10-yr-old girls of molesting them during class in full view of all the other students. Tell me how that is even possible? The girls tried to break out of class one day and raided the door. He barred the door, because if he let them break out, he’s in big trouble. 15 girls mobbed him and tried to get the door open. He had to fight them off by pushing them away.

He showed up the next day and there was a lynch mob atmosphere in the hall full of enraged parents. Every one of those little diabolical lying bitches had accused him of molesting them. They said he was grabbing their breasts as he pushed them away from the door. He said that the thought that they had breasts had never even occurred to him as he was pushing them away – in his opinion, they didn’t even have breasts.

I assume that all of these little girls got tons of useless therapy for their hallucinated episode, and I bet some are “suffering” to this very day.

After these two episodes of kids lying about child molesting to get an adult male in trouble, if I am on a jury in a child molesting case, I will probably vote to acquit any male without priors who is accused of molestation, if the evidence is only some kid’s accusation, unless there is some other evidence.

AFAICT, kids nowadays are just little lying machines when it comes to child molestation charges. I figure possibly up to 50% of the child molesting charges out there could be totally made up lies.

I do not mean to say that there are not cases of real child molestation.

Obviously, it is a serious problem, and new evidence seems to indicate that kids are often harmed by adults doing this to them, and that the harm may be long-term. But how can we possibly tell whether a kid is lying or not? Sure, maybe they are telling the truth, but maybe they are lying too.

So, if there is no other evidence against a man (eyewitness, forensic, confession, priors), why convict him strictly on the testimony of some little brat? I’m aware that this attitude may cause some really bad guys to go free, but the other way around seems to end up sentencing a lot of innocent guys on one of the worst charges you can go down on. It’s not a pretty picture either way.

This post has been linked at the excellent Entitled to an Opinion blog.

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100 responses to “Kids Lie About Child Molestation

  1. Lindsay

    Okay I totally agree with you on this with some minor differences. I really do dislike people taking untruthful things against someone else because they can’t get over their own feelings. I know that this makes me angry, and you too. But anyone can be molested, even sixteen or older can be molested if they do not want to be touched like that. Believe it or not but there can be rape even in marriage. If someone doesn’t want those things done to them it’s not allowed. I’m sorry, It just seemed like because they could have sex meant that people can do what they want with them regardless of their wishes. Besides that I do see your point, and it is a BIG point as a female I tend to stay out of the whole this gender did this, this gender did that.

    I feel targeting a certain gender or gender group (feminists or higher male power) just kind of promotes the whole thing. It is really terrible when anyone gets raped, but lying to get what you want is a whole different story. Personally if you lie about something like that I think you should receive a big punishment. I don’t think that half the charges are lies. That’s a little crazy. Recently at the high school I graduated last year a girl made a lie about someone molesting her, and when it came down to it the stories didn’t match up and the picture she described looked a lot like this male art teacher. He is a really great guy, and I really admired him. He would never do that, he loves his daughter and wife too much to do anything that could hurt them. Well duh she finally admitted she lied about the whole thing.

    The whole time the teacher just avoided her. I hate it when people lie, but the situation really just needs looking into to see what is going on. You don’t want to let a molester/rapist do what they want, but you also want to make sure that no one is lying and incriminating someone.

    Molestation, and lying are a big problem. Also keep in mind that anyone can be a molester regardless of gender, or be accused (I’ve heard about female molester’s o_o;;). I feel really sad for the people falsy accused by people who don’t even know how to treat them like they are human beings. For lying about such a grave matter, people should receive grave consequences that way it would discourage lying about this kind of thing. That would probably be the best bet to get rid of this problem. I enjoyed reading your post.

    Lindsay.

    • Hi Lindsay, I don’t agree that a 16-17 yr old girl can be molested. Sexually assaulted? Yes. Raped? Indeed. Molested? No way.

      It’s sad there is so much lying going around because there ARE cases where kids are getting molested and now no one is going to believe them.

      • nattie

        kids never lie abouit serious stuff yuur a liar yuur just trying to cover yourself of yuu hurting a innocent child whats wrong with you yuu should take down this website it just makes parents think their kids lyring when acually their not, i was a victum, now im a survivor now shut-up plz stop saying all this fales stuff.
        thnnx

        • Bitch, you’re banned.

          HAND!

        • d

          They do lie.say what you want. I know a young girl that lied just because she was mad.she won’t fess up because the only thing that matters to her is herself.she is mean spirited manipulating self indulgent brat.her siblings always come last.It has been that way since birth haven’t you ever heard of mental illness?

    • DH

      I am facing this myself right now, and it scares the shit out of me. I am accused of molesting my ex girlfriends 10 year old daughter, and I am told that there are pictures on my phone of her breasts. I haven’t seen this so called evidence, and the daughter knows how to get in my phone, but if those pictures are really in there, I feel my life is screwed and there is no way out. I have never, nor would I ever, do such a thing to a child. I yelled at her a lot, and I got onto her more often than I should’ve, but I am not a child predator. It’s the worst thing I can think of.

      Now, I don’t want to be around, or hardly be alive anymore. I have an 11 year old son that I am not allowed to see, and I’m on house arrest because this little girl swears that I touched her chest. It should get thrown out on the grounds that the day I am accused of it, I was out of state at a family reunion, but if she somehow used my phone and took pictures of herself, I do not see a jury voting in my innocence. I know I probably would vote against me if I saw the case I am facing. Maybe I am not looking for advice, but just a place to vent. I’ve been deployed twice, and I have plenty of issues, but anything sexual with kids is not an issue, and I think it is one of the most horrible things that a person could do. Last time I saw my son, I was scared of being around other kids because I thought that they might just point at me and say I tried to touch them. Anytime I hear a school bus pull up outside, I cringe. This is really messed up my head, and my life.

      Maybe I was too mean to her sometimes. Maybe I took her mom away from her too much to go out drinking with me. I am no saint, but I do not believe I should be going through this. I’m angry. I’m scared. I feel lonely and that there is no hope. I am trying to find the strength to fight this, but it is difficult. This is the most horrible thing I could imagine, and it is happening to me.

      I’ve always thought that anyone who was ever accused of child molestation was guilty, and nobody that I’ve ever known personally has gone through this. Now that I am on the other side of it, I see that I was wrong in the way I thought before. I fear that other people on the jury will feel as I have always felt, and I’ll be put in prison for a horrible crime that I did not commit.

      • DH

        Also, I believe this is a real problem, but I never wanted to believe a kid would make this up about someone until I have had to face it myself.

      • Mr. E2me

        Wow DH.
        There was a story here on the radio(internet) that I heard a few months ago. Sounds like yours. Guy was accused by his own daughter -10 at the time- of molesting her. The daughter just wanted to live with mommy after the divorce , so she made something up. Guy was thrown in jail for 10 years ( I don’t remember how long the sentence was) before his daughter confessed she lied. She made her confession to get him out of jail , then immediately split the country on some kind of religious expedition.
        I had discussed with a friend of mine with stepkids. He said he would seek retribution at that point. I agree.
        Too bad there is no way to let the little girl in yur situation to realize the gravity of her actions. It’s not something I would forget about and you would probably get out of jail at some point. I would make that perfectly clear to her ….. somehow.
        Best of luck DH, truly shitty situation.

      • p

        I was accoused for molesting my cousin when I was 16. I was not guilty and the court also belived in my inosence, but the damage this dit to me last me for many years I’m nnw 34 and even today I still veel that some of my family don’t trust me, I don’t like children and I wil never have my own. They got the guy who really molest my cousin byt I carry the scars.

    • pure country

      How do I tell if my niece is lying saying my husband molested her? I was always around her when she would come visit or my daughter or son would be around either her or my husband so she was never left alone with him! She has never had any problems with him and would come out to visit..I can not get my brother or his family to talk to me about it and it is hurting a lot of the family for what she is saying! So about 7 yrs ago her older sister was raped, May 23, 2013 her mom and dad was fighting really bad and her mom told her dad that she is not in love with him anymore, she also has a brother and another girl that lives with them with her baby and the baby always get attention. Could she be doing and saying all this for attention because she is craving it! To me her story does not match up and I wanna talk to her and the won’t talk to me or my husband! I would like to get my husband and my niece face to face and go from there! My husband knows what I went thru when I was a kid and he would never ever do this to anyone’s kids. We are so sick to our stomach and don’t wanna eat and it is just breaking our hearts for our niece to say this stuff. Please help me! We need advice!!!! Let me add, my husband offered to do a lie detector test and when I told my brother I want her to do one as well he said “you not telling my daughter what to do” I think it’s only fair if he does one she should also!

      Thank you
      Pure Country

      • Probably lying, but why I have no idea.

      • pure country

        What are some signs of lying? Do you know?

        • lisa

          Hi Pure,
          It pains me to give you a response because I have been through this and still do, each day. How do you know? That was your question. Let me tell you this: My daughter accused her stepfather of touching her, but she had a smirk on her face. She was grounded because of bad grades and lying in school. I will never know and have been angst about her accusations, but to be honest I am still 50/50 on the verdict. My daughter has lied before about other things, but that smirk on her face that day led me to believe that she wanted drama and attention. My marriage is trashed now, thanks to her.

        • Not sure, but I believe your husband. As you said, he had no opportunity to molest her.

          One thing is for sure, these are some really SAD stories! So much destruction, pitiful.

        • If she is smirking, she is probably lying.

        • g

          Check out the book Spy The Lie: Former CIA Officers Teach You How to Detect Deception. Dean Tong has a book about false allegations also and the legal aspects if your husband has been charged. A “friend” has spent over 2 years suffering from a false allegation. I had no idea that this could happen in America. The cops will want you to take a lie detector test which you can fail from false positive, but they have no interest in testing the accuser or mother of the accuser. Don’t take a lie detector test unless your attorney tells you to and its done independently.

      • Kd

        My granddaughter has just done the same thing to my husband and I believe in him she has lied on several occasion and he has been gone for almost a year am now because he is hopefully able to comeback now this I had a very gut wrenching feeling about her being at our house sometimes that might be bad to say but kids do lie to get attention

  2. kiki

    I would like to say thank you so much for this post its sad people are not aware of what’s going on into they are in the situation my brother is going threw this right now he is only 18 and just turned 18 and my father ex girfriend daughter now for somehwere reason saying he molested her and I’m not saying he didn’t cause he’s my brother is class clown he’s not that type of person and its sad because there’s no eveidence the girl said he had sex with her and forensics shows nothing but because she said it he’s in jail and it has changed my views so much on cases like this like u said I believe there is ppl out there like that but to have no evidence except word I can not prosecute somebody Without evidence I jus wanna say thank it this has changed my life in such a way

    • nattie

      im sorry for that Kiki but my 6 year old sister was a victum nd so was i and its very sad shes not lying. but thnnx i understand kiki but not every kid lies about tht i see year 14 and up but not under that age.

  3. Confused Female

    It appears that whenever an accusation is made it is guilty until proven innocent.
    I feel so sorry for real victims of this crime however I also feel as much sympathy for those wrongly accused. Not only does the falsely accused man go through hell but also all of his family suffer greatly. Families are split up, homes, friends, and jobs lost. Innocent children of the accused also suffer for the rest of their lives….they become the real victims. There is never the same trust afforded to a man who has been accused of sexual crimes. There is always that lingering doubt, no matter how small. Things like friends not allowing their children to have sleep-overs with the accused’s children. Teachers always watching for tell tale signs, wives loosing that complete trust.
    Life will never be the same for the innocent man and his family for a very long time, if ever.
    The damage done to these families is not afforded adequate compensation.
    Victims of sexual crimes are usually able to get some assistance and support to get on with their lives be it from government or NGO organizations…..maybe it is not always adequate or enough….but at least there is something. A wrongly accused man gets nothing.
    I believe that the punishment for false accusations should equal the potential punishment of those accused. They not only destroy their victim but also make it even more difficult for those who have suffered from sexual abuse.
    Also adequate financial compensation should be forthcoming for the wrongly accused and then deducted from any potential earnings of the person who has lied.

    • d

      That’s right its just how I feel, but they are.never punished for lying. The wrongly accused don’t even get as much as an apology.

    • jme

      My bf is being accused of molesting 2 little girls. hes in jail now and I have no idea what the truth is. Ive also been involved with a case where an 8 yr old lied about being molested and thankfully they pretty much knew right away that sge was lying. That has nothing to do with whatsit happening now. Not even the same people, but since I do know that kids lie. Idk what to believe with the present situation. I have 3 daughters of my own who were questioned and examined and nothing was ever found. I have no idea at this point if there is any evidence or nything.. My bf refuses to take a guilty plea and getting ready to take a lie detector test soon. I can only pray that this is another case of children lying cuz the thought of knowing ive been with a child molester for the last 10 months makes me want to rip my insides out. :(

  4. Jenn

    I have to agree on several of these points. I know someone going through this and it does ruin their life. It doesn’t ruin the accuser just the one one being accused. I was very close to the little girl making the accusations and she has no thought to how it is changing the lives of the people around her, her sibblings, just her. I also know the one that she has accused very well. I have extreme doubts that that person would ever do anything to harm her. After learning about this more I am now more aware of how the schools and others are treating the family and I feel for them. I don’t think the little girl is aware of that part. They teach you in schools about the bad things but they don’t teach you about the concequences of lying.

  5. Mike

    I agree with a lot of what you said. For anyone to be convicted of any crime, there should be solid, irrefutable evidence.

  6. this aeticle is good. My 16 yr old brother just had charges pressed against him because a 10 yr old said he wanted to put his hands dowm her pants. She was heard conversing with a little girl that if she makes up a lie she won’t have to go to my moms daycare anymore. It worked now my brother faces humiliation. Being 16 is hard enough :(

  7. Cynthya Spears

    I agree with Kiki, My family is going through this right now some 12 yr. old girl is trying to accuse my husband of molesting her,(the 12 yr. old is his niece). My husband and i have been married for 2 1/2 years and together 5, we have 2 beautiful children, 1 girl 1 boy, both under the age of 3. Why would he do something like that when there is way too much to risk loosing over her. I believe 100% she is lying. My husband would NEVER touch another woman let alone a little girl… Her story makes no sense, but the most confusing part is, we dont know why she would make up a lie about it? She knew my husband and i were having some problems in the marriage nothing big, but did she lie about it on my part? We dont know what to do. he has not been charged with it or anything, but if he does what are we going to do? I cant let my children go without their father! We love him so much but we could possibly loose him over a lying little bitch? WTF life is messed up these days!

    • ma

      i understand what u going threw completely… it was my neice sayn it about my husband. i also hve a son that is 3. Its over now and the charges were dropped bc she said it didnt happen after all. But how is it a 10 yr old kid can say this and that and thats what makes a case…

      • Social? workers have jobs they want to keep. Status that goes with it of ‘good guy’. Sure, espec in these hard times. Everyone is scared of them. Cops, psychcologist, detective, even judges. They steal our most precious, our children. Control freaks on power trips is what they are. And some of them have done sexual harm to the kids in their charge too. EVIL^ from the get go. So much misery from such small minds as they.

    • Ash

      You sound like every other wife who won’t believe there husband could do that. Why is a little kid saying that? How well do you know your husband?

    • Lisa

      @Cynthia -

      I hope you still read this post because your story is like mine. My daughter was getting such purposely poor grades and being such an A-hole, that my husband and I wouldn’t let her go trick or treating with her friends that year. The next morning, she sits down, has a bowl of cereal and says, Oh, Ryan touched me here and here last night, with smirk on her face. I crumpled and called the police to have them investigate and haul him off if need be, and the police we like: “That kid wasn’t molested”. But, there is still that doubt in the back of my mind. because we, as mothers, are trained to put our children first. If we don’t believe our kids, we feel like we fail them and that is how I have felt for the pat 15 years. She ruined my marriage and my life. Now, finally putting this in writing for the first time, I know that I shouldn’t give her that dignity. Time to let go.

      Then, she went on to lie about a fake pregnancy in school for a $75 bet. She would lie about homework being turned in. She would steal things and hide them just to drive me crazy (like my tweezers or scissors or something I had laid out to wear to work the next morning). I have tried to repair my relationship with my daughter and she is unwilling. She seems to believe her lie and will not come clean. For a while there, she would say that she regretted saying anything, now she will not address it. I offered lie detector tests for both because I just needed to know who I could trust. So, thanks to her, I am still married but very alone.

    • sanggumay sensa

      Cynthia, my family and I are going through hell right now because my brother is being accused of molestation by his step-daughter who just turned 18 this month. My brother has never been accused of anything in his 45 years, I practically raised him as I am the oldest among 10. Her mother has never been there for her, but my brother raised her like his own from age 5. Biological father never provided child support. Step-daughter was born when my brother’s wife was 17 years old. This step-daughter is very active on online social networking, spending hours and hours, thus her grades are f’s and c’s. Her mother practically did not spend quality time with her since mother worked partime and attended schools full time at the same time, but did not finish any of those courses. On the other hand, my brother works shift since their marriage, did everything that his wife’s should be doing at home, but she left no tme to do anything for her daughter and the rest of the family; mother always sleeping when she was home. There were frequent fights between mother and daughter even in my brother’s presence. Reportedly, from age 14 she has been sexually active, smoking, and now, finally, got caught shoplifting in a local mall and on police probation.

    • liea

      Oh come one he’s a grown man you have two small children, you have marriage problems – he turned to a little child! trust me children are innocent he did it! Do you think a man will tell you he did it? Alot of men rape and molest – the reality is they lie! your in deniel think about your daughter – how funny will it be when she comes to you at 7 and says daddy had sex with me – you will lie then? the damage you cause this little 12 year old she has nothing to lie about, she lives with her own parents not you! If it happened do you not think she has a right to speak up?

  8. Cynthya Spears

    And the worst part is, is there is NO EVIDENCE, just her “word”

    • Karyn Vincent

      Ppl just get ruined from being accused, we have daughters and grew up 3-4 neices and my sister’s son of mine from my brothers marraige break ups. A sister of mine who is a Drug addict and a compulsive Liar! married my husbands brother for years, cheated on him with his best friends and had a child to his best friend, and every other man. She couldn’t sleep straight with her poor husband, now poor brother in=law has now deceased, only 2 weeks ago, and because my husband knows everything about her, she is making accusations about him, because of her guilt and liars. This accusations makes me so angry, and confused which is putting pressure on me also with doubts, but I know my sister who is a Liar! who makes me thinks she has serious problems of being a Sociopath, and has very little social life and only has links with ppl who are a liar and druggy! Here’s a saying for you to pass onto other ppl in the same situation. “THE BEST ADDICTS ARE THE BEST LIARS, THE SMARTER THEY ARE, AND THE OLDER THEY GET, THE BETTER THEY BECOMES a VERY BETTER LIARS! THEY DONT GET TO BE OLD IF THEY’RE NOT GOOD LIARS, THEY DIE FIRST.” ! I am standing by my husband until proven Guilty!!, I have filed a Show-call Court order for my Sister on the grounds of Malious Slander, as she has Text (SMS) to my phone, myself being the third party of the accusation against my husband. Her accusation is full of liars, because I know her very well. She says one thing and when you ask her about what she has said the day before she turns around and contradicts herself of not saying what she had said. There should be a serious charge for these ppl who makes these accusations, ppl lifes are turned upside down and wrecks marraiges also family fueds.

  9. Kelly

    Are you out of your mind? Put it to the test. Create an online profile pretending to be a 10 year old girl and see how many adult men solicit you for sex. Bet you won’t even have to wait 10 minutes.
    Just because you know these men and they are your friends or acquaintances doesn’t mean they are innocent. You have not heard all the facts in the case – just the select parts they told you and want you to know. So many things are weird about the story of the teacher who’s classroom full of female students all tried to run out the door all at once. What the hell was he doing to those girls that they all FREAKED the fuck out at once and ran screaming for the door? I’m guessing he dropped his pants. Remember that the people who take these jobs in the first place put themselves in a position where they can be around young girls. Predators go to where they can find their prey. The fox can be found in the henhouse.

    • You don’t know these girls these days, espec if it is in a interracial classroom. That is all the excuse some would need. People are being taught to be/do evil because that’s what “trickle down” means to do in order to make more control over all of us necessary. and the kids fall into the trap. Guess what? The job of social worker and Foster parent attracts the very type of person you love to hate – pedophiles. Yeah. my kids were in foster care and years later they told me. Oh. my mom a druggie wanted me out of the way so she made up false stories which these so called social workers took her word, not my kids who said I was a good mom. There ought to be special free govt. attorneys for those accused by idiots who don’t have any sense. I was put in a insane asylum and given shock treatment while pregnant, my youngest still suffers from that, they all suffer from the trauma. 80% of foster kids wind up in prison, over 12% suffer more abuse in foster care than in original home.
      I research this and it is endemic in English speaking nations. There is where your money goes That and wars falsely started to keep you from getting wise to who’s really stealing from you.

  10. A molestation case happened to me but it was a boy who was 15. I, a man of 53,no record at all, except for DWI and Pot charges,was helping him get to narcotic annonymous meetings and the boy was at a mens halfway house.HIs parent-mother was pushed backwards on a stairway by him and could not control him so she put him in a rehab. The boy confided in me and said he was gay. The boy was punished one day and to get out of trouble he said I molested him. He had ratted out other guys in the rehab house when he got in trouble and the manager would not punish him anymore. This boy was using drugs and was not being tested, and also on heavy medication. I was accussed and charge with 9 counts and he said it only happened once. My bail was 100000.00
    I spent $22,000 in lawyer fees was slandered attack , beat up twice and my life was shattered for 9 months before the courts decided to drop all charges since they had absolutely no evidence anything occurred.Nothing was ever written about me in the local paper after I was acquitted. The boy could not even keep his lies straight but police still charged me. Well kids lie and they do it alot, this boy continued using drugs and is 18 now and has been arrested 5 times but still has never apologized to me or ever said it never happened. This happens alot I found out, and I pity the teachers and priests and everyone else who looks after our teens.

    • nominay

      You’re a better man than I am. Had it been me, upon acquittal I would’ve shot everyone to death I was upset with for my ordeal and committed suicide.

  11. Al

    I’ll disagree to the extent of saying that consent can appear to be given when the child is under the authority or superiority of the adult, even at 18 if still in school where there is the aura of authority. There was a case here where the Impression taught by the teacher was that the way society worked one could get better grades, jobs, and other benefits by “putting out.” Offer, consent, but wrong by an authority figure.

    I do support you on the lying. Kids do lie and can be quite conniving – any teacher can tell you that one how many do cheat. It is hard to know when they tell the truth – but in molestation matters we always believe that what they say is true. It sounds like out of a trashy novel but I am also aware of a couple’s niece who often stayed over babysitting. She also helped staying with the at home parent on weekends or in summer when the other traveled. The husband was a very straight laced guy but she trapped him well one time by crawling in with him one time and starting the process. He awoke, realized it was the niece and not his wife and got angry. He started to telephone his brother-in-law. The niece told him they were going to continue then and any time she came or she would turn him in to police. She knew from school and TV about DNA evidence and he knew he wouldn’t be believed – even if he made an immediate call to police himself. Subsequently I advised him to suggest to his wife they reduce use of her and concentrate on a more nearby babysitter they also used so they would not have to drive so far and because the niece was supposedly not doing so well in school anymore. That did not last long. The niece telephoned him threatening to out him saying she had condoms saved. This ended with him trying to kill himself at which point he told everything and at which point everyone including authorities and psychologists assumed he, not she, was guilty, which was why he tried suicide. Kids do lie and are clever.

    I just don’t know how to tell when it is true- because adult molestation has to far exceed the reverse. I just don’t want to convict someone who is really innocent in the process.

    • I wonder what sort of psycho problems these kids have or turn out to be later on. Just knowing and telling authorities to be on the lookout for that could be useful. Warning the brats could be too. It’s a long way from 70 years ago when I was violently raped by my uncle and mom blamed me. I was sick with diarrea for months as long as mom had him stay with us, which saved me from further attacks as I had to wear diapers and he knew why. Getting pooped on was not his idea of fun.

  12. hoochychick

    my partner of nearly 2 years as just been convicted on 8 out of 12 counts of sexual abuse of his wives 13 year old daughter.The rape got dropped cos there was no evidence and she was intact down below. But she convinced the court some how that he made her do things although we proved she lied about the rape. it ruins everyones live including mine and my own children. he got 8 years and prob serve 4 years. we are currently waiting for a re-trial as a lot of supporting evidence was withdrawn by the police. my partner is ex army and has no criminal record what so ever. He is a good man as i have 3 children 2 of which have special needs. I met him after he had split from his wive due to this alligation and got to know about quite early into our relationship. His ex-wive also did’nt believe her daughter and ried her best to get back with him and slept with him on 2 occasions after her daughters allegation. Has he refused to get back into a relationship with her she as backed her daughter all the way now and i can see why her daughter is like she is cos her mother is also bitter and twisted that her marrige is now over. she as sent social services to my door and i’ve now got them on my back. my partner has now lost his good job, his freedom and his life. EVEN if he wins his re-trial the damage has been done as my doctor told me today the social services will still be on my back if he gets out and they could threaten me with losing my yougest son of 10 if i continue my relationship with him. He is a lovely man and is 13 years younger than me but i’ve lost my soul mate and is has caused so much stress cos a young girl wanted him out of the house and her mothers attention all on her. she’s certainly done that big time but ruined so many lives in the process/ I just hope the re-trial can see the injustice.

  13. Debbie

    I know someone that has been arrested and charged with 3 counts of predatory criminal sexual assault and 1 agg criminal sexual abuse. Our special needs 7 yr old had gotten into trouble from his dad before he left with his counselor and then he said a bunch of stuff all of which is a complete lie. My husbands niece had shown him pornography amd his 9 yr old brother which is documented and they are believing our special needs son because they say he wouldn’t know what he does without having been assaulted. They have very vivid imaginations and can’t make up stories that really do seem real. Besides that my husband and I are both home. They took our boys into protective custody because I said I know nothing about it cuz it never happened so they are trying to indicate me for risk of harm cuz it “happened” under my watch. Now I have lost my husband and our sons. WE don’t have money for a “real” attorney and a public defender cant take the time my husband needs for his case. Anyone have any ideas? IN desperate help.

    • There should be a place like Adult Children of Alcoholic(druggie) Parents which I went to for awhile. But other than finding a group of like persons, your lives and those of your kids as well, are screwed as was mine. And the authorities do not care. My Dad went to a congressman to help me get my kids back, but the CPS smugly told me there would be hell to pay and that once the family ties were broken you can never repair them. It has been mostly true too. They know they are an evil bunch.VP
      Walter Mondale who promoted this in ’63 and revised it in ’67 sail he’d rather 99 innocent people would be falsly accused/imprisoned than let one child molester go free. off. There is a real mystery that goes with this, missing undersecretary and files at a plane transfer in Chicago
      Return to DC and missing files, blacked out sentences from the original documents, really weird stuff – scary.
      I prefer researching Sasquatch. You can believe in them

  14. Educated opinion

    You obviously did write this just to piss people off and unfortunately everyone IS entitled to their own opinion. If you really do believe that 50% of accusations are false then you are far beyond help. Your ignorance is almost humorous, to blame molestation on feminists and to speak of children, young girls to be specific, as little bitches, speaks of your mentality. You are no further advanced then the 10 year old making the accusation. Have you even attempted to educate yourself on this topic? If so, then I believe you would know that a large amount of molestation accusations come from young boys. Remember the Catholic church scandals? More recently, a famous coach? You have an overwhelming hatred of the female persuasion and it leads me to wonder what terrible thing happened to you? Maybe the story is in fact about you and not about your “friend”. I don’t even have to ask whether you are married or if you have children, the answer was boldly printed in your uneducated post.

  15. I remember reading a comment a year ago in NYT, by a University of California feminist, about men who are tried on false rape/child abuse charges and have their lives and reputation tainted forever. According the the said feminist, in the greater quest for justice for wronged women, an innocent man’s reputation and life is irrelevant.

    It was pretty much the end of my former pro-feminist leanings. I realised feminism isn’t about liberating women, but a socially and legally engineered terrorism of men. It is just the mirror image of misognism.

  16. When I joined the Socialist Feminists it was about equal pay for equal work and equal opportunity as well as equality for all and fair pay. Well we have been sold down the river by the lies the lying theiving banks and big corporations who think only of money and power and that people are theirs to do with as they choose. It is this attitude that encourages abuse of all sorts as the 1% are allowed to get away with it. This is an abusive addictive society and it will only get worse untill we recognise and deal with it. Getting sidetracked by issues, womens bodies being under men’s control, gays getting married (I’m for it as commited relationships are more disease free). All this diverts us from what’s really going on. We are being manipulated so that we can be robbed and abused and blamed – all of us. Those doing it are the sickest of all. Those who chime in are sick and stupid.

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  18. Jay

    A year ago I was told from my best friend that my 13yr old sister was being touched by my boyfriend 3 yrs before and it stopped after my daughter was born in 2007. Of course I went crazy and broke his car windows and was going to kill him with a golf club, then after speaking to my sister about pressing chargers her attitude was different.So it got me doing my own investigation.I questioned her myself, like when was the first time? where? and all she do was cry… But i did get only a handful of answers.Then my older sister also questioned her because we all live together.The answers we got didnt match the timeline she said it happened…I want to believe her but since then all she does is lie and disrespect my parents…Could she possilbly be lying about my boyfriend?

  19. Jay

    But now she is starting to cut herself and blames the family.Since the time the allegation was made all she wants is to be with her boyfriend who is 17yrs old. He was the first that she told the story to. And he and his family believes her.Everytime I try to talk her she shuts down.My boyfriend passed the lie detector and the detective closed the case.She also called CPS on my father while she was in school, saying that she was scared to go home because he was going to beat her up.They put her in a shelter for the weekend.She asked the worker if they could place her in foster care with her friends aunty…And was trying to use the phone to call her boyfriend while she was there. Why would any child say something to split up a family for there own selfish reasons? All this came out after my parents told her that she couldnt be with the boyfriend anymore(Apirl of last year) Then early June is when my ex-bestfriend told me the story..Im very protective of my 4yr old daughter now.

    • Angel

      I understand exactly what you are going through. My boyfriend’s 15 year old accused him of molesting her. I have had issues with her lieing about everything the 4 years she lived with me. She always wanted attention from peers, but especially boys and she was malicious and sneaky. I always tried to help her be a better person, but her grandparents always said that she was just like her mom (whom she was taken from and rights terminated by the state). She wanted to see her mother, but her dad always said no. Now that she is in foster care we got word that she planned to go meet her mom. Makes me think her lieing mother put her up to it in the story in the first place. She said a couple of years ago that her uncle molested her and that was investigated and closed with no finding. My daughter is also 15 and says my boyfriend has never touched her and she is not afraid to be around or alone with him. So what does all of that tell you? This girl is none other than a liar and now we are stuck trying to appeal a decision by children and families because they believe her and substantiated her claim of sexual abuse on only her word! She just keeps telling more people that she was molested and it is getting her an enormous amount of attention. I feel completely helpless!

      • protect the family

        98% of foster children are molested. A social worker said, “It must be 100%, as long as I’ve worked it’s been my experience.”

  20. Tanya yeater

    I have a fiance in jail who is bein accused of molesting his now 7 year old son but was between the ages of 2 and 3 when is supposedly happened. Now why after 4 years would you come out with a story especially when you were that young? I tell you why because his vindictive ex wife put her son up to this i know she did and thats what they are holding him on is just the kids word. He has not seen his son in 4 years and last year he comes out with this story. Please help in tellin me what i should do so another innocent man doesnt get ruined. Helpless is Indiana.

    • lisa

      What exactly did your son say? I have concerns that it was 4 years later; as my daughter accused my husband the next day which is abnormal. Do you have insurance? As in, can you take him to a counselor? When our case was investigated, it was the therapists, the sheriff’s department and our own investigation that gave us some answers. Though, I still have ‘iffy days’. If this did happen, I HATE my husband because this is not how my life/family was supposed to turn out. Some days I hate my daughter. Her selfish lie has ruined my life and our family. Now she wants back in and we are all like: Whoa! Nellie!

      I guess the bottom line, is to get some proof from professionals so that you can present them in court. Best of luck to you. This is really hard. We are trained to always believe our kids first, but then they can be real jerks and know what buttons to push. Then we feel guilty when, in the back of our minds, we know what is true, but we can’t bring ourselves to put our spouse over our children. Somedays I have thought: What good did this do for our family by sticking by her? What good has it done by having her go on her own? When someone is wrongfully accused of molestation, there are no answers. I still hurt every day and it has made me very paranoid.

      Lisa

  21. DC

    Where is the statistics fro 50% being false? I’m not saying it doesn’t surprise me. There is a culture in our society especially when it comes to sex crimes where people allways believe the word of the victim and the accused is guilty until proven innocent.

  22. Tanya

    This was not my son but my fiance son. It also concerns me that four year later he decides to come up with this story. I do believe the boys mother put him up to this without a doubt. The boys words were my daddy humped me at the trailer and put his wee wee in my mouth and then later referred to the penis as a kiwi later on in the story. None of it makes sense and i dont believe that a two or three year old would remember he lived specifically in a trailer. I know i sure dont remember where i lived at 2 years old. Thank you for your reply back and sorry this has happened to you as well. I hope the jury can see through all the bs and see that she is just a crazy bitter ex.

  23. Objectivity

    Personally I’m a little suspicious of men who go into the teaching profession. What is their motivation to be around kids? I think there is a lot of molestation that goes unreported.

  24. sc

    I watched my husband get sentenced to 14yrs because his niece said he raped her. I have known him since we were 15 and I believe him to be innocent without a doubt. I never thought he would be convicted on no evidence and yet he was. And now our three kids have to grow up without their father who went from Marine to inmate. I encourage everyone to be careful when sitting on a jury to think of the lives they might destroy based on no evidence.

    • Yvonne

      My son has been accused of molesting his daughter. He has continually denied any of this , his daughter has no physical evidence , no scaring , no tearing. She stated that it happened since she was 9. Her Mother had threatened a month or two prior to accusation , that if he didn’t sign over all rights she would find something to where he would have to. My son is facing 25 years to life if convicted , since the accusations are in 2 counties , there would be 2 trials… the Grandjury believed her , and I guess the judges do too. He and his present wife are thinking of plea bargin which is drop accusations in one county and serve 15 years/go through programs in jail etc. and he could get off in 13 yrs 10 months. It is so scary. why do people believe kids , lives are ruined. my heart is breaking , his baby will be 15 when he gets out. so so sad. no lie detecter tests were taken. they say it cant be evidence. I just wish we could face the daughter at least once and ask questions ( without her mother who had also accused her ex. husband of abusing their older daughter ).. I am just just heart pain…sad…. we just dont know what to do , trial in one with 50 50 chance then trial in another 50 50 chance.

      • Yvonne

        Oh and how do I face my Grandchildren without feeling mad/like how could you say all that ? my son and our family need a miracle

  25. Bobbi

    My nephew accused one of his father’s friends that he didn’t like, of molesting him. My sister, his mother, called the police and had him investigated. He took a lie detector test and passed. My nephew 14years old, got nervous and i guess figured it had gone far enough, admitted he made the entire story up! His parents are divorced and his father is a deadbeat, but where some might see reasons to excuse this behavior, I’m furious! He could’ve ruined someone’s life! He’s old enough to know better and he needs his ass beat. I’m hoping my sister and her husband punish him to the fullest extent they can. She’s going to make him apologize to the man he accused and to the detectives, and make him use the money he’s saved to buy a car, to repay the states fees, but i don’t think it’s enough! Yes, kids do lie! I’m so angry with my nephew, I could spit nails!

    • Mel

      I feel you on this one. When I asked the parents that our children talk with a psychologist, they didn’t want to. Either they don’t want to know the truth because they’re not fully convinced on their daughter’s lie or they just want to keep accusing my son. Even calling him a maniac over the phone. At least the parents didn’t believe their son one hundred per cent. It’s much more difficult when the parents of the 15 yr old lying child think that their daughter is still innocent as they want to believe she is. They were not even aware that she had a boyfriend already. These kids are not just bitches, they’re evil.

  26. charlene

    I HAVE TO AGREE WITH YOU FULL TILT ON THIS ONE!!! MY DAUGHTER HAS HAD A LIEING PROBLEM FOR A VERY VERY LONG TIME, SHE IS 6 YEARS OLD AND HAS HAD MANY TIMES I OBSERVED NOT JUST LIEING ABOUT LITTLE THINGS, SHE LIED ABOUT BEING UNSUPERVISED TO MY RETIRED SOCIAL WORKER FRIEND WHEN MY FRIEND TOOK HER TO A KID PLAY AREA WITH HER DAUGHTER TO HAVE FUN ONE TIME, SHE HAS LIED ABOUT SO MANY THINGS TO DRIVE MY BOYFRIEND AND OTHER BOYFRIEND’S AWAY BECAUSE OF JEALOUSY OF NOT ENOUGH ATTENTION TIME ON HER PART AND HAD A BIG SMIRK ON HER FACE WHEN I SENT HIM OFF AND IT WAS JUST ME AND HER BECAUSE I COULD NOT TRUST HER AROUND HIM, SHE DREW A SATANISTIC VAMPIRE FACE ON A LITTLE GIRL IN HER AGENDA!!! KIDS ARENT INNOCENT!!!! LOTS OF THEM LIE AND WHAT GETS ME IS HOW MOST OF PARENT’S LIVES ARE RUINED LOVING MARAIGES AND MANY OTHER THINGS BECAUSE PEOPLE VIEW CHILDREN AS INNOCENT LITTLE ANGELS, THEY ARE NOT, WHEN I WAS A CHILD I WAS NOT A LITTLE ANGEL ILL ADMIT I WAS DEVILISH!!! THEY HAVE NOT FULLY DEVELOPED A CONSCIOUS, GUILT OR A HEART IN EMOTION FOR THAT MATTER. THEY RUN WILD WITH LACK OF RESPECT FOR OTHERS, SABBOTAGING RELATIONSHIPS ALL AROUND THEM AND LAUGHING WHEN SOMEONE GETS HURT, I FEEL THEY SHOULD BE LIABLE FOR THEIR ACTIONS AND I KNOW AS WELL THERE LACK OF KNOWLEDGE, SINCE THEY ARE NOT FULLY AWARE OF REALITY, SHOULD BE TAUGHT WHATS WRONG AS WELL, GIVEN A CHANCE BECAUSE THERE NOT BORN TO KNOW HOW THE WORLD WORKS, BUT ONCE THEY KNOW FROM BEING TAUGHT HOW ITS NOT RIGHT, THEN THEY SHOULD BE LIABLE FOR WHAT THEY HAVE DONE!!! SHE HAS TOYED WITH MY BOYFRIEND’S EMOTIONS AND MINE, HAS PUSHED EVERY BUTTON POSSIBLE ON EVERY PERSON IVE LET TAKE CARE OF HER, GIVEN EVIL GLARES, SCOLDS, SCREAMED BLOODY MURDER, STARVED HERSELF BECAUSE SHE DIDNT LIKE SOME KINDS OF FOODS, ACTED KIND TO GET HER TOYS BACK, BUT THEN QUICKLY ACT LIKE A BRAT TO ONLY HAVE THEM TAKEN AWAY AGAIN. CRAPPED HER PANTS NO MATTER HOW KIND AND ENCOURAGING I WAS TO HER TO LEARN, ONLY TO LISTEN TO SOMEONE ELSE WHEN BEING LIED TO, TREATS ME LIKE CRAP WHEN IAM NICE, AND ANYONE WHO TREATED HER LIKE CRAP, SHED BE KIND TO. SHE WOULD PUT ON AN ACT OF INNOCENT FACE TO EVERYONE AROUND HER AND TURN INTO A MONSTER TO PEOPLE SHE WAS LIVING WITH. KIDS ARENT INNOCENT, AND ITS TIME FOR SOCIETY TO SMARTEN UP AND TAKE ACTIONS, THEY NEED GUIDANCE ON HOW TO BE BROUGHT UP KIND, BUT THEY ALSO NEED TO WAKE UP WHEN THEYVE BEEN GIVEN ENOUGH CHANCES!!! I HAVE NO INTEREST IN SEXUAL ACTIVITIES WITH CHILDREN, BUT I CAN SAFELY SAY, SOME PEDOPHILES OUT THERE GOT A POINT, KIDS ARE MANIPULATING AND PERSUASIVE LITTLE DEVIANTS. KIDS ARE SELFISH AND IF THEY DONT GET WHAT THEY WANT, THEY WILL TRY OTHER WAYS IN THERE POWER TO GET IT. WHEN YOU GIVE THEM AN INCH THEY LL TAKE A MILE, SO DON’T BE TOO KEEN TO FULLY TRUST THEM. THANKYOU FOR THIS ARTICLE VERY WELL PUT.

  27. charlene

    email me charlenekarras333@gmail.com for further commuication, Iam still with my boyfriend and we ve seen some pretty devilish things from my daughter, we have been together for five months and it hasnt been easy to be together because of her actions, the only rocky part in our relationship has been her and her actions, and I have no doubt she will betray me sometime down the road too, prepared for anything. But all I can tell you is this time, Im siding with my boyfriend, soon to be husband, if anybody decides to lie or betray, then noone gets the benefit of the doubt, Iam my own person and whether that means leaving people behind whether a mother or not I will. If a child holds a steak knife to you, do you just take it??? No you call the cops on them and if they decide to do it again,, there out, children need to be taught like an adult, because they are little people too, not angels that save your life.

  28. Mel

    I could never believe that a girl would lie about being abused until my own 17yr old son got accused of his own cousin who is a 15yr old cousin. She claims that he had inserted his finger on her genitals when she was 8yrs old and he was the 11yrs old. My son has been studying in a Catholic since pre-school up to this day that he is in college, and she studying in a public school. The environment of her school, needless to say, is involved in cutting classes, alcohol, smoking, drugs and are sexually active. Tho I’m not saying that everyone must be doing so, to be exposed with other kids who do those things is another aspect to be looked into.
    I have asked my son about it and he cannot completely remember anything. Between those years, I remember the girl going to our house and chatting with my son every time they will come to visit my mother-in-law, whose house is adjacent to ours. She would be going to his room with his brother and talk with all my other children. During family get-together, I have seen her remained jolly with all her other cousins as well including my own children. She’s often the one going to my son to talk as he is closest to her age. My son, on his part is closer to his older male cousin who is two yrs older than he is. Her parents have not talked about any change of behavior in between those years.
    Until recently, my son have told me that she had a boyfriend already when she hit 15. She had told him before that “claiming incident.”
    She had also that claimed four months after I left our house with my youngest son, because my husband had physically hurt me in front of my two smaller children. My daughter is not yet decided whether to come with me or not, as he is my husband’s favorite child, so I asked my oldest son to stay with her sister. She’s only 10 yrs old, so he has to be there to look after her. They have stayed with me on several occasions after that separation.
    I still am not convinced whom to believe until recently, my daughter had discovered of her lying about some books that she lost that she had borrowed from my son several months ago. Those books recently showed up at her instagram, so my daughter confronted her on her comments but instead of answering back, she made up stories to her mother that my daughter had been doing that for several weeks already. Mother claims that her daughter had been depressed because of that.
    I have read my daughter’s instagram comments, 1st was a question if those were her brother’s supposed lost books and two other comments of quotations about imitation, honesty, integrity and reputation. These so-called comments shamed her and devastated her to the point of depression, so claims her mother.
    Now these got me into thinking, she’s an evil liar bitch who knows how to be a drama queen and knows how to play with her own mother’s feelings and love for her to a point of making lies to cover up her own misdeeds. Her mother had cursed me over the phone and stalked me in sms messages with hurtful comments, even telling that I deserved what I got of having been physically abused because she thought that I was the one who did those comments simply because they were in perfect English, even after my daughter had told then that she was the one who commented on her daughter’s instagram. (I just can’t make her understand that my daughter is an achiever and a straight A student in a reputable school, so how come can she not make those comments).
    I am ashamed that I have questioned my own son’s integrity and honesty because of her lies. But I know better, my son have been a shoulder to cry on during our family’s most difficult situation. He had taken care of her sister well and had been a “man” more than his own father could be.
    But one thing’s for sure, girls can do make up such horrible stories to seek attention or to get what they want from their parents or to cover up what she might be doing with her own boyfriend.
    It’s true that being abused is a devastating experience to women but it is just as devastating to men who are abused wrongly.
    Media have put up such a big hype on the drama of the abused that some bitchy girls have learned to use it to their advantage.
    The claimant of the abuse and the supposed perpetrator should both be given a chance to go thru lie detector tests and psychological tests for the truth to come out.
    These bitchy girl’s evil deeds will eventually show up on her future. I pity her parents for believing that she’s as innocent as she pretends to be, but then it’s still up to them to think intelligently for their children. Not because you’re the parent, you would believe everything that your child tells you. After all, a lie is just the tip of the iceberg. That one statement can be supported or unsupported by other facts and signs surrounding that lie. Being a loving parent is always good to a child but be a smarter parent. Don’t take their word for it, THINK before REACTING.

  29. jane

    my husband is currently in a situation where he is facing rape charges of my now 9 year old daughter. my husband is retired military and done alot of tours and sacrificed for our family. we have been married 6 1/2 years and have 2 beautiful boys together 5 year old and 4 month old. i have seen the evidence and i believe that my daughter is lying as she now lives with her biological father. on 2/14 we got a visit from cps saying that my husband had stood in the bathroom while my daughter was in the shower and “masturbated” and she said that this was false. in the 2/14 report it also says that on 2/15 the cps investigator had phoned my ex and he admitted that he blew up and also says to her that there is fixing to be a custody dispute. on 2/22 my ex and his current wife got mad that we made them meet us at the police station which is in the order and while there my ex’s current wife said “your going to pay”. then the next day we are greeted yet again by cps only this time saying that my husband had molested my daughter. on 2/27 they did a interview with my daughter and she says it happened but on the video she is happy and smiling in talking about it. but it was said that i had gone to the store angry (i have never left my house angry or upset). in the report that the cops did the step-mom says “she must have left to go to the store.” she said it happened during the 9 months i was pregnant but yet she says she couldnt remeber if she was 8 or 9 at the time bu makes it a point to say it was during the 9 months (i had recently given birth the first part of feb.) when the cops from the town that my ex currently lives in questioned my daughter the step-mother was present and said it must have happened during the 9 months i was pregnant.also while the cops were questioning alesa the step-mother was asking questions and it was asked for a time frame and she couldnt give one while talking to them. she also goes on to say that she is happy to be living with her dad now and that her step-mother is her new soon to be real mom. She says that her brothers at our house are mean to her but yet the youngest is only a week old at this time. our other son is 5 years old at this time. she goes on to say that she enjoys playing dolls with her sisters at her dads house. her story changed in details from the first time she told the cops and when she did the interview.
    my ex had asked me previously in txt messages of names and addresses of anyone who had watched her and he knew that i stayed home and took care of my kids. he had asked me while my husband was on deployments if he could have custody this year and i take custody next year and i said no because of the schools. then he asked me if he could have custody for 6 months and then i have her for 6 months and i said no again because of the schools.
    i know that my husband is innocent this has torn our family apart as he hasnt gotten to see our sons in 4 months and our youngest is 4 months old. my 5 year old constantly asks mommy when is daddy coming home as i have not told him what is going on.

    • jane

      also on the sexual assault exam they found no evidence so it is my daughters word against my husbands. i have had issues with her lying to me before about stuff also she has lied to my husbands family and my family about things in the past.

      • liea

        Ever thing that he wants your daughter out of the home? she is not his kid all kids lie, even 2 year olds, but its your job as a mother to believe your child when something big like this happens. What you want is sex, you couldn’t have sex in your last month of pregnancy or the first few months of it – so he turned to your baby girl of only 9 years old…probably not even started puberty yet! your a sick lady – i hope your punished with karma – oh and your 2 sons will grow up to be a abuser, child molester and rapist like their father! you will defend them too! Most men molest its only 1 or 2 % it could be false but generally – the man is always guilty its the man with the sex drive not the 8 year old girl!

    • liea

      OMG woman – she is 9 years old! Trust me men have their ways you just had a baby – he was looking for sex from a little girl. She is your baby protect her – not him! throw him away! You are very ignorant! She’s a little girl 9 years old – he is a grown man that is horney at least 3 times a day! she’s new to the world he isn’t! hello? It doesn’t matter if she was smiling maybe she was nerved. Is he worth it? you lost your child for life! All for some cock!

  30. Christine

    My fiancé is currently going thru this as well. He was accused by his sister of touching her daughter, age 5, because she wanted money to buy drugs and he wouldn’t give it to her. He is currently awaiting trial in a Florida jail. myself and our 4 children are in Pennsylvania. We cannot visit him and even if we could, it would be from behind glass. She got her 5 yr old child to say that he did this to her. Their stories don’t match up and thelittlegirl even used hand expressed quotation marks when she was explaining to her older cousin that her uncle had touched her. Children at age 5 don’t do that and in her story, she used words a grown up would use, not a child. Something needs to be done about these people that abuse the system and suffer no consequence for lying. My fiancé would never do that. We have been together 15 yrs and he has not ever touched one of our kids nor had he touched any of their friends. He’s never been accused before but yet he sits in jail facing a 25 to life if convicted. I am not blind nor am i stupid. I know him better than he knows himself at times. I Assn standing behind him 100% and i hope he gets to come home soon. We all miss him so much.

    • Christine

      Oh and i forgot to mention……..there is no evidence at all. Just the junkie mothers word and a coerced video of the child who appears to be absolutely fine while telling her mothers made up bullshit.

  31. Mike

    Robert thank you for doing as i asked my buddy is facing a life sentence if convicted here and he didnt do anything wrong at all, the police are over zealous in these matters they dont care about your innocence in these matters and that is why someone can fool them so easily, i hope my buddy can crush this like he says cause the evidence against him was created by a certain family member hence fabricated otherwise he will go to prison for life on a lie..

  32. I agree with you 100% on this article. There are liars out there who are more than willing to put a good man away for the rest of his life, and have no concept of the horrible crime they themselves are committing by doing so. The problem is that we have given the state too much power, too much “teeth” to deal with these situations, and the reason we gave them that is pure hysteria. A few well-written but misleading articles, and the next thing you know everyone is at risk.

    I myself have been a victim of the system’s overzealous attacks, and the torture that is now an automatic part of the system, and I was never even found guilty of a crime. For years I have fought the stigma and the courts and they continue to drag out my cases without letting them go. In my case I had a sworn statement from the alleged victim that said nothing happened, a forensic interview video with her saying the same, and a successful polygraph test result, and absolutely no medical evidence or DNA at all. Despite this, the parents tortured the girl into giving a statement against me, and the state has not let up since. When I thought I was finally going to get a trial, a week before the district attorney told my lawyer they wanted me to take a probation deal and sex offender registration or they would file two additional charges for the same alleged incident. They use coercion and threats to force people to take these deals, and the “deal” is that you go on probation, and if you screw up in any way at all the judge can sentence you to the maximum punishment of 20 years per charge. That’s a life sentence for a false claim. Later I found out the girl apparently had a birth defect that would have made her claimed sexual contact physically impossible in the first place, but I was unsuccessful in getting her medical records from the hospital where she had the corrective surgery.

    Even without being a registered sex offender or being convicted of a crime, I fail criminal background checks when I apply for jobs. My earning potential to support my children is nullified by this without a finding of guilt. The system punishes us immediately on accusation alone. I was repeatedly arrested, assaulted, tortured, and humiliated as part of the criminal justice system itself.

    The state has too much power, and no wisdom to wield that power. We must take the power away from the state. It’s the only answer.

      • Power 2 the people! Power to the people! This is a Democracy for Jove’s sake.

      • mommy89

        Robert Lindsay ur a fuckn retard! Why would u call any female a bitch especially little girls! Obviously u have done something that ur ashamed of and go on here to see how many more idiots follow u! U ppl are ignorants especially u dumb mothers!
        Own family members rape and molest children so why wouldn’t step fathers or family friends do it??? You disgust me! And by the look of ur picture u look like a nasty man!

        • Of course family friends and stepfathers molest kids. I haven’t done anything that I am ashamed of with regard to kids under the age of 14. Nope. Teenage girls is another matter, but I ain’t ashamed of that honey.

        • Balram

          Robert why have you not gone for her jugular?? If a guy writes even half of the abuse that she wrote then you authoritatively say BANNED FOOL…… why not this woman then??? gender bias???

        • I did ban her, just did not say so.

  33. robbyn

    True little girls do lie. They lie to get attention. People who do the acussing should be required to take polygraphs. However, they are not. So innocent victim’s go to prison because of young 9 to 13 yr olds wanting attention. The majority of cases could be easily resolved if they demanded more testing from all partied involved.
    My son sits in prison right now for sexually assaulting a minor. Yet he passed 3 poly’s.. there was no medical evidence that the girls had been touched. Yet it was their word against his. Each situation is unique and should be handled uniquely. This case my son is innocent and the girls just wanted attention. However, some girls dont lie and those kids need to be protected.
    Its too bad that the system doesnt do everything possible to find out the truth. Its all about putting someone away and making them pay. Guilty or not guilty.

  34. Allison

    50% of accusations are lies? Seems you just made that number up and then bolded it like its a fact people should remember for later.

    I’m sure that plenty of people are falsely accused. But I bet that number is still way lower than the number of cases that go unreported.

    The reality is, there is often just not any evidence. My sister and I were both molested by our uncle. I never told anyone until I found out, years later that it happened to her aslo ten years after it happened to me. I now see that he is a pedophile that should be stopped.

    But, he’s a likeable guy and adimitely denies it. I’m sure his wife will end up believing him and my sister and I will be accused of lying.

    It sucks. I never said anything because I was so young when it happened that I didn’t realize how wrong it was until much later and then didn’t want to break up the family. I rationalized it because he was a teen. Now that I know that at 26 he molested my sister who was 4 at the time I feel guilty that I didn’t say anything.

    But really, does it matter. Nothing is going to happen. I’m sure he will just go on being a good guy and secretly molesting children.

  35. Jacki Leighton-Boyce

    What about cases of young boys lying about molestation? Surely this exists too? Why would young girls lie more about sexual abuse than boys might do? If the supposed perpetrator is straight, then does this mean that its only the girls who can convincingly lie about them?

    I reacon many gay man have had the experience of having a young boy lie about their behaviour? I remember when I was at school we had a cookery teacher who was supposedly a lesbian and the rumours amongst the girls were always to avoid being left on your own with her. There were no stories of her ever having molested a girl, but because she was a lesbian, young girls knowledge seemed to be based on thinking that she was therefore capable of molestation wtf?

  36. Jacki Leighton-Boyce

    Also, my understanding of most cases of real abuse with children is that the child is quiet and secretly ‘groomed’ over a period of time and the child remains silent about the abuse and too scared and confused to tell anyone. I am always hearing of parents and teachers seeing the signs and coaxing the confessions out of the child over a period of time. But obviously this is just my understanding of some cases but not every case.

  37. Tiffany

    Love this because my fiancee is being accused of molesting his exgirlfriends daughter and the mother of the eleven year old daughter is a feminist and annoying as hell she has done nothing but ruined his life by causing him to lose his two sons three jobs and on the verge of our home because this wicked bitch is on a power trip… my fiancee has thought of suicide at one point after spending 3 damn weeks in jail to find his home destroyed and robbed because people thought he done it over this shit… I was molested and almost raped by a real pervert and what gets me is there’s real cases our law enforcement could be working on but they focus on accusations and not by evidence anymore

  38. Tracy frank

    First I want to ask who you are and where you get your info from. (The person who wrote the original comment) It is very interesting. Someone very close to me has been accused and charged with molesting his daughter. It is all false. I have been trying to do some research on the matter but keep coming up with the same info “2% lie. I think that is baloney.

  39. Kd

    Kids lie to get attention I am going through the same thing my granddaughter accused her grandfather and I stand behind him 100 percent and will go to my grave because I had a gut wrenching suspicious when she was ther at our house now he is not here to defend hisself this happens when they know he will be coming home soon he had been gone for a year they are vindictive people and try to start trouble for any one they don’t like and I M the one they don’t like they don’t want me happy obvious when they say things like your going to miserable the rest of your life like you are now this is crazy and society is not right

  40. First of all I would like to say that I absolutely believe some girls/boys do lie about being molestated/raped for attention. However, we also know that molestation/rape does happen. We all have to agree that every allegation is either a lie or the truth and I don’t believe anyone would want to believe that their child could make up such a lie, but yet we know it happens. On the other hand nobody would want to believe that their husband/wife or their boyfriend/girlfriend or any loved family member could or would molest or rape a child, but we know this happens.
    I like many of you have a similar situation going on in my life. But having a broad spectrum view of either side in my opinion is not the solution. Yes, I believe the accuser in my situation is lying. And yes, this accusation is damaging the person accused and it breaks my heart.
    What I would like you to think about is the possibility of mental illness on the part of the accuser. If there has been past issues and problems that you feel are extreme then please do whatever you can to try and get that person/ child evaluated for the possibility of a mental illness.
    This situation has been extremely difficult on my marriage. So we sought out professional counseling. It was a psychologist who brought it to our attention after hearing many details about the accusers past and present behavior in situations throughout the years before and after the first mention of abuse. Although this information about the possibility of mental illness doesn’t change or diminish the damage this accusation has caused to the accused and their family. Please hear me when I say this again.
    I am in No Way making light of the situation that the accused and family members of the accused go through during everything they have endured, are now enduring, and will endure in the future. However, learning about the possibility of mental illness on behalf of the child/accuser does shed light on how a child/accuser can conjure up such a heinous accusation against someone else with no remorse and continue relentlessly to get others to believe them no matter who gets hurt in the process. Their lie becoming our truth is all they care about and in my opinion from what I understand, most will carry it to their grave. And unfortunately there is nothing we can do to stop them.
    We can however try to reduce the tension in our world caused by the accuser. My advise and I’m not an expert, this is just from my own experience:
    1) Don’t argue with the accuser about this it at all.
    That’s what they want so they can continue to persuade/manipulate you into believing them. If ANYTHING at all is mentioned leave, walk away, hang up, whatever you need to do to NOT participate in their dillusion.
    2) Block them from social media. You’ve heard the saying, “Out of sight out of mind” so don’t give the accuser the ability to see your name, thoughts, comments, or pictures.
    3) Conduct yourself with grace and kindness. Becoming bitter is an easy trap to fall into but it will destroy you and your family. Go about your life as best as you can and love those who love you.
    4) If you can find it in your heart to forgive the accuser you will be better off for it. Remember, forgiving isn’t saying that it’s ok that they offended you, forgiving is for YOU so YOU can move on with your life without harboring bitterness and hatred in YOUR heart. Until you forgive your accuser for falsely accusing you they have power over you…….they still can call, text, whatever and ruin your day or week but once you find a way to forgive maybe the way you react to that phone call or text will be different and your accuser will no longer be able to steal your joy. Then guess what…..you have your life back and your family can start to heal.
    5) If your going through this, I’m so sorry and I hope everything will work out for the innocent.

    I had no idea this would be so long but thank you for reading and I hope this makes sense. Somewhere in here I hope you can find something that helps you or maybe just gives you something to think about.

    Thank you!!

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